Dear community
My bf and i are very busy currently. Especially he is and i feel like some things have changed. The biggest change is that we dont see each other so often anymore, which is fine to me, because i know it is not possible currently to meet more regularly. We have been together for 5 months. Our busy phase started 2 months ago. Since then the following changed:
1.) He is way less romantic. It feels like he is out of the honey moon phase. I dont hear "i love you" or "i miss you" as long as i dont say it first. 2.) He used to compliment me now and then. Telling me i am beautiful or smart. Now.. nothing. 3.) When we do spend time together he is a bit distant too. He doesnt initiate anything anymore. I know he is very tired from work but it has been 2 months now and while i am tired too, i still am in the mid of the feels for him and fall more and more in love with him each day. I compliment him, tell him what a great man he is, how much he has accomplished, that i love spending time with him, etc (of course i dont say it all at once!)
He is not the emotional type of guy. I feel like it annoys him to talk about relationship issues. He is very rational and pragmatic. Less empathetic. We didnt have very intimate conversations. We also never argued before. I told him twice about my point 1.) And he apologised and said he doesnt do it intentionally... but then he never changed.
I do think he loves me. It was my birthday 6 days ago and he got me flowers and a voucher for some cosmetics. (As i said he is not the most Romantic or creative type of guy but i truly appreciated the gesture). We spend a lovely day but then again point 1.) To 3.) Occurred. No i love you. No "i havent seen you all week. I missed you". No "you look beautiful" even though i dressed up wonderfully for our dinner at a restaurant.
I want to talk about all 3 things. Because it really plays a toll on me psychologically. I ask myself a lot if his feelings have changed towards me. But i am afraid to talk to him because he doesnt see any problems in this relationship. He didnt even realise that he does do 1.)
How should i approach someone, who is not the emotional type of guy. I am afraid to scare him off and that he things i am clingy. I just want to be assured that everything is fine...
I would like to add: he used to stop by my place now and then when he went grocery shopping (we live 30 min apart). That stopped. He used to call me once or twice a week. That stopped. He used to text me a cute messages once a while. That stopped.
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