Important Tips For Self Improvement

organicsunshine · 2019-10-20T23:18:49+00:00

I focus on making myself accountable to myself. I make lists. I document tasks, make plans that I actually keep...things like a target run or scheduling an errand.

It helps and you feel more in control of your life. Also, pets help.

cassandrarose39 · 2019-10-21T00:15:34+00:00

I count steps per day, make lists, my husband is my work out buddy, I daydream about not shopping in a plus size store, I have a ton of motivation workout apps on my phone and when I’m doing really well I share my progress on Facebook!

I do a lot of visualization of what I want to do or who I want to be in my head. Right now I want to lose weight so I visualize throughout the day of me being strong and fast during my workout. It seems to work.

Or I visualize each step in my next recipe.

Or I visualize being kind and friendly towards my hubby.

I visualize my husbands next promotion and me becoming friends with the higher ups my husband works with.

I visualize throwing dinner parties and being more social to help my hubby network better.

I visualize putting my kids in the best situations possible for their future.

I guess I live a lot inside my head but when I actually do something I’ve thought through, I’m successful at it.

Some of the things I do to keep me going!

szsunshine · 2019-10-21T03:32:50+00:00

I break tasks into the steps you need, then start on the "first steps" and get them done.

For example, if tomorrow I have to call the dog groomers, the dentist, and my hair stylist to make appointments, I'll

1) take out my calendar and put a pencil next to it and

2) look for / write down the phone numbers I need to call.

That way tomorrow I won't have all of those things to do - I'll just have to dial the phone. It also motivates me because when it's time to call, I don't have all of the "little" things (look for calendar, find a pencil). I do the same when making my son's lunch - the night before I'll take out the non-refrigerated lunch items and put them in his lunchbox.

Another hint (for things like practicing, fitness, etc). Set a timer for a short amount of time (like 10 minutes) and promise yourself you will just work out for 10 minutes. After the timer buzzes....you can stop if you like. Sometimes you will want to keep going, and that's ok, but just the 10 minutes and stop guilt free is ok as well...you're developing a habit.

Piporor · 2019-10-21T04:31:18+00:00

Learn to love your self and don't be afraid to talk. Seek out a therapist always helps

Burger_girl · 2019-10-21T18:56:03+00:00

What helped me the most was to give myself permission to take my time. Whenever I fall into those ruts, the times that have taken me the longest to get out were the times that I rushed myself by setting too many expectations at once and making too many commitments. Once I finally learned that it was OK to say no and to work on just a few things at a time, everything fell into place. I am now just working on losing the last few pounds that I packed on when I was down.

Like others have said, break things down into small steps and give yourself rewards for achieving them (i.e. a Mani/Pedi, a facial, massage, new books, etc.) I stayed away from food related incentives. Also, eliminating foods that I know would trigger binges (nut butter, crackers, bread, etc.) from my home helped a ton!

Focus on moving more, it doesn't have to be high intensity or painful to work- a walk/hike, yoga, pilates all keep your cortisol down and provide good workouts. This was a big change for me, as I was a college athlete doing 3-4 hours of very intense exercise and lifting every day. It totally burned me out and took me 4 years to finally get to where I am. Slow and steady is the way to go. Take care of the smallest things and the big things will start to take care of themselves.

[deleted] · 2019-10-22T09:29:34+00:00

I make a to-do list while I'm taking breaks at work or sitting on my phone. Once I've got the to-do list, I pre-emptively forgive myself for not doing a third of it, allow myself a couple of days for a few items, and pick roughly a third to do today or immediately.

The important point here is not about how much you do or don't, it's to realise that it's ok if you only get one or two things done! Just roll your unfinished items into tomorrow's list. If you have chores that you don't want to do this weekend like changing your sheets, then forgive yourself with compassion, and do them next weekend.

Next I guess is to find a way to do things that makes it feel less like a chore and more like a fun activity. I try to find something I enjoy - e.g. the smell of crisp sundried laundry is a big motivator for me, I look forward to it as my "reward".

Finally, another good way to motivate yourself is to be thankful. Every day I try to make a "daily gratitude list" where I am thankful for things I've achieved or good things that happened to me. E.g. today; - my co-worker did something silly that everyone found funny. He's a really good sport and doesn't take himself too seriously. We had a good laugh. - I got through a lot of reviews for our software sprint - I wore a wonderful perfume which made me feel elegant and young - I had good conversations with a lot of other co-workers, lots of laughing, one even spooked me by slowly raising his head above my cubicle partition - I did the dishes - I finished the last of my fruit tea bags and can try my new loose leaf fruit tea now - I got a compliment on my dress - I paid for my upcoming tooth extractions

Etc. You get the idea! This "resets" your mind by reliving good things and not focussing on all the negative stuff you dread in your future.

afinepairofeyes · 2019-10-22T22:01:27+00:00

Oh ok, 😃

gimpgirl555 · 2019-10-21T05:01:36+00:00

Personally I just treat it like a job. Just like you go to school/work every day, you need to work out/diet every day.
You wouldn't consider it okay to fail or skip a day at school/work right? So why would you fail at looking good?
Understand that your looks are far more important than your job.
Understand how tough the competition can be. There are women who are naturally better looking than you, women who work out harder than you, women who get surgeries. You need to keep up.

Title	Important Tips For Self Improvement
Author	far_arden
Upvotes	8
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Date	October 20, 2019 11:01 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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