Good day all,

I just discovered this community and having read some posts, was wondering how some of the people here (men in particular) think about studies showing women cheat more than men. In particulary, the fact that they can still be happy in their primary relationship, but still cheat without conscience.

This is the kind of thing that the red pill community has adopted a misogynistic method of defence against, and what I don't need to hear more of.

If you don't want to read the actual book, a gist is here.
https://www.ladbible.com/community/perfect-age-gap-in-relationship-699655-20231008

Another article of similar ideas.

https://blog.ashleymadison.com/women-are-happier-in-affairs-study-finds

As a dating and relationship coach for men in the past, I have long known about this and not at all surprised, but my knowledge and perspectives can take on either a pure red pill or blue pill approach. I can gear my advice depending on personality or mindset of the the client from each of these, but I'd like some perspective on a middle ground approach.

I was curious to know how this community, men especially, balance protecting themselves, but still give enough of themselves, so that their precaution does not become a paranoia that causes the very thing they fear?

Thanks in advance!