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szsunshine/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:50 AM
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Your current bf is not your ex. ​ my ex was clearly still hung up on his ex but would deny it. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and in the end when we broke up he finally admitted I was there to fill a void. This is why you don't give any man / bf "the benefit of the doubt." You had doubts for a reason. You were young and naive, and your ex took advantage of that. Now you know better, and can do better..... in the future, TRUST YOUR GUT. I also am willing to bet that your manipulative ex told…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 06:54 PM
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I have a friend who tried “it’s just lunch” and was unimpressed. She was guaranteed a certain amount (3?) of matches that met her requirements. If a guy didn’t meet her requirements (age, education, etc.) and she agreed to meet him it was “free.” (didn’t count as one of the 3 meets for her). She ended up feeling used as a woman to match with men, but was not given a man to match with HER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:30 AM
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I AM married and that did not stop a repairman from being overly friendly with me (after years of no problems and my husband had met him as well) The next time he came over (an emergency before I found a replacement for him), I left the house with my children and H met him. One of the first questions out of the mans mouth was “so....where’s your wife?” He was trying to sound casual but H told me how weird it was to hear that (H never doubted me and we would never have called that guy except the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:10 PM
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This man is a hired hand. He is not in your home because you are friends. He is in your home because your dad is paying him to do repairs. You should not have to “hide” in your own home! You have two options: either tell your dad to hire someone else to handle the walls, or tell your dad that “friend” can wash the walls, but that you will not be in the house those days and to make other arrangements with your mom. If you tell your dad he gives you the creeps hopefully that is all it takes for hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:54 AM
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You do not need to hire a lawyer. The prosecutor will represent “the state.” I recently finished reading the book Missoula by Jon Krakauer. It basically spelled out how women are discouraged from reporting assaults at every turn. The police are often insensitive to women victims. If I were in your shoes, I would go to the police department in the town you were assaulted and report it. I do not think the case will end up going to trial, because it’s not what happened that matters, it’s what can b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:33 PM
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It’s moderated by women who grew up with male privilege.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:15 PM
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Most disgusting part of this story to me is that he was expecting to sleep with a drunk woman. Guy who wants to hook up with another woman is a creep. Guy who wants to sleep with a drunk woman is a rapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:32 AM
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Buy pepper gel (vs. spray). They are often sold next to each other. In my state you can buy pepper spray or gel at Walmart or Target. Run in daylight. Even if you don’t run in the morning, start your run an hour earlier so you avoid dusk / evening. Even if you didn’t find the guy, I’m glad you reported your experience to the police. Creeps like this often escalate; today he chased you, next time he may actually tackle some poor woman. Now there is a record of his behavior and maybe the police wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:01 AM
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If at two months in he can go 5 days without talking to you, he had already checked out. Most likely he texted you because he was horny. Don’t believe his “but I work so hard” excuse. Women are trained to view work commitments as a legit excuse, but it’s not a 5 day excuse. When I am stressed and unhappy at work, I look forward to connecting to someone who cares about me, even for a few minutes. His “depression” is pure manipulation: breaking up with a guy because he is “so depressed” is viewed …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:12 AM
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There is a saying about law school (I have heard it from lawyers who graduated from different schools all around the country): First Year they SCARE you to death Second year they WORK you to death Third Year they BORE you to death Third year should really be the easiest for him workload wise and in terms of emotion. Not sure if my state / metro area is unusual, but no one takes the bar until after law school is over - they graduate, spend the summer studying, and take the exam in the fall. Somet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:08 PM
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I’m glad you are not interested in these men because I am willing to bet they are all predators. Broken attracts either similarly broken people or predators. Even though you are out of your relationship, you probably still look hurt or vulnerable. Stop replying to these men. It might seem “not nice” to you to ignore someone speaking to you, but you are not obligated to entertain strange men who want to chat you up. He is the rude one. Practice having a resting b*tch face and assertiveness, and c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:16 PM
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Does he go out for long periods (a few hours) of time (work, meet friends)? Call a locksmith and make an appointment to have your locks changed. Change every form of entry - front and back door, garage, etc. Pack his stuff up in a hefty bag and leave it outside your door. Then block him on all forms of communication. If he stays outside your door call the police. You can also try phoning a domestic violence hotline or shelter in your area and ask them for any tips. FWIW, getting in your face, ye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 09:06 PM
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Do not reply and do not give him another chance. He has already “warned” you that he doesn’t feel the LDR will work, so in his mind anything he does from now on (cheat, make no effort) is ok since he has allowed you to go forward “with both eyes open.” Ending the conversation was the logical thing for you to do, so there is no reason why he needed to “check up on you.” Is he concerned you are so distraught that you jumped in front of a train? What was he expecting you to do once he told you “thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:02 PM
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I disagree with your friend - do not bother TELLING him you warrant respect. Do not speak to him. You have already turned him down. If he approaches you again report him for sexual harassment. If you wanted to, you could report him right now (I would now try to document the story you have just posted with specific dates, locations, and times). If you need to, go to your boss (or whoever assigns you to that department) and tell them you no longer can work at the department because of what that ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 06:11 PM
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Unless you want every one of your birthdays from this past one until the end of your life to be a string of disappointments because your partner does not care about them, dump this guy! Of course he wants to see you tomorrow. He is willing to wait a day to have the birthday sex that you "owe" him. Maybe you will put in extra effort so he will no longer be "mad" at you for whatever reason he cooked up inside of his head. There are plenty of guys in the world who would LOVE spoil their girlfriends…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/20 12:20 AM
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JK Rowling came up with the idea of Harry Potter and was too shy to ask anyone for a pen to write it down. Rosa Parks was a quiet individual and her autobiography was titled "Quiet Strength." Biographies of her say she was small, sweet and quiet, but had the courage of a lion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 04:36 PM
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Please don't try to fix him. The dynamic is already ruined. You cannot change such a toxic person, and if you did change him, it would take too long. If you are worried about being over 30, don't waste your time trying to change this guy when you could break up with this man and meet a decent, loving man who doesn't need fixing and will treat you like gold from day one (although I think you should take a break from dating for a while to work on improving your self esteem - once you distance your…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 04:04 PM
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Don't think of yourself as a "practice girl." It doesn't matter what the intentions of this creep was. He was a 27yo preying on a young girl. A man like that is NOT marriage material for anyone. A man with integrity will not use a young woman for sex. He realized you were too young for him, that is why he called you "a teenager in an adult's body" - as if it is your fault you are a teen, or your fault you are developed like a woman. Learn more about vetting men, spend your time evaluating men ba…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 04:09 AM
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I think it speaks well of this guy that as a 20yo he is not interested in you romantically / sexually. A 20yo is a lot more mature than a 17yo. Don't push yourself on him by trying to be sexy or flirty. He has told you he doesn't think of you that way. Believe him, and don't humiliate yourself by begging for his attention or affection. Live your life and make the most of your time to devote to school, friends, hobbies, work. Spend time with people (women and men) your own age. A three year age d…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 03:59 AM
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I will encourage you - encourage you to LEAVE THIS JERK!!! Do you want to spend the rest of your life trying to guess if you need to give your partner space or not? Do you want to spend the rest of your life being told that you are low IQ and easy to replace? Do you want to spend even ONE MORE DAY hearing that your partner can f* any girl easily? Do you want your children to be told that they are low-IQ and caustic? That is the girls job to figure out if daddy wants to be alone or not? If the an…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 03:38 AM
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Tell him that you need to take a step back in your relationship. You are not interested in having sex with a man who is "not attached' to you, so you will not be sleeping together for a while. Don't accept apologies or promises that things will change and allow things to go back to normal (ie: don't let him tell you "I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings, lets have sex tonight and then I will hold you...."). Tell him that YOU are choosing to step back because the relationship doesn't feel right. Obv…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/20 04:13 AM
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Second this! Many lingerie stores will tell you a size that fits into the bras they sell. So if you measure for a 36F, they will tell you that you are a 38DD. If Nordstrom measures you and don’t have your size, they will order it!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/20 06:43 PM
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A 30yo talks like this to his gf of 5 months? By age 30 he should have better manners. I don’t care what books or podcasts he has been reading. “You ride the cck carousel” is not a way a man talks to his future wife or mother of his children. If is not the way a well-raised man speaks to (or about) a lady / woman. When my *teenage children repeat phrases like this (from song lyrics, for example), I shut them down. It is not your job to make him feel better about his insecurities. A HVM / captain…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/20 02:42 PM
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Stop making his lunch and stop cleaning up after him. You are giving a lot of husband perks to a man who is only your boyfriend. Tell him sweetly that his dirty dishes drive you crazy. You don’t want to be crazy so he can just take care of his own lunch or buy lunch from now on. If you are not willing to do that, you can buy brown paper sandwich bags at Whole Foods and many grocery stores. Make him sandwiches and wrap them in the brown paper. Not as eco-friendly as reusable containers, but you h…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 01:30 AM
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If his parents eventually come around and “allow” you to visit them / their home....how are they going to treat your sons? How will your sons be treated vs. their “real” grandchildren, or any future child you have with this man? What values do you hope to teach your children and what example do you think you are setting? Will your children learn it is ok to tolerate abuse and neglect from a family member because they are older or because “that’s the way older people from our culture are....”? I …
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 01:12 AM
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I have done it all - full time semi high-powered career before I had a family, FT working mom, SAHM, balancing part-time job and family. I became a SAHM because I was literally exhausted. I worked 10+ hour days. My kids were literally the first ones dropped off at daycare and the last to leave. And my boss / company did not appreciate my efforts. My boss actually said "that's a problem" when I couldn't stick around to handle his (last minute) request because I had to leave in time to get my kids…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 02:58 PM
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When you feel he is being cold to you, not treating you the way you deserve, withdraw from the conversation. Don’t reward bad behavior with attention. Busy yourself with plans with friends, school, a hobby. You say he’s great in real life, but this pandemic has shown that people need to be “great” in more than just one environment. If my employee was great in real life but terrible over video conferencing, their career would stall and they would need to improve or others would pass them. Work wi…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 11:48 AM
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Your ex took advantage of you. If you were too drunk to consent to sex, then you were raped. I'm sure your ex knew that you wanted to save yourself for marriage, and he assaulted you anyway. There is no shame in being raped. If there are resources available for women who were victims of sexual assault in your country, I would contact them to talk about your experience. Are you in contact with the ex? Friends with his sisters, friends, etc.? If yes, I would cut contact with him. He is a bad man.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/20 04:28 PM
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I think you are projecting a lot of your relationship issues onto your children. Your son is not his dad and your daughter is not you. Your son might not end up pushed around by women like you and your daughter - he may grow up to avoid women who are like that, including his sister. Your family is reeling from a major upheaval. You are admitting to some very nasty behavior on your own part (sh*t tests, expecting your H to “manage” you, near-infidelity). On top of the separation, your house was n…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/20 12:39 PM
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Don’t waste your time on any guy who’s idea of a date includes making a trip of 7-11 to use the restroom! I don’t believe he had permission to use the beach house. If he did - $80 for a day at the beach (he could buy food to cook inexpensively for $20) and to NOT have your date pee at 7-11 is not too much money!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 12:26 PM
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I can think of some criteria, like a man who lacks a university degree, would make him LV in the eyes of a woman who was highly educated, but to a woman who doesn’t have a university degree that doesn’t mean he is LV. Same guy, treats women the same - but two different women can perceive his value differently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 12:04 PM
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Avoid being in places where intimacy can happen - don't invite him to your place, don't go to his. Take your own car. Don't drink if drinking makes you lose your inhibitions. Don't go on more than one date a week - multiple dates will make the relationship and intimacy speed up. If he invites you to his home / apt., tell him you're "not ready for that....yet." Also realize that there is no such thing as the "third date rule." Most couples DO NOT have sex on the third date. There are (US) statist…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 08:58 PM
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No man has ever brought it up with me at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 08:47 PM
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RPW does not advocate providing husband benefits to boyfriends. Regularly cooking meals and washing boyfriends clothes is not a smart idea. Note that this man is a "partner" not a husband.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/20 03:14 PM
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Good for you for finally blocking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 09:21 PM
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Find out enough about him so you can track him down via Instagram, FB, LinkedIn. Don’t friend him....just see if you can find his profile. Tell him thanks but you’re not interested in a LD relationship. Wish him well. If you move, look him up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 09:20 PM
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I agree with almost all of this, but a true Narc can have a GREAT reputation at work and with friends. They wear a mask and can turn on the charm at will. It’s the people closest to them (romantic partners) that they drop the mask for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:10 PM
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Regardless of your community’s or his personal beliefs about Covid-19, is his minimizing and ignoring your concerns a failure to uphold the value / principal of “Shalom Bayit”? (I hope I’m using the term correctly; Judaism is not my religion). Can you approach the issue from this perspective? Can he teach via online learning / google hangout / zoom / Facebook live? My friend is a nurse, she lost an 8-year old patient to Covid-19 early on (2 weeks ago, before numbers were exploding). I’m sure the…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/20 06:40 PM
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Do you really want to be with a man who feels your forgiveness is a sign of weakness? Is that your value system? He should change the behavior because he realizes something is important to you, not because he fears you’ll break up with him.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/20 05:20 PM
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Time to block him. Then he’ll learn.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/20 05:00 PM
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Men of both political parties can be abusive. For every Roger Ailes there is a Harvey Weinstein. Early on, practice saying “no” and DO NOT allow a man to cross that boundary. It can be for something insignificant (“No, I don’t care for pizza”). If once you say that, he is ok with your choice (“ok, lets get burgers.”), that’s a positive sign. If he tries to negotiate / get you to change your mind (“let’s just go to Pizza Palace - you don’t have to order pizza“) or gets angry, it’s a bad sign. You…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/20 04:56 PM
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“Du u remember me?” “Wait....are you the guy with only one ball?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 12:42 AM
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“Your lack of planning is not my emergency.” I have worked late, etc when I needed to complete a project on time, but I have never had a “last minute emergency” with a woman boss. Once men realize you won’t stick around after work last minute (and I literally couldn’t, because I had to get my kids at day care), they become much better at communicating. This could be anecdotal - but it’s been my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 12:35 AM
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Read The Gift of Fear. It tells you how you should listen to your gut. Your gut is telling you he is gay. The fact that you question his sexual orientation means you aren’t attracted to him. You’re allowed to not date a guy because there is no romantic chemistry. That’s reason enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 11:06 AM
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I say this as someone who gives a lot of time and $ to charity, including neighbors who have one-time troubles (chronically ill child, house burns down, etc.) - it's wonderful to be a giving person, and it feels good, but you don't want your boyfriend to be your charity case. If he is not in a position to support himself without a loan from you, he should not be dating. Its better to see how he behaves without free / easy money. It's not your job to fix his problem. If you feel sorry for him, yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 03:13 PM
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Many people reveal a lot about their spending habits and values without you asking them. People who like to spend enjoy bragging about it, and people who like to save tend to humble brag about it. If they boast about having the latest tech gadget (unless it is specifically needed for their job), if they only eat takeout vs. cooking for themselves, if they work a second job in order to save or pay down student loan debt, if they rent vs. lease a car (and what kind of car? If they spend a lot of m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 03:00 PM
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IMO, you should steer clear of anyone who asks you for money. Friend, boyfriend, family. A boyfriend will never be grateful that you loaned / gave him money and will secretly resent you. If a man needs to borrow money from his girlfriend, he should not be dating - he should be working to find the means to be financially independent. Most likely he does not know how budget or lives beyond his means. The chances he will be short of money again in the future are extremely high. You don’t need that!…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 12:42 PM
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If you feel the need to say something you can try: “I don’t feel the chemistry is there.” “I don’t see this relationship going forward.” “I don’t feel we are a match long-term.” Be as vague as possible - if you are specific with something he has done, he will just promise to change, do better, etc. - but don’t allow him to waste your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:40 AM
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I would NOT ask what he has been up to or check to see if he has done X, Y, or Z. Ditto everyone who said it’s a trap. Why is ensuring he finds a job your responsibility? He knows what he has to do. Use this time to better yourself. Find a ft job for YOURSELF. If he expresses concern about his job opportunities, display confidence in him “you’re so smart, I know you’ll figure something out.” “You’re too hard-working to waste your day playing video games.”
