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I think we should be finding ways to serve our husbands and think of positive ways to make them feel appreciated. There has been some negativity on here that pulls focus away from RPW mission.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/20 10:45 PM
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Menu Appetizers: 1. Bacon Brussels sprout skewers 2. Baked Brie bites with Sugared cranberries Main: 1. Apple Cider and Balsamic spiral ham Sides: 1. Autumn kale salad 2. Twice baked potatoes Sweets: 1. Frosty kiss cookies 2. White chocolate cranberry blondies
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/19 05:54 PM
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Not sure yet but definitely ham will be included. Well get back to this!
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 02:37 PM
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Usually I would write just clean it because my kids aren’t that messy. Today however I came home to a disaster that even I couldn’t over look. We had gone grocery shopping so the kids got their favorite food. I said dad and I are going out so put the food away and make yourself snacks. My husband and I went on a mile in a half walk and a drive. I came back and everyone was watching tv or playing games and the kitchen looked like it threw up on itself. They left all the cabinets open, the microwa…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/19 12:59 AM
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They think it’s beta to offer commitment because they are afraid of love? Immaturity? Women who live a life of virtue attract a man of virtue.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/19 12:26 PM
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My husband doesn’t go out without me
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 11:23 AM
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Crocheting, sewing (I haven’t gotten mine out in years so probably should start that again, journaling, bible journaling, baking, scrapbooking, skin care, cardio, pedicures, reading, playing Sims, and decorating!
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 02:19 AM
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My dad was in and out of prison for most my life too. Serious stuff too like drug raids and him holding hostages making the paper type crap. He has a very long rap sheet and fortunately can’t leave the two states he lives in. There wasn’t a red pill back in my day but I knew I expected my husband to be squeaky clean and a natural manly leader with a soft heart. Basically whatever my dad is my current husband is the exact opposite. That’s exactly how I wanted it. I don’t know a lot about how a fa…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 01:51 AM
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I sometimes say something but I keep a lot to myself and journal about my feelings. I write about it here sometimes too.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 01:21 PM
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This has been an uplifting read ❤️!
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 02:42 AM
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Awesome!
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 12:34 AM
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I know I wouldn’t stay married to a man who decided it was a good ideal to have a secret account, money, or assets.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/19 09:04 PM
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I don’t agree. A marriage is a partnership, period. Married couples lie to each other and others? A person who says stuff like this are not whole people to begin with.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/19 08:23 PM
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Try to find his love language and tools for deescalating tense moments like this. You stated your anxiety driven and that can quickly spiral any situation. Work on yourself so you can be level headed during his stressful times. Money or work problems can bring out the worst in men. You can help by being a soft landing for him and a enjoyable place for him to come home too
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/19 08:08 PM
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I second finding out your love languages and reading up on ways to de stress your home life and bring peace.
/r/RedPillWives07/11/19 08:03 PM
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I had dated the lieutenant of the sheriff’s department. The actual second in charge beneath the sheriff and he made it clear I was not going to get a commitment out of him. But because he was “good on paper” I went along with this arrangement for far too long. It takes a lot of strength to walk away from something that seems good. For me he was the first “high quality” guy I was able to get, even as a plate. I’ve since married someone above his level in every way but it paved the way for me to c…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/19 03:49 PM
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I’ve read some of your history and it’s probably very hard to come to terms with dating an up and coming successful doctor and the rotten stuff he was doing in his spare time. It’s a contradiction and I’m sure a let down to get a man like this who turned out to be a worse pick than an average guy! If it’s any comfort any man who has doctor or lawyer on their OLD, passes several vets on most woman’s lists right off the bat. It’s probably hard to walk away from good on paper man like that
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/19 03:26 PM
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So here’s a few positives my husband has done this week so far: Driving home from the gym he turns to me and says: you’ve always been beautiful to me but looking through your pictures from a year ago I’ve noticed a dramatic change in you. (It’s incredibly sweet to be noticed like this from him) I made my first crocheted hat that wasn’t prefect but he wore it to work anyways with a smile! He took today off to go to the social security office for benefits for our two older boys because their biolo…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/19 03:09 PM
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I think red pill wants to give advice in these situations but also have us ladies look at our part our side in these relationships because everyone thinks we are the kindest giving one in all relationships. We try to vet before even getting into these relationships but that doesn’t always happen because people change too over time.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/19 02:01 PM
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I think you should vet for a sober captain. I have daddy issues and being with a man that drank in any capacity would trigger the worst in me so I had to carefully choose a man who didn’t drink at all. Commitment phobia men should be a no go. You’re not going to change this story you’re still living. Find a real man who’s available to give you a commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/19 02:49 AM
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Usually you vet a man for these kinds of money problems and you definitely find out their credit score before marriage. I learned this because my bio dad is a gambler
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/19 04:09 PM
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I agree with you on this. No couples I know hide money, that’s just absurd
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/19 04:08 PM
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I’m financially dependent on my spouse and I don’t find a problem with it. It feels good to be loved and taken care of. For all the scare tactics on men leaving, the divorce rate is lower now days. The more educated the man you choose to marry the less likely he will leave and Apply red pill theories and your marriage will stay strong. If you vet carefully for the best man you can get, you will learn one of the best luxuries in life:trust. You learn to trust another person completely.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/19 10:22 AM
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I don’t care what a bunch of strangers online think of my life, that’s how I handle it. People in real life don’t talk to you like this and if they did I would definitely look down on them for lacking manners and having no class. It’s also who you are hanging out with. People struggling or living paycheck to paycheck are more likely to make these comments. You don’t see people asking the CEO, millionaire, or doctor why his wife isn’t working and contributing. So if they are asking they obviously…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/19 06:31 PM
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I don’t understand why this is upsetting to you? I think it’s a light hearted joke I wouldn’t read too much into
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/19 01:16 PM
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Carry on with your usual activities and talk about those when he calls. My husband has gone on short TDYs while married and I filled my time up with taking the kids places, hanging out with friends, doing hobbies ect. I also watched whatever I wanted on tv and ate out about every dinner. Sometimes spent the day in my pjs and binged watched tv shows. You know, the things you don’t usually do when your spouse works a normal job. For intimate things we used Skype. We did mutual masterbation. I thou…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/19 06:30 PM
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I have friends marriages that have served a good example from an early age for me. Otherwise I would have married exactly into the type of marriages my mom and dad had. My grandma on my dads side did show me how it’s important to be a good wife. She showed me how you can stand beside a man with potential and help him grow into that potential. This has been an invaluable skill that I still wish she was around so I can thank her. My grandma on my moms side, not so much. She taught me how not to be…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 06:32 PM
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Same here. I’m not rough around the edges so much as aloof and when I’m in a vulnerable state he’s totally different towards me because I turn more towards him needing him. His manliness shows through during these times.!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 04:52 PM
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It’s the age group. Young men or boys care a great deal what their “bro’s” think. They don’t have a strong sense of confidence themselves either. Confident people might consider what someone is telling them but ultimately they are strong enough to make their own life choices. I tell my sons this all the time. One of my sons deeply liked a high school girl he refused to date because his friends would make fun of him. It stems from insecurities that boys grow out of when they become men. Sometimes…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 03:18 PM
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You can’t fight gossip and rumors. That’s just life. The best thing you can do is show your truth by your behavior. Sleeping around has some pretty obvious signs and more importantly witnesses. Do others see you staying out all night with this or that man? Do they see you around town with these guys? They are telling a bold lie they can’t back up by any facts. Being an introvert doesn’t help matters in this regard because then not many people know you enough to dispute the truth. Red pill men ar…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 01:53 PM
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I think people have an unrealistic view of relationships. Just watch any reality tv show or just be around people and they will learn real people do not act like they came straight out of a hallmark movie towards each other. It’s a nice GOAL but it’s not always reality. Hurtful things get said and one persons line on what’s appropriate is different than the next.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 01:41 PM
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You have to decide if he’s worth it. After he graduates he probably won’t be less busy. Most these types like to keep themselves occupied but it’s what makes them interesting
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 02:36 AM
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Isn’t this the truth
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 02:10 AM
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We never discussed minimalist and I just assumed he was far from having hoarder tendencies. I come from a family of extreme hoarders so I have to really stay on top of not ending up like them.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 02:07 AM
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Don’t ever sleep with someone without a commitment! Men won’t respect you and treat you as disposable! That being said, you don’t want him because you want someone who only wants you. Who’s sees you as the beginning and end and no other women will come close to being as good as you in his eyes!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 12:00 AM
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I don’t have heathy advice. I cried. A lot. I’ve stood in the mess and cried and said I cannot do this anymore. I’ve yelled and pleaded. Sigh. It wasn’t the best times in my marriage. But he finally gave me free reign to declutter the inside of the house. He gets the garage. We’ve been together 10 years and he’s finally de cluttered a lot of his garage area. In the grand scheme of things it’s not a level 5 hoarder by any means and it’s not the worst thing someone can be. This is definitely somet…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/19 11:51 PM
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You will find a great guy! Right now you have time to just focus on yourself! Everyone feels insecure about something about them, even prefect 10s. Focus on the features or parts of yourself that brings you confidence and you will start to feel better!
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/19 11:38 PM
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You’re right about not taking time off. My husband can’t take time off whenever he wants. He has to show up no matter what because he wants to climb the ladder and get promotions and it’s very taxing at times on us his family. But we think it’s worth it.
/r/RedPillWives01/11/19 11:43 AM
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I love my spouse but not in the same way of I’m going to stand by my spouse no matter what choices he makes like I will with my sons.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/19 11:41 AM
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I think some are leaders and others aren’t. Don’t rephrase my words into something I didn’t say.
/r/RedPillWives01/11/19 11:39 AM
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It’s not for every woman but I’ve gone through some baby loss to an extreme so motherhood holds a bigger meaning to me.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 10:34 PM
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You have to be whole within yourself and have other things to do with your time. This will cure this problem. A level of independence too.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 09:31 PM
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No it’s not. I have a simple Associates of arts that wasn’t even completed when I started dating my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 09:27 PM
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This is a good point. It might work under your living conditions but I grew up mostly on the out skirts of LA when my mother wasn’t dragging me all over the USA 😂. I didn’t experience being poor on some farm or rural area where everyone is the same and help each other. So you’re going to have a far different story than me.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 04:42 PM
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It does warm my heart that you have beautiful stories being poor. I unfortunately do not. I remember standing hours in line for our weekly food box where the contents were plain white boxes with black lettering: POWDERED MILK, CHEESE, BUTTER, ect. Cramped office settings and lines at health and welfare. The food stamps that were literally stamp paper looking things 😂. But that wasn’t the worst. The worst was the people around us who lived and interacted with us and the men my mom brought home. C…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 04:24 PM
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Remember to not take the things teens say personally. They have said some harsh things as they try to figure out who they want to be. Definitely enjoy those early years! They are the best! Elementary school years are fun too! Middle school is hit and miss but still fun! High school they become porcupines. Fortunately, they are also very busy so not a lot of down time.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 03:35 PM
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For me it’s one of the most gratifying. It completely changed my life and outlook on life. I never thought I could feel genuine love for another person until being a mom. It put perspective on my life and where I was a selfish person having a child made me realize living for myself isn’t the right thing to do anymore. Some stages are better than others though. I do have teens and where I breezed through loving motherhood for years things have become...more challenging and not as joyful as before…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 02:53 PM
