Break Ups as a Dumpee RPW

S-Soda1 · 2022-02-05T00:10:58+00:00

If a guy says he isn't ready for commitment believe him.

You're asking what we would do... I would cut him off completely. No explanation (he'll just argue it) no more contact. He is keeping you emotionally bound to him by putting in a minimum effort. Flattering texts take a moment to type and send.

If you really want to keep a door open I suppose you could tell him he can contact you if he moves back to where you are at- but otherwise not to contact you. And then stick to that. No response to any message other than a notice that he is moving back.

He is happily wasting your time while probably keeping an eye out for women in his geographical location. Saying he hopes you miss him? That's a manipulative check to see that he can keep you emotionally tied to him. He's having a nice ego boost at your expense. That he misses you? If that were really true he'd be doing everything in his power to move back to where you are at and make things work.

Sorry. Breakups are extremely difficult but if you want to get through it without wasting years pining for this guy you'll need to set boundaries.

Strixt · 2022-02-05T02:27:18+00:00

All or nothing. Red pill is about serious monogamous relationships that benefit both parties.

Your needs are commitment with a rock solid foundation.

If a girl does this or a guy does this, and yes both sexes do it. They are just keeping the back door open selfishly for themselves.

Either we are serious about a commitment that is going to grow into a life long relationship. Our love is growing. We are building one another up and making sure we are wonderful dance partners. We are better as a couple able to make up for what the other lacks. The construction of this relationship will take time but we are ready to put in the work and effort because of our love for one another.

Or we are playing games.

You don’t deserve to be strung along over text. He doesn’t get to use you as an emotional tampon when he chose to leave you. Just because he isn’t having luck replacing you or any hits on tinder that he made after dumping you. Doesn’t mean he can just text you like he didn’t hold your heart in his hand and drop it by dumping you. Be someone’s first pick, not someone’s second string reserve.

Sorry I’m ranting…

bekkys · 2022-02-05T06:27:44+00:00

If I recall correctly, he was in his 40s and I said he would probably be married to an arab muslim girl soon after moving. This might come off a bit extreme but here's what I would do:

Cut him off, close any and all "doors", be clear and direct and dont let him persuade you. Ghost him. Delete his number and block him on all social media. Throw away/sell/put away (outside of your living space) anything he gave you/that reminds you of him. You will never be able to move on fully with an actual good guy if he's on the back burner. You wont be able to open yourself up to anything good and new. Men like that dont care about forever leading you on even if they are married. Dont let him ruin your life.

This is going to be very difficult but you HAVE to be strict on yourself. Accept the reality of the situation, mourn the breakup for a little while and move on. Don't expect to get closure from him, find it within yourself. Idk if you're in therapy but its something you could consider if you have the means

Jenneapolis · 2022-02-05T15:29:54+00:00

You all are right, I guess I just can’t understand the reasons why he’s doing this but I need to put that aside and figure out how to move on. Thank you for the advice.

bobtheseal · 2022-02-05T15:48:07+00:00

Block and move on.

Title	Break Ups as a Dumpee RPW
Author	Jenneapolis
Upvotes	9
Comments	8
Date	February 4, 2022 11:10 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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