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/20 09:28 PM
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Move out. 4-5 months is too soon to move in. If you can’t move back with your family look for room mates or a sublet. Stop chasing him. Stop initiating. Stop sending him pics. Make a plan to move out and work towards that goal. Take on activities and interests where you will meet new people (women and men). Your bf does not appreciate you. Don’t tell him you plan to move until a few days beforehand (he may “change” temporarily so you decide to stick around). Any man who prefers a video game to a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/20 09:21 PM
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You need to remember that in the movies Jonah Hill and Seth Rogan are sleeping with with hot women like Charlize Theron and Amber Stevens. It’s little wonder guys who are flabby think they have a chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 03:43 PM
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In no way is it ok for a 29 year old to date a 16 year old. That’s why the age of consent in your state is 18!!! A non-predatory guy would not be interested in a teenager if he were ALMOST 30! The fact that he had no history of this behavior means nothing; it could mean he didn’t have the opportunity to come in close contact with a teenager, it could mean you weren’t the first but nobody reported. It could mean you were the first, but you won’t be the last. Please see a professional. Even in loc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 02:28 PM
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I’m going to the wedding of two people who met on Tinder later this year. I also have friends who married who met on match.com.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 10:12 AM
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“I won’t eat in a restaurant with filthy bathrooms. This isn’t a hard call. They let you see the bathrooms. If the restaurant can’t be bothered to replace the puck in the urinal or keep the toilets and floors clean, then just imagine what their refrigeration and work spaces look like.” — Anthony Bourdain If Anthony Bourdain says this about the importance of a clean bathroom, you know men realize it’s important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 06:06 PM
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What are the chances of you seeing him again? If he’s not in your work or social circle, block and delete. If there is a high chance of running into him again (because of friends or work), don’t contact him. If he contacts you, reply “I’m not feeling the chemistry. Best of luck.” Do not reply to anything he answers back. Don’t even read it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 12:51 AM
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They lack self awareness, are shitty conversationalists, you are a good conversationalist and even practice for job interviews......and yet 9/10 times their sh*tty conversation skills land them the job anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:48 AM
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I think that might be Gillian Anderson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:41 AM
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My first thought reading your post was that he wanted a quick / easy hook up. He can SAY that he had no intention of trying anything, but talk is cheap. You really will never know if he would have made a move or not, since you were smart enough to decline his invite. Once you said “I don’t go to boys dorm rooms,” his answer should have been “ok.” The fact that you stated a boundary / policy and he turned around and asked “why” is a concern. A woman does not need an excuse to not visit a mans dor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:39 AM
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He is not being “protective.” He’s being controlling and possessive. I’m sure you did NOT know this when you started dating him. If you did it would have been a giant red flag. You are not “HIS.” He does not own you. You are an independent person. Even if you were married, you would not be “his” to dictate to and control. There is no way to bring up the issue without upsetting him. People don’t like being told no. That doesn’t mean you should avoid the conversation. IMO you should run from this …
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/20 11:59 AM
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Some of your problem is in your mindset I was always very intellectual in conversation to the point of being masculine Intellectual does not mean "know it all." Maybe watch the videos of some female comedians? Tina Fey and Amy Poehler are funny and witty and don't curse like sailors. I think Tina Fey is called "the thinking man's sex symbol." or something similar. Nora Ephron was witty and funny without being crude.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/20 04:22 PM
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Who initiated the break because of your mental health issues? You, or him? "Branch swinging" means you take advantage of the higher status of the man you are dating in order to meet other high status men, and leave the first man to date those in the social circle he introduces you to. If you level up on your own (by going to university and meeting new men there), it is not branch swinging. If you are leveling up and your boyfriend is not, its natural to want a partner who is more of an equal pee…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/20 04:16 PM
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Maybe do a google photo search to see if you can ID the tag? The label may contain a clue. I will be honest - I would not be able to look at a tag and know what label it was from unless the brand was printed on it. The tag could be from his sister or his mom if he does laundry at home, yours, the female roommate, the girlfriend or sibling of his male roommate. I would be angry if I found another women's clothing or hair accessories (underwear of course but even a sock or hair tie or lip gloss) .…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/20 04:10 PM
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I'm a lot older than you are, but I remember going to university and being so relieved when I was walking with one of my friends and we almost were hit by a car (we were ok). She told me "wow! I was so afraid the car was going to hit us and I would die a virgin!" I was so relieved - I was under the impression that I was the only female my age who was not sexually active. In the US, teens are less sexually active today than they were when I was young. I can't comment on how easy it is to remain a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/20 03:55 PM
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I think it depends on where you live. If you live in city that has many cases (such as NYC) I would advise against going out. However, in my town I would go to a park and ride bikes or go for a walk as long as we kept a social distance (no kissing!). If your city allows takeout, maybe take out dinner and eat at a park or in your separate cars keeping the windows open. Personally, I think the guy is being responsible. However, not meeting up does not mean no communication. You can facetime or zoo…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/20 03:06 PM
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This guy adds nothing to your life. You TOLD him what was wrong / that he wasn't providing what you needed, and instead of making a compromise, he made excuses. His ADD will never get better, his ability to handle negative moods will never get better. If you don’t like how he monopolizes conversations even now “that he had gotten a lot better at it,” then the two of you will never be a match. How is any of this better than being alone, even during quarantine? I can’t envision this man risking in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:02 PM
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De-cluttering. I’ve completed one room and have moved to the next. I can’t give away anything right now but have my “donate” boxes ready to go. Practicing the piano. Taking FaceTime live courses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:54 PM
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The book was written by a Christian pastor, so I’m sure he would not approve of early intimacy. One main purpose of the book is to clear up misunderstandings when partners “speak” / demonstrate different languages and don’t feel loved as a result. An example would be if a woman said to her partner “you don’t care about me. Yesterday was our anniversary and you didn’t bring me flowers.” (Gifts is her LL) And the guy says “what do you mean I don’t care about you? Didn’t I change the oil on your ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 11:09 AM
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Reading her post, the expression that pops into my mind to best describe the boyfriend is “bottomless pit.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 10:35 AM
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Is this after several months together or just a few dates? If after a few dates “I don’t feel the chemistry” or “I don’t feel we are a match.” (you can add “best of luck to you” if you want). If it’s a longer term relationship “I don’t see this going anywhere,” “I think this relationship has run its course,” or the blunt “I’m not feeling it anymore.” In all of the above examples, it’s your feelings (vs. something he did, which he can promise to change). If he’s arguing about HOW YOU FEEL, there’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:55 AM
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There was a member who posted on this board about posture and feminine movements. She made a video specifically about to move in a more feminine way.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/20 09:32 PM
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Why bother continuing with him? The fact that he countered with “it takes two” when you declined to use your day off to meet him at HIS work location speaks volumes. IMO planning a date at this time is a sign of low-value. Even though a person can’t control if s/he must report to work (and how to travel to work), s/he can choose to stay clear of others during non-work hours in order to protect her/his health and the health of others. Plus at least in my area all restaurants are closed so it’s on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:15 PM
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I consider myself more “rectangle” than banana (I am not tall or particularly skinny): Empire waists, shifts, fit and flare. I’m not sure if it’s the rectangle or some other issue, but I look a lot better with a scoop or V neck.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/20 03:44 PM
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I would suggest putting a more interesting note on your profile comments. Maybe challenge them with “if you can talk about three subjects on my profile, List them and I’d love to chat with you.” - something that makes them work to respond to you. Anyone who doesn’t name three (and id give them a break if they didn’t Actually know about anything specific on your profile like seeing or growing up in a big city, as long as their answer reflects they tried), pass on. If they mention sex, block and r…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/20 06:10 PM
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Maybe a romantic picnic outdoors? In NY State, state parks are open to the public and free during the quarantine. We have been encouraged to get outside and exercise, take walks and bike rides.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/20 05:57 PM
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You need to live yourself more. Edit: You need to LOVE yourself more. “I love you BUT.....” is not “I love you.” Believe him when he says the relationship will go nowhere! Sadly, he was probably “doing all of the right things” because he wanted to have sex with you. Once he did, the chase was over and he didn’t feel the need to pretend. Learn to do a better job at vetting your men. You should not be with a man who drinks to excess and smokes to get high - that is a LV man. It doesn’t matter if a…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/20 05:20 PM
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If I were you I would look up videos of feminine energy (an example would be Adrienne Everheart). You might feel more comfortable realizing that womanhood is a sense of power, just a different type than the one that works for men. Forgive yourself for judging others. You know better now, so you can do better. Who knows why your mom feels the way she did. You don't have to believe her values if they don't make sense to you (I would also say that "girls who always have a boyfriend" aren't necessar…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/20 02:50 AM
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Good for you! I enjoyed reading your blog posting. I think that developing your writing skills is an important part of leveling-up. As for improving your style, I would join one of the writing reddits or other social media forums.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/20 10:16 PM
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What are your values? (no need to reply, just a question to ask yourself). I was never the type of person who was interested on doing anything other than kissing on the first date (this was in the days before online dating, so I knew my dates beforehand. I don't think I would kiss a guy who was a complete stranger on the first date). A guy who wanted more would be a turnoff for me. I wanted to date someone who's values aligned with mine - who thought that intimacy was reserved for special people…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/20 06:34 PM
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I agree with this. Men who act like this are often very forward in their texting. Even things like "hey beautiful" - it may seem innocent, but it makes you more of an object vs. a person.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/20 06:22 PM
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Not for nothing, Tom’s first wife was an actress too. She had severe mental health issues. He tried really hard to make that marriage work (according to his Bosom Buddies co-star). The marriage failure was not his fault - it’s not as if he changed his mind and said “oh, well.” But your point is still valid.....men do leave. Or they die. Or their salaries are cut in half. And women need to be able to have something to show for 20 years aside from “my man’s success and my beautiful children.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:41 PM
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I agree! Two days is a long time for a man to not text after you had sex. F* him! No manners on his part. Tbh, I thought this post would be about ghosting a man after bad sex / micro peen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 11:36 PM
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That’s really horrible. 20+ years ago I travelled to a country that has since become very popular with tourists thanks to celebrities going on vacation there. I went with a travel group (met up with another friend while there). Now it is considered even more “safe” than when I was there. At the same, women traveling solo have been raped and murdered there. It’s not frequent, but it happens. I notice because I have been there. How dare anyone try to shame a woman for having safety concerns!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:30 PM
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But.....you’re a WOMAN....don’t you want to be HELPFUL?!? (please note eye roll)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 08:18 PM
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Part of leveling up is leaving these people behind. Make new friends who do not insult you. You are a queen - don't hang out with anyone who doesn't validate that. If you are "trapped" in school or work with these people, work to level up and get out of your situation and around people who uplift you. Sticking with guy friends will not work for you. Eventually they will try to have sex with you. I say this not as part of the evil group of women who try to put you down, but because that is the wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:24 PM
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How a man reacts when you say "no" to them was one of the predictors of domestic violence according to a famous DV counselor (The 'no' test - Rob Andrew). Women would cry that they never saw the bad behavior / violence, but that was because they were not abused until they said "no" for the first time. Sometimes this was YEARS into the relationship, after marriage, children. Better to set your standards early when you can easily walk away. Also, some men, even if they are not abusive, want to "pu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:20 PM
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If the finance info so secret, it shouldn't be on his phone which can easily be hacked. ​ In the beginning, I was very apprehensive about him since I’m self conscious and I thought he was a player. Your gut was probably correct. I'm sure there are dating apps or photos of or texts with another woman on his phone. I know my H's pw and can use his phone at any time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:07 PM