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I would not be happy in this kind of situation. I think real man is referring to having a stay at home mom living comfortably in the suburbs at least. Most of the women on here though want upper middle and upper class. What would you describe as a modest income?
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 12:05 PM
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They don’t do the “dirty” work. CNAs do. I use to be a CNA. It can be a demeaning job that few appreciate.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 12:01 PM
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There are a lot of upper management men in this city married to nurses. It’s either that or a teacher 🙄. There are stay at home moms too but for the ones climbing the ladder the wife is usually a nurse or teacher. The only negative my husband says about it is they are more authoritative than other women. He manages nurses and health care call service types.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 11:59 AM
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Not all women here! A simple 100,000 a year man is good enough for me. But the upper class you’re talking about, it’s going to be a complete stroke of luck for a poverty class lady to reach that. It’s not impossible but I wouldn’t suggest putting all your eggs into that basket. If you have read about the wives that are married to that class the overwhelming majority don’t work but they did have educational accomplishments before marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 11:54 AM
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1 fascinating womanhood 2 surrendered wife I liked the excellent wife, care and feeding of husbands, and sacred marriage. Right now for a hobby I’m going to start after Halloween knitting hats for everyone in the family. It gets quite cold here and my husband bought me a ton of yarn while it was on sale at Michaels. I tried making sweaters but for some reason I’m just not getting it so moving on to hats for right now. I also struggle with Christmas gifts because my husband has everything and the…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/19 08:31 PM
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If he wants a promotion than he goes. It’s just part of the game. Don’t stress about that and enjoy your relationship with him!
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/19 04:08 PM
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I’ve did steak sandwiches yesterday and today he just took a frozen meal I had on hand. I’ve done mason jar meaty sandwiches, meatloaf is another favorite, Fritos and ground beef, rice o roni and whatever else I come up with. Leftovers from the night before work too!!! I have lunch containers on hand. Several insulated lunch bags and boxes. Glass containers in all sizes. Metal containers too. Thermos in all sizes for hot and cold food. Some bento boxes. Mason jars. Condiment containers. Ice pack…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 07:27 PM
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Tell her so she can decide if she wants to quit. This isn’t a out of left field deal breaker. It’s actually quite common for people looking to settle down and start a family. I wouldn’t be with someone who did this but even more importantly my husband wouldn’t have married me or anyone who did either of these things. It’s not tragic it’s smart.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 07:24 PM
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I don’t believe this. My husbands boss is female and she takes time off when her daughter is sick, when she first started her period, when her daughter has soft ball games, when her daughter needs picked up early, sometimes just because. She’s still the boss over 20 so nurses and it’s a big position and she’s younger than me. Being a mom has not slowed her down one bit. People who start complaining about the pay gap and don’t stop to think maybe they just aren’t higher income material.
/r/RedPillWives29/10/19 01:47 PM
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Bring flowers or a dessert. A truffle dessert is usually a hit when I make it because it’s beautiful looking (make sure you get a specific truffle glass dish) and easy to put together. Just ask if they need help with anything. Don’t be too pushy because people always say no thanks. You could quietly ask your boyfriend afterwards “hey I’ve always wanted to wash dishes side by side with you!” Then you’re being helpful and they can’t say no. Grace is always said before eating. Depending on how form…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 12:24 PM
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😂
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 07:36 PM
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Well you turned him down a few times so he might be a tad upset about that. If he doesn’t want you to come over it’s not a good sign. He might be dealing with some mental health things but most military men I’ve met are very forward if they are interested in you. It does sound like he’s trying to do a soft next in regards to you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 05:31 PM
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No, my husband literally does not care. His first real gf was a waitress and all the ones after that either had no job or a very low level one. It seems to be a pattern of his ive noticed. Keep in mind my husband has several college degrees and is working on his second masters degree with a few AS degrees and a BS below that. He has no desire to be with someone on his intellectual level sexually which works great for someone like me! He says he’s under constant stress all day to make decisions i…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 05:25 PM
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I know it’s hard to not get defensive about this and because I’m guessing you have a higher n count? You’re in charge of your ability to bond with one person. It’s up to you to decide to practice restraint in dating and staying faithful. If you believe some of the things written here you will crash and burn so don’t. If you believe you can love one man then that’s your truth no one can take away. The reason why n count is such a big deal is because of several reasons but I think the biggest one …
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 02:53 PM
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“I don’t care” “Whatever you think” “Doesn’t matter to me” Are some common phrases when I think he’s acting too beta towards me. His response:I want to include you in the decisions. Me: I don’t care about mundane things like where should we park or what route we should take. It’s a work in progress at times and sometimes I think some men do this as a form of communication? Learning to bite my tongue whenever he does make a decision has been key. Sometimes I want to take over and say no we are do…
/r/RedPillWives28/10/19 01:48 PM
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Can you do free things? Cook dinner together Walk around the park On school break go camping with tents to a free campsite Play board games with each other or get your friends together to play Picnic in the park Free concerts
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 01:59 AM
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Thank you for sharing this! I feel incredibly lucky to be married to such a man ❤️
/r/RedPillWives27/10/19 02:17 AM
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No lol. I’ve stayed home for 10 years the “before” is very far back. I do have something to show, I’m here to love and care for my husband and kids.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/19 02:05 AM
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You’re not the only one. Trust me, I know what it’s like to be in a relationship with someone on this level of obsessiveness. Even as suffocating as it is, it’s very intoxicating and feels like love. But it’s not.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/19 09:21 PM
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First of all you started to play the game because you saw him playing with another female. Then you got his attention just to turn around and play victim because he thought it was a green light to chat with you. Stop it. This isn’t ladylike or red pill behavior. Either decide to be with him or don’t.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/19 07:23 PM
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I would love too! But my husband and I have a rule of not having these kinds of chat apps! But my kids added WhatsApp so I couldn’t see their texts messages on their phone feed 😂 I do wish you lots of support and help during this time! I had several in person woman friends who I spent time with and helped me through my year of “nun mode” but it was from red pill or anything. It was friends who saw it’s what I needed. I strongly suggest have a close circle like I did to guide you through this tim…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/19 03:18 PM
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I don’t like it but it’s entertaining to read
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/19 02:58 PM
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Don’t think because he’s giving into his urge to have sex he loved you any less. Maybe this is how he deals with suddenly being alone. Lots of men find comfort in the nearest woman after a break up and if it’s any comfort, these brief flings don’t last. But please stop looking at his social media! It’s going to make you miserable! Throw yourself into your own life and carry on! Stay busy, have a good few cries, and remind yourself why it didn’t work out.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/19 12:17 PM
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Not all men. My husband didn’t. He does occasionally get asked and he says “we’ve decided it’s best to have my wife around for the kids”. People don’t roll their eyes, they do make comments about the cost though. We have several families living around us who are stay at home moms.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/19 03:27 AM
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Monday: blueberry cheesecake pancakes (we do breakfast for dinner on Mondays) Tuesday: Tacos (I usually just use a store kit for this) Wednesday: Blackened fish tacos with red cabbage and mango slaw (from the jonna Gaines cookbook) Thursday: Slow cooker lasagna Friday: Pizza Saturday: Homemade apples bees kids mini hamburgers with fries (America’s most wanted cookbook) Sunday: Shepherds pie (jonna Gaines cookbook)
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/19 12:05 AM
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I came here after watching that documentary on Netflix’s about the red pill men one day while home alone doing laundry. It naturally brought me here after doing some research because I figured some of those men did marry so there must be a woman equivalent of red pill. I don’t think it’s something that you can just bring your gf or wife too. It’s kind of something someone decides for themselves! I followed red pill women and wives, married red pill, red pill for a year before making a reddit acc…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 08:41 PM
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I definitely think you need to see someone to work through this and so in your next relationship you are equipped and confident enough to say ABC happened to me and to have a sexual relationship I need this from you or I absolutely don’t want that. That way incidences, hopefully, won’t happen again reopening your wounds.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 07:30 PM
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One Valentine’s Day my husband did a scavenger hunt with clues written on index cards around the house that went like this: “First view I had of you (Picture of coffee) Head to the kitchen To find your first clue” (It of course was tapped to the coffee maker) The next card: “Our honeymoon inn, It was a special one. Head to our bathroom And find the....” (Our honeymoon was at black swan inn and in our bedroom was a black swan ring holder with the next clue) The next card: “1st movie in stereo You…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 02:36 PM
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I believe so! Welcome! You’re so young and you have so many wonderful adventures ahead of you! Too young to be feeling like this. Just breath and let all this negativity go and love life!
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 02:16 PM
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Don’t be so down on yourself! See if your insurance covers skin surgery and in the meantime I think they do make a body lotion that forms skin? Like jerkins skin firming lotion. Every woman is beautiful! You just have to believe that in yourself and others will notice you! The fact that you don’t have a promiscuous past is going to be a huge plus! I would use that to your full advantage! Plenty of men will overlook looks for that alone.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 02:05 PM
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I couldn’t handle being with a man like this. I understand sexual impulses for men can be powerful but a real man knows how to rein it in. My husband always slows down the whole time once I say the word without fail. I know it’s a strain on him because his muscles get tense and he starts to glisten with sweat but he keeps a slow rhythm when I ask for it and doesn’t hurt me. Not all men are so gentle and it’s too bad you can’t learn this beforehand. You’re boyfriend crossed the line and was incon…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 12:40 AM
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It’s something you have to weigh if it’s important to you! It was somewhat important to me and when I was dating my husband he had mentioned his ex wife stayed home and he preferred that. She also started working later on and left him for someone she met at work. So he’s sort of against the ideal completely now because of his first experience. We both agreed we didn’t want our child together to go to daycare and we wanted him to have a stay at home parent. But not every man is going to be able t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 10:10 PM
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Of course he deserves a good partner! So does she and one who wants the same things as her!
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 10:06 PM
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I doubt that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 01:19 PM
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Sounds like the type of woman I would make fast friends with! I do hope she finds a man who can overlook all of that though and I’m sure they are out there!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 12:17 PM
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They are encouraged because society is moving away from traditionalism, monogamy, and marriage. It’s sad really.
/r/RedPillWives24/10/19 11:59 AM
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I don’t see my husband “leaving the company” and I don’t have to endure him breaking our vows by cheating. But I guess if that works for you! I just hope you’re going to be ok if he leaves you for someone younger because you allow him to behave this way.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 06:57 PM
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Have you read the vetting lists on these threads? I’m kind of concerned for you. He might not leave right now but he just might in the future. You pay his bills? You let him cheat? I just can’t. I can tell you I don’t deal with these things because he knows I would leave the absolute minute I knew 100% he cheated on me. You don’t have to stand for this if you don’t want to.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 06:02 PM
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I love all your comments and posts! You bring so much wisdom and inspiration!
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 04:50 PM
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This.is.golden. Thank you for writing this.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 04:44 PM
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This is a good point. She was hesitant to go in the beginning from what I read. He started doing some shady meet here oh no now meet there causing confusion in her. Hindsight is 20/20. You always go with your gut in these situations. Why she would agree to an open relationship is beyond me but the guy she choose to meet with works in retail? Not exactly high quality here. Either way, it’s horrible what happened to her and she deserves to be treated with as much kid gloves as possible.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 03:13 PM
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Well in order for me to feel it they would have to be better than my husband which would be close to impossible. Therefore, I don’t get it because I can’t find anyone better than him
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 03:06 PM
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Q4W: What is your ideal man? Ladies, what is your ideal man? What do you expect? How does he looks like? Manly Does he need to be well dressed? Well groomed? Somewhat well dressed but good hygiene is more important. How important is him making you laugh? Very How important is being polite, but also confident? Very Do you care about his N count? Yes to a degree. Does he need to be employed? And if so, is how much money he makes important? Yes and it depends on age. I wouldn’t expect someone who’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 01:26 PM
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I think when you love someone you naturally don’t want to put them in a position of temptation.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 01:22 PM
2

