During my last relationship I (34m) was repeatedly abused by my (27f) partner to the point where I will need neck surgery. We broke up about a year ago, and during that time, I found that I had a severe disc herniation in my neck following a go-kart date we had back in 2022. She was BPD, and often would make suicidal threats during the relationship when I was not perfect. Although the crash is not her fault, the year plus of sex for her validation, all the working out we did together to combat her eating disorder, and general lack of concern for me caused additional damage and greatly prolonged my suffering. She genuinely had me thinking my pain was “in my head.”

TLDR: She was killing me, and she deserves to pay