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Honestly, if this man can't appreciate your cultural ties to family and celebrations, he is just not the guy for you. I can't help but think there is an element of selfishness on his part in this. For example, although I am Christian, if a partner or friend told me it was important that they celebrate the Jewish (or Islamic or Hindu, etc.) holidays with family or had dietary restrictions or had to go to services, I would completely understand and try to accommodate (I wouldn't cook the meal and …
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/20 04:04 PM
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If you feel she is holding you back, then you need to distance yourself from her. It's not fair for you to tolerate her insults and rudeness. If you knew for a fact she had a disorder (like ASD) it might help you to be more compassionate, but even people on the spectrum learn how to behave and speak to others and not insult them. If you were a plant that was constantly insulted, you would not grow as tall as a plant that was showered with compliments and love. In addition, people will judge you …
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/20 03:14 PM
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He has already reached out by liking your photos. You've done enough by adding him. Your instincts are right. He should reach out. Don't message him. DO NOT make it easy for him. Make him work for your time and attention. HE needs to make the effort, NOT YOU. Especially as he was the one to break things off. You do not want to be the girl he dates or hooks up with because he is bored, because going on a date with you is better / easier than finding someone on a dating app. and starting a new rel…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/20 02:53 PM
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He said last week after i failed to order something online for him "You have no personality. At the very least, I need a helper, but I don't even get that. It is not your job to be his "helper" until you are married. That goes for the laundry, too. Those are WIFE duties. What about HIS job to protect and provide for you? He is not protecting you or your feelings, and he is not providing for you. Even if you spend a lot of time in his apt., you are not under any obligation to clean it, buy grocer…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/20 02:44 PM
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Smiling and saying “thank you” is humble and gracious IMO. If you argue with someone’s compliment (ie: if someone says you look beautiful but you say “oh! But I’m a mess!”), you are implying they are stupid to think highly of you and that you know better than they do. THAT Is off-putting.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/20 12:55 PM
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WTF? It seems as if he were saying "I'm a bit worried about dating a single mom...." to get you to WORK HARD to demonstrate that you are SOOOOO worth it! lol! And I'm not sure what his follow up was supposed to be about....you look good now, guys chase you now, but some day they will stop.....so you should date HIM now? I don't get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 01:30 AM
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I have male friends from college / grad school. We plan to see each other when reunion rolls around (every 5 years). We have been to each other's weddings. We are social media friends. However, everything is out in the open. I would not meet with them without their spouse (if they are married) knowing and being invited. At reunion, even if the spouses are not around (some stay home with young kids, etc.), we are meeting as part of a large group. If I send personal messages (email, private messag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 01:25 AM
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You only need to be polite if you work together or belong to the same friend group and expect to work / socialize in the future. In that case, just say “I’m not feeling the spark / chemistry.” (To break things off). NO to friendship. “Good luck, I have enough friends.” If you don’t work / socialize, delete and block. No need for politeness. They know they were playing games. You don’t need “friends” like that. If they offer “friendship” in person say no thanks. “Friendship” for men means they wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 12:26 AM
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In the future, don't agree to commitment after only one month. That is way too soon. I am wondering if he said this only so he could sleep with you? (ie: You: "I won't sleep with you until we are in a committed relationship." him: "Ok, we are in a committed relationship." Then sex). Be proud of yourself for blocking these LVMs. It will get easier over time. 29yo is a pedo - gross!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 07:39 PM
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Don't feel guilty - he might be a great guy, but that doesn't mean he's the guy for you. Breaking up with him will leave him free to find a woman who is truly in love with him. It will also free you up to find the love of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 07:35 PM
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((Hugs)) Agree with the others....do NOT tell him! Gather all your financial info, separate your finances, change your computer passwords, pay with cash if he can follow your spending. Can you find a local woman’s shelter and ask for some guidance? Are there any groups for Polish immigrants? Is there a local university where you can find the womans’ center and explain that you are not a student but are looking for guidance? People are often very helpful. Pack everything while he was away. I woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 06:13 PM
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Congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 05:59 PM
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Agree on both points! 1) women over-apologize. We’ve been socialized to smooth over feelings, apologize for things that are not our fault. 2) Actions, not words. Women really need to question whether they should “invest” their time in a relationship / man who is not fulfilling their needs RIGHT NOW. Men often apologize and promise to “do better” or “change.” But unless their actions match their words, it means nothing. Women are also socialized to ACCEPT apologies with behavior that should be a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 05:59 PM
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Thank you for this! Some additional things that worked for me: 1) Change up your routine if you need to. Go to work a different way, take a different exercise class. Some people thrive with the familiar, but sometimes a change will be helpful. 2) Distance yourself from “mutual” friends. Unless they are solidly “team YOU” they are not healthy right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 11:22 PM
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Several years. I broke up with a guy who literally never treated me well, would have cheated on me in a heartbeat if anybody would have been dumb enough to want him. Several years (3-4?) he emailed me. I wrote back that I was getting married and wished him well (thinking that would close the door). He wrote back surprised I was engaged. I didn’t respond. Then a few years after THAT he sent me an email saying the cat he adopted while I was dating him passed away. He included photos he took of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 11:15 PM
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You should not tolerate any man using that language with you. The fact that your friends would be shocked if they saw that message means should tell you that this is unacceptable. Wirh my single friends, the understanding is that you are free to date others until you BOTH AGREE to be exclusive. His behavior and actions are saying what YOU want don’t count. Run from this man. Delete and block. He will never treat you better. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 11:06 PM
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No. Your time is precious. Invest it in yourself or in people who value you higher than last minute plans. If things were so great with his girlfriend, he would not seek out your company. Maybe he is seeing you for an ego boost, maybe he is seeing you because she is not an intellectual match or she doesn’t fulfill his emotional needs. But.....he still makes her a priority. Find someone who makes YOU the priority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 11:01 PM
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Call a domestic hotline in your area or speak to someone at a shelter. Often, they can give you solid advice. They can also provide you with free legal advice for things like how to break your lease (or get him removed from the lease) so that can be untangled. You can also try speaking to the landlord...if he owns / manages another property maybe you can move your part of the lease to the other property without penalty. You can also see if the county prosecutor has a DV advocate. You might be ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:30 AM
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Sadly, learned by experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:24 AM
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Every man that has said that to me was not as smart as I was. Exacept they said "you're ALMOST as smart as me," and I was thinking "you're not even close."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:16 AM
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I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope you are receiving help to deal with that trauma and abuse. I can't comprehend the mindset, but considering that men interpret basic politeness (smile, courteousness by a salesperson) is "flirting," it's not wonder that they feel a (non-sexual) touch is "asking for it."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:12 AM
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Adding: Alcohol is not your friend. Bad things can happen when you are drunk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 03:05 AM
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My H started talking about marriage within a few months (we were both 30+) but waited for my timetable. I said that I wanted to wait until we had been dating for a year before we got engaged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 07:09 PM
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This 1000%. He should do the lion's share of visiting (unless he sends you money for train / air / car fare), calling, skyping, facetiming, etc. Don't let him tell you anything is YOUR FAULT (you work during the day and he has odd hours / the time zone is off, you don't have money to travel to his location, you don't have vacation time to visit him). Remember that even if you "made a commitment" to him for a LDR, HE needs to show commitment by visiting, communicating, sending flowers, etc. If he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 07:00 PM
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Please cut this man loose. If he were only "feeling down" or insecure, it would have been incredibly cruel for him to tell you that he doesn't love you. That is just plain wrong, and nobody with 1/2 of a brain cell or any compassion for the person they love would do that. I'm sure he misses the emotional support you have given him for the past several months while he was unemployed. He probably does not get that from his male friends or family. But that is not your job anymore. Don't allow him t…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 04:59 AM
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How did you find this out? Is it obvious? Did your sister confide in you? I’m not sure a sit down with the family is a good idea. Your BIL may feel “ganged up on.” I would call a DV hotline and ask for advice about interventions. IMO you can’t change your BIL unless he wants to change. You should work on letting your sister realize that abuse is not ok, for her or her son. Your sister as a single mom is better off than a married woman whose husband abuses her. Your nephew is better off not growi…
/r/askTRP31/01/20 02:05 AM
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I’m a type-A personality. I’ve always hated rom-coms where a HV career-driven woman falls on love with a poorly mannered, slovenly LV male (Leap Year, Knocked Up). They fall in love and she learns to be more “laid back.” Also rom-coms and sit coms where a fit, gorgeous educated woman falls in love with a fat, unattractive (yet funny!) guy. Because a sense of humor is SOOO important that it supersedes all other qualities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:11 AM
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Being a SAHM / housewife = having a 24/7 job without the salary. I do NOT recommend becoming a SAHM because you don’t like your nursing program. There are a million other jobs out there. Being a full time wife and mother should be a choice you make when you have other options, not a way to escape a full time job. If you have no skills, you make yourself incredibly vulnerable. Plus, HV men with high incomes usually prefer educated wives.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/20 11:06 PM
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Typical Women: I’m afraid I will be stalked I’m afraid I’ll be given a date-rape drug I’m afraid my date will get me drunk I’m afraid my date will overpower me Men: I’m afraid my date will be unattractive After reading this, I’m waiting for the day when “angel shots” are discontinued because “people abuse the service / system to escape unattractive dates.” No, men abuse the service. Women are too cognizant about REAL risks to call a cab for a guy that’s only ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 05:19 PM
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A good relationship is easy and you feel comfortable and good about yourself. Frequent arguing is not normal. Get out now. He will not turn into a kind man. Do you want him to treat kids the way he treats you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 11:59 AM
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If you want to meet him for coffee, think of meeting him only in the morning or early afternoon. Night time is date time / time that you have better things to do ("plans" or "plans with friends"). If he wants to take up a big chunk of your most valuable time of the week (Saturday night), it needs to be for dinner. I'm guessing its a date because....why can't you meet for coffee (or lunch) in the cafeteria? Or after work? But let him ASK FOR a date and have it be a REAL DATE (not "coffee"). Also,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:40 PM
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Especially when you “feel eerie” you should listen to your gut! Read “the gift of fear” it tells of the power of intuition and help you listen to your brain. In the future, when any man asks you to “hang out” (study, watch tv) in his room or apt., assume he is asking for sex. If he says “I forgot my wallet, let’s go back to my place to pick it up” assume he’s is asking for sex (and tell him you’ll wait in the lobby). Don’t make an excuse. Just say “I don’t do that.” If that’s your policy, there’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 04:00 PM
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You are not the bad guy for wanting something more out of a relationship and breaking up with him. YOU need to put yourself first. Your bf probably has been “distant” because he started texting his “coworker” or jumped onto Tinder. He’ll circle around to you soon when those supplies of female attention dry up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:11 AM
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I usually don’t have sympathy for the girlfriends of married men, but he is clearly taking advantage of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:04 AM
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Not to mention that OP is a guest that travelled across several states to see him! “Oh, you made a six-hour round trip effort to visit me, but WTF can’t you wash the dishes in my house as well!?!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:33 PM
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I have a friend who is in what might count as an exclusive FWB situation. They are only FWB when neither of them are dating (sleeping with) anyone else. So there is no expectation of never dating others, but there is an expectation that neither one of them will be “the other man / woman” or “the dirty little secret” when the other is in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:28 PM
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Queen! 👑I’m glad you found the courage to stand up to those LVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:03 AM
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Please don’t be down on your looks. My college roommate never had a date until we were about to graduate. She just celebrated her 25 anniversary with a true HVM. Everyone starts dating at different times - that does not mean you should settle for someone who hurt your feelings!
