Finding a partner

InevitableKiwi5776 · 2026-02-15T05:19:35+00:00

What have you tried? Like how are you trying to meet men to have a relationship with?

NoAARPforMe · 2026-02-15T14:39:25+00:00

If you are in a small town, and there are larger areas not too far away, then maybe cast your dating app net a little farther out. I am not a fan of long-distance relationships either. My now wife and I had a little over two hours drive from each other while dating. We would spend the weekends together and work during the week. It worked out. A two-year courtship 20 years ago, and we are still going strong. I look back at those two years with fond memories. Good luck. It is a tough world for new relationships.

In our case, we spent a lot of time on the phone and texting/instant messaging before meeting. We knew we were in sync in a lot of ways... that is important. If the guy isn't willing to do that with you....move on.

charliesheen007 · 2026-02-15T05:08:55+00:00

yes im 37(m) and i dont know what to do to actually ,still looking for a relasionshoip to see where it goes

VasiliyZaitzev · 2026-02-17T07:39:22+00:00

So you are bright, a high-achiever and tall, with a good body... GREAT! Seems like you were (or still are?) insecure about your nose, but as you got surgery, I assume that's in the past.

You are in a bit of a pickle as women generally want men taller than they are, at least as intelligent, if not more, and who make at least as much $. You say most of the guys in town are much younger, although it would seem that can't entirely be true as there would be other faculty (not suggesting you date at work, but, well, you might have to. Not sure what the rules are there, but may in another dept?)

You say you are an immigrant. I am guessing there is no (or limited) community of folks from wherever you are from there? If there are, seek them out. At least in the new city later. You may prefer (or not) cultural familiarity.

It seems you have used apps and social gatherings. Do you have any married friends? If so did you put the word out that you are looking? Marrieds LOVE setting up their single friends.

Finally, as you get older you may want to trim the list of "Mandatories." Ultimately, the only thing that matters is character, so focus more on that and less on receding hairlines, etc. Best of luck.

AutoModerator · 2026-02-15T04:52:33+00:00

Title: Finding a partner

Author Positive_Command7227

Full text: hi everyone,

I (33f) am feeling lonely. I do nit know where to start from and how to express my feelings but here is a bit about me:

relationships: I never had any. yes, you read it right. for various reasons: 1- busy making progress( I had to inly focus in this). 2- being in places where I could not meet anyone decent

career: I am kinda considered successful. I just got my PhD in Computer and now work as a lecturer. I will transition to industry soon. I am working a lot in this job by the way. Have always been working and focusing on my career.

appearance: I have good body and am tall my face is cute (as they said) with. Not a good nose which makes me insecure. ( i got cosmetic surgery once).

I am sociable and can make social friends easily. However,
I am an immigrant in the US in a very small town. Cannot really meet anyone decent due to location. Am very tired by the way and unfortunately, got used to living alone and independant; to the point I feel like I can never have a relationship. Has anyone ever experienced the same things?! Any advice??

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Title	Finding a partner
Author	Positive_Command7227
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Comments	24
Date	February 15, 2026 4:52 AM UTC (5 months ago)
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