Advice on Shit Test

teaandtalk · 2018-11-05T10:16:50+00:00

Okay, I think that everything that needs to be said has been said. Locking this now.

jtriangle · 2018-11-05T00:13:54+00:00

If you have to lie to him so that you can prove to yourself that he's your captain, you've already lost. Dishonesty is absolutely toxic, not just to him, and not just to your relationship, but also to yourself. You're undoubtedly feeling the effects of this already.

You also seem to be concerned with providing for him as though it's some kind of huge deal that you get to make food for him and have sex from time to time. If you're getting nothing out of either of those actions, I'd suggest looking inward at yourself before looking outward to him. Believe it or not, you doing these things out of duty or obligation instead of out of enjoyment is going to be extremely obvious to him (which is going to push him away). You need to evaluate why what you do for him isn't fulfilling to you because it damn well should be if you're planning on building a life with this guy.

stripethrowaway · 2018-11-04T18:46:26+00:00

Don’t waste your time with shrew-like behavior.

If he’s not a captain, just get off his ship.

Brap_Sugoi · 2018-11-04T19:41:17+00:00

You're being passive aggressive. Your boyfriend can't read your mind, and expecting him to is selfish and immature. Love takes charity, and forgiveness. If you want something from him you just need to sit him down and tell him how you feel.

Though if you have a history of being passive aggressive, he might not feel safe enough to be honest with you. I highly suggest you curb your behavior.

Here's a really good book that I think will strengthen the way you approach relationships: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands https://www.amazon.com/dp/0060520620/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_pS03Bb27EKRN3

toothfairy222 · 2018-11-05T00:50:53+00:00

Did you talk to him about it ? try that maybe something is bothering him or there is some simple explanation .

Zegiknie · 2018-11-05T09:19:35+00:00

That sort of behavior is dysfunctional and reminds me of someone with a personality disorder. Don't be that someone.

Have you considered he might just have introverting needs? Simply ask him if you guys are okay, and explain why you feel insecure.

HillZae · 2018-11-05T07:20:05+00:00

That's going to be real cheesy. If he does not care as much as he used to do, that might mean your relationship is going cold and boring. Try to do and say some new interesting stuff. Be a little different, dress different, talk a little different, have other people care about you and you'll see the difference.

Title	Advice on Shit Test
Author	numbed-babe
Upvotes	2
Comments	11
Date	November 4, 2018 6:38 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWives
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