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Take a peak at r/stepmom… Being tied to a drama baby mama is not recommended.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/26 11:26 PM
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How rich are we taking here? I used to live in one of the rich ppl hot spots… there’s working class rich (which includes doctors and lawyers) and then there’s legacy rich. Yes being in their social circles is important. There were also pleeenty of young beautiful girls there working the scene (think hot young Russians with the only goal of marrying rich, willing to overlook all physical attraction and age barriers, and also wiling to overlook cheating or be willing to share w mistresses or three…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/26 09:13 AM
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It can be confusing. I overcompensated in my previous relationship as well, before I learn what respect really means to a man. I recommend reading Laura Doyle’s book The Empowered Wife, the Respect chapter is spot on for all the things I was doing that were disrespectful but I didn’t realize it. I need to re-read that chapter on repeat. Respect is different than getting every little thing right.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/26 01:18 AM
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In today’s western culture femininity is not being naturally encouraged… our whole economic system is masculine and women are expected to be part of the masculine workforce. Plus lack of feminine role models. So a young girl’s natural femininity often gets squashed or covered up. We have to unlearn a lot to become our natural feminine selves.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/26 01:27 PM
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If mine is grumpy I’ll check with myself first to think if there’s anything disrespectful I’ve done. If I’m unsure sometimes I’ll check by simply asking him, “hey is there something I’ve done recently that’s upset you?” Often it’s nothing to do with me so I’ll just let him be.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/26 05:37 AM
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I learned this the hard way with my ex of 12 years… he would get hangry and act out like a child, and since I was the feminine one who handled all the meals (I used to do some private cheffing) I thought it was my job to manage/prevent/fix… this led to years of mothering behavior that didn’t serve either of us and made him completely dependent on me for sustenance and made me resentful… like the man would ask me to make him a bowl of cereal 🙄 but I would jump up and do it because I thought that’…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/26 11:38 PM
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Nice post! I would add: being submissive does NOT mean you are responsible for his happiness/mood/feelings. His feelings are not yours to manage: if he’s feeling grumpy/hangry/tired/whatever then just double check with yourself if there’s any specific thing you may have done that was disrespectful (if so the apologize once and then move on), if not just give him space to figure out his own feelings while you go take care of yours. Unnecessary doting and trying to “fix” his mood leads to you bein…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/26 07:24 PM
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This is a weird question to ask a guy… Simply observe in the early stages… what does he spend his money on, is he generous with you and others, does he splurge in a responsible or irresponsible way? Does he spend cheap vs quality, smart vs showy? As the relationship progresses conversations will naturally come up, often about how one was raised around money and the desire to learn from or rebel against that upbringing
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/26 02:27 PM
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This! My husband gives his blood and sweat working hard for our family, his love language is acts of service. He does NOT want to gab about the State of the Union with me, that’s what girlfriends are for. OP needs Laura Doyle’s skills to get that “cherished” perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/26 08:07 PM
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I think this is a “grass is greener” situation. Over the years it’s easy for any LTR to fall into complacency and lose polarization between feminine and masculine. Working on Laura Doyle’s skills will get you more of that romance and spark you’re looking for instead of you trying and failing at initiating.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/26 12:39 AM
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Welcome! You’re in the right place! Most of us here look more feminine and come to RPW to learn how actually BE more feminine, which can be harder than any cosmetic makeover, but is fully attainable for you regardless of your history and hormones. Femininity is more than looks, it’s a behavioral art form that can be learned. You could look like a Barbie on the outside but if you act masculine it’s a massive turn off! We still acknowledge the importance of aesthetics when it comes to attracting m…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/26 12:42 PM
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The Empowered Wife book and podcast by Laura Doyle are the go-to foundation for RPW.
/r/RedPillWives23/12/25 01:45 AM
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My mom is a doctor. My father too. She very much bought the “you can have it all” idea of the 80s career woman. She had me when still in residency and thought she could just go right back to work. But I refused the bottle and she even got in trouble with the nanny bringing me to the staff room to nurse. And when I smiled bigger for the nanny than for her, she quit her residency and became a SAHM. She had 4 kids and was an amazing mom, homeschooled us many years too. She sometimes took up part ti…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/25 05:16 AM
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I’m sorry you’re going through this. Sounds very lonely and hopeless feeling. What was the state of your relationship before having the baby? Were you both loving and excited? Why did fall in love with him and choose him as your husband. A man that you have a solid loving relationship with doesn’t just turn abusive on a dime even with such big changes as having a baby… what else was causing stress in the relationship before baby? Once baby comes any little issues under the surface are going to i…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/25 08:59 PM
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Then it’s def TMI before a physical first date!
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/25 12:59 PM
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Strange to me that he knew your whole sexual history in detail by the 2nd date… I believe in being honest about sexual past but that kind of vulnerable information has to be paced out too. If you want to tell people on the first date you’re a virgin that has experienced oral and wants to take things slow, then that’s fine, but he doesn’t need to know the inner details of who/what/when/where until there’s more trust and intimacy built in. And still that info should be kept to the bare minimum or …
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/25 12:29 PM
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Good for you for being open minded enough to come here and wanting to work on yourself to become a better woman and future girlfriend! You’ll have a lot of challenges for sure but getting your mind in the right space is the most important step!
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/25 09:51 PM
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Blue collar can have that reputation here too of being uneducated, misogynistic alcoholics, but that is just a stereotype. I find there are many quality men in the industry too. Physical labor is tough on the body so many in trades do resort to drinking a beer after work to numb the pain and that can grow into alcoholic habits. But the ones that can take care of their body while working physical labor are extra fit.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/25 06:48 PM
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Honestly… the masculine men aren’t in academics or tech. Try tradesmen. These days trades are making more than those with fancy degrees, they don’t have school debt and they will always have job security! They work with their hands and with tools and the job sites are very masculine environments. I was raised by doctors and almost became one myself. And it’s weird how we were subconsciously raised to look down on blue collar workers. But I have so much respect for the men that my husband works w…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/25 07:14 AM
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Young guys just don’t have enough life/work experience (and they still have tons of excess energy) to realize just how valuable it is to come home after an exhausting day of work to a clean house and a homecooked meal. Feminism has wormed its way into their minds as well and they have been told a “good woman” is as career driven as a man. And they can’t even fathom what life is like with a newborn or toddlers yet!
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/25 01:25 AM
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You’re 18? I think the men in you’re dating pool just don’t understand the reality of parenting and economics. Most of the time being a SAHM to babies and young children is actually a money saver for the family and sometimes the only economically feasible option. Most SAHMs are actually in lower income families bc daycare and childcare costs are rising at a higher rate than wages! The phrase “SAHM” has unfortunately become tarnished by bad eggs and the media and feminism. Maybe rephrase it as, “…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/25 10:58 PM
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Also, don’t date men with children unless you’ve spent time on /r/stepmom and know fully what you’re getting yourself into. You’ll be forever living with his ex involved in his life.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/25 09:59 PM
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My partner and I don’t believe in legal marriage but that is because it is a contract with the state that puts a 3rd party inbetween you. We plan to get officially married by writing our marriage with witnesses into a Family Bible. In the US bibles are still lawfully binding documents. Same with our baby (we are older and want a big family, so we started off having a baby right away before marriage). She does not have a state issued birth certificate, but we can get her birth records and a state…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/25 06:02 PM
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You forgot the part where he introduces her to his parents as his “friend”… twice! To me that’s the biggest red flag. If he has money he likely has more than one of these situationships going on… he may have already introduced a different girl to his parents as the girlfriend
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/25 09:55 PM
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Go check out /r/waiting_to_wed… will set you straight.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/25 08:11 AM
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Also on the Itty bitty titty committee. Always been super flat chested. Plenty of perks! 😉 Like they will always be more perky than on our bustier sisters. I gave up on bras years ago and life is so much more comfortable! We always look good naked too. Boobs of a decent size can look nice in bras but naked they will always be more pendulous and floppy. I had a baby and am nursing now and I get to enjoying filling out a bikini, but I’m glad they’re not crazy huge like some of the other moms get. …
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/25 04:08 PM
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Oh cool, parallel lives! I almost went into medicine myself but did a 180, didn’t want anything to do with the medical industry in the end. So love having a man who can build anything and fix anything!
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/25 07:35 PM
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I knew this was coming as my mom was a doctor who quit residency once she had me and realized time with me was more important than any career or patients. I have created a unique career for myself, all self taught/self employed. It’s in an artistic/performance field and a is super unique “dream job.” I even got to tour the world, produce international competitions and was featured in a Netflix show. I have a baby now and none of it matters! I keep a small crafty side hustle just for fun and bc I…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/25 12:27 AM
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Haha this right here sums it up. Women want a man to whom alpha traits come naturally…ideally from healthy role models in real life, not from it from nerding out on online forums.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/25 04:38 PM
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Yeah I saw the part about no kids and thought hmm that’s gonna rule out a lot of traditionally masculine men. I mean there’s nothing more traditionally masculine than the role of a father…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/25 09:30 AM
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Been following RPW for over a decade before I ever heard of “tradwife” being a thing. One of my favs was a woman who would make comic tradwife satire while at the same time showing off mind blowing skills in baking and crafts. I don’t know her situation but sad to see her announcement about getting divorced… so yeah even the quality content makers are only living “trad” on the surface but if she was a RPW or following Laura Doyle’s coaching I would like to think her family would still be whole.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/25 10:06 AM
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I have a 5 yo stepson and 1 yo. I nurse/cosleep baby to bed and I just fall asleep w her and wake up sometime in the middle of the night to get some me time, pack husbands lunch for work and do the house reset. I’m hungry at night so I end up awake anyway! And I try to let myself fall asleep w her during naps so I still get good sleep.
/r/RedPillWives28/12/24 11:52 AM
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Politics is Hollywood for ugly people. Enjoy the show ppl but don’t get emotionally invested in the drama bc they’re all actors.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/24 03:53 AM
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As someone who had 2 abortions in my youth that I “regret” (I am happy w my life now but it’s the biggest thing I wish I was more educated on) I actually am glad that women are having to think more about it… when we’re young they sell us on it being an “easy fix” when in reality it caused lots of trauma and hearts ache that took years to acknowledge and heal.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 10:15 PM
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Yeah this was the sentiment at /r/askmen. They didn’t care and mostly concluded that these are the type of women they don’t want to sleep with (and esp don’t want to impregnate) anyway. They were even admitting that more socially conservative women were more attractive. I find it more ridiculous that married women on the parenting subs are whining that they are now afraid to try for more children bc they feel too in danger to get pregnant… they’re even “mourning” over this loss of future childre…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 12:29 PM
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From what I know she keeps her personal beliefs to herself. But her teachings have been embraced by women of pretty much all religions… she has a strong following in communities from Orthodox Jewish to Christian to Muslim. Religions usually prioritize keeping marriages together and try to have teachings and community support for that. Her intimacy Skills do reference “Faith over Fear” but she clarifies that this can mean faith in a higher power or just faith in yourself/your marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/24 09:55 AM
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Values include the role of the man and woman in relationship. More important than his job or income is being aligned with your values. Maybe in early dating 50/50 is reasonable for larger expenses, but when it comes to more serious dating leading to marriage/family do your perspectives align? If you have children would be be supportive of you being a SAHM in the early years? My partner used to make a lot of money and provided 100% for his ex and their child. His entire industry crashed and he ma…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/24 11:14 AM
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Yes
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/24 07:31 AM
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This sounds like when my ex was reaching for an excuse to justify breaking up. It’s so hard bc nothing I did was “good enough” but he dangled it like a carrot that if I just fixed this or that (things that I agreed I wanted to change anyway) then things would get better. I studied coach training w LD to work on all those little things that kill intimacy, like interrupting, disrespect, controlling, etc. I improved so much! Even he admitted it. But it didn’t change our relationship. It didn’t chan…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/24 02:04 AM
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At 34 my 12 year long relationship (engaged and everything) ended. It was his choice, and very hard, but once I healed I saw it was def for the better. After all those years he still “wasn’t ready” to start a family. At 35 I met the true love of my life (online) and at 36 we had our first baby! What really helped me create my new life quickly was diving fully into self care after the breakup. I moved to my dream location, filled my days with activities and friends that filled me up and spent a l…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/24 08:49 AM
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Ideally we go collect spring water from the local spring. Where we live now there is not a spring so we are using a filter (similar to a Burkee) but moving soon and can’t wait to be back on fresh spring water, it really is so amazing once you taste it. It’s living water. If you’re in the US you can use www.findaspring.org
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/24 07:21 PM
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Laura Doyle teaches that the relationship and financial situation of the family improves when the man is in charge of managing the money. He has more accountability to provide and protect his resources for his family. Yes the woman is often the one spending the money, but just ask him for a budget and a family card and let him be the one to figure it out. Also his mood and his health are not for you to manage. It’s not respecting him as an adult and causes burnout in women.
/r/RedPillWives02/08/24 10:32 AM
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Everyone here is criticizing your relationship, but that’s not what you asked about. You asked how to improve yourself to be more GOFUL. As a Laura Doyle relationship coach, we never disrespect the woman’s relationship and tell her to leave. If she wants to stay then we support her in her choice. If she changes her mind then we support her in that. Only you can ask yourself if you want to stay, and you can ask it one day at a time. I say congrats on winning your husband back from the Other Woman…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/24 12:31 AM
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Yes very good post. I got into RPW for a long time ago and only recently been browsing a bit again… “pink pill” is a new term but makes sense. I used to live in one of the wealthiest communities in the world and got an in depth look at hypergamy to the max. It’s a tough game to play tho bc once every woman in the room is a 9, you have to have some other “wow factor” to stand out. The men see these women as commodities so every “model” is replaceable with another. Plus at the top level game, they…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/24 07:26 AM
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Probably put in all the effort bc internally (either subconsciously or consciously) be knew that he was using her and wasting her time, so tried to make up for it with lots of wooing
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/24 08:07 PM
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Good to know within the first few dates certain compatible points! Esp the point: Do you want children or not? I fell head over heals for a guy very quickly before he told me he had a vasectomy! We were both already in love after the 2nd date, it sucked. It’s actually less awkward to get big questions like this out of the way very early if you just make it part of your initial vetting. Early on you’re simply making sure you’re not barking up the wrong tree, and it’s fine to “scare off” the guy i…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/24 07:59 PM
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SAHM w a 4 yo step son (50/50) and 6 month old baby. Also screen free! Capsule wardrobe is awesome! I have a minimalist wardrobe but all of my stuff matches all my other stuff. Even my baby stuff is all in one color pallet so baby and I always look coordinated. I also do all of my clothing 2nd hand. It’s like a hobby for hubby and I to go explore the goodwill together. Poshmark/Mercari make it easy to thrift online for if I need something specific. Also a high end baby carrier (plus a matching h…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/24 06:40 AM
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Huge wall of text = TLDR
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/24 09:50 AM
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Laura Doyle says the more frivolous the better! I rollerskated my way thru a breakup w my fiancé (12 years together. It was a new hobby and my happy place and helped me healed efficiently and I found my true love quite quickly!
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/24 08:55 AM
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Do as you will, you need to be as comfortable for your birth as possible… it’s more traditional and as long as he likes that approach and isn’t feeling excluded in a negative way, then you do you! For me, having the support of my partner helped make my birth pain free because my body was flooded with oxytocin. We took a course on Bradley Method “husband coached birth” which teaches techniques for natural pain management based around pumping up the love hormones which cancels out the pain.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/24 03:14 AM
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Yes pills won’t make you love yourself! My mentors said to think of these thoughts as chattering monkeys in your brain. You don’t have to listen to the monkeys!
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/24 10:21 AM
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If you do want to sell and need to do it online, Poshmark or Mercari are very quick and easy to set up. Just don’t be perfectionist about it and price to sell. No need to iron. Just take quick pics on your phone. Group the baby items into “Lot of Baby Girl 12 months.”
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/24 10:40 AM
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It’s not all about looks… say a man has taken the time establish himself and his career and is ready to start a family. Say he wants a large family of 4 kids. Def better for him to be seeking a younger woman for this even if a woman his age can look just as good.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 09:33 PM
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Yes you can say you complete your coach training with Laura Doyle. I don’t know the certified coach payment structure as I haven’t done the certification yet. I’ve always loved vintage more than modern!
/r/RedPillWives15/06/24 06:57 PM
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I just did one month of the zoom calls. Seems like that would be a good answer to your original question of wanting an online “retreat.” And I would recommend that as a test if you’re considering the coaching program. If you eventually became a certified coach I think most of your clients would be coming from this group. The coach training is focused on learning how to coach other women. It doesn’t go much into freelance marketing. Some of the women already had a community of women (usually reli…
/r/RedPillWives15/06/24 09:16 AM
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Yes the coaching program is a lot, but if it saves a marriage it’s cheaper than a divorce! It’s the most I ever spent on myself in one go, but the skills I’ve learned I will use my whole life. The zoom group includes unlimited calls (there are several scheduled every day). The more you interact on the calls the more you get out of them and there’s plenty of opportunities for individual coaching in the group setting, also you learn a ton just by listening to other women get coaching too. If you c…
/r/RedPillWives15/06/24 08:35 AM
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So this was a couple years ago when I was involved so not sure if prices changed… but you can join the Empowered Wives group which has access to unlimited group coaching calls via zoom and I think it was only $300/month. Enrollment only opens once in awhile tho look for a mailing list. You can participate on group calls and even raise your hand to get some personal coaching once in awhile. Getting a session w a private coach was I think $150/hour. And I did compete the coach training which was $…
/r/RedPillWives15/06/24 07:19 AM
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I would recommend joining Laura Doyle’s online community and/or coaching. It’s only for women though. But that is what is needed to heal a relationship and create a thriving home. Leave him out of it. Work on yourself. Spend your quality time together on dates.
/r/RedPillWives15/06/24 06:12 AM
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Yes it’s just wine tasting, totally easy thing to have SOs tag along. It’s not an exclusive pay-per-guest event. If BF wants the girls to be friends this is a perfect opportunity…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/24 08:00 PM
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The breakup was a slow unraveling process… we knew we had codependency issues so we were working on that for a few years, I moved out to give him space, and in the end he said he wasn’t in a healthy place to be in any relationship and so he finally ended it. But because it took time it wasn’t this big traumatic moment, so I could process it a bit at a time. I actually became a Laura Doyle relationship coach thru the process. So I had 6 months of regular coaching w Laura, her coaches and the trai…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/24 07:35 AM
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Broke up w my ex (fiancé) of 12 years at 34 because he still “wasn’t ready” to start a family. Met my true soulmate at 35. Just had out baby at 36! When you’ve been wanting something for a long time and you finally free yourself, it can come to you at record speed! Ironically my ex ended up knocking up someone and became a parent before me… he says losing me was the worst mistake of his life. He knew he didn’t want children with this woman and also knew that I was the perfect mother/wife. She ha…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/24 08:50 AM
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I worked as a professional chef and a professional organizer (all self taught). Skills def came in handy!
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/24 02:40 AM
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Yeah this is not a LDR… he could be entertaining several of these “relationships”. If he’s serious about dating you then y’all would be talking every day! I met my partner online on a dating chat w a couple months of casual messaging. But after the first voice call we were on voice or video calls NONSTOP (like literally we would wake up and call, and both do our jobs while still on the phone, and then the rest of the day before going to sleep…yes it was excessive but we fell hard and fast!). Wen…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/24 10:10 PM
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Are you talking about casual sex with men you’ve only talked with? This is not the forum for that kind of advice. If you’re dating and ready to make the move to sex RPW generally promotes exclusivity and by this point you should be comfortable enough with the man to be a vulnerable sort of flirty that invites him to take the lead.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/24 08:51 PM
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So you don’t have male friends, you have orbiters… not a good investment of energy for a woman. Exceptions could possibly be from very specific hobbies, but better to stick to keeping male “friends” in a group setting instead of not one-on-one friends. It’s effort to find female friends, but that’s part of adulting. I had good luck making friends at the gym going to classes for women. The instructors are always nice and they know everyone so start there. And fitness is a good thing to bond over,…
/r/RedPillWives08/04/24 07:58 PM
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Laura Doyle’s step of surrendering the finances is the last step in surrendering, and is advised for women who are married.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 10:18 AM
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If you’re seeking hookups on bumble then RPW is not the place for you… this sub is about becoming a HV woman for a LTRs and we hookups hurting that goal. Sounds like this guy is making you an alpha widow where it will be difficult to be attracted to a man who is in your range of commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/24 09:47 AM
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Drama free way to wean for everyone is to use the bitter nail polish for nail biters. For those who have tried this technique, the kid will try both sides and decide for themselves that it’s yucky and won’t go back for more.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 09:27 AM
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Instead of seeing it as complaining about money can you “flip” the situation to see it as him being comfortable with you to talk about something that’s pretty emasculating and vulnerable? Can you hear his “heart message” (as Laura Doyle called it) that says he wants to be the provider?
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 08:30 AM
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And underneath the pixie dust is usually a hurting woman who is afraid to be vulnerable and hides behind her colorful quirky mask. She likely also adventured on the CC seeking self esteem from daddy issues… not really the ideal for a HVM but exciting for plate.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/24 12:40 AM
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Man : Pump & Dump :: Woman : Beta Orbiter Collector All valid RP sexual strategy options, but not for LTRs. This approach will ruin a woman for a high value mate, almost just as much as riding the CC
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/24 09:28 PM
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You can be a boss babe at a traditional feminine style job. For example I have worked as a private chef, professional organizer and event planner, all in high-end, high-profile, high-paying markets that utilize traditionally feminine skills. I even was featured on Netflix for one of my events. But these skills are basically my practice for being the ultimate wife and homemaker lol. Just had a baby and I am rocking the new mom life bc I can lean on all my professional experience. A high value man…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/24 04:26 AM
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He’s acting out of fear… fear of change and things beyond his control. There’s a chance he can come around but don’t hold out for it. Make your own decisions and let his actions speak for his character. There are indeed good fathers who initially wanted an easy “out” of “the problem.” Only time will tell if he’s one of them.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 10:50 AM
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We met online and talked about marriage before we even met in person. We decided not to wait for a wedding to TTC and I ended up getting pregnant on the first cycle. We still want to have a wedding but we plan on moving and buying land and we want to have the wedding on the land. I think of him as my child. Tho now that I have my own baby I know it’s still different as I didn’t get those infant years. I would love for them both to call me mama but the ex made it clear in the beginning that “I’m …
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 08:26 AM
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We had a very accelerated courtship (I was 35 when we met and we want a big family). The first time I met his son he asked me for a baby sister and he got his wish! Every day he says “thank you for making me a baby!” and now he asks me for 5 sisters lol.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 11:15 PM
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Sounds like you aren’t interested in being a step-mom, which is an important role in a 4 yo’s life. You want to make it work bc you love your BF, but do you love his son too? Or do you see the son as “baggage?” My setup is quite similar… 36F w 41M and a 4 yo son. We also have the son half the week in a 1 BR. He was never married to his ex, they were together 6 years (she found out she was pregnant right after they broke up and they got back together for the baby). However I adore his son and do …
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 09:57 AM
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Yep always better to know where you stand first, otherwise you might be tempted by the horney hormones… keep track of your cycle bc that shit is intense and can really affect your decision making skills when you’re ovulating.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 11:45 AM
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Sounds like you’ve had your phone sex cherry popped. Its still not real sex, and it’s ok to talk about eachother’s fantasies and get excited about it and build anticipation. Just make sure he knows you’re still waiting for marriage for sex, and make sure you know where you’re at and also communicate about “in between” bases ahead of seeing him next.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 11:01 AM
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Congrats! I’m due any day now! Love seeing RPW tips…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/23 07:25 PM
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I mean the answer to your question seems pretty obvious from a RP perspective… it’s a show of national resources… feminine beauty and entertainment being one of the big ones. I used to compete in and now I direct international beauty pageants… contrary to popular belief they are actually an awesome source of feminine sisterhood! Being the one woman representing your country among equally beautiful and talented women from 2 dozen other countries is such a unique experience to learn so much about …
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 09:23 AM
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I wonder if it could have just been poor timing when you asked… He’s in law school and should have no problem quickly looking over a contract for you. I wouldn’t make it a habit to bring every single contract to him but men do love to be useful. Have you expressed gratitude for his support and how it makes you feel attracted to him?