Wow. Well we don’t know enough of her background to assume anything about her. There are a lot of people on here with autism for example who don’t understand the personal risks. We should not assume everyone comes from the same place.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 12:54 PM
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I’m pretty sure she’s aware of the danger now. There’s no need for this point being made. She’s probably already blaming herself otherwise she wouldn’t be on this anonymous thread asking for help.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 11:59 AM
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No one really knows how a certain man is going to behave when his sexual hormones are raging. Are we supposed to just assume all men are capable of this?
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 11:57 AM
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Most women I know who are married to such great men are bending over backwards to keep them satisfied and at home. So no, it’s not ok. It just goes to show he’s not a high quality man if he can’t be satisfied period.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 11:56 AM
2

I would think the goal is to vet for a man that’s going to provide a life and relationship that ultimately brings you the most fulfillment so you don’t feel hypergamy at all. In this day and age, getting a man in even the top 35% is a challenge as well as keeping him. This sub is excellent for giving advice on keeping such men.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 11:48 AM
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In any sexual encounter when hard boundaries are set i.e no condom no sex, then those boundaries must be respected period. Any man should be aware of his sexual nature/drive and have it under control at all times.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 11:41 AM
2

Yes, he’s a normal healthy child
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 10:49 AM
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I’m so sorry this happened to you and it is rape. You told him you didn’t want too and told him to stop during it. It’s also very risky to go from anal to regular sex. You’re going to want to keep an eye out for an UTI. I hope you have someone you can talk too.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 01:17 AM
2

It is very hard to see others successfully have babies when you can’t. Hugs! It’s going to take some prayers to fight that envy feeling that does come up with something so personal. People have babies many different ways and there’s no right or wrong way! Edit: it wasn’t ivf but iuf I believe? They were going to start the fertility treatments to force ovulation and grow several eggs and try to inject his sperm on my open tube side. Then do reductions if needed as in take out the tube hopefully s…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/19 04:34 PM
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My hubby and I suffered through 4 miscarriages. We don’t have exactly the same story because after numerous testing it was discovered I had a blocked tube and a high ectopic pregnancy risk. Me getting pregnant is extremely risky because of this and some other issues that came up when I actually did get pregnant. So I felt a lot like your husband. I felt a lot of “this life isn’t fair” also. I would get jealous over anyone who got pregnant too and several would while my husband and I went through…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/19 03:37 PM
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I think they come in all sizes. My hubby usually acts quite goofy at first to put people at ease but when he brings down the hammer of authority people quickly take notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 12:22 PM
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Because I’m wondering if he’s who he says he is. That’s why I suggested this.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/19 10:43 AM
2

Tell him that his whining and his depressive mood is bringing you down and ask if he needs to see a therapist?
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/19 02:07 AM
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Does he have an office? Ask him if you could meet him within walking distance for a quick coffee.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 07:54 PM
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It’s just like daydreaming
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 05:34 PM
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You need to ask yourself if this is what you want and can live with, forever. You might resent him if this is something really important to you. If you do leave him, make sure you vet for this before getting into another serious relationship again.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 02:20 PM
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I count steps per day, make lists, my husband is my work out buddy, I daydream about not shopping in a plus size store, I have a ton of motivation workout apps on my phone and when I’m doing really well I share my progress on Facebook! I do a lot of visualization of what I want to do or who I want to be in my head. Right now I want to lose weight so I visualize throughout the day of me being strong and fast during my workout. It seems to work. Or I visualize each step in my next recipe. Or I vis…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 12:15 AM
3

Who cares what they think! Your future husband and skin will thank you later! Not every 20s something has to party it up! It’s ok if you don’t!
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 11:44 PM
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😂 😂
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 09:14 PM
4

You will find someone! Just keep going in improving yourself and the right man will come along! You don’t have to accept anything short of a relationship from a man. Just say no that you are looking for a commitment only.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 08:22 PM
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I started exercising and drinking more water. I just started retinol face cream that I use with my trusty olay regenerist (sp). I started using it on my hands too. I don’t smoke, drink, or do drugs. This makes a big difference. I have no wrinkles that are deep set. A few smile wrinkles when I smile can be seen but that’s it. I’m going to turn 40 in a couple months and so far only a couple gray hairs so that part is going well. I am overweight though which is aging me. So don’t get fat, it litera…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 03:16 PM
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Yes I’m in mourning and I’m about to turn 40. I constantly compare myself to women who are 40 and that’s not something I’ve paid much mind too until now. There aren’t many 40 year olds around me but there are the age bracket of 30 to 37ish. So of course they still look younger than me. But I’m determined to at least be thin and take better care of myself from here on out. I’m mostly embarrassed for my husband who deserves to have a pretty wife. I sometimes wonder what the woman he manages think …
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 12:30 PM
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You’ve made the choice to spend a decade with this man and NOW you’re worried about this?!
/r/RedPillWives20/10/19 11:37 AM
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You’re bf deserves better. Even if a millionaire came along I wouldn’t leave my hubby who’ve I’ve spent ten years with. He won’t ever earn half a million but he has his sights set on being the next business manager where he works which is a big deal and enough ambition for me. A sugar daddy might not bring you a quality life but someone slightly down the ladder brings substance. Something real. The fact that another man feels comfortable saying he will take you away means several things. You’ve …
/r/RedPillWives20/10/19 11:34 AM
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You shouldn’t be rewarding this behavior of his. You are the one who teaches your husband how to be a considerate and caring lover. You are teaching him to be lazy. Disconnect the internet at night or something but he shouldn’t be picking video games over you. Tell him you don’t want quick bathroom sex. You need foreplay, sex, wind down time, and a shower together afterwards otherwise you just don’t feel loved right now.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 10:33 PM
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Ok no more quick bathroom sex for a while. We have kids too so we make time either by going to bed early right after the kids or we take an 1 1/2 to 2 hour “nap”. This way we both know it’s most likely going to be two hours to do whatever we need to do without being rushed and both are satisfied. It’s really a special time for married couples. Once in awhile a quickie like this will provide a quick release or connection but it’s not as satisfying as taking the time to get to everything. Quit tel…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 10:14 PM
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😂 I’m hoping so too
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 04:44 PM
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Yeah no. I’m a very submissive woman but this is beyond anything I would ever sign on for. I don’t see this as red pill at all. When I think of submissive dominant in a sexual way, it’s strictly in the bedroom. That’s the only place I would allow my husband to be “directive”. Otherwise we discuss things, like normal couples
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 04:19 PM
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It won’t work. Sorry!
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 04:11 PM
3

I save mine on a journal app! Posts and comments share right to day one app!
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 09:59 AM
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My first husband was 48 and I was 23. I am concerned that your boyfriend has never been married? Mine had been divorced and had several live in relationships. He also skipped out of our marriage and our two kids we had together, so there’s that. Because of several issues that came up over my former marriage, I don’t suggest a huge age difference like this. I married what I would call a “retired alpha” and it brought nothing but heartache and he still couldn’t overcome his nature, which was to sk…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/19 12:42 PM
1

What is IG?
/r/RedPillWives18/10/19 02:24 AM
2

Ok! Sounds fun!
/r/RedPillWives18/10/19 02:22 AM
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I’m game! Should we post pictures of our weekly creations here?!
/r/RedPillWives18/10/19 01:51 AM
1

Two to three times a week
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 09:45 PM
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You know what? You really shouldn’t of gotten married in the first place. It doesn’t matter what you feel right now you’re in the middle of not even thinking rationally. You can tell your husband and if he’s any kind of real man he will tell you to get out. If he didn’t I myself couldn’t respect him going forward. You sound like a teenager. “Oh I can’t help being in love” “you can’t help love” you are a grown woman. This is not the behavior of someone mature. If you are this swayed by your emoti…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 04:23 PM
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You aren’t providing faithfulness which screw a clean house a man deserves to know your body is only his. You aren’t providing the number one thing that I’m sure is most important to your husband. Let me tell you something about men, this new guy might seem like he respects you but deep inside he’s going to see you as slutty because after you spent hours alone with him, you went to sleep in your husbands bed. In the back of his mind you’re not going to be a pure and innocent picture. This is why…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 02:28 PM
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Someone with a cool head wouldn’t get caught up in a situation like this to begin with. I will say, you should count your lucky stars because if I spent any amount of time with any guy my husband would drop me like within seconds. You spent hours with a man who wasn’t your husband! What happens when this new guy disappoints you?
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 01:53 PM
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Do you plan on converting to his religion? What religion is it? Because if you’re not interested in something that’s a big deal then you might have to end it. Think long term. Having religious differences is going to be a problem down the road with marriage, family, and kids. You don’t want to get put in a box of, you’re the woman he texts and occasionally has “sexual moments” with but you’re not marriage or even girlfriend material in his eyes.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 01:45 PM
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This so much! Don’t reward this behavior!
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 12:10 PM
5

I would dump him just for reading my private journal! You don’t have to apologize for anything, he’s a jerk!
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 12:08 PM
1

This is a good point
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:44 PM
0

We have internet dating now
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:44 PM
0

The problem with the woman at the dollar tree is no one taught her how “middle and upper middle” flirt because it’s not thug lower class “hey baby, what’s your number.” Someone would have to teach her how to recognize when a man above her class is fishing her and more importantly how to respond. Men go for beneath their station in life quite often and the smart women let them be rescued from a dollar tree life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 09:31 PM
2

I’m almost 40 and I don’t plan on ever stopping with my husband!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 07:54 PM
2

I think because my husbands dad was deployed a lot while he was growing up they developed the dynamic they were at when we got married. She was practically a single mom and a very very overbearing one at that. She’s completely opposite of anything remotely red pill or submissive. It’s uncomfortable for me to be around her when she bosses my husbands dad around. Now whenever we get together we don’t say a lot to each other. We do try to find common ground though, with mixed results. Fortunately t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 06:07 PM
2

Here’s some examples: You know honey, I think it would be good for your mother to learn how to do ABC on her own. Let your mom have a day to herself while we spend the day in bed together. Oh! Looks like this is a busy season, maybe a phone call will suffice. Move to a different state works too. Do you go to church? Have your pastor over to dinner to talk about “leave and cleave”.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 05:11 PM
2

I don’t get along with my MIL but except for one time I take everything to my husband. At one time I did go over my husband and sent her a very long text over everything I had been holding in for years. Her response? She won’t visit and won’t even send birthday gifts or cards on the kids birthday. She does still send Christmas money but I think that’s mostly because my FIL does it. We have to fly everyone out to see them now if a visit is ever going to happen which is very costly for us. So, unl…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 04:43 PM
1

I don’t appreciate making fun of this
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 11:57 AM
1

Are you actually testing me?!? Number 6 stays.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 02:29 AM
1

