Married and engaged people only please.

Hello! I probably made this post before but here we are again. My husband keeps making the smallest things turn into something it shouldn’t be. He’s giving me the silent treatment but honestly I should be the one giving it if someone is going to give it. His feelings are valid but he chose to be miserable and make it about himself.

Here’s the story…when we found out we were having a baby we talked about what we desired for our son. He made it clear what he wanted. I said ok. I made it clear about how we thought we would raise our son and he agreed. The baby comes and everything he said isn’t coming through. He uses weaponized incompetence a lot. Like he doesn’t know how to put the baby in the car seat and he’s 2 now. He still doesn’t know how to put a seat belt on after 2 years. His excuse seems to be since I’m stay at home I should be the only one doing everything for him alone it seems. That’s not what we agreed on. So now that yal understand the level of weaponized incompetence I’m going through here is what took us to where we are.

I’m in the process of looking for jobs and starting a small contract job so we put our child up for daycare. My husband wants to grow our child’s hair out. I said ok well we need to make alternative styles because it can’t just run wild. Before he was born he said he wanted a completely shaved head. Now he’s saying he wants to wait 7 years to cut it. I told him before we got married I don’t do hair and only go to salons. I never learned. But now it’s up to me to be a beautician for my son along with all the other responsibilities I’m taking on and trying to find a job. Well we have a wedding coming up soon and first day of school for him. I told him a month ago that he needs to figure out what to do with our son’s hair or l I’ll figure it out. He said he would. He never did so i cut our son’s hair. Not much but pretty much cleaned him up and made him look nice. Our child was looking awful for no reason. It got so bad to the point my family individually started calling me to tell me I needed to do something and how could I look like this while my child looks bad. And same for his father. He’s always well groomed and smells good and never miss a hair cut every over week. He didn’t even notice I cut his hair till I told him. He said I did a good job. But it’s not what he wanted. I told him don’t turn a good day into a bad day and make our son’s first day of school about himself. He is just 2 but impressions matter. To give you context I was trying to give my son more like Denzel Washington energy while my son’s hair was giving Jaz Z Rastafarian energy. He’s told me he wants our son to have dread locks. I said ok but there is a right and a wrong way to go about this. And this isnt it. Our child isn’t going to sit still for this and his hair looks awful. It’s been 3 days since we talked and I don’t think I care about his feelings and very content with my decision. He’s fighting on the wrong hill. He just sent me this annoying video of this woman where she said she ask her husband permission to go out with friends. That’s not the premise on what we got married on. I don’t even get out yal or have friends in the state so is it the concept of asking permission he was getting at? It’s just funny because I never make any decisions without him but this takes him over the edge about bad hair. Anyways…I’m still not doing hair for 7 years.