This entire sun is a dumpster fire of the same circular reasoning:

-Men don’t want to date women who are overweight, unattractive, have kids, have a history of being promiscuous…and nothing about her personality can compensate

-Men then get rejected by girls who they deem to be attractive because they don’t meet HER STANDARDS and find it unfair that they can’t use their personality to compensate

-After playing the numbers game for a bit men find manage to find a girl they consider to be a catch to date them, but get pissed off that they have to be in committed relationship in order to get sex whereas a better looking man can hookup with them and have NSA sex…meaning that they expect women to lower their standards for casual sex when they themselves never would (see point #1).

-To add insult to injury, whenever people suggest things like self-improvement (going to the gym, learning to cook, hustling after a promotion…etc.) everyone complains that it’s “too hard” or that “it takes forever to see results” so they just give up and choose to do nothing instead of working towards meaningful success.

During an exchange of with u/PsychologicalOwl964 I mentioned how if a guy isn’t creepy and can hold a conversation, he should have no problem getting a date if he approaches a woman he’s interested in at a public place like a beach, walking trail, park…etc. (In my personal experience about 1/4 will give me their number and half of those will lead to dates/casual sex - I’m also pretty picky as generally prefer 5’5”+ blondes so the average guy stands to have even MORE SUCCESS so long as he puts in the effort). Case in point, he admits that the average guy would probably get a girls number 10% of the time. Meaning that it’s entirely possible for men to find success in dating, their either just too lazy or too conceited to actually do it.

Rinse and repeat for a years, throw in some failed dating app attempts, some cringey evolutionary psychology, a porn addiction, and terrible social skills and this why people think the sky is falling when it comes to modern dating.

Tl;dr: all the problems with modern dating can be solved by 1-Men lowering their standards for casual sex 2-Men growing up and becoming ready for a committed relationship 3-Men putting in the work for them to get the casual sex with the women they desire.