Advice Pls

Wife_and_Mama · 2025-10-21T18:52:30+00:00

This is the problem with just wanting "to fuck." You end up in complex situations, potentially with guys who seem perfect, but you're still not in a place for a relationship. Continuing this is only going to complicate things more. If you're really not looking for anything, end it while you can do so amicably.

manolosandmartinis44 · 2025-10-22T00:53:09+00:00

Not sure this strategy belongs here.

LateralThinker13 · 2025-10-23T19:45:53+00:00

all men are evil and i will continue to use them as objects until one proves me wrong

Even saying this in jest is toxic AF and does your mindset no favors.

InevitableKiwi5776 · 2025-10-21T17:33:42+00:00

I don’t understand what you mean by you’ve “developed feelings for him but not interest.”

Not much harm in continuing what you are already doing since you already started on this path. It’s not likely to work out long term, but things happen. It’s better to keep hooking up with him than lots of random other guys, most likely if you are not trying to keep sex within a committed relationship.

If he doesn’t have time for a relationship right now and you start getting clingy and needing more of his time and attention, that will likely drive him away. If you are truly too busy for a relationship and want to keep casually seeing him and it works for you then keep at it. You are likely to get hurt by whatever ends up happening, but you already started the whole thing and you probably need to see what happens to learn how you want your relationship to be in the future.

Have you heard the phrase “start as you mean to go on”?

NationalMouse · 2025-10-21T18:58:16+00:00

In my opinion, this will only work out if you do 1 of 2 things: 1. Keep things as they are and allow him to pursue you, not the other way around because if you start to pursue him and he still isn’t ready for a relationship he will end up resenting you for changing the dynamics of your “situationship” and I’ve never seen a relationship work out where the woman chases the man. This is a risk because he may never be ready for a relationship but may like having you around at his beck and call when he feels like being romance-y and the situation will stay as it is and will never move forward.

You can risk it all and just tell him you’re really starting to like him and developing feelings and then END the situationship. This will force his hand. He either lets you go because he’s not ready and it’s for the best OR he tells you he feels the same way and begs you not to leave. Try your best to remain feminine while doing so and let him lead.

AutoModerator · 2025-10-21T16:25:51+00:00

Title: Advice Pls

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Full text: I (18F) am seeing this guy (25M) I met on tinder. He said he doesn’t have time for a relationship right now and that was perfect for me because I don’t either. I lowkey just want to fuck. After hanging out with him a few times I think I’ve developed feelings for him but not interest, it’s weird. He is exactly the man I would want to marry but marriage is something far away for me. (he is also reminds me of my dad a lot) I get cold really easily and he knows that. Whenever I get in the car (he picks me up in a different car every time) the seat warmer is always on and he asks me if the temperature is okay. One day he even built me a fire. I told him I really like scents, the next date he bought a whole spread of colognes and said it was a little activity he thought i would enjoy. I guess right person wrong time or whatever. He’s always busy with his companies so he doesn’t text me or see me often and I match his energy. The other day he told me that he knows he’s a bad texter, but I might just take the cake and that he wishes I texted him more. Do I let myself like him and pursue him or should I just continue seeing him to satisfy my needs periodically.

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MoreThanPurple · 2025-11-03T16:16:27+00:00

We don’t do the “all men are evil” thing here. Locked and suggested you come back here only after you’ve working on improving yourself.

chance______2025 · 2025-10-26T06:32:28+00:00

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Title	Advice Pls
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