How does one not live inside their own head?

CoupleOfSassyKatz · 2016-11-26T02:09:36+00:00

Cognitive behavior therapy. Work on using positive self talk. Takes a lot of practice, but it helps.

Igotsfeelingstho · 2016-11-26T14:44:45+00:00

Have you experienced painful relationships in your past? Or has he ever violated a boundary in your relationship, or hurt your trust in a severe way? If so it could be possible that you're still reeling in some way. I used to feel the same fears you were speaking of and it took a huge toll on my relationship. It wasn't until then that I realized how traumatic events from my past had affected my views on relationships. I was ruled by negative thoughts and paranoia.

Not sure if this is the case for you, but if so perhaps you ought to talk to someone about it, like a counselor? It can really make a difference, even if you don't want to go consistently and just want to try 1-2 sessions.

blackoutlily · 2016-11-27T00:34:22+00:00

Well, if he is a TRP male, then he believes he is allowed to cheat. Food for thought.

Willow-girl · 2016-11-26T04:33:43+00:00

Hmm, this is tough. Are you generally a fearful person? Do you worry a lot? Is anxiety your normal state? Because if it isn't -- if you're generally serene -- you may want to think about what your instincts seem to be telling you in this case. Is there any basis for your concerns?

HeuyDeweyAndLouie · 2016-11-26T11:58:49+00:00

Has anyone else experienced this or is currently experiencing it and how are you getting through it?

Measure your results. Guys and gals who lift weights, they measure their work in time spent at the gym, and how much they lift. They look down upon those who do not show anything measurable.

If you don't measure your results, you're still living in your head.

How can you measure your man's lack of cheatiness and everything else? Is there anything tangible to look at?

Class_Punk · 2016-11-26T15:31:01+00:00

I've been dealing with this just in self-improvement versus negativity and have found a solution. Extroverts are just thinking with their mouths open, even they can't escape over-thinking once in awhile, so the solution is not about you not living in your head, its about where your focus is most of the time. You only have so much time while you are awake and what you think about matters. The whole Law of Attraction, that if we think about something enough it will happen, is not scientifically valid, but its also not totally wrong. Focus always matters.

zndas92 · 2016-11-26T22:18:11+00:00

Does your man have a checkered past or done things that are immoral that could cause massive paranoia? My husband is a reformed felon and I used to fear him always going back to his old habits and life I didnt realise he wasnt that person and even though I claimed I wasnt judging him for his past I was subconsciously with my paranoia and negativity. It wasnt fair to someone who was trying to be a good man to me.

ladyhufflepuff · 2016-11-27T10:02:04+00:00

I've been there too, but I have also had anxiety problems with anxiety in general. What helps me is getting the thoughts out. You can simply talk to someone, or if I'm having a tough time I write down my thoughts, and then writing down how I could have more reasonably handled of thought of a situation in reflection.

Ive also used the whole elastic on the wrist trick to help 'snap out' of certain thoughts. I guess just try to find what works for you so you can enjoy the present moment.

deadwoodcylon · 2016-11-27T16:31:56+00:00

Learn to meditate and make it a lifelong practice. Start with reading Power of Now by Tolle and see what sticks.

Title	How does one not live inside their own head?
Author	BigRed517
Upvotes	10
Comments	12
Date	November 25, 2016 11:22 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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