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/23 11:15 AM
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I’ve been here… I’ve always been passionate about wanting to be a mother. But at 34 my 12 year relationship with my fiancé ended because he still “wasn’t ready” to start a family (karma twist is that he ended up accidentally knocking someone up right after we broke up!) After taking some time to heal, the next man I met we quickly fell for eachother and seemed like soulmates on so many levels… except he had a vasectomy and was an antinatalist! We had already fallen in love and it was so hard to …
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 11:37 PM
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2 is a small sample size…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 08:17 PM
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You can’t change or control him… but the more feminine you become he will naturally polarize to be more masculine. The Intimacy Skill (alla Laura Doyle) for you to work on here is Vulnerability. Instead of criticizing him, open up and say how scared you are, fear of heights is real! The SFP (“spouse fulfilling prophecy”) to use here is “your support makes me I feel safe” (even if you don’t feel it yet this affirmation makes him want to step up to be the man you say he is).
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 08:05 PM
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Nope never had any issues being genuinely friendly to men. I used to be a singer in a well known local band and I had to perfect the art of ALWAYS being kind to all men who approached me. It was important to represent the band in a good way and anyone I talk to could be a fan even if I wasn’t at a show. But especially after shows it was easy for any man to approach me and find an excuse to talk, but I never had any problems politely saying I wasn’t interested if I needed to. If anyone asked for …
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 03:34 AM
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Cheating or not, OP has stated she is choosing her marriage. At RPW we stand by a woman’s desire to be committed instead of question it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 09:42 AM
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I’m disappointed to not be seeing any actual RPW advise here so far… You endured a big heartbreak and it sounds very painful. But I admire your commitment to your husband and your family. Your husband actually sounds very accountable for an addict. He didn’t blame you and he has acknowledged he has a problem and that is a HUGE step that only he can take. He still wants to be a family and wants you to be happy, but his brain is still stuck on a very hard to kick habit and it will require lots of …
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 09:39 AM
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Firstly I would work on forming friendships before worrying too much about dating. Having a foundation of friends is important to being ready for a relationship. Most men would consider it a red flag if a girl has no friends. So start there. What are you looking to get out of dating? Do you desire to be a mother and have a family? Are you just wanting a long term companion? Do you still want affection and the love language of touch, if not so much the sex? Your goals around dating will determine…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 11:07 PM
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SMV: Look at the men who are attracted to you and hit on you. RMV: Look at the men who have committed to you in the past. Ask yourself have you made any important personality improvements since then? Settling: Ask yourself do you respect him? Are you happy with him? Is he compatible with your long term desires around the type of family and lifestyle you want? Is there something important that you are giving up being with him? Older dating market: Don’t shy away from dating single dads!
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 07:49 AM
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Sounds like a troll… You’re posting in RPW so this sub has a more conservative outlook on relationships and are less quick to just throw out “dump him” advice. In the end it’s you and your relationship, don’t let anyone on the internet be too much influence. Ask yourself what you want and then seek answers according to your own desires.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 09:41 PM
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A great icebreaker w women is complementing their clothes/hair/etc. Who doesn’t like a compliment? Even if you’ve lived there awhile you can still say you’re new to the area and ask for ideas for places to go, things to do, their favorites etc… most ppl like sharing these kinds of opinions. What kinds of hobbies do you enjoy? Can you find activities/places/meetups where you’ll already have something in common w others there?
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 09:28 PM
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Making adult girlfriends can be tough. I’ve had success finding girlfriends at gym classes and other fitness hobbies. Takes some time to get used to “hitting on” potential friends but it pays off.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 09:20 PM
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Girl you just need to focus on making your own friends and enjoying your own hobbies, so when he’s out with this one friend once in a blue moon then you aren’t just at home worrying. It sounds like he judges this friend’s lack of integrity and commitment anyway, so the parts about you thinking he’s being tempted to live that lifestyle are all in your head.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 09:13 PM
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Yes no man worth submitting to would sit jobless at home letting his woman take care of him unless he had a very real and temporary heath issue. It’s possible for the breadwinner roles to be reversed and still have a RP style relationship, but he would still be working hard to provide in some way. He’s not Captian material, he’s a mooch. Mine just injured his shoulder and he works a very physical job and has to be out of work for at least 6 weeks so we are using my emergency fund. I know it’s ha…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 10:18 AM
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Yes I would have him look into seminal retention… there’s a lot of energy that goes out of a man when he orgasms. My partner says he gets more cranky/irritated if he’s blowing his load often. Before I met him he quit masturbating 100% bc he noticed how it affected his energy levels.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/23 06:32 AM
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Take that energy and focus on what you can control… your own fertility! It’s good to have at least a year to prepare your body for optimum conception health. Improve your diet (The Better Baby Book is great for this) and do some detoxes that are important to get out of the way before pregnancy (I did a heavy metal chelation detox 1 year before conception). You can have an integrative or naturopathic doctor check your bloodwork to let you know where your hormone levels are and what you can improv…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 04:15 AM
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So this is not a place to state a desire (“I would love for you to send me a good morning text”), bc a true desire would not have the word “you” in it… if it does then it’s a “lazy desire” and an attempt to control. Id say best skill is to wait for the next good morning text and “Catch him doing something good” by showering him w gratitude and letting him know how happy it made you. Be specific such as “it makes me so happy when the first thing I wake up to is your good morning text”
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/23 06:23 PM
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In my dating profile I said “Excited to be a feminine wife and rockstar mother with traditional values and grounded spirituality” It worked! My partner is a perfect match to my values and a very masculine balance. He does not give my shit tests an inch and I have so much respect for him. We “met” online 1 year ago and now I’m 7 months pregnant!
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 11:01 PM
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How much of this is subjective VS objective? How much is influenced by social media? Have you ever had a professional photographer take your photo? How much is self esteem? Surgery won’t fix self esteem issues… no matter how you look objectively, you will always be able to find flaws. Biggest boost to your RMV will be confidence. How can you raise your confidence?
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 12:51 AM
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Neither are a proper investment to truly level up. It’s not your lack of education or surgery that is making these men see you as not fit for long term dating. Unless you have an actual deformity that needs correcting, your beauty investment should be in your health and fitness. Eating proper, drinking lots of water and having a solid fitness routine will go a lot farther and are more respectable than plastic surgery (while some men may like the end results, it would be also be a hard no for oth…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/23 06:41 PM
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I was stuck in an endless engagement, together 12 years since I was 22. It ended at 34. I found my perfect match at 35. Now 7 months pregnant at 36. When you know what you don’t want, that energy can be harnessed to create what you do want. When you’ve been stuck for a long time, that energy builds even more and unplugging the cork can launch you into your dream even faster. My new partner even has a 4 year old, so suddenly I’m a toddler mom and it’s like I’m all caught up w my friends who start…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/23 06:28 PM
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There are many examples of happy families who have recovered after cheating. It does not have to be the end.
/r/RedPillWives05/11/23 11:09 PM
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Nothing wrong with knowing your dealbreakers before going into dating as long as they are communicated upfront. Also know that life happens and your desires may even change or you can have flexibility or opportunities you didn’t realize. “It’s a woman’s prerogative to change her mind” is one Laura Doyle saying about our desires. I recently moved to a very remote part of the world, Hawaii, as I knew this was where I would want to settle and raise a family. Dating options were limited so I reached…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/23 09:15 AM
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Girl you don’t need expensive beauty routines…. True glow up comes from inside out and I’m not just speaking metaphorically. Focus on nutrition and hydration for the best skin and hair. Cut out all the synthetics from your food and beauty products. Most men would support spending the money on nutritious organic homemade foods that will help both of you to be healthier… especially if you are planning a family in the future it’s good to start now so you’ll have good habits in place for pregnancy a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 07:05 PM
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Hmm interesting situation and kinda surprised he sent you money. Confused about why this would be a monthly thing and how long it would go on for? If it’s over (and he knows it’s over, not thinking he can buy you back in) then you guys should move on and payments shouldn’t be stringing you together.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 08:54 AM
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Roller Skating got me through my breakup after 12 years w my fiancé! Just feels so fun, frivolous and youthful, and is a form of dance that releases lots of endorphins. And I joined a Roller Derby team so I got to be part of a team of badass chicks and get rough with it! Set me up for a quick healing process and I met my soulmate this year and am now pregnant at 35!
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/23 09:46 AM
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Polygamy is a valid mating strategy and it actually benefits women more than men from a RP point of view, bc hypergamy says “women would rather share an alpha rather than settle for a beta”. Males lose out w polygamy bc the majority of women/sex are only accessible to the top percentage of HV males, leaving the majority of lower quality males with zero access… which leads to societal unrest bc you have a bunch of horny young men with no investment in the success of the society. Thus polygamy is …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/23 04:43 AM
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Depends on the environment, the company and if it’s a more classy or more trashy vibe. When I used to go clubbing w girlfriends we went to very exclusive high end spots and had a strict “stay together” policy. We were there to dress up, dance and be w the girls. Never “met” a guy at a club or kissed or went home with someone else, eww! That wasn’t the point of going out for us even when we were single. If your girls can keep it classy then I don’t see why not. But if the other single girls are t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 07:39 PM
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This. 2 dates in one night is not putting your best foot forward with either man.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 06:20 PM
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“Dating” used to mean just this. As long as you’re not intimate with multiple people at once. However I feel like it’s not classy to go out with more than one man in one night… if you did go on a date w you “future husband” what would he think of this? How would a woman feel if a man had another date scheduled for after their first date? This is RPW where we want to present ourself as the best option and give a man our undivided attention during a date, not thinking about who she’s going to meet…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 06:17 PM
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Sounds like she had a particularly bad experience(s) w men recently and is hurt and doesn’t know how to heal or deal with it in a healthy way… if she can open up to you about what happened maybe there’s hope. Otherwise just keep your distance. This is not a friend you can open up to especially when you eventually have a man involved in your life.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/23 04:29 PM
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Yep men judge a woman by the company she keeps (and for good reason). Toxic girlfriends influence the relationship. Time to move on.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/23 04:27 PM
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Yes nothing wrong with an outdated apartment and older car as long as they are clean and maintained. These could be signs of smart frugal finances if he’s living below his means and saving money, ESPECIALLY in this economy. Or he could be dependent on his parents and lazy… You would have to get to know him more to learn the difference.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/23 03:48 PM
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When you feel safe to be vulnerable. But I would approach from a perspective of your healing journey (present) VS trauma (past). How have you been overcoming your past wounds, what kind of self care do you use to heal, and how have you grown? How does what happened in your past add to who you are as a woman now?
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 05:08 AM
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Too early for trauma talks… that’s not the “goddess of fun and light” energy to be bringing to dates. There’s def a time and place to be vulnerable but that is still different than “trauma” = baggage. If you are at all spiritual it will be challenging to be with an atheist, and vise versa… it’s such a fundamental foundation of a relationship. I think this is a great opportunity to refine your vision for relationship you want to create! Even if he thinks differently, you want a man who finds your…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 11:52 AM
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Congrats on using the skills to win back your man! That’s a total win! Though it sounds painful to hear that he was interested in others. I hear you saying you definitely want to be with him. So ask yourself… “Do I want to be right? Or do I want to be intimate?” Personally I feel like I can’t hold someone to “commitments” made during a separation… but he did hold back because he was considering you. He came back and if that was your goal can you accept him unconditionally? Part of him coming bac…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/23 08:20 PM
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Roller derby helped me when I was healing from a 12 year relationship ending! Being on a woman’s team was great and I got lots of exercise and got to hit ppl lol
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 07:27 AM
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Yes you’re not over him. The relationship ended and that requires a time of healing and eventually rejoining the dating game. Even if you two eventually end up back together, it should be a new relationship with both of you as new people, not a continuation of the old one. Best to treat it like a real breakup and go thru the grieving and healing phases. Best chance for you to end up back together OR to end up with someone better.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 07:25 AM
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I personally don’t want a legal marriage, but I do want a spiritual ceremony, to change my last name, and an excuse to invite all my friends here (also live in Hawaii!). Marriage is not a piece of paper, it is a bond between 2 people, the state should have nothing to do with it. If he is serious about having children and willing to participate in a spiritual ceremony, I would consider why exactly the piece of paper is important to you. There’s other non-conventional ways of setting up legal prot…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 07:10 AM
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Only you know if you want him to be your Captian… While it’s nice to have a lot in common not every need should be met by your partner. Many roles can be fulfilled by others, especially girlfriends. That being said, don’t fear the Wall as a looming reason to settle… you have to lean into it. Consider it a strength that you have a strong and inspired vision for your relationship. Things can happen really fast when you have a strong vision for what you want. After 12 years together my finance ende…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/23 08:59 AM
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Look in his eyes when he’s acting strange…are the pupils dilated more than normal even in bright light?
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 08:50 AM
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You mentioned a 50/50 or 70/30 work:wife ratio… but where is his or your self care, friends, social life, hobbies or me time in all that? It’s not healthy for our needs to be met by only one person. Even the 50/50 ratio is not healthy… I think you both could benefit from diversifying.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/23 03:38 PM
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One of my best male friends (the best friend of my long term ex) was (is?) a cocaine user and sometimes sold various drugs, and got hooked on opiates after a back surgery. He is a total sweetheart and I would trust him with my life… but I still can’t take his word on anything if that makes any sense. And I definitely don’t trust him with women. He lies so easily I don’t think he really realizes he’s doing it… so tough because we all love him and he’s a total stand up guy except for the drug aspe…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/23 02:55 PM
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That sounds very self aware, you are choosing intimacy over control 👏🏽
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 09:57 AM
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This is quite a common response. I experienced it myself. I clarified that the apology was also for myself… to acknowledge to myself that I had done something I am now committed to improving. It helps to call myself out on it to be able to eventually change my actions. His response to your apology is on his paper! Clean your side and let go of whatever is next.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 09:26 AM
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I recommend a 5 year age gap. Still close enough that you’re not from completely different generations and can still understand eachothers culture from when you were kids, but a good enough gap where you’ll both be feeling ready to start a family at the same time. When a man is going to be the provider he needs a little more time to get a career going to feel ready to provide.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/23 11:28 PM
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It’s a valid fantasy but turning it into reality is high risk. Having enjoyed threesomes myself, it’s a door that once opened, can be a can of worms depending on the individuals. Any issues in the original relationship just come to the surface when others are involved. Fun fantasy in theory and in the moment if it happens, but you need a rock solid relationship and sky high self esteem to pull it off maturely and ethically.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/23 12:38 AM
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If he is a good partner in all other ways, but just not this love language, I don’t see the need to throw everything away. If he is complimenting strangers, then it’s not very deep words of affirmation, just being polite… OP desires more connection than just surface politeness. OP can you focus on hearing his Heart Message in other ways and listening to which love language he is using? In what other ways does he show he cares? If you still seek words of affirmation can you get these needs better…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 12:09 AM
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Save your competing for when you’re with your peers, let them value your masculinity. When you’re with him, focus on relating. Let him share with you even if it’s not “right” and look for the Heart Message that he wants connection. He’s being vulnerable talking about a subject where he’s not the expert (and you are), so don’t take it as a time to show what you know which has an emasculating effect.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 08:03 AM
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Men are experts at competing. Women are experts at relating. You can’t compete and relate at the same time. You still want to be right… ;)
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 07:34 AM
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My ex often said “your always right” in a teasing way but it always made me uncomfortable. Over time he kept asking my opinion instead of trusting himself and it led to a lot of role reversal that added to the demise of our relationship. Being a know-it-all is not sexy, major turn off over time, even if he takes it in stride at the moment. Just STFU more about subjects where you think you have nothing more to learn (or actually have an open mind in considering another’s opinion…even in biology a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 11:16 PM
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Losing weight too fast will also result in saggy skin… you need to lose weight in a sustainable way.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/23 07:58 AM
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Me! I love cooking and it’s my love language to cook for others. I was super picky as a kid so now I must be making up for it. Learned to cook in college. I went to school in NYC and instead of eating out constantly (not budget friendly) we went to all the exotic markets and grocery stores and had lots of dinner parties learning recipes. I also studied abroad in Italy, did an internship in France and I have a Chinese grandmother, so those experiences covered a lot of cooking styles. I’m self tau…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/23 09:23 AM
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In this culture it’s a turn off for a man to live with his family, because it signals that he is not independent enough to be a provider for his own family. For a woman to live with family is not a turn off at all unless she doesn’t have good boundaries and her family interferes w her relationship. However I think our culture should be more supportive of multigenerational living. If it is a choice to live with family (vs just a financial necessity) and the family has strong bonds and healthy bou…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/23 09:04 AM
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The key is understanding the how to express a “true desire.” Laura teaches that a true desire is one that you can fulfill yourself if you chose to… there is no expectation on him to fulfill it for you, but it is a chance for him to step up and be your hero if he chooses. Stating a true desires doesn’t have the word “you” in it (as in “I want you to [do this thing for me]) OP could have easily replaced her own hair straightener, but when she was vulnerable about her feelings he wanted to do it fo…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 05:25 PM
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Congrats on your win!
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 09:21 AM
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Yep if you’re not in the mood… THEN GET IN THE MOOD. You’ll feel much better after an orgasm lol.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 05:17 AM
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So Laura Doyle’s magic word in these scenarios is “Ouch.” It’s a tough one to learn because usually we are stunned and in freeze mode. I would forget all the time and only after the moment has passed would I realize, “oh that was an ouch moment” (it does need to be used right away). But it gets better with practice, work on remembering to use Ouch when he is hot tempered and lashes out at you. It sounds like he doesn’t realize he is hurting you in the moment, and is sincere about wanting you to …
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 08:51 AM
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Your life is not over at 30. Focus on your self care, build yourself up so that ADHD and anxiety are not a big effect on your life (Laura Doyle teaches how focusing on these diagnostic labels only make them worse, better to focus on self care and they will dissipate). I was in a 12 year relationship, engaged and everything but he still “wasn’t ready” to start a family. It ended when I was 34. I studied Laura Doyle intently through the breakup and received a lot of coaching from her program. Lear…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/23 03:08 AM
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HVM is not equivalent to just a man with money… here HVM is one with enough resources to be independent and one day support a family, who is also family minded and actively seeking a wife. They guys you are observing (esp club owners) are just rich playboys and many of the girls they are “dating” are instaslut wannabe “models” trying to get in the scene, or simply straight up from sugar daddy websites (esp if they’re sporting luxury designer fashion brands). Can confirm bc I lived many years in …
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/23 02:37 AM
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In Laura Doyle’s Surrendered Single, she advises accepting dates from all kinds of men, even ones who wouldn’t fit your usual “list.” We can’t go backwards, only forwards. But there’s some of us who view tradition with respect instead of disdain. My partner and I unite in our respect for “traditional values.” Do we have a “traditional relationship?” Haha pretty much nothing about our life fits into anything close to past or present norms. But we agree on the importance of masculine/feminine pola…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 07:02 AM
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Laura Doyle has a saying about being the “Goddess of Fun and Light.” When we take our happiness into our own hands and pump ourselves full of self care, we can tap into our unique GOFL energy. It’s this state that attracts a man to you in the first place. It can be easy to forget about our GOFL as the relationship progresses and responsibilities pile on and the family grows, but it’s our responsibility to remember and nourish our GOFL.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 06:40 AM
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Reminds me of an old Betty & Veronica comic: “You know what’s worse than a catcall… no catcall!” Go to Mexico. In high school my very large friends went and they said they came to love all the cat calling and were sad when they got back to the US and back to zero attention.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 01:25 AM
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Laura Doyle herself doesn’t have children (tho she comes across very maternal and mentors thousands of woman as if they were her adult daughters instead). I don’t know if she makes more than her husband but her business is very successful. The skills are even more useful in a non-traditional setup!
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 01:10 AM
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Study abroad is great. You still have to work at it to meet foreigners and be social, but you can always blame any awkwardness on the cultural differences or language barriers. I didn’t know how to do my makeup until I started doing international beauty pageants when I was almost 30! Other contestants at the pageants who were makeup artists would show me what to do and I developed a very simple routine with just a few products that works great. So even now that I’m older in my 30s my makeup is m…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 08:05 AM
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According to Laura Doyle, porn is on his paper, not yours. It’s a hard thing to surrender this but it’s not something you can control and trying to will only make you less attractive in his eyes. You’ll want to use the SFP “Spouse Fulfilling Prophecy.” Even tho he’s struggling he has admitted a problem and made a commitment to improve and that is huge. You want to pump this up. “I’m so glad you’re not addicted to porn anymore” instead of nagging him about having a problem. It may feel like a lie…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 11:58 PM
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Yes she also teaches flexibility w the skills… they are tools in our toolbox that we can reach for but there’s no strict dogma! In the beginning it’s helpful to go more “by the book” when the skills may feel awkward, and later we develop the skills with more finesse and flexibility. If there is a situation where my skills are helpful, I’m sure to word it “In my experience, I like to _” instead of what I used to say “it’s better if you _” or “you should ____.” Sticking to “I”s in sharing my perso…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 12:17 AM
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I think you might be missing part of the puzzle. Laura teaches the difference for when to speak up about your true desires, and when to STFU w controlling co-dependent opinions. When a husband asks a wife “where do you want to go for dinner?” That’s an opportunity for him to make her happy and she should indeed think about and express what she desires (without attaching any expectation on the outcome.) When he asks “what should I wear to this event?” that’s on “his paper” and her best response i…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 12:04 AM
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I like a 5 year age gap. He’s has more life experience which makes it easy for you to follow his lead, but you can still relate on a lot of childhood memories, it’s not like you’re from completely different generations.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/23 11:31 PM
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I love how Laura Doyle calls out therapists on how much they tear families apart. However, you still have to ask…who’s paper is this on? Remember you only need to clean up your side of the street. It sounds like you’re really stepping into taking accountability for pushing your husband away. It’s very brave and loyal of you to want to improve your marriage even in the face of his infidelity and the following separation. Just keep practicing the skills, regardless of which way the relationship un…
/r/RedPillWives02/08/23 10:01 AM
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It’s a delicate line between inspiring and controlling and a forgotten feminine art. I’m a fan of Laura Doyle’s technique called the Spouse Fulfilling Prophecy. Never criticize or point out flaws, that’s a negative SFP. For a positive SFP you tell him he’s already the man he wants to be, and his masculine nature leans into becoming that man. Mine told me he wanted to stop drinking coffee, which was a huge thing for him bc he couldn’t function in the morning without it and would be extremely grum…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 10:51 PM
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The RPW way would not be to have a convo about his lack of initiating… that’s has an emasculating sense to it, implying that he isn’t keeping you satisfied. Do you ask with words? The more feminine way to initiate is through body language that lets him know you’re turned on, but wait for him be the one to escalate it to sex. Laura Doyle’s also advises against any “State Of The Union” convos. Her magic words are “I miss you.” It’s a vulnerable approach that lets him know you want his intimacy.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 09:44 PM
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You are learning! Love your accountability. And you are already miles ahead of your girlfriends who are calling a man controlling for wanting this level of respect from a girlfriend. When I did Laura Doyle’s coaching program, we learned her tried and true apology format: “I’m sorry I was disrespectful when I ______.” Keep it sweet and simple (women often use too many words and it just overwhelms the situation). You only need to say it once, and then no need to bring it up again (unless he does).…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 08:45 AM
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Don’t think of it as “trying to change his mind” about anything. Let go of any agenda and just present the problem to him (“I want this friend to visit but I want you to feel comfortable”), ask what he thinks and respect what he says whether the answer is yes or no. Answer might depend on how long you’ve been together and how much trust you have already built up. Don’t try to push it or he will push back. With this other guy, that’s a date and it’s not appropriate. Doesn’t matter if you call it …
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/23 08:29 AM
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If it’s a long term family friend and you’ve never hooked up or been romantically interested in eachother, then perhaps it could be acceptable for him to couchsurf for a couple days, but only if your BF feels comfortable with it and gets to meet him. I would propose you even have your BF over those nights or go stay with him. A recent friend asking you to dinner is not appropriate. That’s a date. Nope. Don’t even contemplating going behind his back that would break trust.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/23 08:18 AM
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Yes it’s not too late and RPW skills will help. Got out of a 12 year long relationship at 34. Started a new one at 35. We’re happily pregnant at 36!
