EDIT 2 - I asked and he said he had been looking for signs I was interested and couldn’t see any…!Wow - this never happened to me so it is weird. Anyway we are planning to go out again and see what happens.

EDIT TO ADD - I'am not taking about speeding up sexual intimacy - but normal and natural, respectful physical connection...

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This is a long story but I will try to explain the basics and see if I can get some insights.

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This man I met on the app, he is intelligent, witty, respectful, has a senior position - a very good job - is independent, well spoken, well travelled, has a lot of hobbies and a wide circle of friends and projects a very strong masculine energy. He said on the app he was looking for a serious relationship.

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So far we have been out 5 times doing a range of activities, all planned and paid for by him. one weekend after the other bar last weekend because I was busy focusing on revising for exams. He is engaged through text message when we are not together and always replies quickly. He is thoughtful and remembers everything I say, do whatever he can to please me.

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Here is the problem: He doesn't escalate anything physically - at 1st I thought he didn't like to display affection in public - but the last date was yesterday at his place - he cooked a wonderful 3 course meal and put a lot of effort in it - the best wine and the best ingredients and everything was delicious, he was a very attentive host - still I left feeling like no more than a friend. I am very bubbly and flirty by nature, my body language is open, I try subtle touches and I'm not scared of eye contact. Never works with him. He also avoids asking me deeper questions when I sprinkle facts about my life that are interesting and will help him to get to know me more intimacy. It seems like he avoids the conversation getting deeper. He never talked about any past relationship / women. But I know hr doesn't have children.

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To be fair, he did ask if he could kiss me at the end of date 3 when I was just about to go home - and he gave me the most sweet, soft and tender kiss. But then we had date 4 and 5 and nothing but two cheek kisses when arriving and saying good bye.

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I do get he impression that he is waiting for me to make a move which will not happen. Last night I sensed his frustration and deflation after yet another date without anything physical and I was feeling the same, but there is nothing I can do. I don't get it! He kissed me already, why does not he kiss me again?

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And why he keeps inviting me for dates? I like him but this is driving me insane, I've never dealt with something / someone like this.

If he asks me again, should I say something? What can I ask over text? Or should I ask me to call me and i initiate some kind of conversation?

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I know he is attracted, it is clear. He also said (via text) that I was attractive and very pretty., but that was because I was joking that I was transgender (long story) and he said that he couldn't tell (joking).

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I think we vibe pretty well and I want to explore more but it seems like he either doesn't have much experience (but he is 53 years old - in amazing shape!), or traumatised by relationships or super shy when it comes to women. I want to ask him if he is asexual.

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Or is he just a feminist man who wants me to take charge?

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Help!