How do you recognize a dominant man?

sugarcrush · 2013-07-23T17:09:54+00:00

Honestly the easiest way to identify a dominant man is through shit tests. To use a recently posted example, does he give in if you throw a temper tantrum? Or does he maintain frame and tell you this is how it's going to be? Obviously don't do that, but hopefully you get what I am saying.

Since we are trying to avoid shit testing here, I would try to recognize a dominant man through observation. When he loses, does he whine and accuse the other person of cheating? Or does he shrug and resolve to better himself? When his friends give him a hard time, does he dish it right back even better or tell them to stop being mean? Other things to look for might be: does he set up dates or always ask what you want to do, does he initiate often, does he tell you that he likes your ass fat when you ask if it looks like that in those jeans. Only slightly kidding on the last one ;)

I would definitely not come out and say you are submissive when looking for a relationship! Unfortunately that word is mostly tied to BDSM these days, so you might end up attracting some potentially scary people. Now, if that's what you are looking for, go right ahead. But otherwise, watch and wait.

margerym · 2013-07-23T17:23:31+00:00

Does he take other people's crap?

Does he follow the crowd or walk on his own/lead it?

How does he handle bad situations? Is he quick to blame others or does he jump to find solutions? Does he take the blame when the blame is his?

Is he employed? (this doesn't mean he is dominant but if he is happily unemployed it indicates he is definitely not)

Does he take pride in what he does?

margerym · 2013-07-23T17:29:23+00:00

Aaaaaand I just realized that was a link not a question. That's what I get for clicking "comments" and not the title itself.

/u/EmBright, when you post a link if you could make a comment on your thoughts on the link that would be really helpful in leading the discussion. So what are your thoughts about this? Is this something that you wrote (asking because it is signed Emeralds and you are Em)?

margerym · 2013-07-23T18:57:43+00:00

I've been asking myself this question, along with "how do you attract an alpha male". I agree with all of you that it's probably not a good idea to come out and state that you're submissive. Most people do associate it with BDSM and the two, while similar, are not the same.

Reading Emeralds post on "Taken in Hand" I realized how much I relate to her. I can see how I used to be unapproachable, like her. I've been trying to be softer, friendlier, and more approachable. I try to smile more and make good eye contact. I'm a naturally nurturing, but it's always been more towards my family and friends. I've been trying to extend it to strangers more. Generally I try to be a nice, caring, positive person.

So i guess my question really is:

How do you show your submissiveness (to attract an alpha), and then recognize if a male is dominant, without coming right out and saying "Hi, I'm submissive, are you dominant?"

Title	How do you recognize a dominant man?
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Date	July 23, 2013 4:28 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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