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/23 03:36 AM
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Context is important here. Where do you know these guys from and in what social situations/locations would you be going out with them? Is this a one-on-one thing w a “guy friend”? Here at RPW we don’t really believe in guys being “just friends” with women so this wouldn’t be appropriate if you are serious about this relationship. Trust me guys don’t put effort into maintaining one-on-one adult friendships with women they aren’t attracted to. You might be fresh out of college where this is less n…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/23 02:39 AM
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This is tried and true advice from Laura Doyle who’s work is referenced often in this sub. Not sure if you’re familiar w this sub and RPW principals from your comment? The idea is you only marry a man you would trust to do this level of financial intimacy with. Again this is considered “advanced” so it won’t work if there’s other control issues that the woman is still working on. Surrendering the Finances means that all their money goes into shared accounts (that she can access if she wants) but…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/23 12:13 AM
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Yes that’s 7 years that you weren’t on the scene dating or sleeping around and men prefer that. You have experience with what it’s like with a LTR (not all sunshine and roses), where many girls can’t get past the honeymoon phase and ditch a relationship once it becomes deep/work. You learned a lot and you also know more about how you should be treated. Gives the next man a chance to step in and be your hero. And even if it was not healthy it doesn’t sound like you were extremely emotionally abus…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 08:24 PM
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It’s part of the steps to “surrendered wife.” Recommended bc it creates a deep level of intimacy and trust. It allows the woman to feel taken care of by her man and allows the man to feel responsible for his family’s wellbeing. Wives who succeed in this step report less overall stress about finances and that their husbands became both better earners and savers. Note this step is only recommended for married couples. When you take that step of marriage and combine finances it signals that you are…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 08:09 PM
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Hmm I just looked and I’ve either been removed or the group has a new privacy setting or is deleted… I’ll let you know if I find out more
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 08:07 PM
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Love your initiative! It can indeed be rare to find this style of relationship advice in our modern feminist culture. There’s Laura Doyle’s free Adored Wife group on Facebook where her coaches post and there’s challenges and interaction w other women who are interested in this style of relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 09:20 AM
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My Dr. Mom recommends to cut the grains out (anything w wheat) except for a once a week cheat day. This allows insulin levels to regulate. Keep only healthy snacks in the house. Our kid is allowed to snack all day except just before dinner, but snacks are just fruits, veggies, nuts, some cheese. No crackers or processed anything. I have one stash of dark chocolate if I need something sweet. I always do best w exercise when it’s social like joining a class or team. Exercising w friends gives me 2…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 01:11 AM
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Laura Doyle’s last step of surrendering is to Surrender the Finances. There’s a reason why this is the last part of her program, bc it can be the most difficult and really requires a huge leap of faith. If you’re new to these feminine principles keep practicing while also trying to “stay off his paper” (in this case the literal bills.) When you get more confident and experienced, consider handing him full control of the finances (including both retirement accounts). In LD’s experience, men reall…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/23 09:48 PM
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Yes, Laura Doyle teaches to practice the skills on your own or with other women. The skills are not for men and not for them to know about. It’s not that it’s “a secret” but it’s simply a woman thing and it only works because you are doing it for yourself not for your partner.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/23 02:55 AM
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Nervous and excited are 2 sides of the same coin. The same feeling but one comes from fear the other comes from love/passion. You can consciously choose which side you want to experience, often by just calling yourself out on it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/23 02:48 AM
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Cool thanks did not know about this!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 06:58 AM
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Laura Doyle’s advice still stands. “Whatever you think” are the magic words that show you trust him to make good decisions, even in areas where you may be the “expert.” Picking out outfits is a mothering type behavior and even if he asks it’s a slippery slope that sets a precedent. If anything you could give a overall compliment to his style as extra encouragement.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 08:10 PM
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In the end people will (hopefully) not know the details of your sex life. So how you behave in public can be what they assume extends into your bedroom. Kissing strangers at clubs for example is slutty even if you don’t go home with them. Some women think giving gratuitous BJs doesn’t count as being slutty bc it’s not PIV. But these behaviors are def a major turn of for men seeking a LTR. I have a girlfriend from DR who is pretty conservative w who she sleeps with, but she makes very sexual comm…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 09:02 PM
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Nice tips! Refreshing to see RPW perspectives and experience vs the depressing complaining and failed nagging over at /r/mommit. How old are your kids and how long have you been together? I would add to make sure you get your self care in throughout the day so you can stay charged. Laura Doyle defines self care as anything that makes you ridiculously happy, the more frivolous the better, and it’s the first thing her coaches check on when a woman is having relationship stress. For busy moms you m…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 08:16 PM
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Older women can be great role models and resources, get to know the married woman.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 04:13 AM
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Relationship broken… add more people? This never works in any capacity 😅
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 09:57 AM
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Laura Doyle’s material is great for this. Many of us discover her thru this sub. Her Empowered Podcast is amazing. Would recommend you read the Surrendered Single if you’re not yet in a LTR.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 09:11 PM
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Men compete. Women relate. You can’t compete and relate at the same time. To work on your relating, you want to build up the skill of empathy and active listening. This is how I learned relating in Laura Doyle’s coach training program: Ask questions, respond with more questions. Be quiet (or use simple affirming phrases) so that you can really listen and absorb what she is saying. Verify what you are hearing by restating (in your own words) what she is saying “So it sounds like…” and confirming …
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 09:25 AM
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Not considered attractive for most of us on this sub…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 07:27 AM
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I always cringed at the term “daddy” when used by women bc it seemed like she was calling him her daddy… but my partner is already a father to a 3yo and now it just comes so naturally to always call him that because he just is Daddy. He refers to himself as Daddy in the 3rd person all the time, just something that comes w having kids…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 08:55 PM
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Nothing to lose by responding. The fact that he reached out to you unsolicited is a good sign even if the text was one word. He’s still leading the way. Explore any and all options, esp in a small town w limited opportunities. Don’t put limiters on yourself, if your kids are a dealbreaker for him you’ll know early on.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 08:49 PM
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It’s all relative… but a woman can be a waitress and still have an interesting enough lifestyle to attract a HVM
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 06:54 PM
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I like 5 years as a good age gap. When the guy is a little bit older w more life experience it’s easier for the woman to naturally be more respectful. Plus he’ll be at a slightly more mature age for starting a family when she is ready. But longer than that and they start to be from different generations and the woman can start to be too immature for him.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 04:23 AM
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Men don’t care about the “prestige” or money of your career, they just like a woman who is into what they do and is interesting. I think animation is a cool interesting and artistic career for a woman… But “interesting” can come from hobbies just as much as from a job. So just develop yourself in many areas and be excited about what you’re into. I’ve got a very unique career but I’m an entrepreneur so self made. Part of it involves my art (I have an Etsy shop) and another part is a type of perfo…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 08:06 PM
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I was talking to 3 men on dating apps (all long distance since nobody on dating apps lived where I did). One guy we met up very quickly as I was already traveling so adjusted my plans for a stopover. Things were moving fast w him so I messaged the other 2 that I would be taking myself off the app. One guy wished me well and the other (the guy I had been talking to the longest) didn’t take no for an answer… He said he was playing the slow game but when he realized he had competition he ramped up …
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 07:31 PM
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You can measure effectively using temperature and cervical mucus. You could use OPK kits in the beginning to test your charting but they are expensive to use all the time unless you’re actively trying to conceive.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 06:39 PM
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I highly recommend the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Have been tracking for about 7 years since I took my IUD out. It works as long as your diligent and disciplined. Those ovulation hormones are no joke. I got pregnant w my ex when we both knew it was my fertile cycle but couldn’t resist a little before we put the condom on. When it came time to consciously conceive we succeeded on the first try. My advice is don’t rely on an app. Making the charts by hand for several months will ensure …
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 10:01 AM
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Freaking out will only put out desperate thirsty energy which men can sense and is a major turn off Focus on yourself, your hobbies, your friends. Put yourself out there by letting friends know you’re looking to date and open to them setting you up. Get on serious online dating sites (not swipe sites, ones where you have to make an in-depth profile or pay for membership). Try new hobbies that get you out meeting people. Smile at men and accept approaches and date offers from men you wouldn’t nor…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 08:04 PM
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Very risky for it to even work… for any woman who really wants a bio family this should be a last resort not even a “backup plan”
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 07:25 PM
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My partner already has a 3yo and after years of feeling behind it’s like I suddenly have a family like my girlfriends who were having kids years ago (and our kids are the same age which makes it extra fun!). After being in a dead end relationship for 12 years, I found my soulmate, we got pregnant very quickly and suddenly we’ll be a family of 4 by the time I’m 36. I never pictured myself dating someone who already had kids, always thought we would do the new parent thing together. But I’m loving…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 12:45 AM
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Remember the skills are for YOU! The skills helped me feel at peace knowing I did everything possible to be loyal to my commitment. In the end I could walk away confident that I tried my best. And everything I learned in the process helped me manifest a partner more compatible than I could have known. Even though my ex is the one who left me he is still realizing how much he lost and says it is the biggest regret of his life.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 12:19 AM
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Found Laura Doyle thru this sub. Did 1 month of her group coaching program and then ended up signing up for her 6 mo Coach Training program and it has been a life changer. Initially I was diving into her trainings to “save” my 12 year relationship, but the relationship ended which was hard (would have been harder without the support of my coach training group) but it was what needed to happen and I am so much better off. I had the skills to heal myself quickly and attract my true soulmate at rec…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 07:40 AM
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Yes the podcast is amazing!
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 07:36 AM
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Yeah what the Yacht girls aren’t showing on their social feeds is the old ugly rich guys they have to have sex with to get on those yachts. And very often these girls are coming off sugar daddy sites which is basically prostitution. Trust me I’ve been around “the scene” and nothing comes for free. The rich guys aren’t stupid, they get what they want out of the exchange. Also, it’s all relative. In rich scenes pretty girls are surrounded by other pretty girls. Around money models are a dime a doz…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 05:30 AM
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In Laura Doyle’s coaching the magic words are “I miss you.” It’s vulnerable while letting him know you want him, without you having to be the initiator. We are coached NOT to initiate a SOTU conversation… these never help us get what we actually want, which is to be desired. You can’t negotiate desire. And having a convo about how your man is not sexually satisfying you is only going to emasculate him no matter how delicately it’s worded. Better to have the extended convos with your trusted girl…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/23 10:45 PM
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We got engaged at 10 years but he was depressed and it didn’t progress. Kept saying he wasn’t ready for a family… we broke up, I took some time to heal but met my true soulmate very quickly and we didn’t waste any time starting a family (currently 4 mo pregnant!) My ex didn’t take it well when I moved on as he seemed to have this fantasy that we would still get back together. We are still friends and he says losing me was the biggest regret of his life.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/23 08:10 PM
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Thanks! I had nausea and fatigue from week 6-11
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/23 07:04 AM
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I’m 4 months! My sex drive is actually quite high but he’s been working a lot and hasn’t been feeling good recently so I’m trying not to bug him 😅 even in the first trimester sex was one of the things that distracted my nausea.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/23 12:38 AM
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Personally I always liked the way I looked even as a teen who was a late bloomer that didn’t get much attention. I didn’t get outside validation and grew up quite sheltered, but I somehow had inner confidence. In college I did freelance modeling (at 5’6” I was not tall enough to get an agency in NYC) and later (at 29) I became an international beauty queen and I won an award for most photogenic. I never really knew how to do my makeup properly until other beauty queens taught me at the pageants,…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 08:05 PM
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How about a swear jar? Every time you say something crass you charge it to the jar. When I was a teen my Gma stopped me of the “like” habit by “charging” me a nickel to the “like jar” every time I said it. No actual money was part of the exchange, but her comment of “5 cents!” every time I said it, and sometimes keeping track of how much I “owed” that day made me notice it and eventually be able to control it. Become comfortable with more silence. You don’t have to see it as stifling yourself if…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 09:08 AM
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Thanks. I have a degree in anthropology so it was the cultural realism of RP which interested me in this sphere.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 10:55 PM
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About the theory… “A woman would rather share an alpha than settle for a beta” is one of the main tenants of RP. It is not the strategy taught here at RPW, but it is a totally valid mating strategy, and it’s more protective of the woman’s investment than riding the CC without the benefits of marriage. Technically polygamy benefits women as a whole more because more women can access a higher value mate. Polygamy is actually worse for men as a whole bc only the top percent of males dominate all th…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 09:35 AM
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Wanted to share that in Laura Doyle’s program we are coached that when he asks “What do you want to eat?” (or do, go, etc…) that we actually respond by saying what we desire! Specifically in the phrase “I would love ___.” This is not about being submissive or a power struggle. If he says “I’m getting us pizza tonight” then my response is “thanks!” But when he does ask what I want, I give a true answer. Sometimes I don’t know what I want but that’s a good opportunity to tune in and think about wh…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 03:32 AM
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At this point your hyper focus on it is only going to make things worse (vibe wise). Are you generally at equal attractiveness as your friends? This can be hard to get honest feedback/assessment about. If there’s an attractiveness discrepancy that can be addressed, but if externally all things are equal then it’s indeed an energetic problem. Men can sense that you’re thirsty for attention and it’s a turn off. I understand you want to date, but you might want to consider nun mode so you can recov…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/23 08:55 PM
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I think the context is more important than the exact number… 1 long term abusive bf + 4 drunken one night stands = red flag 5 actual relationships is a good sign
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/23 03:03 AM
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Does it have to be a large city? I’ve found a good blend in “hippie farmer” communities which don’t have to be tied to big cities. Spiritual (without being religious) but also grounded in traditional family values instead of sucked into the political feminist BS. So many people want to ditch big cities for a new version of back-to-the-land self sufficiently that there are good communities forming in more rural areas now.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/23 06:56 AM
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Watch that movie about Coco Chanel for inspo about how to look very feminine with short hair and masculine wardrobe. For behavior, you don’t have to change your personality but you can still improve your listening skills. Listening is a very feminine art and good for improving any and all relationships. 1) Ask sincere questions 2) Restate and confirm what they said (“so you did ABC because XYZ and that caused 123, did I get that right?”) 3) Empathize with the other person (“that sounds like it w…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/23 09:32 AM
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My guess is that you look younger than your age, thus it’s a “safe” question with a flattering answer. Nobody wants to ask this question to someone who looks old.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/23 09:09 AM
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In that case and if you are in a loving relationship, it would be very beneficial for your child if you were to solidify that more. You already have the child so things are a little out of order according to normal RPW game plan, but he sounds serious and committed. He is the father and will love your child more than any other man.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/23 07:36 AM
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This is co-dependence. You can be happy on your own and it’s a pre-requisite for finding a partner who is also happy on his own so you can form a healthy relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/23 03:51 PM
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TLDR… that’s a crazy wall of text. Take a breath (and use paragraphs) and pls narrow down what is your actual question. On overview it seems like you’re not ready for a relationship. Spend some time on your own, build up some hobbies and self confidence… get to know who you are so you can attract someone who knows who he is.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/23 09:47 AM
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Nice to see lots of practical examples of what Laurel Doyle calls “Surrendering the Finances” and is usually the last step in her program about how to stop being a controlling wife. When a man is in control of the finances he takes on that responsibility for his family and is more motivated to succeed.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 10:10 PM
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You have 2 baby girls, you don’t want them learning from your situation how a man is supposed to treat a woman. I’m usually the last on to tell a woman to leave… but this is a very tough case. Only you can make the choice. If you are truly wanting to stay, pls check out Laura Doyle’s Empowered Wife Podcast… there are stories of women who have changed abusive relationships or relationships with addicts into happy healthy ones. Us women really do have a lot of power in the outcome of the relations…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/23 08:43 AM
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Yes the wealthiest men can pull this off because most women “would rather share an alpha than settle for a beta.” Doesn’t mean the women are happy (or even attracted to their husbands) but money makes everything run smoother. A few men are both rich and good looking, and yes they can dominate the market however they want… doesn’t mean a woman should still go with them. Again, we’re not looking to be with those men. Here at RPW we strive to be in the top percentage of women who can command the at…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 09:53 PM
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It sounds like you might not yet understand that RPW is very different from RP for men… RPW focuses on being feminine to attract a man who is naturally a good combo of alpha (leader) and beta (provider). RPW seeks to avoid becoming a plate (being monogamous to a non-monogamous man). TRP can have 2 approaches… the most common is to try become “alpha” by improving game, increasing N-count and building a harem (note: a true alpha would do this naturally, not from reading pickup game on the internet…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 06:27 AM
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This perspective, the fact that you have re-evaluated your values and chosen to change your views and improve on yourself, is very valuable in itself. Probably more valuable than a woman with a lower N count who is still blue pilled. It’s up to him if he’s going to let your past bother you, or take you for your new improved self. It’s up to you to keep your self esteem and self worth up and not let your past choices drag you down for this man or for another in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/23 08:37 PM
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It’s not how I originally envisioned things but I love it! He’s adorable and well behaved, his dad has done an amazing job with him. He says he loves me 10 times before breakfast! It sort of feels like cheating bc I was wanting a baby for so long, while all my girlfriends were already getting pregnant years before me. Now suddenly I have a kid the same age as theirs (looking forward to play dates!) and it’s like I’m not “behind” like I used to feel. We split time w the mom 50/50 so I still get t…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/23 05:16 PM
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Seek out an Integrative MD who can get him on bio-identical (not chemical) hormone replacement therapy pellets. Make lifestyle and diet changes to avoid chemicals and plastics that can reduce T. Also have his sperm checked.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 09:38 PM
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My ex-fiancé often blamed his financial situation on why he wasn’t ready to start a family yet. He wasn’t in a bad place but we prioritized exotic traveling a lot so didn’t have a stable nest. My new partner doesn’t see lack of money as an excuse. He came from nothing (starved, abused, grew up in 20+ foster homes) and is confident in his ability to make it in the world regardless of outside circumstances. His perspective is that he needs for nothing, so everything can go to supporting his family…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 04:05 AM
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I thought I was going to be alpha widowed at 34 when my fiancé that I was with for 12 years finally ended things because “he wasn’t in a good place” (depressed) and “I deserved better.” Turns out he was right. I focused heavily on healing and self care, experimented with some dating, and 6 months later, I met a true alpha online who is also the fantastic father of a 3 year old. He used to work a lucrative field making 6 figures being his own boss. That entire market crashed and he was left broke…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 10:14 PM
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Not only are T scores plummeting, but the standard for what is considered a healthy score is also decreasing. My Dr. Mom explained that the way they come up with average T scores is to take a sample population of male college students, thus that the benchmark has been falling as well bc today’s college males def have way lower scores than in past decades.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 08:21 AM
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Lol I remember whining about my mom listening to Dr. Laura on the radio… but I think some of her principals sunk in in the end!
/r/RedPillWives03/05/23 08:16 AM
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Came here to suggest the same. Her Empowered Wife Podcast is excellent and easy to listen to while driving or doing housework.
/r/RedPillWives01/05/23 07:34 AM
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Thanks, I knew my vax comments would get downvoted but I am glad to at least help somebody.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 06:40 AM
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Thank you. Everyone should be able to speak their mind no matter what they choose to do with their bodies, it’s the censorship that is the real issue. Check out the sites, I actually talked to some nice men in Australia (I’m in Hawaii so it’s actually one of the closer options lol).
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 05:32 AM
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Adding that I love friends who are active and I make most of my women friends through fit hobbies. Always helps to have workout buddies and these women generally care for their health and appearance so it’s a good influence even if they’re not so traditional or feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 03:11 AM
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Thank you for being curious. Most people here meet me with hostility anytime I bring it up. But for women everywhere I hope the info gets out and people start asking questions and demanding answers. Here is a link my Dr. Mom sent me of a doctor comparing numbers for birthrates, miscarriages, stillbirths and neonatal dates. https://youtu.be/EE2RH89r3YM The comments (while only anecdotal) are heartbreaking and these voices are constantly suppressed instead of being followed up on with urgent resea…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 02:50 AM
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Yes the crossover with family values is good regardless of how deep you are into the spirituality.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 02:36 AM
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This. An education is not the silver bullet it once was. It’s def not worth getting into debt for, especially for potential SAHMs. Plenty of practical job skills can be learned online as well. I went to one of the most expensive schools in the states (thankfully debt free due to my father paying for it) but I have made my career and side hustlers from skills learned on my own outside of school.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 02:34 AM
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It’s ok I’m sure it seemed like the right thing at the time and there was a lot of pressure for the amount of questionable side effects (esp for women). Good to not get any boosters at least. Many of the batches were placebos as well so you might be fine.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 02:29 AM
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There is a lot of data showing otherwise… The rate of miscarriages and stillbirths has doubled since vax started in 2021 (rates were normal when Covid started in 2020). You won’t see this info on the news and doctors are regularly censored online for asking questions. I know Reddit is not the place to debate this bc it is an overwhelming pro-vax place. So not looking to stir up anything. Just answering the lady’s questions w my own experience. Which includes my own vaxxed sister having a miscarr…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 02:28 AM
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This is also RPW where a majority of women choose to prioritize family over careers and we are much more realistic and conservative when it comes to fertility planning. In most of the world today “just freeze your eggs” is recommended as an easy fix but the reality of fertility tech (and the possibility of struggling through years of failed fertility and IVF treatments with no guarantee) is not fully realized. Again I’m sharing my Dr.Mom’s experience as her heart goes out to her women colleagues…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 10:43 PM
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Sure but this is not going to be a popular option (and not an option for some…) I sought out dating sights specifically for unvaxxed singles. This was important for me and my future partner’s fertility. On these sites I found a high ratio of high quality men who are looking for a family oriented woman and who are interested in living self sufficiently. Unjected.com was one site. Another was an Unvaxed Singles group on telegram. The one where I actually found my partner was a telegram channel tha…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 10:30 PM
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Even with all todays tech… some women still want to make families the old fashioned way. If motherhood is your priority I wouldn’t gamble on time or tech. Careers can still happen after a family.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 10:23 PM
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I’m active in the local homesteading/farming community but found my partner who lines up w my goals perfectly online. From what I saw there were a lot of men looking for a woman who would love this lifestyle.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 10:09 PM
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A tip from my mother who is a doctor… Don’t wait too long to have children if being a mother is important to you. My mom saw so many female doctors who waited too long and then were miserable and depressed when they couldn’t have children. She didn’t want that to happen so she went ahead and had me right in residency (my father is also a doctor). Also have a plan for how motherhood and medicine combine. My mom naively thought she would be right back after a few months of maternity leave… but whe…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 06:23 AM
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My dad is a surgeon and my mom is a doctor… surgeons usually don’t have time to meet anyone outside their career. When my parents split and my dad started dating again, he got tired of only dating other doctors. He went online to finally find his new wife, who is an artist.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 09:51 PM
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If he’s a top tier man he will want a woman who has an “interesting” career if not a lucrative one. Exotic hobbies can also fulfill this role. Men like to brag about their women’s accomplishments but not their bank accounts. For example I’m not just a model but I’ve won and now direct a unique series of national and international beauty pageants (that combine athletic skills w traditional pageantry). My “dream job” doesn’t make me tons of money but it’s super unique and I’ll be featured in a Net…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 09:16 PM
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Yep came here to recommend her material. The book is a great start but when it comes down to making lasting changes then I found the Ridiculously Happy Wife monthly program to be indispensable! So much more effective than any therapy or counseling. The Empowered Wife podcast is also so inspiring and free.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/21 08:37 PM
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Money can be a major cause of discontent if partners don’t have the same ideas about it. Is he an otherwise good partner? Is the rest of the relationship is good? There could be subtle ways you are disrespecting and controlling him and he is pushing back by picking fights about money. Look up Laura Doyle’s questions about how to tell if you are being a controlling wife/girlfriend. If everything else in the relationship is peachy, then it’s more of just a money problem. I highly recommend you bot…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 07:10 PM
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Flirting is supposed to be fun and playful. In the beginning there is a certain amount of natural tension of how much “does he/she like me?” It’s not supposed to be 2 ppl faking their level of interest to try to get the upper hand. That struggle for power gets old fast.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 05:44 AM
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It’s a good idea to have an emergency account when making a step like that. But designating it an “escape” account does make it kind of personal and hurt the trust. When merging finances it would have been ideal to let him know about the other account as an “emergency account.” Too late now but the way the account was presented was a major blow to his ego and trust.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/21 04:29 AM
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Sounds like your partner is on your side in feeling like she’s a bit much. You can’t control her relationship with him and trying to do so will only make you look insecure, whereas you actually seem confident and secure in your relationship. I would recommend just letting him know that you would love to have some uninterrupted time with him, especially since your time together is so limited. Let him step up to create some time with you and set some boundaries with her.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/21 04:15 AM
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I don’t think it’s advisable to merge finances until legally married, for both of you. Having an account that is your own should generally be ok, but keeping it a secret when you made a decision to merge your finances is disrespectful and a major betrayal of trust. It would help to apologize to him for not telling him about the other account. Use Laura Doyle’s cheat phrase “I apologize for being disrespectful when I _____.” Just say it once. Then ask him what he thinks is the best solution. Acce…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/21 03:18 AM
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Think about classic Hollywood... the male star was always significantly older than the female, but in a dapper sophisticated way. This is the kind of masculinity that is attractive. It doesn’t mean ALL men age well. But the more attractive ones have an extended range. Attractive women age well too but their range is still smaller than a man’s.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/21 05:27 AM
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So picky, somewhat sheltered, shy... those are not red flags a man would be turned off by As far as attractive goes, work on your body, develop a simple but effective makeup routine, dress flattering and feminine. For approachability, practice smiling more. Make eye contact. Put down your phone more. Don’t be afraid to say hi to someone. Practice with women first if you’re too shy with men.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/21 12:01 AM
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Regardless of sex, at 19 what has been holding you back from romantic/intimate experiences with men (hand holding, kissing, dates, cuddling)? Cultural reasons? Are you sheltered? Shy? Introverted? Unattractive? Overweight? Just haven’t met anyone you want to get close with? Some of these reasons will be good, acceptable or not a big deal and some will be more of a turn off.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 11:28 PM
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You can get a lot of experience without sleeping around with a lot of men. If you’re in a long term relationship you’ll get plenty of experience from one man, possibly more bc you’ll start exploring more bc you feel safer with a deeper bond. If you are in love having other LTRs can still be a valuable experience before marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 05:27 PM
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They say that for women, foreplay starts at the end of the last orgasm. A lot of it has to do with how you think about him throughout the day. Staying grateful, respectful and reminding yourself of all the reasons you are attracted to him will keep you mentally ready for him whenever he is ready for you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 04:07 AM
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Haha yeah why so serious? Who wants to be in a “serious” relationship anyway.... even with a long term relationship it should still be fun and playful! Serious just sound so heavy.