It might be unusual but it’s my list
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 02:13 AM
1

Because why would I want a man a half way decent woman can get?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 02:09 AM
1

Because he doesn’t sleep with trashy women and can control himself
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 02:03 AM
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He can learn with one woman
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 01:08 AM
2

It comes naturally to men who evoke that feeling. It’s just like when a woman has that quality that makes men want to help her or rescue her or fight for her, the same thing goes for men too. Some men have it where women are going to bend over backwards for them and others need to get it.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 10:53 PM
1

Tall, Kind, Educated, No addictions, Has a solid career, Doesn’t sleep around but could if he wanted too, Dependable, Others respect him, Leader, No criminal record, Knows his way around the bedroom, Strong, physically, Good father, Fair, No debt, Broad chest, Masculine, Well endowed, Prefect credit score, No gambling, Believes in monogamy and marriage, Does altruistic things like rescue stray animals,
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 10:35 PM
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He’s probably down he didn’t get the job. My husband applied for a work from home position and it was given internally too. I would just give it time so your bf can recover from the letdown. It might be for the best. I know in my situation it is. My husbands boss came to him shortly after the work from home position hired someone else with a timeline of reorganizing my husbands section so that he can be moved up a few gs levels and have two leads below him. My husbands won’t work from home but w…
/r/RedPillWives15/10/19 09:44 PM
2

I like the captain title myself! Having two people always trying to be in control isn’t going to work. That being said there are times my husband lets me take the lead but he mostly does the leading. An example: I meet my husband for lunch at his work once a week and said “would it bother you if I buy some leggings afterwards at torrid?” He happily says go a head. Sometimes he says no because we have an expense I forgot about coming up. I don’t do a lot without running it by him first. He does t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 06:08 PM
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I overreacted to some things my husband has said over the weekend but we got back on track. I let my hamster spin when he wouldn’t take Friday off to go to our sons fall party and thought it was because he would rather spend his Friday with his co workers. Which makes no sense they are in the middle of a new network payment system and regional management was in town so he had to be at all meetings. The top set me off to being sensitive to everything he said the whole weekend which I’m sure wasn’…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 05:55 PM
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You are young! Go out there and find a man! Take advantage of your youth because that’s one of your greatest bargaining chips right now! Trust me, youth fades and it sucks but money will always be there! Don’t focus on money as much! Dating is risky and it sucks when you’re not picked or worse dumped but someone made just for you will come along!
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 12:19 PM
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It’s relevant to her if she gets older and alone and wants a marriage or partnership. The point of this sub is to teach women how to get and keep men.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 12:02 PM
1

I believe in supporting my man and I’m not into the whole be self sufficient I don’t need a man feminist belief.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 09:46 AM
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We are against it because we are in a marriage where we agree to take care of each other’s needs.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 12:48 AM
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I dare her too and try to take a video of it with your phone!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 12:39 AM
1

Because it’s entertaining and makes me laugh or cry. I learn about human nature!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 12:34 AM
3

Yes, I wish they would all find true love too! It would solve a lot of problems!
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 10:13 PM
1

Yes which is why I don’t take it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 08:14 PM
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Get her off of all birth control or any other medications that lower libido. My husband is very touchy towards me all day everyday. His arm around me, rubbing my back, running his fingers through my hair, sitting close to me, kissing in private and public, and he gives gifts. He does this before trying anything sexual. Everything that happens outside the bedroom affects inside the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 06:58 PM
1

https://imgur.com/gallery/UJstP5b
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 05:26 PM
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Yeah I love it when people who can’t find anyone or maintain a long marriage give advice of “its not going to work”. What’s hilarious is they seem to be the loudest too even though their track record sucks lol.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 04:56 PM
0

Sure beats men who don’t do anything but live in their parents basement
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 04:42 PM
1

Right and there are plenty of horrible men in the world but you’ve chosen to single out some of the ones who have to prove they are good enough to even get in.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 04:42 PM
1

I live 1 hour and 15 minutes from my husband too. If it wasn’t for the internet we would have never met either!
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 02:44 PM
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I saw my husbands profile on MySpace and couldn’t stop staring at his picture. At the time I was 29 and he was 34. He did have some posts from another woman though but his profile was listed as “single” so I went a head and wrote him. He was deployed in the military at the time. I didn’t know at the time but the past few weeks he had been in a head injury when a plane took off without permission while workers were on the run way and my husband was closet to the plane. He got hit with metal flyin…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 02:30 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 01:11 PM
-1

Oh lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 12:48 PM
0

Someone obviously has hurt you and you want the ring back?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 12:47 PM
1

To pawn it to buy something to ease the grief of a broken engagement of course
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 12:39 PM
-4

None. It was a gift. There have been lawsuits about this and the woman always wins.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 12:34 PM
-2

I’m just saying, none of the things you listed have been my experience. I was treated better with them. Actually taken out on dates, called often, opened doors for me, seriously considered as a permanent partner to them. I was given the marriage, white picket fence, and life I very much sought by a military man as opposed to say the Taco Bell manager who thought he was too good for me. This is my preference, truth, and experience your criticizing.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 12:33 PM
-4

The ones who aren’t trying to climb the top of the ladder are going to have a higher divorce rate. But top enlisted and officers won’t because it’s extremely frowned upon to not have one spouse. There are ways to affair proof your marriage. I don’t think they have a higher domestic abuse rate. Granted it takes a long time for guys in these professions to reach six figures but they have a different kind of status that’s different than money.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 12:19 PM
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That’s not my opinion at all. As a woman I can have whatever type of man and belief about them and their profession I want. What type of men have made my life hell? Nonmilitary or cop or military washouts who couldn’t make it through one enlistment. I was more likely to be treated with respect from these men so that’s what I stick with. They were also more likely to give me a ring and commitment. It fits for ME, other women have luck with different types of men. Why are you commenting on a woman…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 11:57 AM
1

It’s one of those it’s nice to have but if it’s not there not that big of a deal. Men are allowed to have their standards too without criticizing. Red pill is amoral.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 11:52 AM
0

Why would you say that?
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 11:43 AM
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I looked for a lot. It’s very shallow and I completely understand that but I love uniform men. Military and cops are my thing and I have a hard time deviating from that. So that’s first because it takes care of the other things I look for in a man. Such as: Living a honorable criminal free life. Being dependable and responsible. Living above reproach. Being a man who isn’t afraid to protect. Having honor. Being passionate about their calling in life. Hardworking. Loves God. Good father. A real m…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 10:36 AM
2

I’m a social person too and want to share my life and love with a man. I can’t imagine being alone. I’m just not built that way
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 10:28 AM
0

But this isn’t the type of situation where he was committed to anyone. He didn’t break any promises. He wasn’t even dating this lady but fwb.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 10:26 AM
2

Ohhh! I love Boden for kids clothes! I never thought of them for adults! But I get pretty excited about dressing my youngest in their clothing line! The stuff is so adorable! It’s cutesy and fashionable!
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 12:39 AM
3

This is extremely helpful!
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/19 11:12 PM
3

I love the Burberry toggle coat style but can’t afford it new so I’ve been waiting for it to be on eBay used in my size.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/19 11:07 PM
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My husband has a high iq, tested for gifted and talented in school, received a 98 on his asvab, and gets a 4.0 in his college classes. He has a really shitty personality in relationships though whether it’s with me, other family, or friends. I sometimes have to remind him: this person was asking a question or sharing a story and you took over the conversation or you started talking about something completely unrelated. He doesn’t understand give and take in conversation. I can’t really explain i…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/19 04:39 PM
1

I gained 100 pounds and I feel like it’s my fault for everything. He doesn’t make me feel good about myself. I honestly believe he’s never felt lucky to have me it’s always he rescued me so I’m the lucky one.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/19 12:15 PM
1

I don’t think he’s a narcissist but I do think he has something. A mild form of autism. He totally misses a lot of social cues.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/19 11:51 AM
1

I severely let myself go. He doesn’t hit me but I do feel ugly and fat.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/19 11:49 AM
1

He doesn’t drink
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/19 11:11 AM
4

Lol lol lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 08:24 PM
1

He loves me no matter what I look like as a husband should.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 07:34 PM
11

None of this should be romanticized. There are plenty of traditional men who make enough money to provide at least a middle class one step up from working middle class life. Without you having to demean yourself to this level. You could have a normal loving relationship/marriage with a provider type man. Just keep reading the tips on here and books. Hang out in the right groups and don’t wavier in your beliefs.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/19 02:08 PM
14

My husband is still sexually attracted to me after ten years. They are not that superficial. Where do all of you live? I see average looking women or older women having an active sex life. I see them married and in relationships too. That being said there are a lot of options to keep women looking young now days if they so chose and have the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/19 01:02 PM
1

I’m supposed to add value to my husbands life. Things have not changed that much. I do know my husbands former wife worked and his family was visiting. My husband started folding clothes in front of them and they made a big deal about why is he doing the laundry! They did not let it go. I also know I sure wouldn’t want a wife who isn’t capable as a homemaker marrying my sons. I can see where this is going already. “I have sooo much housework to do! My husband doesn’t help!” People they are compl…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/19 12:58 PM
1

So how do single moms keep their houses clean? Or women who’s husbands deploy? Or wives who are married to men who travel a lot for work? I think this just creates helpless women and I don’t like that message.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/19 12:49 PM
1

My husband is a professional in middle management and I married him so I can make his day to day life easier and add value to him. He does the same for me in different ways.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 11:03 PM
4

I would like some appreciation in the form of “wow this house looks amazing!” “Wow dear my desk is always clean whenever I sit down!” “Wow honey all my friends with teens always complains about how messy their rooms are but you keep them in tip top shape!” “Wow I notice you’re frisky every time you put CRISP clean sheets on our bed once a week like clockwork! Thanks!” “Wow there’s zero dust in this house and this helps my allergies greatly!” Do I get these compliments? Heck no because men don’t …
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 09:47 PM
10

Taco Bell would have been easier
/r/RPChristians11/10/19 09:25 PM
1

I can’t articulate it because there’s no other way to say they are mean. I do think they have good tips over at married red pill or Christian red pill and I think for the most part the married ones are...ok. I do like how they care about helping insecure or shy men become more successful in dating. It’s just gone a bit overboard into treating women poorly. If anything they give me a reason to thank my lucky stars I’m married and not single having to deal with red pill men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/19 02:09 AM
1

He saw my MySpace profile and age. It wasn’t a dating site, it was MySpace
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 11:30 PM
1

Pretty sure these kind of guys are horrible in bed and require a crap ton of encouragement
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 08:22 PM
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Oh, well I believe in God and I think plenty of damaged men change too. You obviously haven’t seen a woman so in love she will bend over backwards for a man? Same thing applies here. No ones changing unless they have a reason too. People change when what they are doing isn’t working. I don’t notice anyone else’s car lol. I do know one of my husbands friends did marry a very beautiful stripper the same time my husband married me and ten years and two kids later they are still happily married. Wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 07:53 PM
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I’ve been thinking when I was asked these questions and it definitely happened when I was a teen dating teens, another time was a guy who worked at a pizza place, and the last time was a guy who lived in a trailer park. Those are the type of men who asked the “n count” question.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 05:20 PM
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It’s an exaggeration I’m sure for most of it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 04:08 PM
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Lol lol lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 04:05 PM
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Exactly. There should be zero mention of who, what, when on all her social media because men will look it all up. She has to actually stick with the 180 too because one mess up and it will ruin it all. Poor women. I hate to see people like her give up and just go back to the nearest wife beater right out of sing sing because she didn’t stick with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 03:17 PM
2

