Does this sub find it a good idea to wait until marriage?

Red-Curious · 2019-02-26T05:42:22+00:00

This sub's official stance is that sex outside of marriage is sin. There is a post on the sidebar that specifically goes into this.

While we recognize that having many sexual partners can increase attraction, as the secular subs have found, it is almost never a necessary tool in order to have a fantastic sex life in marriage. Even on a pragmatic, non-spiritual level, it's important to recognize that a man should have a higher goal than the women he pursues, and sex outside of marriage and multiple sexual partners can, especially for Christians, be counter-productive toward those goals, even while having positive effects on attraction as a whole.

You get shamed for rejecting slutty girls because our culture glorifies women and believes that you should always love every woman and find her beautiful and attractive and value her no matter what negative character traits and attributes they have. Men who believe otherwise are deemed "toxic" and radical extremists or alt right misogynists. It's an unfortunate fact of life nowadays.

QUITxURxCRYING · 2019-02-26T14:28:25+00:00

I’m 26 5’ 10” and 170lbs. Still waiting for marriage. I work at a pretty big car dealership. I’m known as “The Virgin” by my 50+ co-workers (including management). They don’t often call me it, but it was a conversation 90% of the time once everyone found out.

Cannot tell you how many guys threw out jokes and then later on (even in front of others) have given me props and said they wished they had done the same. Whether Christian or not, many have said WAIT. So here I am encouraged by a wide variety of others who didn’t wait and are saying they wish they had. Hold strong brotha!

Billy_King · 2019-02-26T06:18:56+00:00

Wait until marriage

rocknrollchuck · 2019-02-26T13:34:11+00:00

Amen brother, welcome!

What is your guys view, is it good for men to wait until marriage for sex? I have had friends and others accuse me of not being able to get laid

You already know that's not true, as you've experienced already in your past. The devil will use others to try and drag you back to your sinful lifestyle, or at least get you feeling guilty enough that you are neutralized for Christ. Don't let him do that. Remember, God honors those who honor Him with their lives and actions.

"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come." 2 Corinthians 5:17

Also I get shamed by people for rejecting women who are slutty? Why is this?

Because by having a high standard for yourself and rejecting those women, their actions are now indirectly judged by your righteous actions. Don't worry about that though, it may actually lead them to repentance and trust in Christ at some point. Remember, everyone is watching you to see if you're the real deal or if this is a phase.

Willow-girl · 2019-02-27T13:28:27+00:00

Stick to your guns, son! Men lose more by being slaves to their sex organs than by having mastery over them. (Same goes for women.)

It's very hard to evaluate a partner objectively once you're obtaining sexual gratification from them. When there is no sex, you have nothing to lose if a particular relationship doesn't pan out. It's easier to go "Nope Nope Nope" if she displays red flags.

Once you start having sex, you have skin in the game, so to speak. There's a real incentive to close your eyes to potential dealbreakers because you don't want to lose access to that gratification. (Sadly, this also applies equally to women! Ask me how I know, lol.)

ebam123 · 2019-02-26T13:02:02+00:00

Wait til marriage, the wait is sexy...

OsmiumZulu · 2019-02-27T08:28:53+00:00

Somewhat off-topic, but still may be useful or interesting: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ymflbexb_Z0

Title	Does this sub find it a good idea to wait until marriage?
Author	calibeachgod420
Upvotes	8
Comments	11
Date	February 26, 2019 4:52 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RPChristians
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