/r/RedPillWives21/01/21 03:59 AM
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Yes I study a lot of Laura Doyle and you are on the right track! It sounds like you have a generous man who enjoys making you happy and being your hero! You are uncomfortable w it bc your receiving muscles are weak due years of supporting your mooching ex. Flex those muscles and learn to receive graciously!
/r/RedPillWives20/01/21 09:34 PM
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But then what about their kids? There was a guy in China who sued his wife for making ugly kids bc she didn’t tell him about all the plastic surgery she had 😂
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 09:27 PM
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Also bi... I’m very thin and fit so yes I need a girl to match me somewhat for me to be attracted to her. But face is also important, as a woman I’m pretty picky haha, more picky than my partner, who can overlook a butter face for a hot booty
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 09:23 PM
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My fiancé is an ass man... no matter how hot a girl was if she didn’t have a big booty he wasn’t interested in her at all. He chose me because of all my relationship qualities (esp my cooking) but I know it’s ALSO bc he says I have the best ass he’s ever been with. Some men can afford to filter for both high RMV and SMV. (And to clarify it’s about the booty to waist ratio so yes it’s still about being fit, not “thic”)
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 09:16 PM
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Love the Empowered Wife podcasts! Been needing to restore my GOFL too. He’s very silly and fun and usually I just need to follow his lead and join him in playing instead of “being the adult.”
/r/RedPillWives20/01/21 09:00 PM
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I didn’t vote for either Trump or Biden. I have family on both sides of the spectrum and they are both equally obnoxious about their political beliefs, but at least I get access to both sides instead of being stuck in a bubble echo chamber. I will say that I like that Trump is not a politician. He says what he wants instead of carefully crafting perfect politically correct but empty statements like politicians always do. I also believe he is more difficult to control by whoever is “behind the cu…
/r/RedPillWives19/01/21 11:13 PM
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I acknowledge you for your vulnerability in sharing this story. It sounds like you had a very emotionally painful experience that is still with you. Can you first forgive yourself for what did or didn’t happen with your virginity? You had a beautiful intention to share it with your husband and that opportunity was taken away from you. You can acknowledge this disappointment and still forgive yourself for it. I’m not saying that the rape was your fault, but it sounds like you still have guilt aro…
/r/RedPillWives19/01/21 10:58 PM
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Did he have a very jealous ex in the past?
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/21 12:25 AM
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I think we need more details to give accurate advice. Is your unattractiveness from low self esteem? You mentioned your face and that surgery can not fix your issue...do you have a deformity? Asymmetry? Scarring? What’s going on here? A lot of ppl have commented on making up for an unattractive face by maximizing your body. Is there anything preventing you from building a fit hot body? Even without surgery this can be attainable for most.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 07:05 AM
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What are you doing on RPW then... you don’t seem to have anything in common with this sub
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 06:55 AM
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It seems you’re going a lot by statistics but really you can make the right plan for YOU, not you as an “average” in a pile of statistics. By being a part of RPW you are already an outlier on these statistics about divorce rates, so I wouldn’t plan your life around them. If you’re in college I would def not recommend most college men bc they are mostly dating for fun, not for life partners. 4 years older and out of college is not a huge age gap but it is a big difference in maturity!
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 02:18 AM
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My fiancé is also expressed that he may not want to be legally married. I understand this and it is not a dealbreaker for me, but it would make quite a few things easier and maybe he will come around eventually.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/21 12:55 AM
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There are def risks involved but if a man doesn’t take risks (and fail a few times along the way) what kind of man will he turn out to be? A soft mushy beta... I’ve also found that when I’m more controlling then I get the blame for when things go wrong. I was “just trying to help” so then I end up feeling resentful too. If leave his decisions up to him then he takes responsibility instead of getting mad at me.
/r/RedPillWives07/01/21 10:23 PM
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Yes there are some dramatic stories, but there are dramatic turn arounds as well (in the more in-depth programs). 5-days is not going to turn around years of marital issues, the real success stories take a few years. She runs this as a free trial so ppl can test if the skill help (in the short term) and if ppl take to them then they can seek further training and support. Yes these are paid programs but from what I can tell it’s much more effective than the standard “get marriage counseling” appr…
/r/RedPillWives07/01/21 10:21 PM
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Day 2: More tips on using “Whatever you think” (WYT): * don’t use WYT when he’s asking to know your desire and how to make you happy. Ex: if he asks where you want to go to dinner, you can reply “I would really love Italian!” Learn the distinction between an opinion and a desire. * It can be ok to communicate information as long as your opinion is not in it. Ex: he’s asking what to do about a car payment and you pull up a calculator that can show the monthly breakdowns. * these cheat phrases are…
/r/RedPillWives06/01/21 09:03 PM
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Feels like a lot to start but they can be simple things too like a hot cup of tea, an extra long shower or putting on your favorite lotion. The intention that you’re doing it to pamper yourself goes a long way. I try to do at least one bigger SC a day (ex doing my yoga flow or a hot bath) and a couple smaller things too (like my fav chocolate or some creative doodling in my journal). Having the list helps when you so out of practice or exhausted that you can’t remember what you like to do for yo…
/r/RedPillWives06/01/21 01:47 AM
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Day 1: Relinquishing Control “A surrendered wife knows she can’t change anyone but herself” Do you feel: * like making helpful suggestions * secretly smarter than him * like showing/teaching him how to do things * frustrated at his lack of response so you do/say things that you know you shouldn’t * like he is trying to control you If so then you are being a controlling wife. Different skills are required for work and love. At work we manage people/things. In love we want natural intimacy and rom…
/r/RedPillWives06/01/21 12:56 AM
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Day 0/Intro: Self Care Make a list of 20 Self Care activities These should be things you really enjoy, not things you should do. They can be cheap/quick if you are limited on time/money, but they are for your pleasure. The more frivolous the better. Many women (esp moms) are overworked and have no self care habits. You need to start making yourself happy before your husband can make you happy. Schedule at least 3 of them per day. Feel free to share ideas below.
/r/RedPillWives06/01/21 12:55 AM
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Great work! Men love it when we actually ask for help in that way, when we present a problem and ask them to figure out a solution (vs telling them what we think they should do to fix the problem). It gives them a chance to step up and be our hero.
/r/RedPillWives05/01/21 09:44 AM
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His insecurities are on his side of the street. They’re his responsibilities and you can’t control them. There are things you can do to reduce tension when he is lashing out at you like this. Laura Doyle’s cheat phrase would be to say “I hear you” instead of trying to explain yourself. Getting defensive (even if you really didn’t do anything) only builds tension which is why he is accusing you of “picking a fight.” When you say “I hear you” you’re just showing that you’re listening to him. It do…
/r/RedPillWives05/01/21 09:33 AM
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Realize that the strength that draws you to a person will also be the reason you have fights down the line. For example there may be many things you may love about an introverted guy, but over time he may fail to stimulate you and seem boring. A more extroverted guy my be more exciting now, but over time you may come to resent that he spends more time with friends than with you. When you look at the other side of the coin, which will be less of an issue?
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/21 11:31 PM
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After over year I think he would want to kiss you at midnight... could be he is kissing someone else on NYE and you are a plate.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/20 04:50 PM
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There is so much expectation around holidays and birthdays that it can easily backfire and cause a lot of hurt and resentment. Anytime you feel disappointed that means you had an expectation. I second the commenter that recommended Laura Doyle. She teaches the difference between an expectation and a desire. Expectations lead to hurt and can damage the intimacy in your relationship. Desires however are healthy, they don’t have an attachment to HIM but they can still be expressed to him, giving hi…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/20 09:00 AM
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That’s awesome! I think it’s a totally respectable feminine skill. Any good channels or sources you’d recommend? I’m looking to get into it mostly as I can help my fiancé. He has gorgeous curls that are shoulder length but if it gets much longer he just hides them in a bun bc it annoys him. He gets his hair cut for free by a professional stylist friend of the family, but he’s never quite happy w the results. He seems open to me learning so he could have trims whenever he wants and I could take b…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/20 08:43 AM
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Yes it sucks that dental and medical doctors literally have no rights. Their licenses can be taken from them on a whim or a word.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/20 05:13 AM
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If it really is about “equity” why do YOU have to be her mentor just because you’re a woman? If all things are supposed to be equal, then a man could mentor her. Can the mentorship be passed on to someone else? If she really is so incompetent then hopefully the problem will take care of itself. But if you’re somehow responsible for picking up her slack then it’s not reflecting well on you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 11:27 PM
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Just do the bend-and-snap haha ;)
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 04:11 AM
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Sexualization of women’s breasts is actually quite a modern and western phenomenon. There are thousands of cultures where women’s breasts are exposed and thought of as motherly and not sexualized. The Christian church has something to do with the belief that women must cover their breasts, which fetishizes them. I also believe that more recent periods of time where babies were fed formula and denied access to their mother’s breast milk has increased a subconscious obsession with breasts.
/r/altTRP04/11/20 01:32 PM
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It’s still possible for y’all to have sex and for him not to ejaculate. He can even learn to orgasm without ejaculation if he has the self discipline (but will take some practice). It’s not a vow of abstinence it’s an intention to conserve his sexual fluids which can be a very powerful practice for a man.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 06:45 AM
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I can’t find the exact podcast w that interview but def listen to ALL of them, they are so helpful!
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 06:32 AM
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It is possible for a wife to inspire her man, even a “weak submissive one,” to be his most masculine self. Laura Doyle has a podcast that interviews a woman from an arranged marriage. She thought he was weak and not attractive, but she applied the skills and now finds him strong, respectable and attractive. I’ll try to find the one that has that interview...
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/20 07:10 PM
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Good for you being so young, committed to self improvement, and being open minded to find and explore RPW! This sub is apolitical, who you vote for doesn’t affect your relationship. Unfortunately the US has such a bad habit of forcing any type of behavior to belong to one of only 2 political parties it leaves no room for shades of grey.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 05:56 PM
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That’s a lot of questions that can be answered by the sidebar. Is there something more specific to your personal situation that you want help with?
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 04:11 PM
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To minimize time spent on grocery runs, order dry goods online in bulk. Or try a Costco style membership. Declutter as much as you can and avoid buying/filling spaces with useless stuff. Consider hiring a maid service to help you with a deep clean once in a while.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 07:11 AM
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Not everyone gets on the path of self improvement. It’s hard work looking at your shadows. She has to really want to change... even if she agreed to read the book if she’s not really searching for answers she won’t absorb it. I read the book a few years ago and it helped a lot, but it was easy to fall back into my old habits. Things has to get pretty bad before I realized how I was contributing to the problem and made major efforts revisiting Laura’s material.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 05:27 AM
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The Empowered Wife and Laura Doyle’s other material would be perfect for her. She’s a case study in control and disrespect. It’s interesting to hear the male perspective but what you’re describing is exactly what Laura talks about. I’ve been listening to Laura’s podcast a lot recently and in the interviews with other women it seems that the marriage had to get really really shitty for the woman to reach a point where she was open to trying anything to save it. This often meant that the husband h…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/20 04:59 AM
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So if I understand correctly this topic that you were upset about doesn’t actually have anything to do with him or your relationship. It’s more of your own emotional baggage? Not everything needs to be thoroughly talked about with your man. That’s where girlfriends are more supportive because we speak the same language. When we talk about our problems and want our man to provide emotional support, men often get frustrated because “support” is vague and they want to provide us a practical solutio…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/20 10:40 PM
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Politics don’t just affect friendships but tear families apart. Some of my family is very conservative, some very liberal. There have been times where aunts/uncles don’t talk to each other for years because of a fight over politics. It took my grandfather almost dying to bring the family back together and get them talking again. One fight about Trump affected our family more than any actual Trump policies did. Families should be more valued than the political circus.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/20 06:05 AM
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I feel like it’s the quality of the woman in combination with the man’s timeline. It took us 10 years before we got engaged. He knew I was a quality woman that he wanted to marry, but he wasn’t ready to step into the role of a husband yet. His brother (an alpha who is well respected in the community) dated a controlling shrew of a woman (from a rich family) for 10 years. He said he never wanted to get married or have children. They finally broke up and with the next woman he dated, very sweet an…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 06:38 PM
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Only you can make the call on if the good outweighs the bad. And you can make that call better if you step away from your makeup/breakup cycle and get some space to see things more clearly.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 06:30 PM
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So if you are committed to this relationship and want it to flourish, you need let him learn from his own life choices, even if that means getting sick. It’s his body he can do what he wants with it. Being controlling actually makes men push back against your advice, however well intended it may be. Let go of control and he might start finding his own way to a healthier diet. You need to dive into the Laura Doyle material stat. Put “duct tape” over your mouth as soon as you feel the need to comm…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 04:21 PM
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During your 2 years together you said you often felt miserable and that this miserable was the most stressful part of your life. What are the good parts of the relationship? A woman can inspire a man to be his best self. But she cannot change him. Has he shown captain material thus far? Or are you trying to polish a turd? Check out Codependents Anonymous free zoom meetings www.coda.org
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 04:13 PM
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This is the RPW response... Trying to control things that are beyond your control (like his sugar intake) will only stress you out and kill the intimacy in your relationship. You’re acting like you’re his mom and that is not sexy. Either STFU or find a partner that shares your nutrition habits (and even then you’ll still have to learn not to nag your new partner)
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 08:18 AM
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Sorry i mean that their reaction is harsh! Good that you’re working on independence.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 06:42 AM
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Geez that’s an overreaction. You are an adult, what are your options for living like one? Can you get a job, move out and live on your own?
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 06:01 AM
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Look at it this way... blocking him and going no-contact is what would be healthy in BOTH scenarios, whether you leave him for good or whether you recreate a healthy version of the relationship. You are in a yoyo of emotions and that is addictive and keeps you in an emotional fog where you can’t seeing things clearly. Commit to yourself at minimum one month no-contact (even if you see him on the street or at work, ignore him). In that time focus on building a really solid self care habits, recon…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 05:58 AM
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Wow congrats on your success!
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 09:18 PM
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Was dealing with a minor credit card debt cycle when we first started dating (22F and 27M). We live in a seasonal economy so I would rack up $3k credit card debt in the off-season that I would pay off in the on-season. He had a similar cycle but without debt...he would spend all his money in the off season and then rebuild from scratch in the on season. Neither of us had savings. As we grew together we grew our financial mindset and skills. I stopped my debt cycle and grew about $5k in savings. …
/r/RedPillWives28/09/20 06:26 PM
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Need a little more context here? Are you sheltered by your family or culture? Are you extremely introverted? And why do you think your couple of friends hold you back when it doesn’t sound like you’re doing anything anyway?
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 05:27 PM
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Ah ok. Hmm it’s tough but RPW does not sugarcoat... PCOS will definitely impact her SMV/RMV. She’s going to need to be more realistic with what men she can attract for a LTR. Being a doctor herself also puts her at a slight disadvantage because a man generally wants to earn more than the woman he dates, but men who make equal/more than doctors tend to have plenty of women they can attract even if they are not the most attractive themselves. For women with advanced degrees, learning how to show r…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 04:57 AM
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I recommend checking out the free Codependents Anonymous zoom meetings: Www.coda.org. They’re really a great resource for anyone who wants to improve themselves and their relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 12:19 AM
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Doesn’t have to be the same things every day. Some may be as simple as taking a walk, indulging in your favorite chocolate treat, a cup of herbal tea, reading a book or taking a nap. Small actions with intention goes a long way in resetting your stress levels. But maybe once a week go for something more pampering such as a massage or pedicure, a girls night out dancing or a long hot bubble bath. Get creative w your self care ideas and make sure to have fun with it, don’t let it just be another t…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 05:52 PM
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Focus on self care. Make a list of things that make you happy and do at least 3 a day.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 05:42 PM
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RP truth is that weight is very important even if you carry yourself/dress well. You are getting male interest from men that you consider not attractive to you, but your SMV is a reflection of what you are attracting, so look at your results and be real with yourself. Hookups are going to mess with your sense of how attractive you are, since women can get more attractive men for a ONS than they can for a relationship. You say you eat healthy and exercise...but something is not adding up about wh…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 05:40 PM
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True true! And good for you! I’ve gone 2.5 years now without buying new clothing (thrifting only), I work trade on a farm part of the year, and love crafting and DIY.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 05:29 PM
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Try meditation, learning how to be present in the moment is a skill that can be learned.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 05:21 PM
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Women make great consumers, especially when they have more of their own money! I feel like the feminist movement was partly funded by an infinitely expanding economy that needs for more people to buy things.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 11:24 AM
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Carbs/gluten stuff is more about how it affects your hormone levels for optimizing health, regardless of your weight goals.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 10:51 AM
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Hurrah! So much is pushed on people just to support a consumerist mentality that you have to push yourself to the max to earn the most money so you can spend it on the most stuff... congrats for getting off the treadmill to do what really makes you happy!
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 08:54 AM
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Anthropologist here and I’m usually the one citing the grandmother/menopause/evolution theory ;) Older women are definitely the matriarchs to be respected and revered moving forward. Our culture has lost a lot of wisdom overall but I hope that the next “generation” of wise old ladies can help bring it back. For example my MIL is adored by my friends as one of the wisest women I know, one of the “original hippies” who did yoga years before it was mainstream. She already has all the wisdom that my…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 06:38 AM
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Advice from my mom who is an anti-aging medical doctor (65 and looking stellar for her age!): 30s is the time to “use it or lose it” in terms of fitness and health as hormone levels start will start changing. Any effort towards improvements you make NOW will go a lot farther than efforts made down the line. She also advocates for a low carb or gluten free diet
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 06:24 AM
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For me it’s all about layers! If I wear short shorts or tight leggings, I have pretty sheer cover up robe-like layers that can go over them. Almost kimono like and feels very feminine. You can still see my figure but it tones things down so that I can even get away with a “too sexy” outfit at a family gathering. But at the gym, it’s if you got it flaunt it! Not even for other people... you’re the one staring at yourself in the mirror the whole time you’re doing squats, so might as well feel/look…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 02:38 AM
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Following one of my aunt’s examples, I want to learn how to get really good at asking questions that get people sharing about their lives and thus feeling connected. I’ve noticed how when she’s talking to someone new she always seems genuinely engrossed in what they are sharing and is good at asking the right questions about what they are passionate about. It is also part of the art of not talking too much about yourself ;)
/r/RedPillWives27/09/20 02:31 AM
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Therapy is the go to response when people don’t know what else to recommend. But in my experience therapy is risky and depends soooo much on the match with the therapist. We had a mediation for my mom with her whole family and the therapist misdiagnosed her issues as alcohol abuse when really the issue was domestic violence (alcohol abuse was a symptom but not the cause). The therapist recommended we all make an ultimatum that she go to rehab or we would stop talking to her (that works for alcoh…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 07:32 PM
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Thanks for the background check. In OP’s last post about a month ago and in this one, everyone’s been pointing her to Laura Doyle’s material as OP sounds like a textbook case. OP knew what the problem was (her disrespectful behavior), was given resources, continues her same old patterns and a month later is threatened with divorce. Sometimes things have to get really bad before people wake up enough to make lasting change.
/r/RedPillWives26/09/20 06:07 PM
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You know what accelerates aging? STRESS! You are stressing out about the future and that kind of attitude is going to make you less attractive both inside and outside. How is your diet? Exercise? Yoga? Hydration? Start there...
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 01:25 AM
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I’m so sorry, you must be in a lot of pain. But it’s not too late. Seriously in the podcasts I’ve been listening to many women share their stories about how he left or asked for divorce or even had an affair... and the women turned it all around by applying the principals. You can save your marriage if you buckle down and do the work on yourself. Get started here: How to Cope with the Threat of Divorce
/r/RedPillWives25/09/20 09:33 PM
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Mine also doesn’t care for when I say “I’m sorry I did xyz” but when I say “I’m apologize for being disrespectful” it shifts his entire attitude and peace is restored. Check out the podcasts, hearing the interviews of so many other women really helps.