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/20 03:20 AM
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Cancel! Why do you want to be his Backup / plan-B? The “deep connection” is one-sided and only in your mind. If he really had a deep connection to you, he would not have broken things off to be with his ex. He wants sex and knows that it will be easier to get it from you than investing in a completely new relationship. He is confident he can “wear you down” by posing as a “friend” and taking advantage of your vulnerability and feelings for him. Friends don’t do this. NO MAN who suggests a FWB re…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/20 08:39 PM
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As a woman with (severe!) ADHD, I think you are off on your assessment. ADHD is an executive function disability. It does not prevent emotional attachment; on the contrary, people with ADHD are often more sensitive and empathetic than those without. (Could your son also have ASD? Or depression?) Also, a child with ADHD may be less independent than his/her peers, but that is because they are a few years behind neurologically (a 12 yo who acts like a 8 yo is a problem; a 30 yo who acts like a 26 y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:07 AM
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He’s tried to f*ck other women in the past couple of months and it’s not working....either other women are asking for commitment as well or he’s striking out or doesn’t have time to invest in any new women, so he’s circling back to you. He’s hoping for easy sex. (I apologize for being crude but....) Since you and he have already bern intimate, it will be quicker and less work for him to get you to spread your legs than it would be for a new girl. Don’t fall for it. In two months he has not chang…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/20 02:53 AM
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Don’t use words anymore; use actions. If you are out and he takes out his phone, call a cab home. When you make yourself busy and he plays “poor me,” tell him he has his phone to keep him company. Your H reminds me of the Will Ferrell screen-free commercials. Do not consider making a baby with this man unless he changes.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/20 02:45 AM
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Adding to your rom-coms: When a “type-A” woman falls for a “laid back” (e.g. lazy), rude guy. SHE Falls in love with him and ends up changing! Becoming less “rigid.” Most sit-coms where fat, unattractive (but funny! girls love a sense of humor!) guys with low-level jobs are married to fit, attractive, college educated women. Keeping up with the Kardashians: Although I don’t know how much is real and how much is fake, the women have babies with complete cheating losers. Yes, the men have recordin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:34 AM
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Tell your H that the stress is getting you down. And stress interferes with fertility. While you are still working (and commuting longer!) there is no reason for you to be doing most of the cooking or doing most of the household chores! He needs to step up! A new baby will just ADD to your workload around the house. Some ideas (although it is better if you present the problem to him, and see what he says - if its his idea he is more likely to follow through). You can make a rule that whoever get…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/20 04:43 PM
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ACTIONS not words. One of the quickest ways to tell the difference between HV and LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 04:33 PM
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Having confidence is NOT being arrogant! That's female socialization at work. Arrogance is thinking you are BETTER than everyone else (looks, smarts, wealth, etc.). There is nothing wrong about being confident in the way you look, no matter what you think your flaws are. You are unique. Cindy Crawford has a mole on her face - it became her signature. There is no good reason for him to ask you this question. Either he wants you to make yourself vulnerable by naming a flaw you think you have, Or h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 04:31 PM
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LVM may initially treat a HVW well, but there is only so long they can keep up the facade. A pick-me will accept low-value treatment. Sometimes a LVM will try to drag a HVW down to his level by criticizing her, negging, moving across country so she has to give up a job and social ties, tying her down with kids (vs. having a child and being a full active participant in the child's care). Look at Christie Brinkley. Beautiful, wealthy, still in great shape. Great mom and got along great with her ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 04:23 PM
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Your mom's generation is why someone came up with the slogan "A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 04:12 PM
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Absolutely. It's like a woman should only be able to reach "so high." One of the reasons behind many of the "pick me" choices I made when I was younger was the voice of my mother saying "don't be a snob," "be nice," "if a man is nice and good to you, that's what matters" (of course, if a man is nice that IS what matters, but that doesn't mean I need to give up on standards like college educated, attractive, ambitions, etc. when I look for a partner). I'm sorry to say, it may be that your grandma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 04:10 PM
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One ex-bf said this to me. I told him I’d have a boob job after he got penile enlargement surgery. Last time he brought up boob jobs in conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 12:41 PM
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In the beginning I thought he was a “great guy” but I did not think of him as a future husband / marriage material because he was older and not married so I assumed marriage wasn’t his goal. When he started talking about marriage (4 mos into our relationship) as a goal for us, even though I thought he was great, I felt I needed more time to look at him with a “is this who I want for the rest of my life” eye vs. a “let’s just have fun with Mr. Right now” eye. I had known him casually for a year b…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/20 10:49 PM
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If going to his place means going to a messy place you have to clean....don’t go there. You can not tell him what to do (“clean your room”). You sound like his mom and it’s controlling and not sexy. HE can leave his place as messy as he wants. YOU do not have to visit (what you control). You should also not clean his place. That goes beyond wife duty; it’s mom duty (and I don’t clean my teen boys room)! If he can’t leave his place because of the dogs....oh well, he’ll just have to clean up. No m…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 05:31 PM
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How old are you? My H was talking engagement 4 months into our relationship, but we were both older so knew what we wanted and had settled careers. We waited until 9 months before we went ring shopping and 10 before he proposed. My idea (waiting). I knew enough people who said “sometimes you just know” and later divorced. SLOW DOWN. Courtship is fun and you learn a lot. Knowing someone for 2 years is not the same as dating and vetting. Don’t let the rush of excitement and sex cloud your judgemen…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 05:20 PM
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You really don’t know who passed on the STD. Anyone who is not a virgin can give you an STD (and some are passed through non-intercourse: I know someone who got Herpes via oral sex with her now-H. They were both virgins and each other’s “only.”) Don’t assume it was the woman. Don’t feel dirty. The stigma is what prevents people from testing and reporting to their former partners. Hopefully this will give you a heads up to protect yourself in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:10 PM
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I saw a video where it said “Imagine you like to hunt turkeys. So you get your gun and dress up in camouflage and drive to the woods....and a wild turkey walks up to you and says ‘here I am..’. Sure you can bring that turkey home, but It’s just not as much fun.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 12:35 AM
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https://hips.hearstapps.com/hmg-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/images/anne-hathaway-attends-the-25th-annual-critics-choice-awards-news-photo-1578874062.jpg?crop=0.621xw:0.931xh;0.270xw,0.0689xh&resize=768:* She looks pretty good here! 2020 - after recently giving birth to her 2nd child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:52 PM
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I hope you didn’t give up the clues so he could fool you next time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:51 PM
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I think it’s fair to make dinner “screen-free.” Simply put your foot down and tell him that is the way it is going forward. If you cook, you expect conversation. If he wants to go out to dinner / date night, you will not be going out with him and his phone. Aside from that, get busy with your own life. Friends, hobbies, study. I disagree that him “missing you” is innocent. Unless he is low IQ or on the spectrum. If he says he misses you, tell him to plan a screen-free date night. Reward him with…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 08:43 PM
2

My H is 13y older than I am but we met when I was over 30, had completed a masters degree and had a solid footing in my career. In your sisters case, I do think it’s a large gap considering she is so young. It depends a bit....such as if they met at Uni where he was a PhD student (no “real world” experience) and she was in college....at that point they are relatively equal. Also depends if he met her at 18 but waited a few years before they started dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:26 PM
6

Katherine Hepburn as an example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 05:18 PM
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It takes mental / emotional energy to plan an outing (date). Especially ones that are novel and interesting. There is upside to being in control, but the downside = work and effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:18 PM
4

Does any remember the Sopranos episode where Uncle Junior wouldn’t admit that he enjoyed (and was good at) oral sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:12 PM
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“But where will I sleep?” like it was your responsibility to fix things after he made his “surprise” visit and didn’t have a plan for where to sleep (other than with you).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:11 PM
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Yes but would a HVM only give his number to her and not get hers? IMO, it’s LVM (or player) to assume she would remember his name, the name of a guy age just met, to look up his contact info and text him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:07 PM
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IMO this is all for show. He wants that Oscar, so he is pulling the “awww shucks, I messed up but we’re still friends” card. People will vote for an actors STORY as much as their talent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 09:58 PM
3

What an inappropriate comment! I would consider sending an email to the administration stating that a male student said this during class and that it seemed inappropriate and created an uncomfortable atmosphere in the class. The teacher would probably never report him (esp if she is young), but someone needs to go on record and not give him a pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:32 PM
4

I stopped going to a nail salon because one of the manicurists was a man and I really didn’t want a man doing my nails. Also, they had a guy giving “free” neck massages (the idea that after your first free few minutes you’ll pay for a 10 minute massage). Just NO! I’m sure it’s a way for the salon owners to employ their brothers or uncles but I don’t enjoy it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:25 PM
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Say that you don’t have a checklist; everyone is unique and special in their own way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:02 PM
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I don’t think exclusivity is something that most people assume. I also think this is one of the draw backs of dating a “friend” - you tend to let certain things (like the value of having a talk about exclusivity) slide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:15 PM
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My bff did not have a date until she was 21 (almost 22) and that was her now husband. She was married before anyone! IMO she was smarter and prettier than I was. In fact, I think she was nicer and more social than I was, too. I was involved in a wider range of activities. From what I was told (by men), she had resting b*tch face which made guys reluctant to approach her. That was huge. Also, although she was more social with women, she was nervous around guys she was interested in so her otherwi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 02:11 AM
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At 24, you should make a decision to wise up. If you don’t learn from your mistakes, it’s not being naive, it’s being stupid. Have high standards and listen to your gut. If you don’t like the way a certain thing feels (he doesn’t text for days, he won’t give a direct answer to your question), that’s your inner voice screaming that something is off. Don’t try to fix the guy or teach him how to behave - move on. Spend a lot of time vetting. YOU decide if a man is quality enough for a relationship …
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 02:00 AM
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When I leave my cell phone at home, I’ll email my H to let him know and tell him to email me at work if he needs to reach me. It’s basic consideration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 11:29 PM
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Not to mention they will try to convince you all the weird sh*t they want to try is “what everybody does.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 08:59 PM
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Life is a choice as well as a feeling. Choose to live yourself more and free yourself from this POS so that you can level up and eventually find a man worthy of you. Cancel his phone access.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 08:41 PM
4

The culture that influenced the term “Dutch treat.....”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 12:59 AM
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So glad you talked it out. Congrats!
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 10:11 PM
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I remember when I was pregnant with my first child, the doctor asked me if I wanted an STD / HIV test. I replied “oh no, I’m married....” The doctor gave me a look that said “you are so naive.” (Not me in particular, just any woman who thinks that because they are married they could not have picked up an STD).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 10:08 PM
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He probably said that on purpose....so you would have sex with him and try your best to be a “good girl” who never complained. FTG
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 01:57 AM
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I am older but if someone told me “I got lit” I would take it as a red flag. I know what melatonin is so it would not have made a lot of sense to me. Text is very difficult to interpret. You were joking, he could have bern joking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 01:55 AM
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Oh Keanu, I love you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 01:47 AM
2

I dated a guy that I knew wasn’t the right guy for me long term. The whole time we were dating I said things like “I don’t believe in marriage.” The truth was, I didn’t believe in marriage TO HIM. I would not want to be with a man who was so pessimistic about the institution of marriage. It says to me you have different values.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 01:41 AM
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You are VERY busy! With school and 2 pt jobs, I’m surprised you have time to even shower, let alone cook and clean the house! What do you mean by “keep the household afloat?” Do you mean pay the rent on the space you share with your bf? Or are you supporting another household (your parents)? If you are paying a high rent because your bf wanted an expensive apt that you really couldn’t afford, then he is being unfair. You are a student. You won’t have full time school plus two part time jobs whil…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 01:33 AM
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A real man never lays a hand on a woman in anger. Ever. Laws vary by state and jurisdiction, but shoving someone can result in an assault conviction. So yes - it is considered as serious as a punch. Don’t argue with this piece of garbage. The fact that he says it “doesn’t count” demonstrates his lack of remorse. cheaters and abusers often try to minimize their actions; it must be in their playbook. Often if you call a DV hotline or a non-emergency number of a woman’s shelter they will provide yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:15 PM
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I know people (men) like this 30 years later. The drinking derails their career, their marriage, their finances. Seriously....a 50 yo guy who needs to be chauffeured around because they list their license for 180 days. Who lives with his mom and dad. Who has 0 visitation with their kids. I am describing more than one guy....but the common theme is alcohol. Break up with this guy unless he joins AA and gets sober. Between the drinking and the spending.....no control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:45 PM
2

You’re a Queen in 2020! Good for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:29 PM
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It’s time to ghost the friend as well! It’s not your job to GIVE a guy a chance. A man should EARN a chance. Think of “a chance” as your time, effort and vulnerability. Why should those be given away? It’s perfectly ok etiquette wise to ghost a person you barely know that you meant via OLD. Adults will assume it was not a match. Your chef date had sooooo many red flags. Lied online about his age, interest in a 20yo, asking you to book a room? WTF?!? I agree with the others he is probably married…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:19 PM
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Short or not, it seems as if the date wasn’t really comfortable for you. It’s ok not to want to go out with him again. It’s ok not to want to go out with him because he is 5’4”. Dates are about getting to know people, and you know enough to not want to try a second time. I would tell him you had a nice evening the other night, don’t think you’re a match or you didn’t feel a spark. I personally would not keep the phone but there’s nothing wrong if you do as it was a gift and you did not ask for i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:20 PM
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Is your school affiliated with a university or hospital? Get involved / attend events at these places such as lectures, clubs, volunteer activities, movie nights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:10 PM
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He was probably hoping for a sympathy f*ck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:02 PM
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Agreed! A LVM will try to drag a woman down and convince her they are the same level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:59 PM
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I am not an expert on polyamory, BUT I do know that it requires a LOT of communication. The fact that he refused to discuss your boundary (a perfectly reasonable one even in poly) means your relationship wasn’t really poly. He was just a guy who wanted to have an open relationship but didn’t want to be honest about it. That’s LV not matter what his looks or IQ. Be happy things did not work out. If your friend is so wonderful and beautiful, she’s throwing away her options for a liar and fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:57 PM
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Glad you freed yourself up to be with a man of higher value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:51 PM
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“I guess it’s understandable” It’s really not. In this day and age, with trans being so accepted, there is no excuse for hiding it and / or making up stories. If he said things like “I have three sisters - I am the only son.” I can see that as not being a lie (because in his mind, he WAS a son at the time, even if he was a girl). But if he made up stories about playing little league, joining the Boy Scouts, etc....” then yeah, he’s just a liar who happens to also be trans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:45 PM
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You do not need permission or an “excuse” to break up with someone - even a fiancé. In my experience, it’s better to just break things off because “it’s not working out.” Whenever I provided a reason, the guy would turn around with either excuses (“you know I’m stressed at work!”) or promises to turn change if only I gave them another chance (they NEVER change! It was a complete waste of extra months - years of my time). He can’t fight with “this isn’t working.” Why do you need to see the texts?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:07 PM
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It’s ok to block! Girls are socialized to “be nice” or “don’t be rude.” But....once this guy is an EX, there is NO NEED for him to contact you. You are not taking anything away from him by blocking; there is no reason he requires access to your phone number. A healthy guy will not want to keep in touch; he’ll want to move forward. Put your NEED of blocking ahead of his WANT (or ego boost) of having access to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:57 AM
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Do you know what day the billing cycle ends? Check back....maybe he’ll grow bored of paying extra once he doesn’t get a reaction out of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:43 AM
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Does it count towards your n-count? No. But...why would you want to do this with someone you weren’t in a sexual relationship with already? I feel like my sexuality is special and something I would only share with a committed partner. If I’m not committed enough to be with them physically, I’m not interested in sharing my sexuality with them in any other form.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 01:38 AM
