Hi Everyone,

Just like the title says, I'm wondering how to keep from getting discouraged while I search for my Captain. I'm a 32 year old woman and I've had one relationship (very long term, however it turned out we wanted polar opposite things out of life so we ended it nearly 2 years ago) and I'm finding it hard to stay upbeat while I try to find the right man for me.

I've been looking, but it's been so hard. I've never been very good at dating (I'm such an introvert) but I've been doing my best to be friendly and approachable and to look my best when I go out in public, but I'm finding that no guy I would consider dating (read: not 65 years old and divorced twice with tons of issues with women, which is the kind of guy that seems to take the most interest in me, sadly) will even talk to me and I'm not sure why.

I've been working on my appearance, both makeup/clothes-wise and I've been losing weight so while I'm still a bit on the curvy side, I'm attractive. I've also been working on my frame of mind, on acceptance and gratitude and focusing on the kind of life I want to live.

So how did you ladies do it? How do you stay positive and attract the right man? I'm open to all advice.