/r/RedPillWives25/09/20 06:27 PM
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It may seem small, but your “suggestions” and “trying to be helpful” is actually controlling behavior and it’s death to marriage and intimacy by 1000 cuts. He is not being childish, you are pushing him away with your behavior and he simply doesn’t want to spend time (being fake in front of family) with you. This is a huge problem but you have the power to fix it. Instead of focusing on the aftermath of a fight, focus on what you can do to prevent fights. Offer an apology for being disrespectful …
/r/RedPillWives25/09/20 05:54 PM
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There is also a 10 year age gap, and being RP aware he may feel like he needs to step in a teacher position with you. My fiancé had to teach me as well, and it took me a while to learn that men and women can’t be “just friends.” If you are an attractive woman, all single men who communicate with you are always hopeful to get in your pants, and thus they go out of their way to communicate and befriend you in ways they wouldn’t with a male friend. It will always be a one-sided friendship. The only…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/20 04:47 PM
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Ah, marriage is a pretty big one for RPW. I understand how, especially today, the cards are stacked against marriage being a good thing for men. My fiancée doesn’t like government involvement in his life and still doesn’t know if he’s down for the legal courthouse form of marriage, though he’s down for ceremony and vows. Yet marriage is undeniably, definitely the RPW goal, and RPW strategy and skills are likely the only way to keep marriage a viable, respectable option. Most men in the real worl…
/r/RedPillWives25/09/20 04:30 PM
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If he was asking for these boundaries because he was cheated on in the past then it would be more of an insecurity issue. But because he knows about TRP then he knows you are a high risk woman due to your past promiscuity. You need to realize that your past behavior has done a lot of damage to your reputation and RMV (relationship market value). So for him to feel comfortable dating you he is teaching you what he would like to feel respected. It may sound like a bit much, but who do you care abo…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/20 09:33 AM
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I keep a “Red Pill Library” on Pinterest. Mostly books I’ve seen mentioned on RPW/TRP over the years, many of which I have read and others that are on my list... also pinup art of women reading books ;)
/r/RedPillWives25/09/20 05:32 AM
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I’ve been following RPW for over 5 years, visiting on and off, and I missed the drama of when this division was made. I’m curious which were the main subjects where male and female mods couldn’t find common ground or respect each others perspectives? I have noticed a decrease in quality over at Red Pill Women, mostly in standard RP advice getting downvoted over BP advice, and thought it had to do with the sub growing and getting watered down. But I’m sure quality also has a lot to do with how it…
/r/RedPillWives25/09/20 05:18 AM
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Thank you for clarifying. What are the main distinctions between the Red Pill Wives and Red Pill Women subs? Is there a specific goal for this sub that is different from the original sub?
/r/RedPillWives24/09/20 08:27 PM
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In this I find Laura Doyle a great example. I’ve been listening to her Empowered Wives Podcast and she and the women she has helped all share their stories of “the bad old days” in really negative marriages and how they transformed themselves (not their husbands) and now live in marital bliss. In contrast to traditional counseling where therapists are taught to never discuss their personal lives, her coaches share from personal experience what didn’t work (nagging and controlling) and what did w…
/r/RedPillWives24/09/20 04:47 PM
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I grew up on Dr Laura, as my mom would put her on the radio all the time in the car when I was little. I’ve found her material again as an adult woman and found it to be mostly aligned w RPW ideas. I can’t say I’m up to date on her personal life... Generally it is best to have role models who exemplify the life you want, but the lives we want often require recovering from hardship along the way. People a lot by experiencing traumas like divorce and affairs, and then teaching what they learned.
/r/RedPillWives24/09/20 06:42 AM
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I’m not a mom yet but it always strikes me when mom’s say to cherish those fleeting baby moments. Even when things are crazy remember to stay in the present moment and how grateful and happy you are to have that cute little baby, because time flies and before you know it they’re rotten teenagers haha.
/r/RedPillWives22/09/20 07:08 PM
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Huh? Why don’t you have his phone number?
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/20 03:34 PM
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Closer to the wall women change their game and are harder to get an easy lay out of. They’re now in husband hunting mode and have already wasted too much time on fuck boys and the fuck boys know it. These women are going to make a man work harder to get in her pants so the men who just want to fuck turn heel.
/r/RedPillWives21/09/20 04:15 PM
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My fiancée isn’t the best with Words of Affirmation, which is one of my top love languages to receive... but his friends compliment me so much it makes up for it a lot of times. One of his best friends, who is a stereotypical Chad, brags about my wifey skills to the girls he‘s seeing, saying that they should learn from me.
/r/RedPillWives21/09/20 04:04 PM
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OP = Original Poster, means the person who wrote the post.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 07:07 AM
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Please do not rely on just an app even if you have regular cycles. There are apps that you can enter your fertility symptoms like nasal body temperature and cervical fluid, but you need to use these for several months.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 05:53 PM
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Everyone’s body is different. The 14 day ovulation is an AVERAGE and varies for every woman and varies every cycle and should not be used for determining fertility to avoid pregnancy. Even for women with regular cycles ovulation can happen early or stress can delay ovulation. If you want to know your fertility for birth control you need to do A LOT of homework to get to understand your specific body. I take my temperature every morning and monitor my cervical mucus. Read Taking Charge of Your Fe…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 02:31 PM
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All women are hypergamous. At RPW we try to be aware of hypergamous tendencies and actively try to not give them too much power over our relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 04:54 AM
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Definitely. And I would have had the same answer about him 3 years into the relationship, probably even 3 months in. It’s been 11 years now. OP’s hypergamy is showing
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 03:43 AM
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What the heck, her work is saving marriages and families and children are reaping the rewards of intact happy families. She has helped women transformed thousands of what was once toxic situations into healthy wholesome love filled marriages. Most all of her advice is offered freely on the internet and her products are simply books and affordable relationship coaching (that actually works vs the thousands of $ people spend on useless counseling and therapy). Her teachings have also been a corner…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/20 04:15 PM
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Actually I just found that information from her podcast shortly after I posted the above. She said at the time of writing her book she did not know enough about abusive, adulterous and addiction relationships. But since hundreds of women have used her principles to successfully transform even these extreme relationships she has rescinded her advice to leave “bad men.” She also says a professional therapist/coach should never tell a woman to leave a relationship. The people on the relationship ar…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/20 04:05 PM
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I just came across Laura Doyle’s 1st podcast episode where she actually retracts her book’s original advice to leave a man if he is an alcoholic, abuser or adulterer. At the time of writing she was inexperienced with these types of relationships, so to be safe she said that her 6 intimacy steps could not work with these “bad men” and that the woman should leave. But since her book’s release, hundreds of women who apply her steps have completely reversed their relationships with abusers, addicts …
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/20 05:19 AM
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I personally relate to the thin line between RPW and codependency... I was an independent woman to start but my partner (being a naturally red pilled style man) opened a whole world for me that it was easy to get lost in. It’s taken conscious effort to establish healthy boundaries after being initially swept off my feet by his masculinity.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/20 03:24 AM
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Haha that’s pretty funny. At least they are doing it with intention vs BP totally flailing about and whining about it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/20 03:20 AM
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It’s actually a relief to surrender big decisions like that to a man you trust. It reduces the amount of stress on your life knowing that you can still put in your 2c but he will take care of these things in the end.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 07:12 PM
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When breaking the ice with women I look for something to compliment, whether it be something she’s wearing, her hair, her smile, posture...anything simple that is a genuine compliment can help both of you be “off guard.” I also find that women’s fitness classes are a great way to bond with other women and a good place to make friends with women who are interested in taking care of themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 07:05 PM
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I skimmed but it appears that the problem could simply be that some of his guy friends have poor boundaries and their girlfriends end up tagging along to guys nights. RPW acknowledges that it’s healthy for men to have time to bond with other men. But our culture is very much of the mind that everyone should always be included. I’d be curious if any of the other guys get annoyed when someone brings their GF to a “guys night.”
/r/RedPillWives17/09/20 06:57 PM
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Laura Doyle and Dr. Laura Schlesinger
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 05:40 PM
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Disrespect and abuse are very different things and should not be casually lumped together. Often a woman is getting disrespect because that is what she is showing the man. Actual abuse is a hard line and RPW has never advocated submitting to an abuser. But RPW recognizes that “he’s abusive!” gets thrown around willy nilly these days to describe when partners do shitty things, which detracts from victims of true abuse. Basically if a woman has come here and read the sidebar material and familiari…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 05:17 PM
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I agree with the mods and am shocked at the amount of RPW comments downvoted in this conversation. I’ve been with this sub for over 5 years and it has gotten diluted and the mods are having to set hard boundaries to help bring it back. This sub is about taking responsibility for the things you can change as a woman, which is ALOT more than our culture gives women credit for.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 05:04 PM
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I am advocating for women to be adults and take responsibility for their own choices. A woman should come her for tips and perspective, not to find out “should I leave him or not?” No internet stranger can tell her that off of one post, even a professional therapist would need many sessions and to meet with the partner and get the whole picture before they could recommend to leave a relationship. Does anyone here even read Laura Doyle anymore? I do feel like this sub has gotten diluted over the …
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 04:54 PM
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Ugh had a big oopsie where I just couldn’t STFU and started giving him advice around his business that was not asked for and that has been a bad argument for us in the past 😖 I just couldn’t let it go and stubbornly kept defending my perspective and it turned into a bad blowout. On the other hand I’ve been spending a few nights a week at my family’s where I have my artist studio. we’ve been needing more physical space in the relationship plus I’ve been working on orders for my Etsy ship.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 08:45 AM
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My friend who struggles w anxious attachment is a physical therapist and says that physical movement can really help with self soothing. Even just taking a walk can be really beneficial.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 08:40 AM
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Omg working w kids is soooo not useless, is so important that kids get help NOW rather than suffer through life and need even more help as adults. Thank you for protecting the next generation.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 07:03 AM
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Thank you for this! RPW provides a unique perspective that can be hard to find in today’s world and I appreciate that it not get watered down by easy outs. “NEXT” belongs on TRP, not RPW. And while it helps to have perspective, no one should be seriously be here with the intent to let internet strangers make decisions about their love life. If you are here on RPW, it’s probably because you value your relationship and want to consider options that will make it work. Even if it’s a shitty relation…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 06:59 AM
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/r/bulletjournal ! Has helped myself and so many of my girlfriends with time management.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 06:36 AM
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Wear it proud! The fact that you came out of such a tough environment with your morals intact is a good thing.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 12:13 AM
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It’s true childfree ppl can be good with children... my sister is strongly child free but she worked as a nanny for years. She’s great w kids and she got tons of time w them so she’s like “I’m good I don’t need my own”. Sounds like OP’s friend wouldn’t be a good choice and OP could have just said “that’s so sweet of you!” and left it at that
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 06:39 PM
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Here’s a catch 22... having overly provocative sexy photos on social media. Sure it’s technically “flattering” since it’s showing off your best angles (all of them) and men will follow and like and comment and drool... but it trashy and attention whoring. If a woman’s gonna post soft core porn of herself she should at least get paid for it. There’s an art to posting about yourself in a flattering yet classy way that a man respects and thinks “girlfriend material” not instaslut.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 08:23 AM
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Yes it’s better for actual dating vs tinder and bumble are more for hookups.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 08:15 AM
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Wait till you’re 35 then I’ll marry you and give you a kid.... HA!
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 08:06 AM
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Feminism is all about choice! As long as your choice fits their political agenda.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 07:52 AM
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Fiancé and myself don’t like perfumes, but we love essential oils. I love Ylang Ylang and Plumeria. He goes nuts for Lilly of the Valley on me but it is hard to find.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 07:50 AM
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Weird post. My bf loves if I wear tight denim jeans. And I have elegant summer dresses in black. And I don’t wear bras bc I don’t need them. And it’s not summer anymore...fall fashion shifts after Labor Day (though I wear white year round)
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/20 04:08 PM
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Sure that can count as trauma, it left an imprint on you that is blocking you sexually. See if you can get some help with unlocking it and finding your inner sexy.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 03:24 PM
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What has your previous sexual history and attraction been like? Is this just with him or recurring? Do you enjoy masturbation? It sounds like you may have unresolved sexual trauma. If you don’t have any memories it could be repressed, from when you were very young or even birth trauma. Something is blocked, look into what it could be. In the meantime understand that you probably shouldn’t be in a romantic intimate relationship if you have such an aversion to sex. Work on healing yourself and the…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 07:49 AM
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I’m friends with my fiancé’s close male friends, they are like my brothers. Other male friends I used to have before meeting my fiancé have faded out naturally. It’s not like my fiancé told me I couldn’t have any male friends, it’s just when you’re truly committed to a man you have no need for orbiters. If you don’t feed the orbiters they move on because they were never really wanting to just be friends anyway. There is one male college buddy that I am still close with but that’s mainly bc he an…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 07:48 AM
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In the eyes of your future husband, having hooked up w women increases your SMV (+fantasy points) while having hooked up w men decreases your RMV (-slut points). As long as you are still feminine (not butch) and overall more on the straight side (so he’s not worried you would leave him for a woman, which would be the ultimate emasculation) it won’t decrease your appeal in his eyes. If you’re willing to experiment w threesomes (but don’t have a sketchy history of group sex) even better.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/20 11:44 AM
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This. It’s totally emasculating to be dependent on your woman to put a roof over your head and food on the table. That is his choice not to provide (or at least contribute). It’s your choice to enable, which is only going to keep him in the man-child stage even longer. He needs to be kicked out of the nest and learn to take care of himself before he’ll have any self respect or self esteem and until then, there’s no way he can be in a healthy relationship with a woman or his child.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/20 09:05 AM
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Yes pinning is the best for home decor! I could do it all day! Try a Pinterest board for each room.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/20 12:55 PM
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A lot has changed w current events which has exacerbated everything...but the main thing that has changed in the past 2 years is me having a spiritual awakening which lead to becoming vegetarian, drinking alcohol way less and desiring sex in a more spiritual/connected setting (ideally conception) vs as a raunchy playtime activity. I’ll look up if there’s any link w vegetarianism but I feel like it’s more of an emotional/mental thing for me. Now the normal things that would turn me on just fall f…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/20 10:21 AM
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Maybe you could help me out... my libido has decreased drastically in the past 2 years. Fiancé and I have been together 10 years, we met when I was 22 and super horny, but now at 32 I feel like my attitude towards sex has changed a lot and am rejecting him more and more. I know how dangerous this is but I’m not sure what to do about it. We are both sexy, fit and physically healthy and I adore him dearly and don’t ever want any other man. But I just seem to find sex more physically and mentally d…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/20 09:07 AM
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Children don’t learn from what you say, they learn from what they witness. Your daughter’s behavior is a reflection of yourself and your son’s of his father. The only true way to teach children is to be their exemplar. Learn how to respect a man and both your daughter and son will learn from the interactions they observe.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/20 04:31 AM
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Are you a Karen? If so just gotta own it!
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/20 03:26 AM
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At a weekly event on the beach. I had been surfing and he came up and talked to me at the bonfire :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/20 03:24 AM
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I have an aunt who is in your position. Her husband/my uncle is extremely social and loves visiting his family, having people over spontaneously and attending social events. His mom jokes that “he’s the type that will go to the opening of an envelope.” She grew up w a mom who never once had an unplanned guest. At one point I think the wife got really jealous bc he was spending so much time w his sister and had more in common w her than w his wife. They got divorced and then a few years later got…
/r/RedPillWives13/04/20 03:22 AM
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Do all the chores, cooking and baking in lingerie!
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 07:08 AM
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Doing well on mental, spiritual and emotional fronts. Getting especially creative and restarted my daily meditation, yoga and getting a lot of exercise. Financially this is going to be tricky. We have savings to ride this out but that means dipping into our property downpayment fund. We are musicians and our whole summer tour is up in the air (and we make 90% of our income during the summer). Right now we’d usually be receiving a deposit for our annual performance with our biggest client...if th…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 07:05 AM
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Sounds like you’ve got a solid plan and a solid man! Where is all this anxiety coming from? ;)
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 06:54 AM
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Thrift stores! You can find quality brands for less. Since they are 2nd hand you can also see how it holds up over time/washing/shrinkage.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 06:52 AM
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Haha yep my nicest dresses all go in the machine and they are all fine, haven’t ruined one.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 06:50 AM
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Track and XC are a great way to build a body esp during the years when your body is changing. I’m half Asian but I ended up w a booty bc of lots of running in HS. Also doing one season of swim team toned my shoulders and back. Stick with running as your body grows and keep up an athletic lifestyle afterwards (DON’T get lazy after HS and give into freshman 15, if you’re not exercising like an athlete don’t eat like one). Even though I haven’t been able to run since HS (ACL surgery after pole vaul…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 06:46 AM
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Yeah it goes both ways. I know wealthy families (including the author of The Manny book) who hire a young stud manny to take the kids surfing and play other sports...
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 06:31 AM
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🙋🏻‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 06:17 AM
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Kind of exciting that you have someone interesting in your home zone. I imagine many people are stuck in areas with little prospects. This will have curious effects on people’s dating lives for sure. Interesting times ppl!
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/20 12:20 AM
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Her looks will fade faster than his so in time they will be more on even footing.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/20 09:14 AM
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Today my extended family had a Zoom video call for over 2 hours with 19 people on 15 different devices across 4 time zones! All the cousins, aunts, uncles and grandma were there. We caught up on everyone’s quarantine situations, jobs (or lack therefor of) and how my aunt and her kids all already had the virus weeks ago. It was a really special experience to have the whole family together in that way! My day to day hasn’t changed much but our migratory travel plans are up in the air. We live one …
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/20 09:08 AM
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Our relationship w our father is like the foundation for our relationship with all men. If it is a negative relationship, that negativity can manifest in your romantic relationship in various ways, different for every woman. Healing the farther daughter relationship (internally or externally) is an important way to prepare yourself for marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/20 09:45 AM
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You have Daddy Issues which will inhibit your ability to find/keep a good man in a romantic relationship. If you develop positive relationships w father figures, it will help, but you’ll still have Daddy Issues until you can come to a sense of peace about your bio father. Not saying you even have to talk to him or maintain a relationship, but at least internally, work on finding a place of compassion and forgiveness in that relationship. If thoughts of him trigger you, you still have underlying …
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/20 02:02 AM
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My fiancé is also kind of anti-marriage in an anti-government sense. We’re engaged now (took him 10 years!) but I’m still not sure if he’s down for the court house contract. The ceremony is more important to me but I also feel like there are enough practical perks to being officially married that it would still be worth it... nothing I’m going to cause a stink about except I do want to legally take his last name (and he also wants that). If there are parts of “marriage” that he doesn’t agree wit…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/20 01:44 AM
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Twice a year is extreme for a LDR! Your fear of affairs is a valid one... here at RPW we try to be aware that men have sexual needs that are important to be met in person. If you are not providing this then is phone sex really enough for him?
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/20 01:20 PM
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Those childhood experiences can leave strong impressions even though it may not seem much today. There’s a chance your sexuality just sort of shut down after a string of early molestations. Overall it sounds like you haven’t had any positive/healthy sexual relationships. Therapy might help. And as far as dating goes you would need to find someone you are naturally attracted to, and explain that you need patience in the sexual department while you work on yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/20 09:20 AM
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Aww nothing better than art from the heart! My fiancée is a musician and has written me a few songs and they just melt me! We get to sing them together in his band too.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 12:49 PM
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It sounds like you’ve led a hard life. That you are acknowledging your problems and responsibility for them is a major accomplishment. Start with giving yourself that credit. If you want to become a better version of yourself, even just a little bit better, then a small amount of progress in one tiny area of your life will be a major success. Please believe, no one is ever too far “gone” to be a lost cause. There is a chance for every person to take just one step towards the light. Honestly the …
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 03:43 AM
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When an attractive woman walks into the space, see her as your equal and befriend her. You become like the people closest to you and surrounding yourself with beautiful friends (inside and out) actually make you more beautiful, not less. It’s not a competition, we are all sisters here.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 09:57 AM
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You should ask this on one of the men’s subs. You definitely do have to do your homework over there. Read and Lift. Exercise will help control your outbursts. As mentioned your kids having exercise outlets will help control theirs. Using physical discipline is very debatable. But even if you live in a country where it is normal, you know you are using it an a negative way. Commit to stopping using it 100% until you get your anger management issues under control. It’s not worth the risk of emotio…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/20 12:29 AM
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Happy to help. Revealing yourself this way is what I would recommend to any woman, regardless of her past. It creates an element of mystery and keeps him wanting to get to know you more. You have a colorful life story and it could be overwhelming or captivating depending on the delivery. Just always be genuine. Keep in mind that as a woman who’s got a strong masculine mind/background/experiences, you’re going to need and even more masculine man to be able to respect him. More masculine men come …
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/19 11:54 PM
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You can try to separate your professional life/wardrobe and your personal one. Changing clothes can literally and metaphorically be “putting on a different hat” when you walk into work VS when you walk into your home (or on a date). Making a mini ritual of getting dolled up in a feminine way can help shift from the masculine to the feminine mindset.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/19 11:46 PM
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I’d say let him lead the way in terms of how much he wants to know about you and when you reveal it. In the early phases of dating the conversation should be lighter, if he asks questions answer them genuinely, but you can keep some info to yourself for now, don’t open a floodgate of information like you have here. Reveal one layer at a time, both the positive and negative layers, so a man has a chance to see you as a whole over time before he makes judgements. If you do start a more serious rel…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/19 10:27 PM
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Yes to layers! Esp for a post valentine’s date strip tease ;)
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/19 06:33 AM
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I love a flaired sweater dress over leggings with leg warmers and cute boots. My classiest winter warmth is a dark grey v neck cashmere sweater dress from Uniqlo, my fiancé loves it on me!
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/19 06:32 AM
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It sounds like you need to learn to give yourself the love you crave. Until you can be a full person without “needing” anyone else, you’ll be subconsciously pushing potential partners away. Neediness is a red flag and is not a potential wife trait. It sounds like you need a break from dating before you become jaded. Go into nun mode for a few months. Find peace, love and happiness just by yourself. Be ok with being alone. This will teach you what kind of a person you are and thus what kind of ot…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 01:42 AM
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It’s a massive textbook but you’ll def feel confidently “In Control” of Your Fertility after you read it
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 08:45 PM
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At his age his liver will give out unless he gets serious about his drinking problem. Alcoholics who don’t sober up die early from their disease. You already have an age gap... if you were to have a family w this man how old would your children be when his liver can’t keep up anymore?