My husband didn’t ask my sexual history at all. None of the men I dated before him did either.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 03:13 PM
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The problem with lying about a past like this is sometimes people from that past will go way out of their way to ruin a person like this if she happens to get out. It’s not just her but anyone with a questionable past is going to bring out people who will out someone. Some people are just rotten inside and don’t want to see others succeed. The best way to beat them to the punch in dating is to find a way to say it first. Or some of it first. It’s definitely not a good strategy to start out the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/19 03:09 PM
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I didn’t find my husband on a dating app and back when I was dating dating apps were kind of cheap looking. I also didn’t want a guy that activity looking so I did check if my husband had a dating app too which he didn’t. So when I saw who would become my future husband on MySpace and looked his name up on all dating sites and saw he wasn’t on any, I messaged him. It was very simple “hey I saw your profile and my name is —- I would like to get to know you better.” That’s it. I did make sure to o…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 11:33 AM
1

My husband has never denied days on end either even with stress or physical things. She’s going to have to entice her SO somehow so he doesn’t look for that release somewhere else
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 01:47 AM
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Then I would ask him. One of the greatest gifts of a relationship is sharing these moments you can’t with anyone else. I hope this works out for you
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 07:54 PM
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My husband manages 17 people and only two are men. He says women are the worst because they remember every little slight between each other and he spends a lot of days just “counseling” their spats. They don’t gossip that much amongst each other but they do tell my husband a lot about their lives and he gossips to me lol. He brings home a lot of conversation material. There probably would be a better mix of men and women but it requires a 4 year degree and my husband says not enough men have app…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 07:29 PM
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You are not being self absorbed. Men enjoy sex and if it’s dropped down to once every other week there might be a problem that’s needs addressing. You might need to ask yourself if you want to be in this kind of relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 05:55 PM
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This was so uplifting! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 04:05 PM
3

After reading her history I realize it was friends with benefits which means he was free to do whatever he wanted and so is she
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 03:33 PM
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I’ve been with my husband for ten years and my hamster spins if sex drops down to less than 3 times a week. You know the reasons I’ve been given when it does? “We have a new change over going on at work and I’m stressed.” “I’m not feeling well right now” “I have some projects due.” So, it’s not me and it’s probably not you. Also keep in mind if you’re already down to 2 or 3 times a week at 1.5 years that means he doesn’t have that high of a sex drive. We were still making love every day at that …
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 12:53 PM
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The big five is a better predictor and they have genetic testing for it too so you can’t lie your way through it like other personality tests.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/19 12:40 PM
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I wouldn’t tell the other women. It causes a lot of unneeded heartache on someone else. I understand you’re in pain but by telling you’re just sharing that pain with an innocent person who probably doesn’t know. Men like him get caught especially if he keeps it up. I feel the dignified thing to do would be to hold your head high and move on without causing more drama. Vent to us so you can work through it but you probably will be unsatisfied even if you do tell her.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 10:57 AM
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Save yourself for your future husband. The hook up culture is bad for everyone in the long term!
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 10:45 AM
2

I married a provider but he wasn’t making a lot when I first started dating him but he did have a solid career in the Air Force and was headed towards retirement. We weren’t rich at all the first five years of of our marriage so keep that in mind. Lots of coupons, cloth diapers, hardly eating out, and limited traveling. Things are way different now. I know others on here say when a guy “climbs” the ladder other women try to take him, if he’s a decent man this won’t happen. However he has been fl…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 10:37 AM
1

I was raised and told to smile, a lot. So I do when out in public. It’s taken some work to not do this and have a more neutral demeanor when meeting people. Which I shouldn’t have to do because I generally enjoy meeting new people
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 10:17 AM
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I don’t know. Probably. But I was you then I was the other woman. My husband was dating someone else when I contacted him. He chose me. You lose and win in dating so don’t give up!
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 03:07 AM
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I don’t know for sure but I strongly suspect he was seeing us both. He married her very quickly after I told him I needed more. No I didn’t ask and stopped talking to him because he wouldn’t give me a relationship and I deserved one.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 02:58 AM
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The guy who did this married the woman and I thought he didn’t want a relationship. Imagine that. Don’t take it personal and I know it’s hard not too. Someone better will come along and you will understand why it wasn’t meant to be.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 02:47 AM
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He’s a loser who can’t be honest and you’ve done nothing wrong. You aren’t the only who’s had this happen, trust me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 02:44 AM
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I would stop talking to him completely
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 02:34 AM
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How do you know he isn’t just dating? Maybe he’s just dating her too and exploring his options?
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 02:30 AM
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There are a lot of books to help you with these things. I am concerned with how your boyfriend is criticizing you. Just today I had to FaceTime my husband because I couldn’t figure out how to turn off the music playing on his computer for the life of me. He laughed about it and walked me through it. This is a loving response to ignorance over common sense stuff. Or last Friday I’ve never aired up the tires on my car myself. He called while the workers at the oil change place was doing it and ask…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 01:49 AM
1

What is automod?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 08:24 PM
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I don’t think those guys are who she’s talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 07:26 PM
1

This is why they shouldn’t marry an alpha to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 06:33 PM
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If he asked before the engagement and she lied this is going to be risky for her if it comes out. You will definitely be seen as the jealous hateful friend if you do spill the beans. I suggest you don’t. There are ways to let the guy know without directly saying but why would you do this to your friend? What is your intention? This is why ladies, you don’t lie about it. You definitely don’t outright lie with a solid number either. Because if you do sleep around you will make other women jealous …
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/19 01:00 AM
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“Dated men in a higher social class” means nothing unless they were willing to marry you with an actual ring and announcement in the paper. You have a long way to go and I doubt you’re going to get there. If i was single I would have been happy with several of the men you mentioned but they weren’t good enough for you?! Your wall is approaching and you don’t have a lot of time. I suggest you work on your inside because a pretty exterior doesn’t last.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/19 04:19 PM
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This!
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/19 03:25 PM
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Yup and those girls want providers and non party type men who have pure reputations. Coming onto reddit with this judgment attitude will get you nexted by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 10:50 AM
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Well aren’t you just a peach! Of course you want that! I’m sure you’re going to continue having a great relationship!
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/19 12:12 AM
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I think people who aren’t red pill are posting. If you look through the whole history of red pill women you will find it’s changed some. I believe the original mods have left unfortunately. So the negative responses aren’t common.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 11:16 PM
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Oh I say I have a clean house all the time and I love to show pictures of it on this clutterbug Facebook group lol. Sometimes I post them on my own Facebook even. So sometimes people really have what they say!
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 11:09 PM
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The ten year law is to protect stay at home moms. We do all agree it’s better for kids to be raised in a two parent house? This law provides me with the security that it would be risky for my husband to just up and leave. That doesn’t mean I just stop being a wife because I’m “safe” now. I don’t get why men or women are upset about this. There are men who make it and just up and leave their wife and kids. For women this is risky because statistically they are more likely to end up in poverty in …
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 11:08 PM
1

You know I didn’t think about it from this point of view. Both my mom and her mom were married to some horrific men so they really hate men and it colors every view they have. Thanks for the reminder!
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 10:57 PM
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I stopped right after getting married. I knew it was going to happen though because my husband and I went through pre martial Christian counseling where we discussed our vision for a Christian marriage. It’s an adjustment so be prepared. A schedule for each hour would have been useful if someone suggested it. You’re going to have a lot of time and very little adult interaction. Cue in why I spend a lot of time online. It helps me socialize with others. I’m going on ten years of not working now a…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 09:52 PM
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I met him when he was 34 and we’ve been married 10 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/19 01:15 PM
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Flirting and chatting with every man makes a woman look cheap and easy so it’s a good thing you don’t do this. You seem to be highly sensitive to what you perceive others are thinking. I’m guessing they don’t think of you half as much as you think they do. But again, you lower your smv if you were to flirt and chat with every man you come across.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/19 08:51 PM
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Oh I’m stressed out by it. I started a gym membership that I go to religiously. I just asked my doctor for a prescription for retinol. I take a lot of vitamins and drink health shakes. I try to dress my age too. I’m still overweight and that’s my biggest concern right now. I know it’s an issue when I told my husband the school security guy winked at me and my husband didn’t believe it. He thought he was winking at someone else or just being extra “friendly”. Even after the security guy will some…
/r/RedPillWives05/10/19 07:52 PM
0

Right. Keep saying that if it makes you feel better
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 02:48 PM
2

My husband was 26 when he lost his virginity. He did not have a normal high school experience. He was very thin and tall and just hadn’t grew into himself or gained confidence. He was repeatedly turned down in high school in very public and embarrassing ways. This lead him to focus on his career and just not try in the relationship department until later. Once he was older and more established he got hit on far more. So don’t think you are behind or missed out. Some men bloom later in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 01:46 PM
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I was able to stand out because of the way I was living my life. Very wholesome, stay home if I wasn’t at school or work, spent my free time with my kids (I was a single mom), I didn’t drink or do drugs, I didn’t spend my time at the club or had friends who spent their time there, I went to church twice sometimes three times a week, I cooked a lot, and I really believed in the whole proverbs 31 or Ephesians wife. I mean I was pretty obsessed about it before my husband. This worked for me because…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/19 04:37 AM
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Would have made different friends would be the first thing. Went to college and found a nice future husband there would be another. Mostly, would have realized my worth. Once I became more confident in myself and what I wanted less lower quality men tried to make a pass at me. I learned how to carry myself better which is something that would have been useful earlier in my life. I’m content with my life now don’t get me wrong but it was just a few strokes of luck or divine intervention that got …
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/19 06:51 PM
2

My husband lived slightly over an hour away while dating. So I told him: “I don’t live with guys it’s statically more likely to end in divorce if we marry and it’s against the Bible.” Silence on his end but he did propose shortly after that. I only stayed one night at his apartment because I was “busy”. We emailed in May, met in July, and he proposed in September. So 4 months after first contact when he asked me to be his wife. I’m sure an 8 like you can have him wanting to make you his! I would…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/19 03:39 AM
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It takes two to make kids. If you don’t want women on welfare teach men to stick around and be good fathers and husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 07:33 PM
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This. I too did the higher education route. First it was CNA then full time community college with an emphasis on social work. This also helped me have more confidence in going for higher quality men but also more confidence in talking with them on their level. It offered skills on presenting myself in a more polished way. College students and college faculty act and carry themselves differently than the party crowd.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/19 05:54 PM
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Do you think he’s cheating on you? You’re right every man does want sex. The lack of wanting that means he might be getting his needs met somewhere else?
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/19 12:37 PM
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Quite honestly my husband never asked me about my past but I did volunteer some of the information during one of our early dates. I think he was able to put a lot of it together from there because of some of the things I shared. Mainly I was raised in extreme poverty ghetto/trailer park situations and the issues that came from being raised in that environment. I spent a lot of time in and out of foster care. Which all that combined lead me to spend some of my life seeking guys to fill a void in …
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/19 12:10 PM
1