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I have been in your shoes, only it was my H’s FAMILY that was disrespecting me to his face. In my situation, my H is 100x more HV than the family members (there was more than one!) who disrespected me. And I’m 1000x more HV. I agree that the reason that they are disrespecting you is a sign of disrespect aimed at HIM. However, that does not mean that your H is low value. Or that their disrespect is a sign of anything other than the LV of the co-workers talking sh*t. Eventually my H cut this famil…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 01:34 AM
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“I don’t feel we are a match” “I’m don’t think think there is long-term potential here.” “I’m looking for a different connection long-term” “I’m not feeling it” DO NOT try to make him understand that it’s his lack of respect that is the issue. He’ll only either try to argue with you, bargain with you, make excuses (I’ve been really busy at work), etc. It’s not your job to educate him on how to treat a woman. Remember that No means NO! If he circles back asking for another chance or “the reason t…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 01:16 AM
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I’m married so my husband would plan his dads funeral around me, but I would go to the wedding. If you are not “close enough” that your MAJOR plans (IMO attending a wedding is a major plan) are taken into consideration in the funeral plans, then nobody should expect you to be at the funeral. FWIW I am a church-going person so I understand the importance of a funeral. My H and I are the “dependable ones” on his side of the family when it comes to “showing up” at wakes / funeral services / memoria…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:06 AM
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I would silently try to see if the best friend is a friend of your relationship. That is, if she compliments you, is shocked if your bf does something nice for her (like fetch her a soda) and not for you and chides him for it, if she shows interest in experiences you and your bf shared. If she is a friend to your relationship, that’s a good sign (he may still want to bone her though). If she is not - abandon ship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 08:42 PM
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At the company the wife already had a job at? IMO that is not bad; many corporations prioritize connections of employees and will often give the employee who made the recommendation a cash bonus. If the women found the man a job at a completely different company....yeah, that’s bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 08:25 PM
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PSA: They will want to marry you even if they DONT find you attractive! A shortened version of my story (reason I post here, thankfully this situation is way behind me and I ended up marrying a great man, but I wish someone had knocked sense into young co-dependent pick-me): I dated a guy for YEARS who was “just not that into me” (he never said he wasn’t into me and this was before that book was written). He preferred tall women and I was short, he felt I could stand to lose a few lbs. (even whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:19 PM
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Don’t take on projects. Wait for a man who is already HV. That being said, I think some boys grow up / mature and turn into men. I recently went to a HS reunion and many guys improved with age. This was 25 years after HS though - no women needs a 25 year project!!! IMO everyone is capable of change. If a woman can stop being a pick me, a guy can stop being a fukboi. But never assume YOU will be the one to change him. He is a waste of your time unless he is already HV. Don’t buy damaged goods at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:34 PM
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Many celebrities who post “make up free” selfies are obviously wearing makeup, have lash extensions and lip injections.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:59 PM
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A date saying to you “I am sober” or “I don’t drink” is no big deal. Presumably he took you to the cocktail bar because even though HE doesn’t drink, he doesn’t care that you do. A date saying “I don’t drink....I thought I left you enough clues to figure that out.” doesn’t sit right with me. Why is it your responsibility to figure out the “clues” he’s giving vs. his responsibility to just tell you straight out. The reason he didn’t say anything might be as simple as he feels not drinking is seen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:02 PM
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Some men think with their little brain. She may have been smoking hot when they were dating, then let it all go once they said “I do.” The signs that she was LV (bad manners, always on the phone) were always there, but he chose to ignore them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:15 AM
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Bold and star #9. I would say “don’t invest in them in any way, shape or form (time, emotions, effort, money).” By invest I mean give without receiving. If you do a favor for a man, don’t do another one without getting your “payback.” And let him do the initial favor the next time. Men tend to “lose track” of how much you give and give, and they DO NOT appreciate it. In fact, it only makes you less interesting and valuable to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:20 AM
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How long do you wait before you reveal this info? Do you consider yourself emotionally healthy now (I would assume yes)? Do you expect to get a pass on being an a-hole because of your past (I would assume no)? In my experience, a man who starts early with a “poor me.....” sob stories are looking for a gf to excuse bad behavior because....he didn’t know better, he had poor role models, he triggered, he had it so hard, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:11 AM
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Meet in YOUR neighborhood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:03 AM
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Has / demonstrates respect for a number of women in his life....his female co-workers, his sisters, his grandmother, the waitress where he takes you to eat. Even if they are home makers or are paid a low wage. (A trained monkey knows enough to say he loves his mom, he needs to go beyond that). Does not ask your “n-count” or about your prior relationships unless it is to ensure you are single. Insists on wearing a condom even if you are using separate birth control. Asks you questions about yours…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:39 PM
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I have heard of this! Men are supposed to ask the women a question like “are you a potato?” to see if she is really a bot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:24 PM
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I think there are a number of issues at play, not just motivation. I have a son and a daughter and want to empower both of them. At one point, education was strongly tilted to favor boys (boys called on more often, allowed to interrupt girls without consequence, behavior of “boys being boys” excused). Now I think a lot of the expectations around school (be quiet, don’t run around, no recess), favors girls. They were not designed TO favor girls, but because of crowding, standardized testing, etc.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:18 PM
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Never again would I date a man I was “friends” with first (my husband and I were friend-ly at work, but never spoke to each other outside of the office). From my experience, men that I was “friends first” before dating never treated me the way I would have been treated by a regular guy who wanted to date me. I had relaxed standards for them from being “Just friends” that were never upped once dating started. I also question how much a guy “pining after his bff” is a matter of true love and conve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 05:44 PM
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One reason for this was that at one point (definitely when I was in college) a man with a high school diploma made more money than a woman with a college degree. Truck drivers, union workers, skilled tradesmen all did better than teachers, nurses and low-level management jobs (majority of jobs held by women with college degrees). Over time, the career opportunities for women with a college diploma have expanded and the opportunities and wages for men with only a high school diploma have shrunk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 05:04 PM
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I’m from the NYC area and this was a thing way back in the day before I got married. It was supposed to be a way for men not to be stalker-ish (this was before everybody had a cell phone lol). I would assume by now when women can get a google voice number that it’s not necessary for men to give you their number to assure your safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 04:32 PM
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Three - A man will take / accept your nurturing but will no longer find you sexy. Because nurturing is what mom does and mom is not sexy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 11:15 PM
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Even if he did pay for dinner....your cousins husband thinks you should invite a guy over after ONE DATE to your apartment? When he says you are too picky....does he mean you are too picky not to spread your legs for a guy you barely know? smh. I’m sure if you slept with that LVM and never heard from him again, your lovely cousin-in-law would say “what did you expect, after sleeping with him on the second date?” Then you would be “too easy.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 07:18 PM
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Unless you are comfortable with a relationship without PIV sex, let this guy sort out his problems (quickly!) or dump him. There are women who would be satisfied getting orgasms even if there was no eventual penetration. You don’t have to be one of them. it’s not an unreasonable expectation in an adult sexual relationship. If he can’t maintain an erection without a condom - not your problem either. You are not his urologist or psychiatrist. You say he doesn’t have any diseases but he could have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 06:18 PM
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I am proud of you too! YOU come first! YOU are your first priority!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 06:03 PM
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Agree! He will wait until you are hooked / “in love” and then stop paying and insist “fair is fair.” One of the reasons women on this sub are told not to tell men what their standards are. Don’t let make fake pretend they meet those standards. See how he behaves and determine if he meets your standards. It’s not your job to train him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 05:44 PM
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(I am married / not dating but have many single and divorced friends) I would not think less of a man who offered a coffee date initially because that is “the norm” for many people - women actually prefer a quick coffee so they can quickly escape if they don’t feel the chemistry right away (and that happens OFTEN! - especially since men lie about their age, weight, level of fitness, and use 15 yo photos). BUT....if the woman says she would prefer to meet for dinner, a HVM will agree to meet for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 05:39 PM
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An HVM won’t ask. They assume you have a past but don’t feel the need to ask for your number. While they aren’t bothered by the fact that you have been with other guys, they don’t feel the need to hear the details. They assume what went on between you and past lover(s) is private, and will not talk about the sex they had with the women in their past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 05:16 PM
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I had one of those #metoo experiences at work. It wasn’t sexual but my male boss was abusive. I was not the first woman (or employee) who thought so. The female HR Director actually lied to my face covering up for my boss when I pointed out an outright lie he had inserted into my review.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 05:09 PM
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“It puts the lotion on its skin....” - Silence of the Lambs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 05:00 PM
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i don’t understand the mentality of a person who thinks sex is fun even if his partner isn’t into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 04:47 PM
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You never know with the Kardashians though. It could be just for ratings, because it’s click bait. It would bother me more if I felt their moves were genuine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 04:44 PM
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In other words “it’s your fault I ghosted you....”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 04:39 PM
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Not to mention how rape is a regular occurrence in GOT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:09 AM
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And that’s just hiding the chin....don’t forget the hats disguising a receding hairline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:41 PM
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Maybe talk about your feelings. Such as saying “it would give me such peace of mind if you reassure me you’ll be careful when you are in the tree stand.”
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 06:17 PM
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Weeks after he told me if we should talk, he wanted to try it out again, saying if he could still work. I agreed because I still like him. That was September. It seems to me that you got back together, but the problems that drove you apart did not change. He is still being secretive, still talking to that girl without giving you a heads up. It’s as if he behaved in a shady way and then broke up with YOU. HE wanted back together, but now you should just keep your mouth shut to avoid the “drama” t…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 06:14 PM
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So glad you got out!! What a POS! I’m so sorry about your cat! I hope you are able to get the cat back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 04:27 PM
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I recently read an article by a woman and in the story she talked about how a guy started choking her the first time they had sex. And then followed that with something along the lines of “...not that I wouldn’t be turned on by something like that, if he had asked permission....” As if, not to sound uptight, she has to add that she COULD BE into it, but the main problem is that he didn’t ask first (during the first time they had sex with each other). SMH - what guy feels good about himself putti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 04:03 PM
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The holidays are always stressful for us Do you want every holiday for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE to be like this? It doesn't have to be! Holidays for me and my H are full of joy. Yes, there is stress involved with the work that we CHOOSE to do (decorating, buying gifts, traveling to see relatives), but both of us work together to try and make the holiday easier on the other (example: H would take the kids for the day on a "special activity" so that I could wrap). ​ He blew up on me calling me awful,…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 03:26 PM
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You should not move for a man unless you are married or engaged. Moving = a spouse benefit and this guy has not proven to you he is a good partner. A man who hasn't even completed high school by age 30, hasn't worked in 10 years, can only work part time, criticizes your eating and insults your sexual past, who may trigger your depression ....why would you want to commit yourself to that kind of partner? Great sex and little gifts will not carry you through the rest of your life. It is not your j…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/20 09:05 PM
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Before you can be a good partner for someone else, you need to be the best person you can be. I think it is part of self-care. That being said, therapy isn't for everyone and does not work for everyone - I hate it when people throw out the advice "get therapy" as if that were the only option. There are therapists who are great, and therapists who should not be practicing. Even well-qualified therapists might help one person and not be able to connect with another. In addition, there are differen…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/20 08:38 PM
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A big theory on mean girls is that they are the people who are lazy and don't do their jobs well They pick on the women who work hard, trying to get them to leave, because they know the hard working women make them look bad. What girl who grew up going to French schools and riding horses ends up with a "dirty job?" Unless it is cleaning horse stalls so she can board her horse, I have sincere doubts she is telling the truth. Or if she is....she has fallen down the social ladder. Are there any oth…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/20 07:48 PM
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I think you’re asking him to be more than a boyfriend to you and that’s not fair to him. If you are going through a rough patch in your life, then it’s up to fix it - by seeking therapy or mental health support services, by going out to meet new friends, by looking into tutoring services provided by your uni. At your age and when you gave been dating for less than one year, dating should be fun and easy. Your bf should not have the responsibility of filling the holes in your life. That’s your jo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/20 01:58 PM
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You need to realize that RPW is not the same as RP for men. I don't know the particular reading lists, but if you find a man who claims to be red-pilled, they are not often the men that RPW are looking for. This man's values are the complete opposite of the values that women on this site embrace. A man who cheats, LEAVES HIS CHILD for a woman, lays the blame for bad relationships on the feet of "his ex," by his victim mentality, by the fact that he LEFT THE COUNTRY that his child lived in, that …
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/20 11:40 PM
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Reminds me of the advice “if a friend (or your daughter) came to you for advice, what would you say / do? Would you tell her to put up with this situation or bad behavior? If the answer is no, why aren’t you acting like your own best friend?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 04:01 PM
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I completely agree! I’m not sure what blogs you are referring to - I am turned off by Anna Bey’s school of affluence videos (she hasn’t married her rich boyfriend)! I think Dominique Sache has her own career and she also posts clothing in many price points. I agree you should love your spouse whether he makes a large salary or not. I remember a Dr. Phil episode (even if you don’t like him) where his wife said when they married he didn’t have a lot of money, but she knew he would do whatever it t…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/20 07:29 PM
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Is he over-confident or as women are we under-confident? (Body wise - I’m more repulsed by his messy and in need of repair bathroom than I am by his body). I’m in better shape than that guy, but would never post like that because of the extra weight (“I’m too faaaaaat!”) and lack of muscle tone that I have. However, if a woman with a similar BMI to that guy posted a shot and “come and get it” caption (in a clean bathroom), I’d applaud her for being body positive. Of course there are men who woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 02:36 PM
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Brilliant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 02:05 PM
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Cooking, cleaning or decorating his place (he can see how well you keep a home by seeing how nice yours is), making plans / buying gifts for HIS family (or kids), helping out with his business, running errands that don’t benefit you (so, it’s ok to pick up sunscreen for the trip he is taking you on to the tropics, not ok for you to pick up his dry cleaning).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 02:00 PM
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He cheated because he is a cheater. If you take him back, you are telling him it’s ok to cheat. Do you want to re-live this experience 10 years and 2 kids from now? If not, move on and find a more worthy partner.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 01:25 PM
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I’m late to the conversation but wanted to chime in as well. I second and third every one who said that you should thank / praise him AFTER he delivers, not before. Don’t provide him with the ego boost of thanks and gratitude until he has actually given you something. If he says “I’ll.....(take you shopping, but your furniture, lease you a car....)” smile sweetly and say “what a nice offer. When should we go shopping?” try and subtlety pin him down for a date and time. I completely agree that yo…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 05:12 AM
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What works for me is trying to cut out processed foods and eat as cleanly as possible. Meaning - if I can’t pronounce the ingredients, I shouldn’t be eating it. Not just for weight management, but I don’t want garbage doing into my body. Start loving your body and ask yourself why you would think of garbage food as a “treat” or “cheat”
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 04:54 AM
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Maybe hang back for a bit. Friendships ebb and flow. You don’t have to drop her as a work friend, but that doesn’t mean you have to confide in her, either. I’m not telling you to SAVE this relationship, but you can take the good parts of it and minimize the bad. Look for ways to engage with her that don’t make you resentful. Find your common ground or common interests (such as teaching, love for kids, etc.), compliment her. Maybe ask what projects she is working on, ask her how she develops new …
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 07:09 PM
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Congrats to you and your Captain!