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 10:43 AM
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Lying about birth control to your husband is not RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 08:52 AM
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Becoming more confident in understanding your body will really help. How much did you study your fertility? What symptoms were you tracking? If you were tracking to the full extent you could likely have detected the early ovulation. My sister just completed the Catholic required course on family planning. It’s an overview but it’s no where as in depth as you can learn from the Taking Charge of Your Fertility book. The author teaches courses as well if you want more personalized help. The more kn…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 08:44 AM
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Wow why so many replies promoting dishonesty? If you’ve ever had an IUD you know he’s going to realize somethings in there.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 08:36 AM
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Sneaking behind a husbands back is not RPW. A husband and wife need to respect each other’s beliefs and choices around sensitive issues like religion and spirituality. OP knew her husband’s strong beliefs going into this. Even if she decides she can no longer comply, she should be honest with her husband.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 08:35 AM
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Sounds like he’s just not that into you. He has strong game which keeps you attached/hopeful. About #2...if you’re seeking a long term relationship, better to find out if the person is also on that wavelength before you get to know them too well or get attached. So part of the initial “sussing out” phase should be to find out if you want similar things.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 05:58 AM
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I got this from a link that was posted recently here on RPW to a very informative book about the psychology of abusive men. According to the author who worked with thousand of abusive men, it’s actually the top myth about abusive men is that they were also abused.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 05:32 AM
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Abusive men don’t come from abusive households, but victim women often do. Manipulation is very calculated, but often subconsciously. He may mean well and be generally a good person, but his desire to be in control plus your “try to please” behavior and abusive background is not a good combination.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 01:30 AM
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You need stronger boundaries. Look up what it means to have boundaries. Boundaries protect you from overcommitting yourself, which then leads to suppressing your resentment until it bubbles over. This means learning to say NO if you feel like you don’t have enough in your glass to fill someone else’s. If you were too busy w work you can communicate in a nice way “I would love to bring you dinner then but I have to finish this deadline so I can’t this time.” Also stop with the texting of negative…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 01:18 AM
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What is this main “incident” that seems to have changed the dynamic of your relationship? Or is this a more constant ongoing thing? I can relate with a lot of what you’re going though. My fiancée has very high standards for himself and all those around him, especially me. It can sometimes get into eggshell territory. He often seems to focus in on my mistakes. Tries to play the “if you can just be good I wouldn’t get upset” card. And at times he can withhold affection. All of these behaviors are …
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 11:23 PM
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It’s ok to not want kids if you definitely know you are choosing a child free lifestyle. However you are still very young. Many times young women (and men) saying “no” to kids really means “not yet” or “not without the right person.” Can you see yourself as a childless woman your whole life, does that vision make you joyful? Can you picture yourself at 30, with 10 more years of life experiences behind you, at a stable and comfortable place w your live, maybe with a great partner...and all your f…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 10:36 PM
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Ending things via text is immature. You’re robbing yourself of any opportunity to understand him better by just shutting things down in a text. 2, Have you asked if he’s interested in an exclusive relationship with you? Men speak with their actions, not their words. With or without meaning too, they are experts at telling us things that we want to hear, whether they are white lies or actually manipulative. Look at what his actions tell you, both positive and negative, about his level of interest…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 01:03 PM
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My fiancé and I grew up from contrasting social backgrounds, recently highlighted when we were comparing Christmas memories over dinner. Both my parents are doctors and they moved to serve a very poor rural area, so while they would be normally considered upper middle class, the context of where we lived meant we were often the richest people in the room. Growing up our Christmas tree was loaded with gifts every year. My fiancée had the exact opposite experience. His parents were artists and his…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/19 11:04 AM
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Sorry if this hurts but it sounds like he’s sending a disclaimer and he met someone or is interested in someone or may have already hooked up w someone while he’s at home for the holidays. You are not in an exclusive relationship so he’s not technically doing anything wrong, but it does suck from your side of things.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 10:45 PM
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When my fiancée says he doesn’t like makeup, what he means is he doesn’t like stuff on me that could rub off on him. He esp dislikes face makeup on cheeks since he feels like it’s going to mark up his shirt if we cuddle. And he doesn’t want to kiss me if I have lipstick on. But he doesn’t mind eye makeup.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 10:27 PM
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Wow the hairdresser one was harsh considering you’re a customer, that’s a bad look for her and the salon. I have very long wavy brown hair and it’s always just down and natural and I get so many compliments on it. Sister jabs are to be expected but at least you know they come form a place of love...deep down. Just own your truth. “Yes I like to wear my hair down when going out.” “Yes I like a natural look.” “Yes it would be nice to meet a guy when I’m all dressed up.” It’s authentic, its confide…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 10:01 PM
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Analyzing and being too solution oriented to “be a good listener” means you’re in a masculine mindset. I deal with the same thing and it’s been a real struggle but my fiancée finally says I’m starting to get better. I have a bad habit of interrupting...I think too fast and get ahead of myself. It annoys him so much since it will totally derail his train of thought and the conversation. We’ve turned this around w a rewards system...every time I interrupt him he gets 5 mins of massage time. This w…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 03:21 AM
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Also part Asian and my boyfriends were all foreign men when I lived in NYC too (2 Germans and an Australian). I was in college and especially didn’t date college boys. After college when I left the city I ended up meeting my fiancée and he’s born and raise in America, but by South African parents...he’s very world traveled and doesn’t think/act like your average American.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 03:14 AM
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Watching videos online could help a lot! And don’t be shy about asking your mom or grandma for help.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 03:01 AM
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RPW generally is for women seeking traditional monogamy. But the RP concepts are universal to any relationship style. As tools in the toolbox, they can be used to build a variety of structures. Both RP and Nonmonogamy recognize that both sexes have multiple sexual strategies available to them. They recognize that “true love” does not necessarily blind humans to other attractions. Whether partners choose to restrict or indulge in these feelings is personal choice. Whether the relationship will wo…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/19 11:53 PM
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Yes there’s a very very small percentage of men who get turned on by their wife with another man. If it’s not a “hell yes!” for him then it’s emasculating. If there’s plenty of other areas of the relationship where he is fully in the masculine role, then a little bit of emasculation in this department could still be sustainable, especially if he is also seeing other women as well.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/19 11:48 PM
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I’m worried about my fiancé’s addiction to “insta-porn.” He follows all these slutty Instagram models and spends a lot of time scrolling his feed all throughout the day. There’s a lot of times where he’s just frozen in a trance and scrolling and the blank look on his face scares me. Sadly it seems somewhat “normal” for ppl to spend time looking at social media, but I can see how it has negative effects on him. I try to snap him out of it but I don’t like to be a nag and treat him like a child ei…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/19 10:02 PM
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There is actually a /r/redpillnonmonogamy sub. It’s not that active and while description says it’s for men, women post there as well.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/19 08:50 PM
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Maybe if you’re not working you could find some educational course online that is related to your degree. Use the time to continue your studies.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/19 09:47 PM
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Yes guy 2 had you hooked emotionally and that’s what triggers the hypergamy and makes you perceive him as more alpha. Men like him know how to subtly manipulate emotions by swinging unpredictably from positive to negative behavior and back, this creates an emotional roller coaster of hormones that causes an addictive response in women. It’s the same science that goes behind getting people addicted to gambling or social media.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/19 09:39 PM
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Yes unfortunately dating apps seem to be where it’s all at these days but from what I’ve read if you go for the paid ones you’ll find more people actually looking for dating vs hookups.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/19 11:42 PM
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How well do you know him? How long have you been together? I openly discuss RP w my fiancé. He doesn’t reddit but he was onto RP style relationships before it was a label, so RP just added some interesting conversations to what he already knew. For most women I would recommend what Laura Doyle says about “keeping surrendering a secret.” Men speak better through actions than words, so your actions that show new RPW behavior will mean more to him than discussing any concepts. If he asks about chan…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/19 08:54 PM
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Avoid this by not rushing into sex on the 2nd date. You need time to get to know someone (in-person time, sorry but texting does not count) before you can know if they’re someone you want to have sex with (aka someone you can trust). This guy lost his v-card (something somewhat embarrassing for guys at his age) and now that he’s gotten that out of the way he’s onto seeking other tinder girls to see what else he can get.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/19 08:46 PM
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Check out /r/altTRP. Stop comparing yourself to other bio women. They are not your competition. You don’t need to attract all men, just the one who is right for you. You have an uphill battle but The Wall is actually less of a problem for you. You do not have ovaries and will thus not have menopause. You will not experience the “sharp decline in fertility” that causes such a dramatic drop in SMV for most women. If you are on hormone therapy you can keep your estrogen levels up well past 30. A lo…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/19 08:50 PM
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Be careful with spending too much time as a man on RPW or as a woman on TRP... it’s hard to avoid constantly comparing your partner to the RP ideals that are discussed on these subs. It can give you unrealistic expectations, or in interactions with your partner you’ll always be thinking in the back of your mind “what a RP man/woman should/shouldn’t do/say/be.” After a few years of browsing TRP, I unsubscribed. I realized I had learned enough of the theory, and reading through a men’s lens was ju…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/19 11:25 PM
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Great interpretation! I need to clarify this w my fiancé. He likes if I go right for touching his stuff so that’s what he does to me, which is a turn off if “I’m not in the mood.” For me (and many women) I need touching every where else first. I like to be worked up to the point where I’m begging him to touch me there.
/r/RedPillWives25/11/19 07:44 PM
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I don’t think she opens up to many people about this story, but we were talking about surrendering and I think she understood I wouldn’t judge her by modern relationship standards. She was a classic housewife and gushed to me that the highlight of her day was when her husband came home from work and she would make the kids presentable and put on a fresh coat of lipstick.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/19 04:58 PM
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In relationships I think it’s true that we get what we deserve or what we earn. No one is entitled to receive more than they put in. If you didn’t like the results you were getting, you’ll need to improve yourself to be worthy of better.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/19 04:49 PM
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I’m sorry you’re going through this. That is such a short time to end a marriage. Who initiated? 2 of the weddings I have been to in the past 2 years are already ending in divorce. Thankfully they did not have children.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/19 10:17 AM
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STFU is merely step one for how to be a Good Listener. Other skills for active listening include: Reflecting back what has been said so that the speaker knows they have been understood (not verbatim of course). Validating the speakers feelings and perception (acknowledgment and acceptance, even if you don’t agree) Showing curiosity by asking questions My fiancé struggles with feeling heard in our relationship. I often try to “make him feel better” by pointing out why he shouldn’t feel this way, …
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/19 08:34 AM
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My grandmother has a sweet story of why she sacrificed her artist career for the sake of my grandfather. Her husband was a successful doctor and she was a SAHM of 5 kids, but she always had a love of art and would paint for fun. As the kids got older she had more time to paint and would sell some paintings and raise enough money to pay for their winter ski cabin rentals. One of the kids grew up to be in marketing and as the gay son/mama’s boy he started heavily marketing her paintings, getting t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/19 03:16 AM
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Leggings are still great for wearing under dresses in the fall/winter. I have a couple simple sweater dresses and they are comfy and still look feminine and put together.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/19 01:40 AM
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If you read the book, the #1 myth about abusive men is that they’re abusive to women because they were abused as children... surprising but read to understand. The author has worked with thousands of abusive men and learned unique insight into their minds
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/19 12:52 AM
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When you make a plan maybe send a text along the lines of “looking forward to brunch on Sunday!” so that he has a visual/hard reminder. Does he do this kind of thing to other friends all the time? Like one of those friends who is always late so everyone knows to tell them the happening is 1 hour early... if this is just part of who he is, just send him frequent reminders and don’t take it personally when he forgets. If he’s doing this to you but not others, then he’s just not that into you...aft…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/19 05:21 AM
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Ha that’s quite backwards from a lot of parents who have to say “no more chili until you eat all your salad.” If they like salad/vegetable that should be encouraged! I wonder if him restricting the greens actually makes them want them more tho (some kids are rebellious eaters!)
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/19 10:38 PM
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My philosophy is that a woman can never be overdressed if she knows how to work her personal style. I work on stage so I’m usually the most overdressed person at the venue so it feels natural for me. My makeup is pretty simple but I like expressing my style in what I wear. If someone were to judge me from the outside I want their judgement to actually be spot on! Since I travel a lot I like the challenge of different settings/cities/occasions/activities. There’s a way to look put together even f…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/19 02:36 AM
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Loved Intimissimi while I studied abroad in Italy! Victoria’s Secret did a line featuring them but it wasn’t the same.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/19 01:45 AM
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There are statistics out there that add up the “value” of a homemaker/SAHM compared to the costs of paying for eating out, laundry services and maids. I forget the numbers (and they prob vary by location) but it’s a very valuable service! Once you become a mother you’re homemaking value will skyrocket bc paying for regular child care or a live in nanny is very expensive. This is where the feminist movement missed their mark...they should have also elevated the status of homemaker as a respectabl…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/19 10:57 PM
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There are plenty of men who like to chef it up, especially to impress a lady. Mine can cook great when he wants to but yes I’ve spoiled him and taken over the kitchen.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/19 09:05 AM
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Nothing wrong with wanting to start the conversation at this point. Next time you’re having a romantic date night you can bring it up casually and let him lead the conversation. /r/waiting_to_try is a good place to see how others handle the conversation (or just to vent your baby fever) and the tone there is very feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/19 06:24 AM
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For compliments, resist the urge to deflect by saying another compliment back. Just accept the compliment and relish in it for a moment and thank the person for it. Later if you can reciprocate with a compliment for the person if you want. For gifts try to acknowledge the thoughtfulness behind the giver. Even if it is a gift that you wouldn’t really choose for yourself, think why that person may have chosen it for you and how it relates to them.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/19 09:49 AM
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Bring it up in terms of your insecurity instead of accusing him of something distrustful. Admit that you’re having trouble with jealousy and you need his help to quiet your mind, but don’t make it as if he did something wrong (he may be borderline emotional cheating but let’s not go there yet). He was probably defensive/elusive bc he knew you would feel jealous and men have a tendency to try to “protect us” in a way that means well but can actually add to the insecurity. If she is a really good …
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/19 04:01 AM
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Also leave the door open to let it dry out after a wash
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/19 09:33 PM
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It def doesn’t help to be on certain parts of your cycle when these thoughts pop up. If you’re tracking your fertility cycles, you can notice there are parts where you get more emotional (usually before or during mensuration), and other parts where you’re able to just brush off the same thoughts with no worries (usually around ovulation). It’s hard to separate ourselves from these hormonal influences on our emotions in the moment. Even when I know I’m about to get my period and I know that cause…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/19 11:28 PM
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Maybe it doesn’t make sense for your situation, just trying to explore alternatives for women who moved in before marriage and are dealing with the issues that come from that, since it seems to happen a lot. I lived w my Bf for 10 years before we became engaged and it def affected his productivity and discipline in that he got comfortable w receiving wifey treatment before he was ready to be a husband. Him getting enough alone time is the biggest struggle in our relationship. We live in an outra…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/19 07:34 PM
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Maybe it’s possible for OP to move out yet still stay in a relationship, but a new version of the relationship. May not be as easy to do financially but might be worth paying extra for her happiness and he would get a kick in the butt to take more responsibility.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/19 08:40 AM
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Do you have friends you could learn to cook with? Offer to help make dinner at their house, provide some groceries and have them teach you a few things. Start simple... like stir fries and pastas. Vegetarian meals are quite simple too since you don’t have to worry about under/over cooking the meat. Find out what your bf’s favorite dishes are and focus on those. If it’s an option, ask his mom for family comfort food recipes he grew up with! It will be harder to make things “just like mom” but if …
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/19 02:31 AM
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You don’t need to convict ”men”, or the rotten teenagers from your past, of the truth. You just need one man who will trust you at your word. If this guy you were with didn’t trust that you were a virgin (not something someone in their late 20s would usually come up with) then there’s not enough trust to build a solid relationship. Teens can be brutal. But those days are over and it’s really amazing how little from high school matters once people grow up. Focus on your growth. Enjoy blossoming i…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/19 06:42 PM
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My fiancé’s best friend is so cluttered. His mom did the same thing when he was a teen...sneak into his room and remove the clutter and he never missed it. Not ideal and doesn’t solve the root of the problem, but can help
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/19 09:26 PM
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My fiancée doesn’t want to know details about exes. Not exactly jealousy but most guys have active imaginations and they’ll picture things in their mind that they would just rather not. Of course over the 10 years we’ve been together he’s learned more about my exes as it’s come up in casual conversation. He knows my N-count (he is the 7th). But I’m careful not to overshare details unless he asks more. Esp before you’ve even met the dude there’s no reason to talk much about past relationships at …
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/19 05:49 PM
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How old are you? A relationship can be a big part of your life but you also need to have a life. Work/school, hobbies, friends, family... develop other relationships and skills so you’re not always sitting around waiting for him. Build a busy interactive life, find communities you identify with...this will make you more well rounded and more attractive. Especially having strong relationships w other women will help you have somewhere to express and process your emotions without dumping them all …
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 09:33 PM
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I think once you have 3+ the older kids help a lot with the child care. I was the oldest of 4 and I helped a lot w my little siblings.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 08:14 PM
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I would think being poor in a bad area of a city is very different than poor in a rural country area where the child can spend a lot of time in nature.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 07:09 PM
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Ugh I can’t stand clutter. So happy my fiancé and I are so into interior design and have the same tastes. Maybe ease him into the idea by doing “trials” and “tests.” Movements and changes don’t have to be permanent, keep the old stuff nearby so he has some time to get used to it. Maybe even try moving or changing something on your own, and let him know it’s a test run, try giving it a few days or a week, and if he doesn’t like it, it can go back to the original set up. Usually I wouldn’t recomme…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/19 09:41 PM
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My fiancé loves when I get creative w leftovers for lunch. His favorite is when I roast a chicken (just did it tonight!) and then the next day I make a pasta w shredded chicken and gravy sauce. Since you don’t live together yet, you can make yourself dinner and make extra to pack for leftovers to bring for him tomorrow. They wouldn’t even be “leftovers” bc it would be a new meal from his perspective ;)
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/19 03:08 AM
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A high value man will need a woman at his side who can keep up w conversation w his peers at social events. But even a simple sheltered woman can be engaging to talk to because she is genuinely interested in what another person is saying since she doesn’t know much about that subject.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 07:29 PM
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One of top comments on that FDS post defending why they’re not incels or ugly: But seriously. We're giving anecdotes here guys. We've dated live men o.O That's why we're here.. because the men we've dated were below average if we're lucky, and abusive when we weren't, and we're sick of that. So basically admitting that as a sample population, their people picker is so off they’ve only dated down or abusers. Pretty much the bottom of the barrel here. Even saying they are not ugly, if they’re actu…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 07:18 PM
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I don’t read the TRP sub anymore but I bet the guys over at TRP are having quite a time digging into FDS antics like this post. Popcorn all around! 🍿
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 07:08 PM
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Hmm wondering if her weed habit is a dealbreaker for her or if it’s something she would happily give up for the right relationship? It’s legal or close to it in most places these days so wondering what makes him so against it. But sounds like personality wise she’s just not his type.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 06:28 PM
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Realize that this guy friend is a fantasy you’ve built up in your mind. A lot of the chemistry is because it’s forbidden. He’s just a dude w plenty of faults and you’ve created an image of him that isn’t real and you’re crushing on that image. I’ve been w my fiancé for 10 years and sometimes if it’s feeling old I fantasize about when we first met and how much I was attracted to him and how we flirted. Helps remember and rekindle the spark. Build up the true fantasy w your BF instead of a false o…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 02:54 PM
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Doesn’t have to be perfect but being around pleasant enough people is worth seeking out esp for women who are more sensitive than men. If people in her work place are always negative or draining it’s going to take its toll on the woman and her ability to support her man. In regards to the OPs question, if she likes her job and is in good company, then that’s fine. If OP’s job is not a good environment then it’s worth her looking for a workplace where she would be happier, but it doesn’t necessar…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 10:11 AM
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You can relax, it’s just an extra large dinner party w family and sometimes close friends. Bring wine or a dessert and simply get to know his family. Help with tidying up, following the example of other women in the family.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 08:46 AM
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If a guy is “talking” to you but not escalating, it’s a form of friendzoning. Maybe he has better options on the line but enjoys the attention from you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 07:47 PM
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Yeah he sounds depressed. Some time in monk mode would be good for him. He’s not ready to be in a relationship. Perhaps he was pining for you for years thinking that he would be happy if only you could get back together again... then once he “got you back” he realizing he is still unhappy and having you back didn’t “fix” his depression. Those kind of thoughts can be even more depressing to deal with when you get something you thought would make you happy but the depression doesn’t just go away. …
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 07:45 PM
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Men don’t care as long as she’s not in a toxic workplace, complaining about her work constantly or overworking herself and stressed out. Basically just be in a happy healthy work environment so that you don’t drag work BS home to him. They’re not judging her based on how much money she makes or how prestigious the job is.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 07:33 PM
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Sounds like possible friendzoning... maybe they get an ego boost from flirting w you but aren’t attracted enough to pursue. Realize that guys like to feel attraction for a woman immediately. If you’re “just friends” for a long time first it’s likely they’re not attracted to you otherwise the would have hit on you when you first met.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 07:26 PM
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Why not offer to cook dinner at his place?
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 09:14 AM
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Are you actually bothered by the fact that he has a female massage therapist? Or are you mostly bothered by the double standard? If he didn’t have any issues about the gender of your healthcare professionals, would you also not have issues? Or would you still prefer he not work w females? People are different and have different boundaries. It doesn’t always work like a scoreboard. We can ask someone to respect our boundaries, and we can offer to honor the same for them. But there are sometimes w…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 09:09 AM
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It sounds like you’re on track here 👍🏼. Good work! You’re a widowed single mother, I think it’s appropriate and understandable to a man that you’re going to be careful about your sexuality. It’s not like you’re a single mother bc you were slutting around, couldn’t get a man to commit, and now you’re “reformed” and holding out haha. Just be honest with him that you really want to have sex but you owe it to yourself and your daughter to save yourself for a committed relationship. That’s something …
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 12:41 AM
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Hooked up as in had sex? That would be a pump and dump. You were a one night stand and he doesn’t want anything to do with you now. If alcohol was involved, perhaps he wouldn’t have done it if he was sober, and is now embarrassed that he hooked up w you (esp if your SMV is lower than his, though doesn’t sound like he’s that high SMV) Why are you posting this on RPW?
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/19 03:31 PM
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Binge reading RPW material and books helps! Gotta reset the feminist propaganda w a new program.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/19 07:17 PM
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Heartbreak sucks. There’s no real good shortcuts for recovery, but avoiding triggers like social media will keep it from being unnecessarily drawn out. Time will help you get over it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/19 07:15 PM
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Oh dear God... Top post about how to never pay for a date is just embarrassing for womenkind... the only comments that aren’t deleted (and 80% of the comments were deleted) are even worse than the post 2nd top post, top upvoted comment is advising women to never ever have a baby w a man but to only have one thru a donor
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/19 09:55 AM
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What sub are you talking about?
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/19 07:57 AM
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You just have to date within your SMV. Don’t get hung up on “if I didn’t have the loose skin I’d be able to date up.” Accept and love the body you have now, and find a man that will appreciate the work you did to lose weight even if it has side effects.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 07:47 PM
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Take heart that at your age your skin still has some ability to recover. For the rest of the weight you want to lose, lose it slowly so the skin recovery can keep up.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 03:22 PM
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Check out BonytoBombshell.com. It’s training/diet specifically for women who have a hard time gaining weight. Goal is strong sexy curves in the right places thru weight lifting. Most exercise/diet advice is geared towards the majority of the population who is trying to lose weight, so it’s refreshing to have training that caters to a skinny girl’s niche. They have a men’s version too BonytoBeastly.com.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 06:16 AM
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Years ago my fiancé planned a surprise party for me on my uncle’s boat. Friends of mine from across the country flew in and everything. It was amazing and I was totally surprised bc he staged a bit of a tiff earlier that day and pretended to be in a bad mood so I wouldn’t suspect. Funny thing was I was also in the middle of planning a surprise party for him (our bdays are 2 weeks apart) and I was extra nervous he would be on to me!
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 01:02 AM
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Ball is in his court so you’re not doing anything so horrible to him. In the Surrendered Single Laura Doyle says 6 months is enough time to get to know a man.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 11:35 PM
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If he’s military than he should understand the need to amp up the commitment level before deployment, or be prepared to let you go. Military guys have the potential to move to engagement quicker than civilians since they know their job involves a lot of commitment from their women. You’re young, if he doesn’t make his intentions for the future clear before deployment then you shouldn’t be waiting around for him to return.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 11:15 PM
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Especially within other groups of women, attention = status. Women like to talk about their problems and the more dramatic the problem, the more attention they get from other women and the more status they have within the group.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 09:05 PM
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There’s plenty of advice about leaving, so as someone who stuck it out I wanted to just give another perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 08:09 PM
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Actually i would not have gotten thru it without all the amazing things I learned from RPW. Yes I did get ppl advising me that I was waiting too long or stuck in sunk-cost fallacy... but I wasn’t asking people if I should stay/go. I would generally ask for advice for how to improve. I had my struggles but I didn’t let my doubts carry me away. It helped a lot to hear from women who made it through a long courtship. If someone really is so confused that they have to ask strangers on the internet i…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 08:06 PM
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My man has very high expectations/standards of himself and those around him, because of this if he’s in a bad mood he’ll sometimes get mad at me for things that seem small/not that big a deal. I don’t take it too personally. But I do try to take feedback. I am guilty of yes-ing too much and overcommitting myself. I’ll say yes to too many things and need to learn to manage my time better. Eventually one little thing I said yes to but didn’t get to finish will kind of be the last straw and he’ll b…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 04:50 AM
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You’ve been on one date so he doesn’t owe you anything, not even an “I’ll be busy this week so don’t expect me to get back to you.” It’s not your place to chastise him for not getting back to you...but you can totally let him know (in person on the next date) that you want to be with a man with good communication skills and who is considerate. Sounds like he does like you but you’ll just have to let his actions speak for him. Busy is fine but you don’t want to date a true workaholic... All in al…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 04:42 AM
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My fiancé has gone through ups and downs w depression/mood in the 10 years we’ve been together. Overall he’s an amazing person to be around. He can be very high energy at times but he also goes thru down spells. Currently he’s on an up swing after a while of being down. But sometimes he just wakes up on the wrong side of the bed and is grumpy all day. Things that help him are exercising, playing music, reading books and being around people, esp having quality time w his guy friends. Encourage hi…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 04:30 AM
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Yes you were raped and the guy is a major ass! Anal is more risky for STDs, you should def get checked. You can report him to the police and press charges for rape. He could easily do this to other girls. Have you told your boyfriend? I’m also in an open relationship. Was it within your relationship’s boundaries to have consensual protected sex with him (in round one)? You need to tell him either way and hopefully he can support you in this. The two of you will need to use protection until you’r…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 04:19 AM
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You expressed your boundaries about safety, you said no and to stop. This was still rape. You can report him to the police and press charges.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 04:13 AM
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The majority of responses are saying to move on but be careful heeding the advice of strangers on the internet. Only you can make that choice. Once you’re in this deep (like making international moves) there’s a different level of commitment you both have to the relationship even if it’s not an engagement. Yes ideally you would have needed a proposal before a big move, but that is in the past and you can apply the RPW ideals to the past... Yes you’ve compromised some of your ground here but you’…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 12:33 AM
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Just like we need our women friends to support us thru hard times, men need the support of other men too. Unfortunately today’s culture doesn’t foster good men-only environments... but maybe you can help encourage him to spend time w his buddies. Make space for him to do some masculine activities or and excursion/trip based on some hobbies w his men friends. One-on-one time is good too. Does he have any brothers or cousins that he is close with? Anything outdoors in nature can be extra helpful f…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/19 09:48 PM
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If she is thin to start, a couple extra pounds does help as a woman ages (plumps out those lines). I think I saw a study on how identical twins age and a few extra pounds helped. But it’s important if a woman needs to lose weight, she should lose it when she is younger and her skin is still elastic. If a woman who is overweight tries to lose pounds after starting to age, she will age quicker due to wrinkles from when she was fatter.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 04:17 PM
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How much contact have you resumed w this “sugar daddy” for him to propose marriage? Sounds fishy... And you have basically cheated. Even if you didn’t get physical w this daddy, getting marriage offers behind you man’s back is cheating.