This so much! Women think they can have it all! Do they really think the CEO got there by working a normal week and being their for their spouse all the time?! Women have really unrealistic expectations for men. The wife’s attitude has a huge impact on how far a man can go. Start whining about not getting enough time and the next time a career changing project comes up he won’t want to do it because it takes time away from his wife who’s already complaining about not enough time. The kids and I …
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/19 11:42 AM
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Maybe we don’t have all the information because the military friends I know go way beyond to be supportive to their spouse. These are women getting up at 4am to cook for their spouse, they hand sew their military husbands patches, they take professional boudoir pictures to appeal to their husband while he’s away, they organize a spouses group, they have children alone while battling cancer and their spouse is deployed, they do keep a clean house because that definitely reflects on their husband,…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/19 10:27 AM
1

The real real has affordable name brand stuff!
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/19 02:45 AM
1

Your absolutely right she should decide what she needs and leave him because they aren’t married and find someone else. It’s a disservice for her and him for her to selfishly continue down this road especially with her negative attitude. Which isn’t red pill. No red pill women would ever post so much negativity towards her captain.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/19 02:26 AM
1

I don’t know any of my neighbors who behave this way. Those are not positive statistics
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 07:55 PM
1

The ones without morals or self respect
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 06:09 PM
2

Yeah if you want to break up a whole family. Think about the kids. The wife’s reputation would be trashed. Not only that but some men would absolutely go ape shit and your life and quite possibly the wife’s too would be in danger. I would think single women would be easier myself
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 03:21 PM
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You should move on. You’re obviously not what this man needs and vice versa. I’m sure both of you will find more suitable partners
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 04:13 AM
1

This is a horrible thing to say about veterans. They aren’t all like this. You shouldn’t group them all together like this. I know many of my friends throughout my time as a military spouse who didn’t abandon their spouse after the service and they were broken by their experiences. Everyone is broken in some way and everyone deserves love. Especially including the members who fight for our freedoms. Sometimes the hero needs a hero.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 04:11 AM
2

I will have to add nosferstu to our watching list! I’ve never seen it!
/r/RedPillWives02/10/19 03:15 AM
2

We dressed as the incredibles last year for pictures!
/r/RedPillWives02/10/19 02:43 AM
3

We have beggars night here! We have halloween not on Halloween night. Not sure how this started but I love this tradition! Pumpkin spice everything starts in my house!
/r/RedPillWives01/10/19 10:01 PM
1

I’m very appreciative of the lengths my husband goes for Valentine’s Day. Last year he had my favorite grocery store deliver a dozen roses with the worker in a tux. My husband worked last year on the day. I usually get jewelry and flowers and I appreciate it greatly! Valentine’s Day kills marriages where it’s more important to one spouse over the other!
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 05:58 PM
1

I’m not high smv compared to him. Not even sure how I got him but I did. Lol you don’t have to go to a celebrity event for this. Go live near a military base and find out where the top military men hang out
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 02:59 PM
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RP women is big on NO mate poaching. That means you shouldn’t be going out of your way like this. Quit thinking about him and stop being on his social media friends list! This is why men go totally red pill because some women branch swing and to do it with your boyfriends best friend is going to be extremely damaging if this other guy will even take you. The social fallout will be intense because no body is going to like you breaking up several relationships. Either understand this is your natur…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 01:54 PM
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Yeah you’re going to have to frame this differently lol. “I’m an aspiring housewife.” “I’m looking to be the prefect proverbs 31 wife to some man.” “My calling in life is to stay home so I can serve my husband and kids.” “I believe in a traditional marriage and partnership.” “I love the 1950s.” Ect ect but then you have to live up to what you’re saying. Spend some time looking through the posts on stay at home moms, it’s not sipping tea and pedicures 24/7 otherwise you will get zero respect from…
/r/RedPillWives30/09/19 07:28 PM
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Leave
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 03:04 AM
1

Yes, it’s so worth it. I got a ring in record time by this method. It shows you value yourself and can practice restraint.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/19 01:59 AM
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Attractive, exciting, and fun can be nice and good guys too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 01:45 PM
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This isn’t totally true. I look at the wives around me and they don’t have this kind of bad boy history. But their “nice guy” successful husbands married and stayed married to them early.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/19 01:23 PM
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They definitely look up to Mrs Midwest! I’m no where near as pretty or classy as her. For utube I follow: till vacuum does us part. She doesn’t advertise as red pill but when I think of a red pill wife i think she fits. This crazy life, she just comes across as very caring and an accomplished home maker. Jessica Tull. Again very accomplished in home making but nonjudgmental and down to earth. Jorden Paige, she’s not as soft spoken as the rest but I’m inspired by her. Mom likely, would be a worki…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/19 01:12 PM
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A lot of what others have said on here but to me it also meant no relationships and no sex for a period of time while you work on yourself and get a better ideal of what you want in a man.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/19 11:57 AM
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High n counts is damaging to men is something I can agree with too. My husband had 3 sexual partners his whole life and I met him when he was 34. He was extremely careful with sex, just like he’s careful with everything else in his life. I’ve had more happiness with my husband as opposed to a guy I dated who had double digits before 25. I think it’s wise to encourage low n counts in women and if they don’t have that to start caring about it. There’s a lot to be said when you can curb sexual impu…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/19 08:38 PM
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I was a cna and going to college full time before I met my husband and became a stay at home mom. Medical fields are helping fields which is probably why so many women go into them and it gives you something to fall back on if something happens to your husband. I did ask my husband once did it matter if I was working or going to school when he met me and he said no. I asked him so if I was a cashier at McDonald’s would you have dated me?! He said yes. So it just goes to show men really don’t car…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/19 12:30 PM
1

Wow! This is golden! I never read this until tonight!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 03:10 AM
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Lol lol lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 10:03 PM
5

I have been hypergamous shamed already as a female. I’ve also been shamed for “slumming” it in dating too. We can’t win either way so why not go big or go home? I really lucked out this last time with my husband so I win either way and I don’t press my luck with being hypergamous now. But dating? Yes a woman should attempt to go for the gold ring. If she gets it great! If not then try a little lower. But don’t make them start out at the bottom!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 09:53 PM
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I have to agree with a lot of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 09:09 PM
1

Well my husbands IQ is over 150 and he’s never asked how many men I’ve slept with. I’m also std free and a consensual adult, which is all he asked in regards to my past.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 08:35 PM
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My first marriage I was 23 and I didn’t vet my first husband good at all either. But I did find I absolutely loved being a wife and being a mom at that age. I certainly wished I met my second husband then. I married my current husband at 29 and I carefully vetted him. I do wished I was younger when I met my current husband. We suffered 4 miscarriages and our son was a premie. I didn’t have these problems with getting or staying pregnant or carrying to term when I was younger. I was 32 when our s…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/19 12:06 PM
1

Faithful, fair, kind, does the right thing when no one is watching, loving, strong physical and mentally, and trust worthy. Has a good work ethic and doesn’t job hop. This shows he knows how to stick it out in one place over years. Good with money. Knows how to delay gratification in spending so he most likely has zero debt. Feels a sense of obligation and responsibility for those in his close circle. Like if someone needs help, he helps. Intelligent. There’s nothing worse than a physically stro…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 03:01 PM
2

My husband took me to coffee on our first date and only kissed me on the cheek afterwards. It was confusing because we had an email “rapport” of months long. I do believe it was some sort of push pull of the dating game or he wasn’t totally sure about....us. But it was a few days of no contact after that where I started to get worried like the op and I shouldn’t have. We had a second date that lasted a lot longer. We did a long hike, spent most of the day together, then went to the movies. The m…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 12:00 PM
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I would step back and let him take the lead. He’s made it clear you’re not going to take priority over his game and you texted very spontaneous “meet me tonight” Don’t do that in the beginning it looks clingy. Plus, he’s not going to drop everything to meet you because you’ve made it clear you’re not putting out. Send him some kind of flirt you are interested message or phone call so he doesn’t lose hope. Then leave it open ended for him to arrange the next date. Then you wait for him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/19 10:05 PM
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Yeah I took a little over a year off after my divorce to focus on being a newly single mom. Dating started after I was more settled. Most getting divorced women are in the midst of their lives and kids lives being turned upside down and finding a “provider” is the last thing on their minds. They are busy figuring out how bills are going to be paid and taking on two roles. Most of the divorced men I met along the way marry within a year. I don’t know if it’s out of need or just massive opportunit…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 04:48 PM
0

Some men see it as an honorable thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 04:36 PM
1

Oh, you mean like how my husbands ex wife is a loser and I’ve had to pick up the pieces of his self esteem because of her?! If this is the case, I’m also mad at every woman he put his penis in giving something that belongs to me. God, he should have just waited around for someone like me to come along. In fact don’t hold another woman’s hand, or kiss them, or even express love. Save all that for your unicorn, otherwise youve given yourself to every girl less responsible. This level of resentment…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 04:32 PM
1

You’re right it’s not fair and I appreciate my current husband taking the responsibility of my ex husband. I don’t think being a failure in picking a man is predictive of a lifetime of making those choices. I choose well this time around. Men have made mistakes in picking women too and we give them grace to change. I’m not saying it’s for everyone but it’s extremely insulting to say things that make men like my husband look desperate or can’t get someone better. My husband can. He’s even said he…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 03:28 PM
1

Some men have what’s called a heart and fall in love with a single mom. They see her kids as a package deal. They also see kids that need a father figure. I’m very glad my husband married me as a single mom before this attitude became a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 03:14 PM
3

I’ve never heard of her before now! She does have good advice on etiquette!
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/19 03:49 AM
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This so much. My husband only made 40,000 when I started dating him. With every avenue of income he has coming in it’s slightly over six figures now. It’s more than enough for me and to me he’s successful. I certainly don’t need a millionaire but the journey with my husband is priceless. You can’t put a price on it. Now that I’ve gone the long way I wouldn’t want a finished product. You cannot underestimate the value of going through hard and good times with someone over a long period of time. I…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/19 03:45 AM
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Very slow weight loss will prevent loose skin. I mean 1lb a week. Slow and steady wins the race! Weight lifting I read helps things “stick” so the skin won’t separate and be loose. Don’t let loose skin prevent you from your goals though! Go slow and you will be healthier!
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/19 01:53 AM
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Tom Selleck, I would absolutely do him if I was single and he’s in his 70s. I think he looks far better than George Clooney!
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 03:29 PM
8

Maybe this is true. But this is why women should vet carefully and get the man and keep him before they grow into their “value”.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 02:25 PM
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And this would be the reason why I would do everything it takes to keep my middle age successful husband. I know he wouldn’t be on the market long because women do like money, stability, and success. He started out his life working as a gas station clerk for his early 20s. No good woman were interested in him but now? It’s a different story. But he’s still never been hit on by a woman in her 20s. I don’t think it’s as common as you say. Hooking up and marrying are different animals.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 02:03 PM
2

My husband is 5 1/2 years older than me and I find that a good age difference for me. Others on here go higher or lower. If your sister is 43 then 5 of 6 years would put her dating pool around 50. She might have better luck. I’m trying to think of my friends who have found themselves single at that age. I know one still hasn’t remarried and she’s been single for years. My other friend did marry the chief of the fire department and he was a former FBI agent. I still don’t know how she did it but …
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 01:39 PM
19

