I went to see my immediate and extended family for the holidays. All was normal with everyone and my family is a good family ideally. My husband and I went to visit my Gma. Many relatives were there. My baby was not in the mood to be held by anyone but me and my husband. I went to go in a private room where my mother rested from having a non contagious fever. I tried to set my baby down and he wasn’t having it. So I continued to hold him. My mom then realized I had on a bathing suit under my clothes and insisted she’d see me in it. I told her ok I’ll hand the baby to daddy real quick so I can show you.

I go into the area where my husband was and ask him to hold the baby for a min while I talk to mom. He said ok. My uncle that’s 71 literally yelled at me. Keep in mind we haven’t been in the house for not even 5 min. When he yelled at me I was thrown all the way off. He says to me you’re his mother, you need to take care of YOUR BABY! I was like wait what?! He then proceeds to call me rude and disrespectful and it’s a woman’s job and you see men talking. I said back well great! Now yal can have men’s time together with his son. He’s the baby daddy. I walked off and left to go talk to my mom. Apparently he was so PO’d that he didn’t want to talk to none of us anymore.

One thing I learned from marriage counseling was don’t let anyone in your family dictate how your marriage should be. I’d also like to note that my husband was also in shock and loves holding his son.

My point is…I’m in my mid 30s and I’ve seen generations older than me by 20 to 40 years pass on the negative energy and social stigma of how a real man should be and it’s muddying the whole meaning of how an alpha male should be vs a toxic narcissist and men tend to copy what they see. What do you guys think? My husband could have been embarrassed with me but thankfully that’s not the case. But I’ve seen and read about husbands boyfriends falling apart to things like this.