Background on me: 29, 2 young kids, almost divorced (country laws), own a home and financially independent, single. I realize the whole single mom situation is a huge barrier for me. I’ve spent the last year in nun mode till recently.

I was casually dating a man when we decided we were better off as friends for various reasons. Great guy and he tells me I am a great woman but we were not compatible. The biggest reason being he plans on moving in 2 years and knows I won’t be able to due to custody. He works in law enforcement and I had met his coworkers while we were going on dates. One in particular took an interest in me, and asked him if we were serious or not.

When we decided not to be together, he suggested I message his coworker on SM. We had some quick chats but he hadn’t responded to me in a month. My friend told me it was likely because he was still living with his ex in his home until she could find somewhere to live, though that could be speculation. I was joking with my friend last night that he should introduce me to his coworkers again.

Today, this man messaged me a very low effort “hey”. No explanation for ghosting for a month. My friend told me it was just coincidence and he hasn’t told him to message me.

Should I respond or just leave it? If I do respond, should I bring up the lapse in communication or keep it lighthearted?