I don’t know how often I’ve said this to women! You aren’t going to find it there!
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 01:32 PM
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Not all men are youth obsessed. Some men are mature enough to know they don’t have a lot in common with a much younger woman. I do know I didn’t find my husband in a bar and he wouldn’t have married or dated me if that’s where I hung out. He decided after his first wife turned into a bar fly he would never date a woman who spent her time in one. I don’t doubt he would divorce me if I suddenly started doing this as a good time. I’m almost 40 and thankfully I’m married but there’s no way if I was …
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 11:53 AM
1

Where in the book does it say this? I’m trying to find it. Ok I found the chapter but I don’t think she’s saying tell him you need to take on 50% of the housework.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 12:00 AM
2

This is a woman’s group. Most women on here are looking to be the best for high value men.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/19 10:55 PM
1

It definitely is hypocritical. I think she’s working towards staying home. She might have student loans and stuff to pay. Nurses make a crap ton of money so she could hire some of her duties out. Women working is a new feminist concept that has created the “men should do chores too” concept because working women have less time. So thanks to feminist causing even more friction in marriages.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/19 09:50 PM
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I think even with working wives that there’s masculine and feminine energy in the house. No man should be expected to take on her jobs even if she’s working. The goal is to accept and work with the differences of male and female nature so that a couple can have a happy and peaceful existence. You can still get self care without having your partner take on your jobs on a regular basis. The whole man should take on 50% of the housework is a very new feminist push that goes against having a traditi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/19 09:35 PM
7

A man should be able to notice if a woman orgasm or not because her inside contracts just like a mans penis gets larger and bobs slightly while finishing. You know why most men don’t know? Because they lack any kind of awareness of their partner. Instead of worrying about the past men worry more about if you’re more observant than the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/19 02:10 PM
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Find a church group on campus because a lot of those guys aren’t ready to settle down unless they are religious. You can also try an older man. My husband is 5 1/2 years older than me.
/r/RedPillWives21/09/19 02:01 PM
1

You’re not lazy or grumpy. A helping field is draining at times.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/19 01:39 PM
1

This so much
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/19 12:59 PM
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You know if at the end of the day if I’m tired or spent I just save it for the next day when I have the house to myself again. My captain hasn’t said anything about it. Unless we are expecting guest then he mentions something and pitches in if I need it. I do agree though, when I change my mindset I’m not running around the house resentful of picking up after everyone. I’m helping and serving others, the most important people, the people in my family. It also serves another purpose:I’m needed. I…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/19 12:54 PM
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I think it depends on where you live. Busy, high crime areas, definitely. If you are in a social environment that turns a blind eye to violence against women or young women for that matter. What you look like and your age plays a huge part. Young, pretty, in the ghetto you are very screwed better hope they are at least gentle the first time and you live through it. I don’t think every man is a predator but the ones that are keep praying on different women racking up victims this makes it look li…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 02:15 PM
2

I read military romance/erotica. However I did enjoy maya banks breathless trilogy. But Elle James, proper pace, Amy gamet, and Gabri Moore are some of my favorite authors. They are stories of hero’s , definitely alpha, save the day type men. Interestingly enough I married a military man like the romance books I read.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 09:18 AM
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Women have to have a boss they are in submission too also. Women also end up with men who can’t hold jobs, drink all the money away, gamble it away, or drug it away. You act like there’s zero manipulation or control issues with women who are in marriages where both work. The traditional model offers a lot of protection for women as opposed to the above situations. We aren’t even talking about a high percentage of couples anyways. Most men aren’t bringing in enough to support a stay at home mom. …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/19 12:16 PM
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Um the comment was deleted but I’m going to have to assume a few things here so there’s no way I’m going to just buy something worth hundreds of dollars without my spouses approval which he said no at first. But then yesterday it was go ahead and buy it for yourself. Of course I’m submissive to my husband that’s a given (eye roll)
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 11:03 AM
1

This is true
/r/RedPillWives19/09/19 10:57 AM
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He’s a very young man and having crude jokes like this with his friends can be common for that age. You can either tell him so he can change and you wait for him to mature or go for someone older than you. Do keep in mind men mature slower than women though.
/r/RedPillWives19/09/19 01:43 AM
2

A lot of mine are food related too.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 01:26 AM
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I try to keep the environment calm and relaxing for my captain. I do all his laundry, cook dinner, pack his lunch, and I’m ready to listen to what’s bothering him. I don’t nag or put a lot of demands on him while he’s stressed. Sometimes little notes or texts throughout the day helps lighten his mood. When I reassess and make an effort to make his life easier he realizes how much his stress levels affect me. I made an effort to smooth over an issue last night and today he told me to go ahead and…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 01:25 AM
3

My husband doesn’t care that much now but he still talks about the yellow sun dress I wore on our first date. So they do the first impressions thing so I guess that points to making sure you look presentable the first time meeting. Everyone makes a snap judgment when seeing someone for the first time.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 07:29 PM
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Love and being loved. Having the white picket fence with kids, a dog, maybe a cat, a mini van, and a husband who comes home at 5 sharp every night. Stability. A long term marriage points to a stable home life and an ability to weather ups and downs in a relationship. Sex. Sex with one person whenever I want without having to worry about stds or holding my stomach in as I cross the room because he’s already use to how I look. I actually like being taken care of so having a husband fits that need.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 07:23 PM
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https://allpawspetwash.com/ I want to put one at the cities dog park. I actually think it’s a good ideal
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 05:39 PM
2

It’s different in that you aren’t giving money to someone else to have a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 05:35 PM
3

I use to be a part of different Christian women’s groups throughout the years. I just haven’t found one since moving here. I think it’s important and beneficial when they are good influences
/r/RedPillWives18/09/19 05:32 PM
1

I do think my husband has a bigger smv than me. Meeting him for the first time I was too nervous to say anything. I literally just stared down at my coffee the whole first date and thought this isn’t even going to work. He’s never going to call me again. He’s not going to be interested in me now that he’s seen me in person. I’m not sure why he has chemistry towards me but I know mine comes from as seeing him as someone I wouldn’t otherwise get. I don’t think this is a bad thing? Unless the feeli…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 05:12 PM
2

I don’t know why other wives do this but I think they are stupid and a waste of start up money. I do enjoy some products like Norex and LuLaRoe but I would never spend my husbands hard earned money on this. We do live in a wealthy town and I did ask my husband for a business loan to start up a serve yourself wash your dog station which he said he would do if I drew up a business plan but have yet to do it. I feel ventures like this are more worth while than an MLM. But what do I know? Ladies see…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 04:41 PM
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I’m not wearing heels. I think middle age thankfully has different wardrobe requirements.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 02:27 PM
1

Oh, well we have more members than them so they are a small minority but interesting read.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 02:17 PM
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The feminist one that’s talking about the red pill women
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 01:43 PM
2

I can’t find the sub? I’ve been looking for it this morning
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 01:10 PM
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I wouldn’t expect them to say anything positive about this sub. Their goal is to live without a man (mostly) and ours is to live with one. Most of the wives are married to kind, respectable, and successful men which points to this model works. Also, we are consenting adults, maybe some of us like the whole submissive/dominant thing ;-)
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 11:45 AM
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This is excellent
/r/RPChristians17/09/19 02:16 PM
1

I think you are unlucky. My husband nor any of the men I dated before marriage wanted this.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 08:30 PM
5

Not all wives are like this
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 05:24 PM
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This is an excellent thread!
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/19 02:45 AM
5

You will find love after this. I promise you. We all make dumb relationship mistakes in our teens. It’s practice which is why no one can get married until 18 at least. You’re feeling bad because you did something against your personal morals and this guy is a part of that. I know right now it feels like it’s the end of the world but it’s not. The boy I loved at 15 who I thought was the be all end all, ended up being arrested for domestic abuse later on in life. He had constant court sues for mon…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 07:31 PM
1

This is a good point.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 07:13 PM
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I don’t get why people make such a big deal about churches views on being happy all the time? A pleasant disposition is better than a hateful mean one? You’re supposed to be in control of your emotions. This is something I struggle with so I appreciate the churches teaching on this. There are a ton of scriptures about not marrying a contentious wife that they lean on to teach this too.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 12:18 PM
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You are supposed to be modest but well put together. You will notice this on their blogs or in person. They don’t strive to be beautiful in the LA way of high fashion and high maintenance but there is an unspoken standard in dress and weight. They also wear special under clothes that are like slips at all times. Your outer clothes are supposed to cover the under slips. This is in line with their views on modesty. Most Mormon women are encouraged to get a college degree. This sort of sets this re…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 12:10 PM
1

I think, oh I can provide something to this man someone else couldn’t honestly. Like it makes me more worthy in his eyes.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 03:02 AM
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I don’t care if other women want him, anymore. It use to be a big deal. I thought it was the best thing that my husbands ex wife cheated on him because then he could meet and marry me. His ex wife didn’t have what I thought was a high smv so it wasn’t as eyebrow raising on his smv that she cheated on him
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 02:38 AM
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It’s not important. Go be in love and don’t worry about this!
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/19 03:24 PM
3

Another reason could be white people are three times more likely to use antidepressants and Mormons are mostly white 86%. But I’m researching this and it is interesting
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/19 01:47 PM
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That statistic came from the state of Utah getting a large shipment of antidepressants. Who knows why that happened but it doesn’t mean every Mormon wife is taking them. I would find it odd if they were taking those kinds of pills when they can’t drink, smoke, or do drugs.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/19 01:31 PM
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You know and I don’t believe that’s the case here but some people are jealous of others having a good life so they spread rumors like this to make themselves feel better.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/19 01:21 PM
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I’ve been following some Mormon bloggers I see them as happy and enjoying life. Rockstar diaries Ne ne dialogues Nat the fat rat C Jane enjoying it Perfection pending Jorden Paige The moment we stand These women aren’t depressed and they are an inspiration and doing the whole mommy wife thing right. In my opinion. I look up to them for motivation and most are younger than me.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/19 12:26 PM
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Interesting, I think working moms suffer from depression too? I didn’t notice any of them depressed. They looked fulfilled to me anyways.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/19 09:29 AM
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I was baptized Mormon but fell away from the church then went back briefly when I had my oldest son. Have you seen desperate Housewives with Bri? They are like that in that they have to constantly be prefect but where she’s cold aloof towards her kids and husband, Mormon wives are expected to be the opposite. There’s a lot of pressure to do the whole wife, mother, and homemaker thing prefect. Which is good for people gifted already in that area and enjoy that challenge but not so great if it’s n…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/19 01:38 AM
2

I would think this is too easy for any women to accomplish. There’s no challenge here
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/19 03:47 PM
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I would think it’s getting a good man to not only marry you but be so infatuated to not cheat and only want you. To have options but still only want you. To me the equivalent is to inspire the above in a man
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/19 03:45 PM
1

Yeah they sure don’t listen to older and wiser sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 12:53 PM
6

Emotionally abusing the guy?! How many couples do you know with an age gap like that?! This is a ridiculous statement
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 12:04 PM
5

I care if it’s someone I care about and I think they are being taken advantage of but that’s on a case by case basis not as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 12:02 PM
5

It has nothing to do with looks but how I perceive him. I see my husband as out of my league so I do a ton more for him than I would have ever done for anyone else. When he’s making me feel loved and cared for I will go way out of my way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 11:30 AM
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Because he does other great things. I love my husband and it’s not a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 04:32 PM
1