/r/RedPillWives20/10/19 04:02 PM
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Love aloe! Fresh plant is best if you can get it or grow one.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 03:54 PM
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Troll much? We are aware of the classic Alpha Fucks/Beta Bux strategy and we want nothing to do with it!
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 04:19 AM
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Nice article! I like the points about decluttering and valuing what you have, definitely creates more peace of mind.
/r/RedPillWives19/10/19 06:10 AM
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Hard to help without more information...
/r/RedPillWives19/10/19 02:49 AM
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Cast iron also reduces the amount of heat/propane/electricity that you need to cook with so it can lower you energy bills. Might seem like a small thing but if you’re on a budget then you cook at home a lot so every bit helps!
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/19 11:05 PM
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You could have everyone chip in to hire a cleaning lady for a one time reset. Once the place is clean and feeling fresh, you can talk to your roommates about how you can all work keep it this way. For example when I had roommates we had a “no dish left behind” sign near the sink. Living with so many people, I recommend lots of baskets for each person, almost like a cubby system... anywhere that clutter starts to accumulate is where you need a container. The tricky thing w so many ppl is that eve…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/19 11:00 PM
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Set yourself a deadline for how long you are willing to let him ponder his religious issues. You’re not having sex right? So it would be safe to give him sort of a taste of girlfriend experience, showing him your best girl game and how you can be a good partner. Express an interest in his religion, do some research yourself and ask him a lot of questions about how it works for him...tough stuff like about parents’ expectations, judgements you might have to face from ppl of his faith, and what it…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/19 10:00 AM
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Obviously the consensus here is for you to move on due to the invasion of privacy and extremely immature way of handling it. So I’m not going to drill into that any further... IF we were to give him the benefit of the doubt... this just happened today so perhaps he’s really upset, over-reacting and will want to talk about this in person (let’s say he had a previous relationship that ended w a woman cheating on him so it’s an extra trigger for him). Firstly he would have to be sincerely sorry for…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/19 09:41 AM
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Sorry but you do come across as hostile. And this post is very random, not very classy and too much work to click thru so many links.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 04:34 AM
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Your hamster is doing backflips justifying this relationship and his lack of effort into it and into himself. It’s been 10 years and you’re giving him another year to prove to you he’s the same person he’s been for 10 years. You said you’re in your late 20s, you don’t have time for this. I waited 10 years for my engagement, I know what it’s like to hold out for a man with commitment issues, but our relationship was on a steady course of commitment and making life plans together. His actions show…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 04:26 AM
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Ok I’m confused... you already broke up with him. What is the timeline for then? When you’ll evaluate his progress (which he could be lying to you about) and consider giving him another chance? If you ended a 10 year relationship you need to be in serious nun mode and focusing on your improvement, not your ex’s. You gave him plenty of chances to show his true colors and he did and it doesn’t sound like captain material, esp if he’s in debt and spending the money on booze to numb himself from the…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 02:27 AM
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Bring your captain your problem... let him know you want to feel financially secure for your future family and ask him what is his plan so that you can be prepared and do what you can to help him execute it. I’m sure he doesn’t plan on completely giving up the his job search forever...but men can get in a bit of a slump from the perceived rejection and emasculation that job hunting entails. Find feminine ways to encourage him and boost his ego so he can feel confident going out there again. If w…
/r/RedPillWives16/10/19 02:08 AM
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It’s the RPW equivalent to TRP’s “monk mode” when a man takes a break from sex/women/dating to focus on self improvement.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 02:01 AM
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Hmm you say you have a timeline already, that’s good, just be sure to stick to it. You mentioned you have a hard time sticking to your ultimatums so maybe write them out here or tell them to a trusted girlfriend who can help keep you accountable when the time comes. The biggest red flag here is the drinking + lying about it. How bad is his drinking habit? Has he been successful at setting a sobriety goal (even if short term, ie: taking a sober October) Even if he doesn’t fit a classic alcoholic …
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 01:29 AM
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Yes I am grateful! But with great power comes great responsibility... it can be tough to see friends and family stuck in BP behavior and your RP advise is not really appropriate to being received.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 09:23 PM
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My man and I were together 10 years before he proposed to me so I understand your anxiety and doubt. We met when I was 22 and he was 27, so it took him until 37 to feel ready for that next phase of life. Keep in mind that your BF is still quite young, and sometimes with age and maturity his perspective could soften on this. Yes you are happy with your relationship, but it would make you even happier and that is important to him. After just being “together” for so long being engaged is such a bea…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 08:55 PM
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My fiancée has a similar hangry issue. He doesn’t realize he’s even hungry until it’s too late. Try to keep healthy snacks like a granola bar on you at all times. Getting on a regular eating schedule or setting timers for 3-4 hours after each meal can help one stay on track too.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 08:18 PM
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Having a tricky time w this bc I don’t like porn at all by my fiancé enjoys it and wishes I would be into watching it with him. He doesn’t indulge often, but when he does he’ll go for hours w edging. In the beginning of our relationship I tried playing along bc it was brand new for me, but I realized I don’t enjoy it and it’s too distracting. I’ve expressed that I don’t want anything to do w it and he’s def disappointed bc he says it makes sex really pleasurable for him. I try to let him do his …
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 12:21 AM
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Try the konmari method for your bedroom so you get to start from scratch and he can be part of the process of deciding what stays and what goes where. Let him lead even though it may be mostly your stuff. It can be fun and romantic to set your own space together.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 09:04 PM
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Exercise can help tremendously with excessive emotions or anger. Helps release the buildup of energy. Make sure you’re getting exercise regularly and esp when you feel extra emotional. Also make sure you’re tracking your cycle bc it’s amazing how PMS creeps in, its easy to get extra emotional before we even realize what time of the month it is.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 08:18 PM
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If you need to process some thoughts call up or meet up w a trusted girlfriend. We have the gift of gab and it helps to get this stuff out to our women so we don’t dump them on our man.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 07:51 PM
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There’s a awesome old book How to Help Your Husband Get Ahead by Dorthy Carnegie (Wife of Dale Carnegie who wrote the famous “How to Win Friends and Influence People”). I remember a section for how to help your husband socially, think vintage ladylike techniques to lubricate social situations in his favor and subtle ways to help navigate conversations and how to smooth out bumps. Women have expert social skills compared to men, and she talks about how to use your skills to support your husband. …
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/19 08:47 PM
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Steak and BJ night ;)
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/19 01:16 AM
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Camping trip is great on a budge, get it in before the weather gets too cold!
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/19 01:14 AM
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Thank him sweetly for his offer and just state it will be easier for you to meet him there. Is this over text?
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/19 01:20 AM
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What’s his fav love language to receive in?
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/19 01:18 AM
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Hmm seems the audio version of Surrendered Wife on Audible is abridged tho... is there an unabridged version? I do love audiobooks for when I’m working around the house
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 09:51 PM
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Yes I’m like her, I like to give love in acts of service, but my favorite way to receive love is words of affirmation.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 07:41 PM
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Maybe The Surrendered Single is a better place to start for where you’re at. Yeah the title is a bit strong, i think i remember a whole part in the Surrendered Wife about the title being either an obstacle for people reading it, or part of what helped it take off, kind of went both ways.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 08:36 AM
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Makeover can just mean redoing your sense of fashion, style, makeup, hair... doesn’t have to be drastic, but whatever works to create a more attractive feminine aesthetic. It shouldn’t just be for photos but for day to day living too.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 05:15 AM
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You’re clinging to this relationship by a thread, that’s why you’re annoying. Even this post comes across as annoying. I don’t give advice whether to stay/leave in a relationship, that’s the OP’s choice. If you’re saying that you want to stay...best chance of that is actually pulling way back until the move where you said you’ll be living 30 mins away. You don’t have to disappear, but give him the space to miss you and wonder how you are. Check in now and then so he knows you’re interested in co…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 08:11 PM
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Calm the hamster. Guys approach dating apps with a “Swipe first, look later” approach. They will literally swipe right on almost any woman who’s not obese and then they will sit back and see what matches they get. From those matches they will then look at the profiles and decide which ones they like. It’s a numbers game for them and they want to invest as little time as possible to get the hottest matches. Just bc a Chad matches you doesn’t mean he actually bothered to look at your profile or de…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 05:39 PM
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If you choose to reach out to this other woman, do it with her best interests in mind, not out of revenge mode. If you’re vengeful he’ll use it against you and just say “she’s just mad I chose you over her baby.” Use your most neutral and sisterly tone to let her know you were both being duped. If you sound too “crazy-ex” she’ll just dismiss you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 02:37 AM
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It can still help once understand the underlying issues with co-living. It seems you have accelerated into a more husband-wife type of comfort zone that has decreased the sexual chemistry. How to increase sexual tension now that there’s not the excitement of sleepovers? Maybe cook dinner in a sexy outfit. Try sexy texts while he’s at work so he’s thinking about it when he gets home. You mentioned you used to give more massages. Basically you need to up your girl game from “girlfriend experience”…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 02:32 AM
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There are reasons why RPW recommends not moving in together before engagement. Too late for this advice now since you’re already moved in. But it might help you understand why you’re struggling now. I lived w my man 10 years before getting engaged but I won’t recommend that to my friends or daughters.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 07:28 PM
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My fiancé’s best friend, who’s pretty much the Chad of Chads, had the same issue with a supermodel girlfriend he was seeing. She was the first woman in over a decade that made him want to be in a committed relationship. But she had zero life skills bc she lived her whole adult life in big cities, eating/ordering out and paying for maid/laundry services. She made over $200k/year modeling, but couldn’t cook, clean or any wifey skills, and it legitimately concerned him about how she could care for …
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 02:41 AM
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You said theirs was a common law marriage though. Did they have a ceremony and say vows? Were they married in a church by a priest? Just because they are technically legal according to the state doesn’t mean it’s a union God supports. Could he/does he want to have a spiritual ceremony and a full on wedding with you. If he commits to you on a deeper level, maybe it can calm your hamster and help you feel more secure.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 02:21 AM
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Yeah having been w my poly fiancé for 10 years, I wouldn’t recommend nonmonogamy to any woman unless she is super confident, low jealousy an excellent communicator and at least a little bisexual. I see RPW and polyamory as opposite responses to the same RP truths. One side is a monogamous strategy and the other a nonmonogamous strategy, but they both deal w accepting the truths of sexual strategy (ex: women would rather share a high value man than settle w a loser, women have dual sexual strateg…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/19 11:02 PM
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Great post and distinction bt the checklist and toolbox. I love checklists (avid bullet journalist here) but they’re better for micro-action steps, not life goal accomplishments. For those nonmonogamy/polyamorous questions I see popping up on this sub more and more, there is also /r/redpillnonmonogamy
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/19 09:42 PM
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Great tip about posture. We don’t realize how much looking down at our phones constantly is affecting us.
/r/RedPillWives06/10/19 07:20 PM
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It’s the same as people getting addicted to other social media apps like Instagram, which literally copy casino algorithms to get people hooked. It’s a form of gambling addiction. Most addictions are best approached by simply stopping the behavior completely. If it’s really something necessary, give it some time and then see if you can go back with better habits.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 07:47 AM
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Look into stem cell face lifts. My mom runs a stem cell clinic and she gets them put in her face and she looks amazing. It uses stem cells from your own body and doesn’t look like weird like Botox injections or plastic surgery.
/r/RedPillWives06/10/19 01:20 AM
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I enjoyed The Rarional Male because it’s such a foundation of red pill, really helps to understand the concepts and get inside of a man’s mind. However more recently I’ve stopped reading the red pill men’s material in general because I start to get too critical of my fiancé (comparing him to some unrealistic alpha standard) and just start to think too manly. Just focusing on women’s material helps me stay in the right mindset.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 01:15 AM
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Take self defense classes to boost your confidence. The you will put out a vibe that you’re not to be messed with. Your current vibe is fearful and predators can sniff that out. Posture and body language say a lot. My friend teaches an all women’s boxing class that sounds like a blast, is a great workout and teaches women how to defend themselves, maybe you can find something similar.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 01:06 AM
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Sounds like your fav love language is giving acts of service and receiving words of affirmation. Check out the 5 Love Languages book for more info. The relationship sounds good overall, the confidence needs to come from yourself. If you say your weight is an issue for your self esteem, just keep up with your diet and exercise and give yourself lots of credit/congratulations when you hit mini milestones. Get in the habit of praising yourself each time you make a little achievement, even if it’s j…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/19 09:07 PM
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Have you tried reaching out for feedback? 8 different men all behaving the same way is a decent pool of information... Just a simple, “hey I was originally interested in where we were going but since things didn’t work out with us I’m just wondering if there’s any feedback you can give me. Just looking for helpful information.”
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/19 08:41 PM
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Thanks, I feel it’s something women need to talk about more
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/19 08:28 PM
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Hmm tricky how to answer that since everything I did, including things like going to school for a degree I never used, led me to my fiancé. I’m so grateful for every step that led me to where I am now but I can play along ;) I would tell my younger self to stop doing LDRs in college. It’s just foolish to get so remotely entangled with no real end plan. Just stop that nonsense. I would tell myself to stick to my protocol of only having sex with committed boyfriends. I started out strong but going…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/19 11:03 AM
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You asking me or OP? My fiancé is not in the military, but I grew up in a military town and my stepdad is Special Forces. For what it’s worth I’m 5’6, 123lbs and a former beauty queen
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/19 02:26 PM
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Good luck! Men speak through actions so if you can show him that you are studying and show him improvements in behavior that will speak to him louder than anything.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 10:49 PM
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Happy to share my shaman...you can find him at www.cosmo-visions.com. Not sure where you are but he travels regularly. The Kambo cleanses are legal and listed online (and are usually followed up w 5meoDMT option).
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 10:48 PM
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Ok it does sound like he’s falling on the workaholic side of the spectrum. Is this overachieving drive a new development for him? Perhaps spurned by his recent failure, fear of being in that position again and not wanting to waste his second chance. Or has it been there all along but you just didn’t pay attention or realize how strong it was? I think you need to spend some time reflecting on your minimum needs, considering what you can and can’t put up with in both short term intensive intervals…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 10:40 PM
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Yes taking the logical analytical role is the masculine role. It’s a trap I fall into a lot too. OP needs to step out of the masculine and into the feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 10:27 PM
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Yeah OP’s going to need patience here. At 21 men still have a lot of growing up to do, while women often have matured a lot already. Just the fact that we can be mothers as soon as we get our periods means that we grow up faster in some ways, while men (who have no limits on reproduction) can take their sweet time growing up (esp in western cultures). This is why RPW often recommends marrying a man older than the woman, so that he has enough life experience to make it easier for her to submit to…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 09:28 PM
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Also my dream to have a homestead and homeschool! I feel like there is a new counter movement of young people and families wanting to leave the cities and the corporate rat race for a simple life in nature. Our ideal location is somewhere more tropical... but for somewhere colder there’s beautiful mountain communities all along the northeast.
/r/RedPillWives02/10/19 09:21 PM
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Ok the kids thing is a big deal. If you do want children, you need to know clearly if he is interested in having more or if he’s done with that adventure. If you don’t want kids, your options are more open here, but you still need to negotiate commitment. You need to talk about these things while keeping your emotions in check. These topics are not about you so don’t take his response personally. The first round of questions is about him and what he wants. Try to keep yourself out of the picture…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 08:59 PM
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What is your sex drive like? Would once a week be ok for you or would you become resentful wanting more, or feeling like you’re competing with his job. Hopefully you knew going into this that military is not a normal job or career. They practically own him, and there is a lot of conditioning they do to instill loyalty to the military at all costs. Is there something coming up in his training more recently that is causing him to be extra harsh about your projected future? He is expressing some do…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 07:52 PM
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Hmm maybe not so simple ;) Might need more info if it’s a specific situation. Generally... Show relationship value in your actions (a bit of a sample of what it would be like having you as a girlfriend). Also have a simple, non dramatic conversation about what you want and what he wants, exploring if there is compatibility there. If he’s open to exclusive dating, then you can continue the course to obtain exclusivity in a timely manner (you don’t need to demand it on the spot, but depending on h…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 06:40 PM
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New goal for this month is to get on a better sleep schedule. Fiancé and I work for ourselves so there’s no “gotta rush out for work” motivators. We’re also both naturally night owls. We’ve been known to sleep for 12 hours and have sunset brunch! We are also suuuper affectionate so we literally spend hours in bed hitting snooze for more cuddles. This has got to change, its driving fiancé nuts since he says if I wasn’t around he would have no problem getting out of bed. I need to limit blue light…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 06:27 PM
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I’ve been in your position OP. 4 years into our relationship we almost split up and I swallowed the pill and started my transformation. We saved the relationship and things were going smoothly. He had his own commitment issues he was trying to get over and when my old stubborn defensive behavior would flair up, it would set us back a lot. I’ve worked really hard on myself over the years but I still can revert back to old patterns, and I’m doing even more work to recognize and dissolve these patt…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 05:40 PM
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It sounds like OP did some serious changes and they restarted the relationship while she was actively implementing these changes, which put them on the path to marriage. When one first swallows TRP, it’s a major catalyst to new behaviors and a time of major growth. Keeping those new behaviors over time is her next challenge.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 05:05 PM
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Nice book report! So you say it’s good for helping identify a good/bad captain... would it also be helpful for women who already have their captain?
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 04:50 PM
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Also looking for a spiritual community to raise our future children but steering clear of organized religions. I grew up in the Bible Belt and rebelled against a lot of the Christian controlling influences. My mom was raised catholic and rebelled too. My father’s father was a Buddhist but didn’t pass on much of this. My fiancé was raised by original hippies and went to the UU church growing up. We often find ourselves in the new age yoga communities, which are great for some things but are also …
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 04:11 PM
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It is important to evaluate this... my parents are both doctors and mom had me in residency, she thought she could just take maternity leave and then be right back to work. Turns out she didn’t want to leave me w a nanny, so she dropped everything to be a SAHM to 4 children and had to restart her medical career later in life. OP doesn’t want surprises so she should be very realistic about how she will divide her time between her future career and her family.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 12:59 AM
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There is a sub for r/redpillnonmonogamy
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 08:39 PM
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Also RPW in an one-sided open relationship. Pretty rare since we represent both extremes of the relationship spectrum. He is polyamorous and I am monogamous (but also bisexual). We have had triad style relationships w other women. We’ve been together 10 years (open from the start) and are engaged.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 05:49 PM
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Technically there’s “nonmonogmy” which is an umbrella for any relationship that is not monogamous. Under that, “open relationship” usually means partners can have sex with other people, but it is about the sex, not romantic feelings or dating. “Swinging” is a form of open relationship where couples trade partners, usually in a group sex situation. “Polyamory” is when partners seek out other relationships that are about more than sex, with long term dating as the goal. Most people dive into being…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 04:57 PM
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Possibly the guy is trying to avoid divorce rape. Many men don’t realize until it’s too late that marriage is so risky and he could be trying to cut it off slowly to avoid the ex wife from going into raging bitch mode.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/19 07:12 PM
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I used to be in an international LDR. There are some fun ways to share and stay in touch. We had a private Wordpress blog where we could post journal entries w photos and descriptions of fun things we did, or just love notes. We sent a lot of romantic postcards and letters. We would have skype dates. We would watch movies together (watching the same movie on Netflix while on a call and pressing play at the same time).
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/19 10:31 PM
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You’re just going to have to learn how to hold your ground and be yourself. They can have their comments but you do you in the end. If you’re looksmaxing to improve your SMV bribe them with the promise of grandchildren ;)
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/19 02:34 PM
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See what you can do to up the sexy vavoom factor. Try to pull off a bit of a makeover where the cute friend suddenly becomes a hot babe. Learn new ways to do your makeup, hair and wardrobe. Just keep it classy. Look for any little girl cutesy habits that you can evolve.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/19 02:31 PM
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What kind of wedding vows did you have and how did you feel at the time of the engagement/wedding? Any butterflies then? Alone time is important in a marriage. Maybe you’re just not getting enough alone time in your day to day life. No kids yet right? If you’re actually unhappy it’s ok to consider leaving. But biggest red flag I see here is the sexual assult... you said you went to couples counseling, but have you ever gotten help specifically for the assult you experienced that caused you to be…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/19 06:41 AM
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Sounds like you and your husband were good role models for them and provided a stable foundation as they were growing up. Props to you!
