Money.

2014-01-28T11:31:31+00:00

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Nonmedicated · 2014-01-28T13:54:06+00:00

Here's my issue with this thinking. You are thinking as the money as a stability guarantee. The stable man will already have "making enough" to care for his family as a priority. A man who makes a lot doesn't equal a man who will use that money wisely, or be in a position to make the mortgage payments, or even want you to not have a career as well. If you focus on a man with a good work ethic and similar values that include raising a family in a safe environment, you will get the stability you are looking for.

2014-01-28T14:17:30+00:00

it is not gold digging to want a man who has already established himself, which is what i think you mean by money. this whole thing about marrying a man for his potential and then suffering together while he makes it is not how it was traditionally done. traditionally a man would spend his youth establishing himself and THEN look among the well bred ladies for a suitable wife. what IS gold digging is deliberately finding a man with money that you don't love and marrying him just for his money.

if you really want to meet a man who is eligible and already established you should make yourself as attractive physically as you possibly can and then do not waste your time going ANYWHERE that isnt full of them. hang around in coffeehouses in the districts where the grown up men work, find out what kinds of restaurants/bars they go to and only go there, find female friends with good husbands and ask to be set up with his friends, dont waste one more particle of your youth being anywhere you cant meet a man whos got it together.

also, lower your physical standards and prepare to treat such a man as a king.

meowfacenator · 2014-01-28T07:59:06+00:00

Just sounds like you're honest. Most women like to think that's not important on some level but it is when one of you is staying home with kids.

Futsushi · 2014-01-28T08:40:26+00:00

It is important, but it is also important that you understand the difference between finding, and supporting, a man with the potential to make that or deciding to just find one that already does.

Your choice in which way to go. However, one is looked upon in a favorable light and the other is called "gold digging" by every man who can't meet the standard and every women who is not being provided for to her imagined SMV standard.

Best of luck to you.

CertusAT · 2014-01-28T21:37:38+00:00

You probably get flak on reddit because it goes against the "women can do it all" narrative. They are so insecure in there life choices that a fellow female choosing to stay home and not peruse a career threatens like them challenges there choices. Why would you stay at home if going for a career is the better choice?

Do what you want to do, if you are upfront it's completely okay

FleetingWish · 2014-01-28T21:47:17+00:00

Of course it's ok to look at income. That's no more shallow than looking at waist lines or intelligence. Money matters, and whoever says otherwise has never lived in a box. And despite what poor people may want to believe, money does buy happiness. Maybe not directly, but it does buy you the security to not have to worry about money, which makes you less stressed and more happy. Studies show marriages work better, and satisfaction of life is higher, at higher income brackets. You don't need to be a billionaire, but you should make a respectable living.

2014-01-29T04:07:26+00:00

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2014-01-29T16:33:47+00:00

Honesty is a virtue, so that already makes you a little better. Besides that fact, you support a man who has the potential to be making what you need to survive. You're thinking of your future family, which is what less women today can say about themselves.

Reddit is full of people who will disagree because they're bitter, feminist, etc. What's important is to know their opinions are not that important, especially if you feel that you're definitely doing something good for your family and others. Be strong.

2014-01-29T22:51:57+00:00

The problem with your plan, from a guy's perspective, is that any guy who has "established himself financially" has options. When a guy is climbing status and money, he is going to be meeting plenty of women like you and plenty of women like you, but who have money of their own. Male doctors will get attention from plenty of surrounding people, female doctors, nurses, etc etc. If they are going to be someone's financial support, why would they be yours when there's someone making 90k to his 160k, who is also attractive? Guys don't factor in secondary traits like status and financials nearly as much as women do, but these guys you want are constantly surrounded by women of various social circles and financials. If they want to be a power couple (which a lot of people do, just not RP people), they will select a woman from that pool. If they want a housewife, they'll find someone with the highest SMV.

This means that if you are looking for a guy to support you, you have to realize, only a pure beta bucks type guy is interested in supporting you. This idealized manly man you have with his great career and alpha traits... you could easily waste your best years on one and at the end, he retreats back into his own social circle and marries a woman from there. Meaning you'll be stuck with a beta bucks, which true isn't so bad, but if you're on RPW, then its hardly what you aspire to get.

Title	Money.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	9
Comments	19
Date	January 28, 2014 7:26 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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