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 06:52 PM
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No. We realize that are votes cancel each other out so no issues at election time. And we agree on social issues so treat everybody with respect and kindness in daily life. We both are good environmental stewards (recycle, minimize waste). Most of what we disagree on (politically) is what policies work better.....since that rarely applies to our daily lives there is no point fighting. I guess an example would be (very simplified so I don’t retype an essay) if you had the question “how do you red…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 05:27 PM
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No! We are registered to vote in opposite parties. But we do overlap on social issues. I would never STFU about my political opinions and would never expect anyone to do the same with me. We talk about our different viewpoints and either agree or don’t. We are both open to listening to opposing views (of anyone not just each other) without attacking based on their politics
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 10:40 AM
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I think if you “get back” with him in any way, shape or form you will end up in the same relationship you just got free from, and you will have wasted 12, 14, 16 months instead of “only” 10. You will NOT have the upper hand. And right now you would just be giving him another chance based on WORDS (which are cheap). Read your list again - the things you were asking for should be considered the bare minimum for a partner you live with. Referring to you as a “friend and flat mate” yo his ex FFS? I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 03:07 AM
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You are not a clown! Congratulate yourself for taking out the trash so you can start 2020 off right! The only thing you did wrong was to provide your gf and your now-ex bf with two many chances. Both of them learned that they could flake on you and everything would be ok because you would roll with it. Think of it this way - you are freeing up space in your life for higher quality friends and boyfriends. You might spend some time alone, but that’s only because low-quality people are a dime a doz…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 02:57 AM
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I am married (so not dating) but the single / divorced (dating) people I know assume that until you talk about and agree on an exclusive relationship, you should assume that the other person is seeing other people and that you are free to do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:56 AM
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I highly recommend “The Gift of Fear.” Excellent book and spot-on about trusting your gut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:41 AM
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The laws differ by state, but in my state, spouses have many protections that “partners” do not share. (I realize there are non-marital relationships where people DO feel as committed as if they are married, but I am referring to the legal / financial aspects. I am not a lawyer but worked with financial and estate planning): 1) You are not allowed to disinherit your spouse; they are entitled to a certain % of your estate. If you are only a “partner” your other half can re-write their will at any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 11:37 PM
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I would see your point if the OP were at a bar, talking with guy#1, and guy#2 decided he was not going to let that stop him from approaching / trying to win her. From the OPs post, it seems office guy's attention while she has a boyfriend is something that she does not welcome. Unless the "office guy" knows that her relationship with her bf is not working out or she is open to dating others, he should be respecting her relationship because that's what SHE wants. I do feel that unless two people …
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/19 08:04 PM
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"Id prefer to meet in XYZ neighborhood (your neighborhood)." - no need to explain why, it's what you prefer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 07:48 PM
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If this is happening every time you are there, I would tell the volunteer coordinator that you won’t be able to come in until his behavior ends. It’s unacceptable that he hasn’t stopped after being spoken to by his boss. You are being sexually harassed and don’t deserve this. It’s the hospitals job to protect you. His behavior is creepy and if I were his boss I’d wonder how he acted around patients who were sleeping or doped up on pain medication. An alternative might be offering to work on a di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 04:15 AM
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That's a little extreme.... The OP is in a relationship / DATING. Ultimately, if a man wants your complete romantic loyalty, he should put a ring on your finger and make the ultimate commitment. A man shouldn't expect total loyalty unless he is willing to give more in the way of commitment. As Beyonce sings...."if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it." The OP has not gone on a date or kissed the work guy. She is not disrespecting the man she is dating (who she is not compatible wit…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 06:49 PM
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Personally, I am not a fan of this guy. I think it is disrespectful to make suggestive comments to someone who is in a relationship. Ditto for someone you work with (during work time, although if these conversations are happening at parties our gtg outside of work its not as bad). I say this as someone who met their H at work. (He was in a relationship when I met him, but although he was friendly with me like he was with everyone, he did not act like he was "on the prowl."). The only reason I da…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 06:41 PM
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I did not tell her to play games. I told her to not see him every day and work on the other parts of her life that make her a more well-rounded person and more interesting partner. I would never be interested in a partner that was available every day because they had nothing else going on in their life. No friends, no hobbies. That kind of person would be sooooo boring.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 05:29 PM
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You are NOT running out of time! So many boys (I won't use the term men) under the age of 25 are complete dodo birds anyway....let some other woman start training him to be a good boyfriend! There are a few quotes that remind me of what you are going through: Never apologize for having high standards. People who really want to be in your life will rise up to meet them. - Anonymous We only get what we believe we deserve. Raise the bar, raise your standards, and you will receive a better outcome -…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 05:24 PM
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I'm kind of a mixed qualification for this....we have a household income that some might consider high, but we live in a high COL state, so it doesn't go far! One thing that helped is that once my kids went to school full time (when my youngest was in 3rd grade and my oldest could watch him for short periods of time) I started working PT. I worked between 9-20 hours a week while the kids were in school so that helped a lot. I know other families where the moms would take jobs like substitute tea…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 04:54 PM
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Do you have a cute photo of the two you can put in a nice frame and give to him?
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 12:58 PM
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My goal is to incorporate a routine that allows me • Practice piano • Workout • Write every day. Another goal is to get a FT job after working PT for several years.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 03:23 AM
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Decluttering was my 2019 goal. I did a great job if I do say so myself! My house is easier to clean, the basement is a much better space for my kids (teenagers, they really did not need stuffed animals and legos anymore!) I gave a ton of stuff away to charity. After cleaning out / decluttering my closet I found I had more to wear! I still have more to do (and Christmas doesn’t help!) but the results have been amazing!
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 03:17 AM
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First of all, start by having gratitude and acknowledging the beta qualities that are good. No woman wants a man who is 100% alpha. If he is thoughtful, caring, communicative, a good father....thank him when he demonstrates those Beta qualities! Present the issue as a problem “I get so overwhelmed when the house is cluttered.” “Managing the laundry stresses me out.” If you want H to handle something, then don’t do it yourself. I have never planned our anniversary dinner (I did call a sitter when…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 03:09 AM
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I love animals, but am not much of a cat person. I don’t hate them, but am pretty meh. Our family has a dog and I handle 85% of his care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:34 AM
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It sounds like this relationship isn’t working for either of you. Both of you sound miserable. End things so that you can both find partners who are better suited for you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 08:41 PM
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He will either love you or he won’t. People say men are more logical but from my experience they are more romantic. Ask why they love their wife or gf and they can’t come up with a reason. They believe in “the thunderbolt” Be your authentic self and he will love you or not. You should be the best version of yourself for YOU. Be your own person and develop your own interests and friendships. Don’t rely on him for companionship or something to do on a Friday night. You can spoil him with sweetness…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 08:12 PM
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I would stop seeing him every day. Put the brakes on, slow down, and spend time developing your work, school, hobbies, friendships, or other outside interests. Give him time and space to miss you. If he complains about seeing less of you, sweetly say you’ll miss him too and can’t wait until your next date.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 08:02 PM
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Always listen to your gut! It is rarely / never wrong! When a guy is into you, you’ll know. When he isn’t you’ll be confused. Look for ACTIONS, not words. A guy who is into you will not ignore you at a party! WTF? Men are lazy. Finding a gf can be work. LV men would rather stick with a girl they are not into, padding the time until the girl of his dreams comes along. Holding onto you gives him status (guy with a gf), ego boost, someone to hang with when he is bored. He is probably hoping it will…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 07:54 PM
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1) They don’t think of long term consequences to their actions. 2) If they have or want children, men want the best possible gene pool and care for the. offspring (so they seek an attractive, smart, nurturing mate). Side pieces don’t require any of these qualities. 3) They value ease of access and novelty over looks and character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:41 PM
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You should be relieved that he is not that into you. You can break off with him without looking back. To be honest, it sounds like he despises you and just keeps you around for ready-accessible sex and to not be lonely. And for the ego strokes. (I am sorry to say this and wish I did not have to be so blunt because you don’t deserve to be hurt any more than you already gave been. I honestly feel your relationship is dangerous to you emotionally. Look up “emotional abuse” and domestic violence and…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 05:28 PM
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It is not easy to make friends once you leave school. There are plenty of articles about how hard it is to make friends or couples friends so you are not alone. I second (third?) the advice to volunteer. You will meet giving, charitable, civic-minded people that way. Or consider joining a women’s group (local women’s club, welcome wagon, newcomers club). Work on making yourself more interesting - by reading good books or articles, spending time on a hobby, trying new things (restaurants, movies,…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 04:36 PM
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Look for articles on “ways women lead.” Harvard Business Review has a good article and so do other magazines / blogs. Women as leaders / CEOs are different from men. They listen more, are more team-focused, encourage participation, and share information and ideas. All feminine qualities and all that contribute to business success.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 01:36 PM
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I feel that in many ways, it’s an extrovert’s world. Qualities that make you a good friend - honesty, loyalty, intelligence - aren’t apparent in a first meeting and most people are attracted to the sparkly personality. Extroverts especially will often look at an introvert and assume they are stuck up or unfriendly because they are not chatting it up. (Although I’m wondering if it’s only LV extroverts who make this assumption before they take the time to get to know you).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 12:58 PM
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They are hard to find if you allow LVM to monopolize your time and attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:24 AM
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(I’m not a FDS expert so not sure this is FDS advice, but...) I would re-evaluate your plans to stay with him. He is not making you feel secure and loved. Why would you live (even temporarily) with someone like that? The “joke” about not picking you up at the airport wasn’t “funny” at all. I would find it hurtful, especially at a time when you are physically vulnerable. Do you have another friend you can stay with? I would make plans with them. Or else start working on your plan B (staying where…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:09 AM
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You don't know what to do? How about dump his A$$! A good relationship will not make you stressed out. It would not be a "rocky road." You will not be miserable every other week. You will not feel that you are always making mistakes. A great guy would not always find fault with you. If something is a deal-breaker, he would break up with you. He would also not have two sets of standards - you are not allowed to find fault with him, yet he is allowed to cr*p all over you, tell you about your fault…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 01:46 AM
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Some outfit suggestions, not every one will work for you right now, but at different times in my life I have used these and they have worked for me: Sometimes it helps to put together outfits the night before. Then you don't have to think about what you are going to wear when you are rushed in the morning. Throw / give away everything in your closet that doesn't look good on you or is ratty, stained, or doesn't fit right. Even though you have fewer items of clothing, it will be easier to decide …
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 08:05 PM
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Crockpot meals Stir fry chicken and veggies over rice Pasta carbonara or puttanesca I keep frozen ravioli (from Italian delis, not the grocery store) in the freezer to use as a substitute for ordering pizza. I make the ravioli and Trader Joe’s bolognese sauce. It’s faster than pizza and feels like a “real meal.”
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 10:57 AM
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Agree with this! I read this reply and thought of the saying "if a man is interested / likes you, you'll know. if he's not, you'll be confused." So true!
