I've been in a relationship for 3 and a half years. F/M. We are both 21 abd got together when we were both about to turn 18. He's a pretty reserved guy and doesn't show too much emotion. I assume it's because of the things he went through as a child but it's really hard for me to deal with at this point. Not just that, he hardly ever wants to have sex. When we first started having sex, he would want to have sex every day for maybe the first 2 or 3 weeks but after that, I couldn't seduce him or he just would never really ask. It's been like that for a long time now. I feel like he just doesn't want me or isn't attracted to me. I am pretty insecure in general and this just makes me feel worse about myself. When it comes to my feelings, he seems kind of uninterested. He pays attention to what I need mostly if I scokd him for long enough about it. He doesn't really think on his own. He doesn't really observe me or notice when I'm not feeling good. I basically have to tell him OVER AND OVER AGAIN how he can help me. It's mostly the emotional support that I don't get from him that really makes me question his love for me and then his refusal to attempt to have sex with me. For a long time he would just ask me to go down on him but would reject me when I would want sex or for him to go down on me. He recently started making more attempts but it makes me so sad that I had to make so many attempts throughout the years. I feel like he's being forced to want me. I also feel like he's being forced to care about me. It's so confusing. I wish I knew. I have has so many talks with him. I've cried and I've been tough and I've tried to have him tell me what he feels. I just don't know if he's being honest because it doesn't seem to me like he loves me all that much but then again, he does listen to me when I tell him to do or not do things. He goes anywhere I ask him to go with or without me. He struggles to do things or get things for me when I ask. He is, for the most part, always with me (we live together at his mom's). I just think to myself that someone that loves me would think of ways to make me feel better and stuff like that would think of it on their own and not have to wait for me to ask. Especially since I have been very open with him about how I am and what I feel since the beginning of our relationship. I am a really open and honest person for the most part.