Well this explains why my husband doesn’t like doing this. I didn’t think it was considered a beta act
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 03:47 PM
1

What I preferred over the years and what I got where sometimes different. But I’ve always had a thing for tall, broad shoulders, solid almost fatter end of things build, straight teeth, uniform men, and an IQ of at least 130. I have a thing for very intelligent. I guess military, police, fbi, dea, ect type men are a big weakness for me. Something about having that controlled power is extremely sexy. Which is why I ended up with my military man. So pretty consistent through the years but not alwa…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/19 05:39 PM
2

Some of us don’t know our partner sizes beforehand lol. I think us women love our significant others so we say we love their size because we would love them regardless. That being said my husband is the largest I’ve been with and he’s a 7. But I would love him if he was a 1 or 2. Woman seriously don’t commit based on size.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/19 02:45 PM
3

My husband hasn’t had social media for the longest time but he recently set up one. It can be a red flag though. It depends. Some men aren’t really into the social media thing, some have careers that social media isn’t recommended, and some share accounts with their spouses. Are you able to find him on mylife? You can take his picture and google search it too. Then at least you would know if he’d married or not!
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/19 01:32 PM
2

I’m sure alpha men are exciting to be around but sorry they just aren’t marriage material
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 02:45 PM
3

It’s extremely negative. There are guys on here that have dads skip out on raising them, don’t they deserve a father figure? Someone who loves their mom? An alpha or beta can love single moms and be a good dad to step kids. We already have enough kids being raised by single moms, no one should shame men who decide to marry a single mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 02:24 PM
3

My husband was 34. Debt free, no bio kids, once divorced, headed towards military retirement, no drugs/drinking/smoking, college degrees, was in special forces for most of his military career (just in case you think he’s some kind of loser who couldn’t meet women), had parents who have never divorced, came from a good family, and of course no criminal record. He’s just under 6ft, was 205lbs when I met him. He’s stocky built and well endowed. He’s good looking to me and he does get hit on. He’s w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 12:24 PM
3

Besides, they say men are the gatekeepers of commitment so this just helps women earn that from a man. Just like getting laid is the prize for a man, getting a marriage is the prize for a woman. How she can get that should be taught.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 12:14 PM
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They usually encourage finding a man who has both traits:bets/alpha. They are relationship and marriage goal minded. Do you think women enjoy giving away marriage privileges to a guy who won’t commit? No they don’t and they shouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 12:10 PM
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Female red pill is a guide on avoiding high alpha type men and getting and keeping a good captain to love, protect, and provide for you. Having restraint (not getting pumped and dumped) until such a man comes along and wants to commit to you. They also give women a lot of tips on spotting plate spinners so they can avoid these men and get the love and marriage they so want. They help married red pill wives stay accountable and keep their high value men. They give a lot of fashion, health, and pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 01:49 AM
2

I completely changed so I agree it’s a good thing. The changes came before him and after. I lost weight (but gained it back unfortunately but working on losing it again). I learned to cook. I dropped bad friends and started spending my free time doing wholesome activities. Bible reading, church activities, reading old fashioned how to be a good wife books, spending my other free time with my kids (I was a single mom full custody), and just learning that what I do today effects my tomorrow. Becau…
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 01:09 AM
2

I know women who have self worth. Do you really want a woman who’s so shallow that she’s going to sleep with some homeless guy because he has a strong jaw line? How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 09:09 PM
2

I don’t know what kind of woman you hang out with but this is absolutely not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 08:24 PM
4

My husband is really tall and stalky built too. I was talking to him through a social media plate form so he didn’t have his height in the description. But I was surprised when I first met him and his body frame filled the door. I was also intimidated at first because he didn’t mention his height or anything before. Needless to say I was too shocked to even think of sex on the first date. I also noticed his shoe size was 14 and he had big basketball hands and I could figure he was going to be la…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/19 05:54 PM
7

My husband was very active and in shape when we first met as I was too. We don’t drink ever either. But as middle age hit he has a sexy dad bod now and I’ve definitely physically changed. I still see him as that strong tall muscular man I met in that coffee shop many moons ago. Looks change over time though! Sometimes habits do too! He use to do triathlons, ran every evening, and did 5k runs. Not so much anymore but he has been going to the gym lately because I’m worried about those old age prob…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/19 05:43 PM
5

I guess I’ve never been the type of gal to move a friend guy into the attraction category. I guess I make a snap judgment on first impressions when I first meet men. Hopefully some other ladies will chime in. But if this guy is so great, is there something about his physical appearance that’s bothering you? If he’s treating you nice and he has a lot of good qualities that is enough to turn a woman on.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/19 02:01 PM
3

It’s not as important to women like it is to men. But I was relieved when my husbands picture matched his looks. There has to be some initial attraction.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/19 01:44 PM
2

Bad teeth is a no for me. When I look through rate me pictures on this I’m more drawn to 5s. I don’t like too prefect men faces or pretty boy looks myself. But I do like broad wide chests and big arms so no thin guys. My husband has that prefect manly face and body type so can’t complain! He’s prefect for me! Sometimes you just have to find prefect for you instead of some long detailed list!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 01:37 PM
1

No I don’t agree with either. Past a certain age of someone being single I wonder why they aren’t able to form a lasting commitment with someone. What kind of hang ups do they have? Are they a really difficult person? Where do they land on the big five personality test? Mostly, are they anti social? Are they that severely mentally ill? I don’t see women or men as strong people for never having any kind of long term relationship with someone. I don’t feel sorry for them either though. But I absol…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 05:59 PM
2

It depends on how he feels. If getting his parents approval is a big deal then it’s going to be a big deal. My husbands parents haven’t always approved of me but I think they tolerate me because I make their son happy. My husband doesn’t have a close visit all the time or call often relationship with his parents so that helps. It can be hurtful though to know you’re not going to be completely taken in by your spouses parents and that’s something you’re going to have to work out within you. I wou…
/r/RedPillWives29/08/19 01:35 PM
1

My husband doesn’t have social media because of his job and he was applying with the dea and it was strongly suggested not to have social media online. He’s going for a different job now but he just doesn’t have an interest in having social media. Employers do look through your social media, it’s not just dating you have to worry about. Unless there’s a good reason if I was single and dating and couldn’t find any social media imprint I would think the guy was hiding something.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 03:19 PM
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Maintenance and star fish sex are two completely different things. My husband cannot stay hard for star fish sex. Who would want to be with someone not into it?! It’s actually a blessing, we both get sleep and re initiate when both of us are ready. Maintenance sex=oral and hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 01:21 AM
2

I think expressing you’re attracted to him with light sexual flirting is ok? But be sure to have a higher percentage of intelligent conversations. If he wants more than a pen pal he will make it very clear. A good man doesn’t play games. It is a yellow flag for marriage talk so soon. My husband didn’t do marriage talk with me but he did express it to friends during our emailing phase which I didn’t find out about until after being married. But it’s a good sign he sees you as marriage material!
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/19 09:36 PM
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My advice: take more time to read everything in this group and stop dating for at least a year. If you do happen to land a good guy, you probably shouldn’t do anything to make him regret choosing you. You’re going to need red pill to get anyone near decent enough. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/19 03:00 PM
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So far this week I have planned: Snack: apple cinnamon loaves. Start the day sausage casserole (we do breakfast for dinner once a week) Cheeseburger pie Chicken enchilada casserole That’s it for now. I haven’t made the rest of the week yet. My husband bought me the new goose berry flavors of fall cookbook that I’m working through currently. These meals are from the cookbook.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/19 02:53 PM
4

He sounds a bit controlling and you sound a bit insecure. Which might be why you’re constantly dying your hair in extreme ways. A leader doesn’t demand, a smart leader guides to make things your ideal so you feel good about it and yourself. Which he’s doing a poor job of.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/19 12:09 AM
3

I don’t love the ideal but I’m very grateful when I met him when he was 35 he had a very low n count and no one night stands. It was safe and no fear of stds or cheating or leaving.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 11:28 PM
3

Pregnancy, stress, or they develop severe hypothyroidism that keeps going up and down making getting the right dose hard. Thankfully I married before this happened to a man who loves me but it does make me incredibly sad.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/19 11:19 PM
1

Well that was harsh but I didn’t view myself as a victim which is probably why I don’t have to whine about not getting a white guy or any guy for that matter. Good day
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 03:36 PM
1

I will take my 6ft 250lb husband any day. He’s just so big and protective looking. He even wears a shoe size 14 and his hands are basketball sized. He’s a mountain of a man who I get turned on by just standing next to him. He makes me want to do everything he says just by his imposing stature. It was a nice bonus because I didn’t know his height while emailing online. It was quite a pleasant shock when I first saw him and he filled the door frame completely. That being said it wasn’t the only th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 02:56 PM
1

I’m a minority woman and my white husband married me. I find more black lash from white women honestly because of it. Oh darn, guess I was the better option
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 02:30 PM
2

Me too!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/19 12:22 AM
3

I came with two kids and we had one biological son together. We are done having kids lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/19 12:09 AM
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It matters but I didn’t press for information he just volunteered it all and was still on friendly terms with his ex’s who I befriended to get to know more about him. He had some long term friendships spanning decades they knew all his girlfriends. One spilled a lot of beans but nothing serious or red flags I.e his argument style, problems with his mom, and a tad clingy. No mention of cheating or abuse which are the only thing I was worried about. I meant my husband right after his divorce so ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/19 11:43 PM
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Or you can discuss chore division before marriage to avoid these kinds of arguments. If my husband is providing love, companionship, a roof over my head, bills paid, he’s a good father, protects me, stays with me ect ect I surely don’t need to nag him about anything chore related. I rarely ask for help because I’m a capable wife but when I do he does it because it’s rare. I certainly don’t want to do the “men” chores of yard work or car repairs. The thing with the sudden topic of chores is it’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 12:31 PM
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It sounds like you’re pretty excited about this new guy! I would slow down some because you seem to be on cloud 9! Which is a fun but also potentially reckless spot to be in. Yes, you should keep vetting him and give it more than a few weeks. I would stay as calm as possible, it’s very easy to get ahead of yourself when you have a high value man interested in you. You don’t know if you check all the boxes for him. I would feel it out to get an ideal of what he’s looking for. Does he want a stay …
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 10:12 PM
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I would have married my husband if I had met him in my teens. Quite consequently he’s very much like my first teenage love. Kind, loves God, sweet, good natured, and hardworking.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 12:54 PM
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You ever take into consideration that the “average” guys didn’t want to marry but the umc did?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 12:47 PM
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This is a sad way to view women or men in general. My husband says he just wants to be loved. Not all men see women as just there for sex. Some men take pride and gets an ego boast from making enough money in this day and age to have a stay at home mom. It’s not always sex but a status symbol of how successful you are as a man. Stay at home moms work too. They provide something. Do you see your day care worker or maid as a night worker? No you don’t and you pay them too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 12:43 PM
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Spending time together and trying new things. I’ve been married almost ten years this December and it takes time to keep the spark going. Appreciating each other and remembering the love and reasons you got together in the first place goes a long way. Talking through resentments and angry helps weather the storms. Definitely marry someone you enjoy in the first place would also be a good place to start lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/19 02:34 AM
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I can’t imagine any woman being ok with any of these things. If it started to happen I’m sure that whole submissiveness would go way down to non existent.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 10:32 PM
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