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 10:34 PM
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First of all, you can "learn to cook" on your own without feeding your boyfriend. Unless you are married you should hold off on doing too many "wifey" things for him. So experiment on your own! You can look up basic cooking demos on youtube or a cooking show. I would also suggest you learn a few basic skills (pan-cooked chicken or pork cutlets, rice, grilled veggies). Once you have those skills, you can switch it up, but most of my cooking for my family (H plus kids) is variation on a theme. AND…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 10:29 PM
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First of all, IMO constant arguments are a red flag. Real relationships should be easy. I think that by thinking of this guy as “your future husband” you made a huge error. Him calling you “wifey” is not the same as making plans for the future with you, discussing which country you will live in together, how many children you will have. He had told you how he feels about you and your relationship. Believe him. After this, he will feel he has a pass to do whatever he wants (sleep with other women…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 12:32 PM
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It sounds as if he only is contacting you when he is bored. Don’t accept any gtg with him last minute. Don’t be available for a date the day of. If he texts you “what’s up?” or “what are you doing tonight?” (before he even tries to make a date), tell him you have plans with friends. (Your “plan” can be calling/ texting a friend while you watch tv from home, but don’t let him think you are available last minute). If he is overly sexual, don’t respond. Literally don’t reply to that text. Teach him…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 01:46 AM
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There is a woman who has a you tube video on how she used data analysis to maximize her OLD profile. She made her photos fun and flirty and glamorous (but not too sexy) and also used words like “laugh, fun.” Basically she was very fun and feminine and light in her profile. However, she was also a smart woman and did not hide who she is.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 01:36 AM
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I have the same inverted triangle shape, as well as huge feet! Styles that work for me include sheaths, and fit and flair dresses. Faux-wrap styles also look good. I look better in a dress or top that has a scoop or v-neck. I prefer solid color tops (vs. prints). If I wear a pattern, it’s on the skirt. I avoid halter tops of any kind. They make me look like a linebacker! I also avoid puffy sleeves, or any sleeve detail in general. For shoes I prefer block heel styles. They are sturdy to walk in …
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 01:30 AM
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My doctor actually advised me to start lifting weights to keep fit and improve my bone density. IMO femininity is about how you act and carry yourself. You can be 6 feet tall and muscular and still be incredibly feminine. You can be a boxer (like Leila Ali) or a CEO and still be feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/19 11:55 PM
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If you want a committed relationship, you need to leave this guy. You are giving him all of the power in the relationship. YOU, the person who wants commitment, need to PROVE your commitment to him? Oh honey, no. Do not send him any more nudes and never send nudes to any other man unless he is your husband. You have every right to change your mind about having sexual with him. A women never “owes” a man sex, regardless of flirtations or promises. A married woman doesn’t even OWE her husband sex.…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/19 11:51 PM
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I haven’t read your prior posts so I will just comment on the information that is in this post. 1) she might be nice to the ex because she is an ex. She might be nice to the ex because the ex refused to tolerate her bad behavior. It has nothing to do with you or your likability. Also, I’m not sure if the ex is disabled, but bullies like bfs mom pick on the weak. It’s HER character flaw. I would not care if the mom doesn’t wish you a happy birthday. But I would care how she treats you. 2) I would…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/19 05:34 PM
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I have a mantra when I am cleaning “make room for more in your life” - meaning that if your home or closet is cluttered, you are shutting out opportunities. Go on a shopping strike. Unless you NEED something specific, don’t “go shopping”
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 12:22 PM
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You might want to read articles on “how women lead” (I realize that RPW expect the men to lead IN RELATIONSHIPS but women are leaders in the workforce (CEOs), in education, in volunteer work. But they bring different skills as leaders. Women obviously command respect, but in a different way. They are skilled at communicating vision, developing teams, etc. if you need to control in your relationship, then your may not be strong enough for you. Or you might have other issues that you need to work …
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/19 02:30 AM
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I am going to a wedding next year and the couple met on Tinder. Neither was looking for a casual hook-up, they used tinder because it was the most active / popular app where they lived.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/19 02:18 AM
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It’s over with this guy. He doesn’t even want easy sex with you. Stop chasing him. I agree with the others that nun mode and therapy are the best courses of action. While you are doing that, work to either improve your looks (diet, exercise, clothing, makeup, hair), and-or accomplish something that makes you a more interesting partner (hobby, volunteer, education, career success). You won’t attract this guy, but you will attract a higher quality man.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/19 02:15 AM
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Don’t go to a mans house until you are in a committed relationship. It’s just too easy for “one thing to lead to another.” Even if one or both of you is not ready for the relationship to get that physical. Give him some space. He might need some time to process what happened; losing your virginity can be a big deal, even for a guy. He might be embarrassed. Let him contact you next. He might not and if he doesn’t you just have to let him go. IF he does, DO NOT rush out to his place for more sex. …
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/19 09:41 PM
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I’m wondering what you mean by “masculine side.” Many of the strongest (and most intelligent) people I know are women. And many of those women are very feminine. The two qualities are not at odds with each other. I don’t think being feminine means that you allow people to control or bully or walk over you; that’s being a doormat. Being feminine might mean you handle rude, pushy people in a different way - with poise and grace and class, vs. shouting or meeting rudeness with rudeness. I think in …
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/19 06:38 PM
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First of all, RPW is a lot different than what people believe RP is about (which is more like the RP men’s page, and imo very misogynistic). Good relationships are built on trust and honesty. You don’t have to share everything you find on RPW with your husband, but I wouldn’t lie and say you find the whole thing a joke, either. Tell him you like the parts about....being feminine or nurturing or supportive or whatever. This is a site where you take what works and leave the rest. FWIW, I consider …
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/19 01:02 AM
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“cool girl” and “not like the other girls” are not necessarily the same thing. I would read “why men love b*tches.” IMO “cool girls” are trying to be what they are not; “one of the guys.” Unless you are a GENUINE tomboy (if that term is still used) who can hunt, fish, and throw a punch with the best of them, don't pretend what you are not. I think that most “cool girls” are allowing themselves to be taken for granted. I personally love watching sports. I’m active (bike riding, yoga, walking, hik…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/19 07:53 PM
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Honestly, this doesn’t sound like a great guy to me. I don’t dive, but to say it doesn’t require any skill (one of the few sports / activities that requires certification!) is ignorant. At the very least, he isn’t a great guy for you. This is as good as your relationship is going to get. Do you want a lifetime of buttoning your lip when you have a bad day? Of playing down your talents or interests because your partner doesn’t like them? There is NOTHING WRONG with sending an enthusiastic text ab…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/19 03:31 AM
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“Unsubscribe” to anything that tempts you to buy more. Get taken off catalog mailing lists. Stop following fashion bloggers on Instagram.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/19 06:35 PM
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I didn’t read all of the comments so forgive me if I am repeating. You are making and planning and serving the meals - you get to choose. I can understand YOU saying “I won’t make three separate meals” but cannot understand your husbands rationale. If anything, I would prepare “well-rounded” meals. Look up dietary advice for kids. They actually need a lot of carbs because they need energy and burn calories in activity way more than adults. Even non-active kids. Fad diets like Keto (all meat) are…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/19 06:02 PM
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Don’t make plans with him. Make plans with other friends. Don’t go to see him to “hang out,” have sex, make dinner, study, whatever. Don’t meet him last minute at a bar or other hangout. Don’t let him “stop by” your place - if he does tell him you’re about to go out and (sweetly) shut the door. Then go out....to the library, to the grocery store, to a friends house. If he wants to see you, let HIM plan a date. If he wanted to see you or liked the activities, I doubt he would forget or not think …
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/19 05:38 PM
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I disagree that after five years he’s obviously into the OP. Complacent and “not that into you” are not mutually exclusive.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/19 05:30 PM
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I have children who are almost that age. But even when I was closer to 30....guys that young did not interest me. Qualities I like in a man - wisdom, intellect, warmth, caring, responsibility - aren’t apparent in most 18yos. Looking back, there were very few 20-25 year olds that interested me even when I was that age!
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/19 05:28 PM
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Where did you come up with the idea that women are not wired to be responsible? And that men are? Many child support laws (and agencies! And garnishment provisions) are on the books now because men would walk away from their wives and children. The women stayed with their children. Women were responsible for birth control because the consequence was on them. A man could walk away and, until recently, claim it was not his. I’m not saying either men or women are responsible or irresponsible - but …
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/19 05:20 PM
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To guys you were casually dating: “I’ve enjoyed our time together, but I’m taking a break from dating to focus on XYZ” (“my studies,” “my projects at work” “new hobby that I have” - don’t say to focus on yourself). or “I don’t think we are a match.” To FWB: tell him you’re not available anymore; you’ve got something else going on in your life now (don’t tell him any more than that). Being friends with people who are romantically interested in you is cruel. It gives them hope for down the road. Y…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/19 05:13 PM
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I think one piece of advice that works romantically or not is to keep things positive. If you can’t be positive around them (or if they are negative) they aren’t a good fit for you. Also, don’t focus on other people. If you go out with a friend, focus on the two of you. If you are “getting to know” someone (male or female) this counts double! Keep things light and fun. The goal should be to have a good time and get to know each other. You can talk about or argue about deep intellectual things do…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/19 03:20 PM
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I think there is a world of difference between pointing out to a friend how their behavior may not be getting the results they want / intend, and “slut shaming.” Even the phrase “slut shaming” is vile to me. Both words are incredibly judgemental. High value people IMO have no time to shame or judge others. And they don’t advise people how to live their lives unless asked. I also think that women (and men) are given a lot of conflicting and sometimes damaging advice by society and the media, and …
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/19 02:02 PM
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After you move to the new area, when you run into him, tell him “let’s catch up over lunch” or coffee.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/19 11:14 AM
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Ask for help zipping / Unzipping a top or dress, ask for help putting on a necklace.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/19 06:32 PM
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Since the holidays are coming up, maybe the home made gift for his birthday then the more tech gift for Xmas / Hanukkah. Another option....an “experience” to share like a concert or play or sporting event. I agree not to over think things! Get him something you know he will like and you can afford to give. If you spend a lot for his birthday you don’t have to break the bank for every event after that - so don’t worry about creating a “dynamic” - you can always adjust. I don’t think it’s bad to b…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/19 06:26 PM
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He’s lonely and misses the emotional connection he had with you. It’s better if you cut contact. If you don’t want to delete and block, just be “too busy” for phone calls, movie nights, etc. The time you spend with (unavailable) him is time you could be investing in yourself or in meeting someone who you could have a relationship with. For your own well-being, stay away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 04:54 AM
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Text him you don’t see any long term potential with him and you will be moving on. The “don’t tell me how to do my job” is troubling and strange....most men love feedback and very off putting that he is ignoring that you know what’s best for YOUR body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 04:36 AM
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If he said he was going to make dinner, you don’t have to bring anything. I would NOT bring a gift (like a candle) and I world not bring part of the meal (like dessert). If you want to bring SOMETHING then maybe a bottle of wine (Trader Joe’s has decent wine for $5) or a mini box of chocolate like (also available at TJs or Target for around $5). Not necessary at all to bring something though! Just FYI, most times the invite to dinner at his place really = invite to have dinner then have sex. If …
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/19 06:06 PM
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You don't have to settle if you need more romance or effort or physical affection or orgasms. I would not be okay with the way your BF is either. IMO you are prioritizing “the relationship” and it’s survival above your personal satisfaction and happiness with the relationship. There are no gold stars for sticking with a guy who ultimately doesn’t provide you with what you need in a relationship. Your boyfriend doesn’t need to change, but he doesn’t need to be your boyfriend, either! You don’t ne…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/19 08:08 AM
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Why do you assume the OP is a “diversity hire”? Because she is a woman you assume she is not as qualified? Lots of guys play video games from a young age - that doesn’t mean they can handle assignments at work.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/19 04:48 AM
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To be honest, I was probably a bit "dowdy" when I was younger (lol once I was walking in a town that had a very conservative religious sect, and I blended right in! I wasn't trying to, it was just the way I dressed! naturally) I still wear clothes that I had many, many years ago. I tend to buy "basics" that I can wear many seasons. I now mix things up a bit - I'll wear a "basic" top with a skirt that is more colorful. I am trying to look less black (once the bulk of my wardrobe) because I think …
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/19 03:53 PM
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I have been in your shoes (different field - finance - but treated similarly even when I went above and beyond, was fully capable, etc. I trained people who were then given more high visibility assignments! My real advice is to leave. You can’t change a dinosaur. Transfer out to a different boss or a new company. You might even look for a part of your field that is more female friendly. I personally got tired of going up against a wall and in the end it impacted my performance (after years of do…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/19 02:36 PM
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Even if nothing physical ever happens between them, I see really poor boundaries with both your boyfriend and his female friend. If you can, check out the book "Not just friends" It's a pretty popular book and you can probably get it from your public library. IMO, the male (the female friend's exbf) was right - it is wrong to discuss your relationship problems with someone outside of the relationship. Especially a relationship that is six years old! The female friend was using your boyfriend as …
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/19 04:46 PM
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Congrats!
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/19 10:14 PM
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I’m not sure why your post was downvoted either! I saw it more of an “anti-slut-shaming“ post than anything else. IMO high value people (men or women) do not degrade others. They may choose not to date a promiscuous person, but judging others is not HV. In fact, just the opposite; a true lady (or gentleman) would not comment on the sex life of another. The only man that slut-shamed me probably had 50x more partners than I had (my n-count was extremely low and his was extremely high). I wish I ha…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/19 08:34 PM
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You are 24 - you are allowed to raise the standards for yourself at any time. No time like now! If you can do it honestly / truthfully, try to reframe your past in a positive way / a way that doesn't seem low value - such as "I've been monogamous with every partner I've had," or "I've never had a one night stand." (not sure if either of these statements are true for you, but they might help you). I think part of your problem is that you didn't value yourself enough, and because of that you chose…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/19 06:17 PM
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“If he likes you, you’ll know. If he doesn’t, you’ll be confused” - which category do you fall into? If he were interested, he would be with you, would be initiating contact, would be planning dates. Move on.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/19 12:47 PM
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I started dating my husband when I was 30. My sister was 33 when she married her H. I am about to go to a wedding where the bride will be 34 (she met the groom when she was 32). I personally don't believe in the "men prefer younger women" (even if that is part of RPW thoery). Most men I have met want women who are "on the same page" as they are - similar life experiences, similar education. (Disclaimer: my H is older than I am. He did date women his own age, but he wanted kids and women his age …
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/19 03:18 AM
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I'm not a gamer, but I am an introvert. I am married, but when H was only my boyfriend, I would still need my space (H traveled a lot for work when we were dating / married so I had a large amount of free time in the beginning of our relationship). I would look forward to "me" time when I could be alone, didn't have to accommodate BF (now H), didn't feel obligated to "snuggle" while I watched tv, didn't have to choose a program "that we both can enjoy." As much as I enjoyed and treasured our tim…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/19 02:53 AM
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Maybe if you change your screen name you would appear to be less of a bimbo. You really didn’t make the classiest choice of names. Perhaps you need to work on yourself more before you get a boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 05:03 AM
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My H is more than 10 years older than I am and belongs to a different political party. (for a clue, I am one of the people on this board who does NOT believe that "feminist" is a dirty word). IMO, the age difference is not a power imbalance. We met when I was older. I think more important than what political party you belong to (or conservative vs. liberal)....are your VALUES the same? Often, members of both parties want similar things, but disagree on the way to get them... I very often see my …
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 10:27 PM
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Wow! Sounds like a great weekend! Congrats to him for his PB and you for being such a great cheerleader and partner!
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 01:04 PM
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I would do natural consequences for BOTH of them. Your BF is as much to blame as his DD (I say this as a mom with a sloppy teen of my own). You do not owe your BF any amount of housework because you are living in a house you couldn’t afford on your own. His house is his choice - you could afford your own place if you lived by yourself. Buy a bin for the laundry room and if her dirty clothes are in the washer take them out and leave them in the bin for her to handle. She’ll wash her clothes when …
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 12:56 PM
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I actually disagree that men don't see any advantage of getting married - study after study proves that married men (and married, not in a LTR) live longer, are healthier, are financially better off and report being happier than single men. That being said.... I really believe that men get married when "the time is right" for them and whoever they are dating at the time is the lucky lady he chooses. I know people who predict men getting engaged based on their age (28), I usually bet an engagemen…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 03:19 AM
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Instead of reminding him "in case he forgot," let him know what the problem is: "babe, the mess in the living room really stresses me out." You might stress the importance of timeliness when he offers / takes over to help by letting him know what the problem is: "I'm so glad you're going to fix the sunglasses the baby broke; I really need them because my eyes are so sensitive to the glare."
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 03:09 AM
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These people are not your friends. I would cut contact with both (you don't have to be dramatic if you don't want, although there is nothing wrong with ending a relationship with a "friend" who uses you for sex or hops into a relationship with a man you slept with). I completely disagree that women can be savages when it comes to men. I would never in TEN MILLION YEARS hook up with the ex of a good friend. NEVER1 I even ask permission before I accept social media requests from my friends exBFs. …
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/19 09:21 PM
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What you should not worry about: The fact that he was attracted to you for your looks. That is the hamster spinning inside your brain. Most male-female dating relationships are based on initial attraction! You have obviously built something from there! I also wouldn't worry about comments that are not flirtatious. Unless you want a partner who has no female friends / never had a female friend, then you will need to deal with (non-flirty) posts and likes. He can't change the fact that he was frie…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/19 09:10 PM
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There are youtube videos about using feminine energy to attract a man (Helena Hart and Adrienne Everhart are two vloggers). You might try watching them. IMO you should watch women's dating advice, particularly women who are married (men may be good for some dating topics, but not for how to be feminine). If you use dating apps, say that you are interested in a long-term relationship. (You will still get guys that are only interested in ONS, but it will at least weed out a few - you will still ne…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/19 08:45 PM
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Yes! It is VERY difficult to find a romantic partner when you are living in the suburbs (I've been there, done that!). Many men who live in the suburbs are married with kids - the pool of eligible men is small. Unless you are very young (under 24), there are men who will not date you because you live with your parents (this might vary by culture). In addition, you will learn so much about yourself living on your own. Plus, it might be better for your career if you can get to work more quickly. Y…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/19 08:34 PM
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Excellent advice - please tell me I up (not down) voted this...I'm on my computer and the arrow only points down so I double clicked it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 06:38 PM
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Glad you found someone who appreciates your values instead of wanting to change you!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 06:28 PM
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I agree! I would also say that it is the most gratifying for THIS (me) woman - that does not mean it is the most gratifying thing for any / all women.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 03:04 PM
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To someone who is older (I am Female) "dresses like a 16yo" and "dresses like an average girl in her 20s (at uni)" are the same. A 20 yo male is not going to take a chance by wasting his time approaching possible "jailbait." There is a HUGE difference between a 26 yo male going for a 22 yo female and a guy the same age going after a 17 yo. The latter is creepy and gross - to him, to his peers, to the girl. (There is also a lack of "common interests" with the 26 yo vs 17 yo difference....what wou…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 02:59 PM
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Things you can discuss with her: things that impact you. If you don't want to hear her negative comments (about men, or anything), if you are concerned about her mental health (not because of her political beliefs, but because she seems angry, upset, and tense), if her anger is directed specifically towards you or someone you love. You can also say "I disagree," or "we're going to have to agree to disagree." If you don't care to discuss politics, tell her you will not be discussing politics (or …
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/19 03:49 PM
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I know what you mean by going crazy just with decorating. Not the same at all, but my husband and I have totally different decorating styles. He likes a lot of stuff "going on" (patterns, wallpaper), and I like a clean, mono-chromatic look. Something some people would dismiss as "very beige." Patterns give me a headache. He loves our bedroom wallpaper, and I literally feel like I am "drowning" in it (it's dark blue with a pattern). (It hasn't changed because...finances, but I have made other cha…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/19 03:31 PM
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I don't know if you like to cook, but maybe when you visit you can bring a covered dish (casserole, baked ziti, etc) to eat during your stay? Its usually customary to bring something for the host, and if they don't enjoy "posh" gifts, perhaps an inexpensive dinner dish would be best. Think about home made gifts. Kate Middleton made chutney for the Queen (her husband's grandmother) and the Queen enjoyed it! Bake something, or make something that doesn't go bad. Some people just have that "depress…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 04:18 AM
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Did you ever tell him that being with a woman....therapist, doctor, etc. would make you uncomfortable? If not, then you need to make this clear. If he had the "no men" standard and you just assumed it worked both ways without speaking....he could easily assume that women professionals didn't bother you. You might try asking him what he would think if you told him that seeing a woman massage therapist made you feel like he felt about you seeing a male. Does he think his discomfort is silly now, s…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 06:26 PM
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Treat this like a NEW relationship. The old relationship you had, that you started 7 years ago, is dead. You and he are both different people now. If a guy you just met told you he wanted to date you, but he was depressed and not in a good space....would you hang around to "be there for him"? No. Hang out with his mom? No. Stop dating other people? No. (No need to flaunt dates in his face, post on snapchat, but you can still meet and date other people). Give him space. Who knows what his head is…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 06:15 PM
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Why are you not invited to these parties and weddings? I would think that if you moved down to be with him you are enough of a "couple" to be included (unless it is guys nite out, drinking or sports bar type of parties). I can even understand if a bride and groom had a "no ring, no bring" policy for guests....but if the two of you are a COUPLE you should be invited (unless there are severe restrictions on guests and ONLY married or engaged people can bring a plus one). Does his engineering schoo…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 06:10 PM
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What don't you ask him to clarify what he means? For a lot of men, sex = validation. It's how they feel appreciated, loved, how they know that their partner is attracted to them. Words ("you're so handsome!" "I appreciate how hard you work for our family!") don't mean anything to them. It's how they feel close to you. That can often mean sex only from their spouse / partner, but be sure your boyfriend is on the same page.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 02:05 AM
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Yes you were assaulted. I'm so sorry that happened to you. Is there a sexual assault hotline you can call? They can tell you what steps to take from a health perspective and if you decide to call the police. I would never contact that guy again - block him on your phone and social media. He is not safe.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 01:57 AM
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You haven't even met this guy; cut your losses, end your "friendship," and spend your time meeting people who share the same values. There is no reason you should be so "attached" to someone you have not met. Don't bet on this guy changing - accept him the way he is. But the fact is that you do not share the same values. That's not a positive sign for a LTR. There ARE men out there with the same / similar values about sex that you have. MOST (not all, but the majority) of the men I knew when I w…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 12:50 AM
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WTF does he care if you do your own laundry or not? Am I missing something? Are you supposed to be doing HIS laundry, too? If he is mad at you for not doing YOUR OWN laundry - yes, this is a red flag. He is waaaaay to invested in your life, and a bit controlling. As long as your clothes are clean when you go out with him, then he doesn't get to tell you when or how you clean your clothes. Now, if you do the laundry for the two of you, and he is out of clean underwear because you promised to do t…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 12:38 AM
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After one date, he doesn't owe you the time of day. One date is not a relationship, no matter what you talked about during that day, no matter how much money he spent, how many hours the date lasted. That being said...if he wanted to call you, he would have called you. No one is EVER too busy for the things that are a priority for them. I refuse to give out a sub par half hearted text I call B/S on this. I will give an example.... My H loves to receive cards. In the mail. I am NOT so organized t…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 12:17 AM
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With men, you need to not pay attention to what they SAY and instead pay attention to what they DO. Your bf can tell you you are in his long term plan, he sees you getting married....if he wanted to marry you, he would have proposed. Especially if you had a talk about feeling anxious....he would have proposed before August. He would not need to "figure it out." After six years (even if you were very young during the first couple of years), a move to a foreign country, and living together - he wo…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 12:00 AM
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I break tasks into the steps you need, then start on the "first steps" and get them done. For example, if tomorrow I have to call the dog groomers, the dentist, and my hair stylist to make appointments, I'll 1) take out my calendar and put a pencil next to it and 2) look for / write down the phone numbers I need to call. That way tomorrow I won't have all of those things to do - I'll just have to dial the phone. It also motivates me because when it's time to call, I don't have all of the "little…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 03:32 AM
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I disagree that women don't age well (one of the things on this thread that I disagree with). I went to my HS reunion... Many women looked great or even better than they did in HS; few men looked as good or better. This is probably because women take care of themselves! Fitness - eat healthy foods, don't overeat, exercise. Any exercise will do as long as it is something you can do regularly. Skin - SUNSCREEN! Don't tan (spray tan only). Drink plenty of water. Wash your makeup off every night. Do…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 11:08 PM
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The only guy who ever asked me for my n-count was an a-hole. (Well, one guy asked if I was a virgin because he was going to be extra careful if I was). Adults have a past and they have sex and they have sexual partners. IMO you need to work on your self-esteem. If you feel insecure around the men you are attracted to, then work on yourself and develop qualities (whether it is looks, accomplishments, hobbies, social skills) that make you a better and more confident partner. A man who is worth you…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 10:37 PM
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My first thought is that you should be spending time working on your anxiety, social phobias, getting over your abusive past and strange attachment to someone you haven't seen in 10 years. The truth about ONS is that they are rarely "all that" for women. A man who picks you up in a bar and takes you home for one night is (statistically) not going to make sex satisfying for you. Add to that your social phobias and shyness.... a lot of satisfying sex comes from trial and error (even people who are…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 10:24 PM
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Don't waste your loyalty on someone who isn't loyal to you. Support is something you give your boyfriend / LTR. He is no longer your boyfriend, so he cannot expect the support he received before. There are benefits to being your boyfriend; don't give him the benefits (sex, an ear that listens to his problems) if he will not give you a relationship. He will have no reason to miss you if he gets everything he had before, without promising you anything. If he calls you up saying he is sad and wants…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 10:13 PM
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My H had a very bad family situation (evil stepmother). His dad let stepmom do whatever she wanted, so FIL wasn't a good example (I have no doubt FIL loved his kids, but he was lazy, and had his own issues). Nobody helped the kids with their homework, school wasn't a priority (sports was, so they had to get good enough grades not to get thrown off the sports teams). H knew what he wanted in a family, he just didn't know how to get there. Years later....H is a great father. There are ways he coul…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 09:58 PM
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One thing that will benefit your partner by getting married (definitely in my state. This may differ by state, but may be universal in all states): Just including your partner's name on the birth certificate does NOT prove that he is the father from a legal standpoint. That means that if you leave, he has no rights / access to the children until he proves paternity. The husband of a woman who gives birth is presumed to be the father of the child (even if the father is another man). You could dec…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/19 05:06 PM
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My best advice is to cut clutter (which has saved me SO much headache!). In our family (two adults and our two kids) every once in a while we say it is "cleaning day" and we all work together. Nobody can leave the house until the house is clean (very important motivator for teens!). If everyone is working at the same time, nobody (esp me) feels taken advantage of. Of course, you cannot force grown ups to do anything. Some basic maintenance things (if you open it, close it. If you dirty the dish,…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/19 04:44 PM
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I am sorry you had to go through this! I would consider going to a department store and buying an inexpensive CZ ring and claim it is an engagement ring. Don't buy one that is too big...just a small one. Let everyone believe that you are engaged (or "pre-engaged" / "promised"). Let them think your soon-to-be husband is big and strong and will kick #ss. (Some suggestions going forward - please don't take this as victim blaming, but the only thing you can change is you so that is why i am giving t…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 04:12 PM
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I have a large age gap (more than 10 years) with my H. Our last child was born when he was 50. I will say that my H has been a great dad to my kids - very loving and involved, so that is not the issue. Now both of my kids are in high school, but my H has had some minor health scares (nothing serious thank goodness) that made me worry about the future when they happened (scares such as: he had shortness of breath once and I worried about a heart attack. He has had friends in his high school class…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 03:58 PM
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There are 50 states in the US. The laws differ in every one of them.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 09:18 PM
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A lot differs by state. In the state I live in, if one partner (not spouse) dies, the state will take 8% of anything willed to the surviving partner. Spouses, children, parents, and step-children are exempt from this tax bite. Joint assets may be different, but any assets in one partner's name will NOT go automatically to the other partner. ALSO, while a spouse can claim 100% of any non-joint assets and not have a will contested, a "partner" can lose their interest to parents or children who con…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 09:15 PM
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My friends boyfriend (now husband) kept mementos of their dates (starting from the FIRST DATE!) and put them in a shadowbox and gave that to her. If you haven't been collecting (ticket stubs, programs, ski lift tickets) over the years, that won't work, but maybe you could make a collage from pics from the four years you were together.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/19 11:36 PM
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My thoughts on this are....men may "keep" women like that, but they don't marry them. I have a similar thought when I read about the "school of affluence" woman - men might pay for her lifestyle, but nobody has married her.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/19 11:34 PM
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I am in the age bracket (45-55) where if my peers are marrying, it is the second marriage. I honestly don't know any men my age who are dating and choosing women much younger (more than 10 years) than themselves. It's not what they go for. They are not interested in (and cannot afford) another set of kids; it would be embarrassing and creepy for them to date a woman not much older than their teen- or college-aged daughter. They are attracted to WOMEN who share their life experiences (already a p…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/19 11:30 PM
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I have been in the Jr. League for many years. I still have close friends from my first (provisional) year which was over 20 years ago. It was great in helping me meet new people, get involved in the community (specifically, women and children's issues). The JL often gets involved at a high level - their projects can have a great impact. There is training so you can develop skills. Some things to consider (I don't want to be discouraging, because I love being a JL member, but its good to go in wi…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/19 10:55 PM
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"Thank you, but I prefer to meet you" or "Thanks, but I prefer to drive myself." If you don't make a big deal about it, it won't be a big deal. It's completely reasonable to want to drive yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/19 02:15 AM
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I have worked in offices and seen toxic women as well as men. The absolute boss I ever had was a male and the absolute best boss I ever had was a female, but I have had excellent women as well as excellent men bosses. IMO co-workers are nasty to those who threaten them. Many men are not threatened by women, even women in the same position (because there are often advantages to the men just because they are male, sadly). And "threaten" could mean just making the bully look bad because the other p…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 08:02 PM
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I noticed when your BF was not around, you started thriving. IMO your BF is a lot like your mother and is just bringing you down. Move out of your parents home into YOUR OWN place. Learn how to adult in YOUR OWN SPACE, where you can make mistakes without someone criticizing you. Create a home / apt. that shows off your skills, without someone nit-pickng how you got there. If your BF wants you to live with him (to help with rent? to help with chores?) let him put a ring on it. Although I'm not su…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 04:09 PM
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What is HIS love language? You can give him all the gifts in the world, but if his love language is touch or words of affirmation, that won't register with him. If his love language is acts of service, him driving you around is his way of expressing his love (most people express love in the love language that registers with them). Maybe the two of you should find out what your love languages are and discuss the different languages.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/19 07:48 PM
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I had been married a few years (with two kids) when I was laid off. After being laid off, I looked for jobs but couldn't find any, and it was difficult to look for jobs (interviewing, having time to job hunt and send out resumes). Also, I had hated being the person who dropped their kid off early and picked them up late. We decided it worked out for us for me to stay home until my youngest was in 1st grade and in school full time. Then one of my kids had a lot of academic problems, and I stayed …
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/19 01:11 PM
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