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 08:02 PM
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Yeah it’s kind of a blow to a man’s ego when there’s a good date but it doesn’t end in some sort of sexual interest/excitement. For OP it was a “good” date but for him it was probably not that great if he vibed w you all night but it led nowhere. Men like how a woman makes them feel sexy and OP’s “I’m in LTR mode so now I’m a prude” vibe doesn’t make him feel desired. A woman who is good at flirting can give a man this feeling without even needing to kiss him, but it feels like OP is holding bac…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 07:54 PM
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How far is your commute? Are there activities, hobbies and events you could attend in the city after work and on weekends? You don’t have to live in the city to have access to social opportunities where you could meet men.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/19 05:21 PM
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Spend time on self care, self improvement, and build up you relationships with other women.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/19 05:16 PM
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Some of my summer dresses I can wear in the fall with leggings. Then I have a couple sweater dresses for fall and even a cashmere dress for winter. I love leg warmers too, they can be very feminine and help mix it up w the same pair of leggings. Boots are key and I love my Merrel Chateaus, which have just enough heel to be feminine. I can wear them year round but they’re also insulated, waterproof and very grippy in the snow/ice. I also have some Fox fur cuffs (cut off a pair of gloves) that I w…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/19 02:37 AM
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For the silk one, she uses 18th century techniques that use no chemicals and produce no pollution. It’s not meant to be a current representation of average Chinese rural life or a reality show. Yes the videos and set are scripted, filmed and edited to show an ideal version as in any tv show. But the content is real, the methods are real and she is real. I did a lot of research before posting this and can’t find any actual evidence that points to fraud, only people complaining and speculation tha…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/19 08:23 PM
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Her main platform is Weibo (like Chinese twitter) where she has way more followers. Someone maintains her YouTube channel for international broadcast.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/19 08:10 PM
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Please share! I’ve been super inspired by the Russian homestead movement from the Ringing Cedars Anastasia books.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/19 06:20 PM
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If the government is involved it’s likely they just boost her exposure online (her biggest platform is not YouTube but some Chinese version of Twitter, which they probably have control over). The videos are authentic enough, I don’t doubt that it is her original ideas and content. Her grandmother is definitely old and crinkled. But having caring grandchildren and passing down their knowledge shows how elders can not just survive but thrive. It’s when the children move to the city that the tradit…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/19 06:19 PM
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Haha well at least they got this propaganda right! Totally behind the movement that romanticizes youth moving out of cities and back to the countryside to live off the land. It’s my own goal to have a homestead and live with nature. It is both a set and it’s her home. She’s both an actress and a true-life subject. She says she did the work to tidy up and beautify her home so it would be picture perfect for filming. Any modern vlogger would do the same (except most modern vloggers don’t live in p…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/19 05:58 AM
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This has more to do with your insecurities about yourself and your body than with him. It’s not realistic or necessary for a guy to unfollow, unfriend or delete every hot girl on social media to appease your insecurities. There will always be some hotter younger instamodel that finds her way onto his stream. He may indulge looking at some fake highlight reel photos of these fantasy girls (social media is just a hair shy of porn these days), but if he’s a decent man at all this won’t affect how h…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/19 05:26 AM
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I’d say save it for love. Make sure you push past the infatuation (lust) phase, wait until you develop a deep emotional love and pair bonding. I’m still amazed at the amount of mid-to-late twentysomething women these days (several of my friends) who say they have never been in love. In most cases, they’ve said “I love you” to a man, but a little more questioning reveals they have felt love for someone but not been IN LOVE. It seems very odd to me (I have a big open heart when it comes to relatio…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 09:47 PM
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Most are still illegal in the USA but it’s decriminalized and there are other countries where some are legal.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 12:21 PM
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Not sure if this is up your alley, but there are a lot of advancements with the therapeutic use of psychedelics and the research is starting to back it up. I personally had an amazing breakthrough with 5meoDMT in a safe environment with an experienced shaman. Not your typical “trippy” experience. I cried and cried, releasing lots of stored trauma, it was a very cathartic experience and has given me lessons I continue to employ today. When used for healing in the right context, psychedelic medici…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 12:57 AM
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The Rules Revisited. Written by a man but info is geared for women
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/19 06:19 PM
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I think people are being a bit harsh here... I don’t think there’s enough info to make a full conclusion here, so just to consider an alternate viewpoint... he proposed making you dinner at his place, that could be seen as a nice gesture. He proposed a place near his place... maybe because he’s just familiar with the spots around him and wanted to go somewhere where he knew the vibe/food to be good for a date? Guys looking for just hookups will plan the date for after dinner. If he really is jus…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/19 06:14 PM
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Nice post. When I think of service I think of my fiancé’s best friend’s mother. Their family was raised with RP style ethics. I remember one time when it was her birthday and everyone was gathered for one of the massive dinners they always prepare. Though it was her birthday she was totally in service, cooking and cleaning with joy at having her family gathered. By the end of the night she was still going around serving everyone with zero entitlement. Taking care of her family is her happy place…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/19 06:00 PM
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Here’s my Pinterest board of a collection ironic RP memes: https://pin.it/nueqiaz4blv4pq There’s several other RP themed boards there too. Enjoy!
/r/RedPillWives21/09/19 05:41 PM
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Yeah this seems like a relationship of convenience on his part, and a comfort zone that keeps him from really having to get his act together. This is why RPW advises against shacking up without a marriage commitment on the horizon. I used to think this was silly Christian backwards type thinking, “get with the times ppl!” But the more I studied RP the more I realized it was for the benefit of the women, so she doesn’t give her gifts too easily. My BF said some of the same lines about not having …
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/19 05:38 PM
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Seconded. Aim for grad students if you have the chance to mingle with those in graduate school.
/r/RedPillWives20/09/19 08:25 PM
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RPW advises women who want a family to start early, as fertility peaks in early twenties and declines rather sharply after 30.
/r/RedPillWives20/09/19 08:24 PM
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Yeah I am seeing too many posts about women jumping from online dating into LDRs and it all seems pretty sketchy... USA to Australia is pretty much as far as it gets and at least a grand for tickets! Who would invest that much into a digital relationship of only a few months?! What kind of guy would go for that either unless he is cheating or desperate? LDRs that are not properly set up (after building a real in-person foundation and with a specific timeframe/plan to close the distance) should b…
/r/RedPillWives20/09/19 01:17 AM
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Female equivalent of Monk Mode. Taking a break from dating/sex to focus on self improvement.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/19 01:08 AM
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This is a RP themed sub... why are you asking for “a woman who likes me for me”? Part of being red pilled is being aware of the energy exchange between the sexes. A man has to have some sort of SMV, if it’s not genetic, then it needs to be resources and captain material. Resources will open up the sexual marketplace to him, and from that position he can find a woman who’s not a prostitute or gold digger. If a woman chooses financial security over looks it doesn’t automatically mean she’s a prost…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/19 12:30 AM
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Easier than changing one’s genetics! Even plastic surgery requires money. Also getting rich is an easier/more reliable path than becoming famous, the other thing that women will sacrifice looks for. Also “Rich” is relative... you don’t need to be first world rich, build a little wealth and move to a small town or another country where your wealth stands out. Lower your standards slightly (and improve your attitude a lot!) and you can find a good LTR woman if that’s what you want.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 11:11 PM
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What is this hamster ramble??? If you’re not hot it’s simple, get rich. I live in a super wealthy area and have friends who are quite ugly (and/or old), but they have their pick of plenty of hot young women. They can have full on harems if they wish. They can host orgy parties at their mansions if they like that sort of thing. They can even find hot women who will fall in love with them and become wives. Stop hamstring yourself in circles about this and start building wealth.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 09:37 PM
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Ooh what burner ideas are you thinking of incorporating? Nice to know there’s other burner RPW out there, since the culture is usually quite the opposite of RP. My BF proposed on the last day of the burn and I’m also half Chinese, so I’d love to see what you come up w! As for gift ideas for the parents...grandchildren?! ;)
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 09:27 PM
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Physical affection is important to all relationships. But some people need different levels of physical attention than others. My fiancée is super affectionate, cuddly and needs a lot of touch (besides sex) to be fulfilled, if I wasn’t equally as affectionate he would have lost interest or been frustrated, as you are... Could it be a cultural or family thing? Some cultures are more/less touchy. Some families never hug. Some people just have big personal space bubbles. Some people use different l…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 06:38 AM
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Skimmed the article... My thoughts on toxicity in TRP in general comes from the anonymous digital aspect. If there were a TRP community IRL, it would be a totally different thing. Who knows who the men hiding behind the digital masks really are? Do they walk the talk? In a real community of men there forms a natural hierarchy of respect based on real social skills. You’d hear more from the confident, experienced, leadership type and less from the butthurt neckbeards who are still figuring it all…
/r/RedPillWives18/09/19 09:52 PM
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Style can be either a meaningless trend or an authentic representation of your personality from the inside out. I like to express myself through fashion so that if someone were to judge me by my looks they’d actually get a pretty accurate assessment. I also like to meet other people who express themselves in a way that appeals to me. Might not be what I would wear, but it helps me relate to their personality. Wearing something eye catching can be an easy opener for someone (man or woman) to stri…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 09:31 PM
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From what I’ve noticed, pumps and stilettos and other kind of pointy dainty heels are going out of fashion (I tried to sell all of mine at a thrift store and they wouldn’t take them bc that style wasn’t selling). What’s in is chunky heels, block heels and flatforms. You might enjoy these better with your figure. I love them and am never going back to pointy painful heels. I want shoes that I can always walk/dance/run in on any terrain and I’ve gotten into a style of very chunky but still feminin…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 07:35 PM
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Try cinnamon for the cramp pain. I rarely ever have cramps but when I do one sip of cinnamon tea (cinnamon stick or powdered cinnamon in hot water, honey optional) cures it almost instantly. I’ve mentioned it to friends who suffer way more than me and they said it changed their life. Also, don’t be ashamed about your period. For thousands of years cultures all over the world had sacred women’s spaces where women would retreat to suffer out their periods in the company of other women. Our culture…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 04:40 PM
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Omg so much change! Not FOR him exactly but because of him, inspired by him! I was 22 when I met him at 27, and he blew my mind, rocked my world and forever changed who I am. I think it’s good for a women to meet her man young while she is still expanding and growing. If she grows with him, alongside him, they will become so attuned to each other. How he changed me: Career! I did a complete 180 in career paths and ditched my plan of going to med school (the family trade) and I became an artist i…
/r/RedPillWives18/09/19 07:54 AM
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Yeah not sure what she’s doing blabbing on here in RPW...
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 01:07 AM
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The freshmen 15 comes from a sudden increase in drinking and usually (at least in America) from access to an all you can eat buffet for meals. Minimize your drinking and if you do imbibe, avoid sugary juice cocktails and especially beer. A little wine or some liquor with just seltzer/lime/water as mixers will have less calories. Drink a full glass of water between every drink. Get off the school meal plan if possible and learn to make your own healthy meals. Make use of the free school gym while…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 12:57 AM
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This. There are degrees of lying. Dating sites are tricky here. Both parties will set their search target to a certain age bracket, but in real life you can be attracted to someone outside of their ideal age bracket because people can look/act/feel different than their numerical age What is OPs age and what is this guy’s age? Has OP even actually asked him? She said she calculated the age so she may not have even asked him about the lie. RP women understand the reasons why an older man wants to …
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/19 04:13 AM
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Love konmari, I thought I was already good at organizing but I learned a lot from her method, esp folding. Have you tried the whole Konmari method as applied to the other parts of your house or did you just try to do it w clothes? If clothes are harder/more sentimental for you, it could help to try the exercises w an area that’s easier (like papers or bathroom items, something with less attachment). After you have more practice/training/clarity at what “sparks joy” and what does not, then you ca…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/19 03:57 AM
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I don’t think I understand the whole point of starting a long distance digital relationship...even if the intent is to meet up, what would the plan be if sparks fly, keep dating long distance? It’s too much of an investment to make after only one “date.” Technology has made it seem easier but the reality is Long distance SUCKS. It’s the loneliest form of relationship, why set yourself for that? It should be approached as a last resort only for a relationship that is already vetted to have marria…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/19 02:28 AM
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I met a guy on the subway once, we were trading glances and he started a convo about something trivial (I think some words on my shopping bag?). When we got off the train I kinda had it in my head that I wanted to be the one to ask a guy for a change so I kinda rushed ahead and asked him for his number (I think just barely before he was about to ask for mine). At the time I felt proud that I had asked him first, part of the big city girl in charge masculine thing that one picks up living there. …
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 10:33 PM
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The only opinions that matter here are yours and your future husband’s. Men have a variety of opinions about makeup too. Some like you to be dolled up, some don’t care as long as you’re happy, others will have strong opinions about not wearing too much. Your future husband and you should be somewhat compatible or willing to compromise in tastes here. But even “too much” makeup won’t stop a “natural” man from being initially attracted to you. If you start dating more he might ask you to wear less…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 09:53 PM
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There was a time once when you married your first love...my grandparents and a lot of their generation have stories like that. I do wish this culture gave more responsibility and respect to teenage relationships instead of writing them off so quickly...more teens might pick up good relationship habits if they and our culture took the relationships more seriously. One relationship teacher (with a RP type style) that I have studied with said that women should fall in love 3 times before they are r…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 09:41 PM
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You’re so lucky that you’ve contained your sexual issues to a digital format and not gone down the road of abusing your body with real sex with real men. Please give yourself this credit! There are many girls less fortunate who have higher N-counts and way more issues. Can you make a commitment to quit the e-sex stuff cold turkey? Delete all your accounts and don’t visit those sites again. Take all that time that you spent in that realm and put it towards exercise and learning to cook healthy me…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 06:46 PM
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Fostering...that’s an interesting response. Curious why he would mention that. You’d have to get to know him a little more and ask more. Just be nurturing and caring. RPW has a lot of good advise. My fav way is to make beautiful meals for my fiancé, and esp for his friends and fam.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 06:17 PM
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Fostering...that’s an interesting response. Curious why he would mention that. You’d have to get to know him a little more and ask more. Just be nurturing and caring. RPW has a lot of good advise. My fav way is to make beautiful meals for my fiancé, and esp for his friends and fam.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 06:16 PM
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While future children is definitely an important one not to be overlooked... Sometimes men say they “don’t know” if they want children because they haven’t been with a woman they would feel comfortable procreating with. Let him experience your maternal side and see if his answer changes.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 08:17 AM
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Often overlooked self care: DRINK PLENTY OF WATER!
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 08:12 AM
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Hmm if it’s not SMV related... curious if he really is poly? Does he have or has he ever had 2 or more real relationships at once (not just FWB)? Also, for him is this a choice or an identity? Poly ppl tend to fall into two categories...those who feel like poly is a part of their DNA and they would be absolutely miserable in a monogamous relationship...and those that feel like this is their current lifestyle choice, but they may or may not be fully committed to it long term.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 08:03 AM
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How about this...try being more open, friendly and SMILING with all people! Practice being more feminine and charming on normal day to day interactions with normal day to day people, men and women alike. Flex those muscles that say “I’m a friendly person who likes to meet new people.” Just open yourself up a little bit at a time. It won’t be so hard because you won’t be distracted thinking too hard about any one man. Once that becomes more natural to you, you’ll be able to practice being more ap…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 07:54 AM
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As polyamory becomes more mainstream, more and more alpha men of “high value” or high attraction are able to spin many plates and call it “polyamory” in a socially acceptable dignified way. Most are just really “non-monogamous” (aka sleeping around, but not having real relationships). Very few of these are actually maintaining in-depth long term relationships with multiple women, it’s takes an exhaustive amount of work, time, communication and money. But it sounds more socially evolved to be pol…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 07:20 AM
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I was homeschooled every other year growing up... was nice to have a steady friend group and normal school experiences mixed with my homeschooling experience. Homeschooling only took 3 hours a day so it was nice to have more free time to play but eventually I would miss my friends and want to go back to normal school, then I would want to take another year off.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/19 08:43 PM
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My women friends are mostly my SO’s friend’s girlfriends. We’ve been together 10 years in the area where he was born/raised and he has many friends so the girls I meet are mostly through his buddies. My SO’s buddies really trust and respect me and they even want me to “train” their girlfriends to be more feminine haha, so they encourage us to be friends. Sometimes the buddy breaks up w a girlfriend but she still remains my good friend. This doesn’t usually create drama bc everyone is on good ter…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/19 11:47 PM
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Nature vs nurture... the shorter man I mentioned is the 5’7” brother of my 6’2” SO, but yes they have the same parents. But offspring still have a better chance of being taller if the parents are taller.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/19 10:03 PM
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Taller people of either sex have higher SMV. Taller people are more likely to be successful. Think about it in reproductive terms... taller partner also means taller children. In the Sexual marketplace most men prefer a woman shorter than them because it makes them feel emasculates to have to look up to their woman. But I know a few shorter men who had children with taller women and the children are def going to be taller than him so he has increased his offsprings chances of success.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/19 06:04 PM
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I don’t think it is very RPW to lead men on like this... basically reads that you’ll use him for attention/dates/resources like a Beta Bucks, without any sexual potential on his end.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/19 06:29 PM
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You take your temp first thing in the morning to get your body’s at rest temperature. Your temp spikes just after ovulation, so you need to study your cycles for a few months to learn when that is most likely to happen. Studying your cervical mucus changes will tell you more too. There are tracking apps to help you do this. Yes def recommendation the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility too.
/r/RedPillWives13/07/19 05:21 PM
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I’ve been fertility tracking w Basel Body Temp and using condoms on fertile days. Takes discipline and knowing your body. Not for everyone but I don’t want any synthetic hormones in my body.
/r/RedPillWives13/07/19 04:57 PM
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Yes consult with a doctor but there are MANY different types of doctors who hotly debate about birth control. My mother is a integrative medial doctor (integrative medicine takes a a more holistic approach VS automatically going for Big Pharm’s solutions). She recommends a version of the pill that is derived from more natural bioidentical hormone sources and is strongly against the chemicals in used in most pills, which are very harsh. It is available as a topical cream if you can find an integr…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/19 07:36 AM
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You said it was a high quality photo...Was this just a sexy selfie or a photo taken by a photographer? Some guys do not like other men taking sexy photos of their woman no matter how “professional” it is? You live in another city and your having sex/sexting with him... how do you know you’re not just a plate?
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/19 09:47 PM
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I wear flower and seashell hair clips that I make myself. I’m always in summer/beachy/tropical locations so it works ;)
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/19 09:41 PM
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I wouldn’t go as far as asking him out for coffee... there are plenty of things a girl can mention in conversation that invite a guy to invite her out (“I’m not really doing much tomorrow/this weekend” or “I really enjoy the coffee from that place in town” or “I haven’t been to that new coffee place, is it any good?”) If he’s too clueless, timid or apathetic to suggest meeting up, then move on.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/19 08:44 PM
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I think it’s important for men to have bonding experiences. There are not very many men-only spaces left in our culture so unfortunately the stereotypical bachelor party debauchery has taken on this roll. But the type of Bachelor party depends on the types of company men keep. What kind of man is your BF/the groom/the grooms friends? Bachelor parties can range from inappropriate stripper filled fiascos to relatively chill boy’s trips. What are his friends like and how do they like to party? What…
/r/RedPillWives27/06/19 03:46 AM
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My Chinese grandmother cooked all her stir fries in an electric wok in the garage to avoid making the house smell funny. Also with compost I store mine in a reused plastic salad box in the freezer. Popsicle compost. No smells!
/r/RedPillWives27/06/19 02:53 AM
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When my SO grills I do all the prep and just hand him trays of marinated chicken or soaked ears of corn or prepped kebabs, all he does is watch them on the fire and does some flipping... def not unmanly. My Asian grandmother also used to do a lot of stir fries in an electric wok in the garage to avoid making the whole house smell like Asian food.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/19 04:26 PM
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A lot of people recommend low carb...I’d extend this to say if you go gluten free you will def lose weight, even if you don’t have a gluten allergy. This is my Dr. Mom’s advice for losing weight as she specializes in controlling hormones naturally to optimize fitness. She says once a week cheat day is fine but you need the week in between to let your insulin levels go back down. I tried it for a month when I was just trying to eat healthier. I was not even trying to lose weight but I lost too mu…
/r/RedPillWives26/06/19 08:37 AM
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For summer time meals I love to send my man outside to the BBQ! Then all I have to do is prep something to grill and make a few sides and he enjoys the manly activity of grilling outside. Esp if the brothers are around too...send them all outside with som beers, BBQ chicken and some veggies to grill, they’ll enjoy themselves. I feel you on the cleaning front... one thing that was very attractive to me was how clean and neat my SO was when he lived by himself. Now I pick up all the laundry on the…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/19 06:10 PM
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Sounds like a test set up for failure. Unless it’s something straightforward like quitting alcohol or smoking, people change bad habits over time and trying to hold to 3 months of perfection is an exhausting and unrealistic goal. My SO is completely FED UP with my bad habit of interrupting. He has begged me so many times to stop, and while I have made improvements it’s a hard habit to quit cold turkey. I grew up in a large family where everyone talked over each other, and while I’ve been with my…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/19 04:07 AM
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Haha that is too cute w the kitty ears! Hard to take yourself too seriously like that.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/19 10:18 PM
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So he’s shit testing you... that’s a role reversal. He shouldn’t go out of his way to make tests for you to pass/fail. Tbh I do little things like this all the time (resist minor suggestions because “my way is better”) and yes it does cause small fights and bickers that could have been avoided. Trying to just pick my battles and get more used to following these little leads.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/19 10:03 PM
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Belly full and balls empty! ;) Also... Cheerleading his career and ideas. Organizing all the little stuff. Dinner parties for his friends. Massage when he’s aching. Cuddles when he wants it. Space when he needs it. Making him feel king of his castle. Listening (aka STFU). Travel/Adventure companion.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/19 11:33 PM
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Dr Laura! Not sure if she has a podcast but there are YouTube videos
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/19 11:23 PM
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Realize that contouring and makeup were designed for the 2 dimensional world (modeling and photography). A good contour can change a woman from a 6 to a 9 in photos (esp in self-confidence boosting selfies, on Instagram but also in the mirror, which is the only way we see ourselves!). But in 3 dimensions aka the real world, it may only boost her from a 6 to a 6.5 or 7. The real boost comes from an increase in confidence when a woman thinks that she looks her most hawt. Just putting this in persp…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/19 11:16 PM
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Christianity specifically became a widespread religion because it makes populations easier to control. Ancient priests used this to convert rulers, telling them “if you convert your people to Christianity they will be docile lambs and will easily give you their money” (since Christianity preaches you can’t be rich and holy at the same time). People were taught to follow the priests and let the church tell them what to do. Christianity can still be a great spiritual path but one must be aware of …
/r/askTRP17/06/19 04:48 PM
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The hunter should always be more sober than his game.
/r/askTRP17/06/19 04:35 PM
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Have you been to al-anon support groups for people close to alcohol abusers? Highly recommended. Your version of giving may be enabling. As stated before, RPW techniques will only work on a man who has been properly vetted. Alcohol/drug abusers and physical abusers do not make the cut. A recovered alcohol abuser might be ok if he is actually recovered, but a man “in recovery” may NEVER recover, esp if he is in a pattern of relapsing. You are taking a gamble and the odds are not in your favor. Us…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 07:07 AM
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My hair is down to my butt, coarse thick and wavy “mermaid hair.” I get tons of compliments on it. I use the no-poo/curly girl method. No heat, no chemicals, tons of plant based conditioner, no products other than leave in conditioner or coconut oil. I don’t get it cut either. Oh and the right detangling brush is major.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 06:45 AM
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Human touch is very healing and a fundamental human need. Babies will die without it. It’s one of the love languages and doesn’t need to be sexual to fulfill that need. Some yoga instructors have very healing hand when it comes to alignments. Many don’t touch their students because they are trying to be professional, but if you find one with a good touch you can let them know that you appreciate hands-on adjustments. I enjoy cuddle puddles with girlfriends while watching movies. Trading massages…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 06:25 AM
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Women get horny about 5 days out of the month when they are fertile. Most women these days are on synthetic hormones or don’t know enough about their bodies to understand their own cycle...but it is there and it is strong. Also...alcohol. Most of the situations you described were probably alcohol related.
/r/askTRP17/06/19 05:51 AM
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A Plain Jane is going to have to work twice as hard to get the same level of “respect” (or attention). Same way short men have to work twice as hard to get the same level of game a tall man has naturally. In the end if Plain Jane can develop her personal, sense of style, confidence, personality and girl game, she’s can actually have a higher RMV than her sexier friends. Pretty Girl Privilege leads to lazy and weak girl game and is the reason men often see them as sex objects rather than relation…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 05:44 AM
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Thanks for sharing, I found this article really articulated some spiritual insights without getting too preachy. I’m not Christian but I’m spiritual. I find new age spirituality is too riddled with feminist overtones, so it’s tricky to find material that speaks to me spiritually.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 07:42 AM
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Yes, the woman should be the first one to be vulnerable, opening the door for him to then express his feelings as well. Also, men speak louder w their words than their actions. Do his actions say “I love you?”
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 01:43 AM
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Keep the end goal and the big picture in mind. The moving and all your stuff is stressing your out. But you plan on moving trans-atlantic in the end, so I would recommend getting into minimalism. Material stuff holds a lot of space in our minds, but you don’t actually want to bring all this stuff across the pond with you so don’t be afraid to simplify your life and declutter. Less stuff to organize and clean will give you more time, freedom and peace of mind. We’re going through a similar proces…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 02:16 AM
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If talking about it helps, reserve those conversations for girl-talk. It will be more rewarding for you, less exhausting for him and more bonding w your girlfriends. Be careful not to just straight up complain about him to your girlfriends. Share how you’re struggling w yourself and your reactions. If after digesting it w a trusted girlfriend, you may have clarity on how to bring it up w him, if you still have the need. But likely after letting off some steam w a friend you’ll feel better and be…
/r/RedPillWives04/10/18 07:20 PM
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This week is unique bc my SO and I started cleanses for the next 7 days! He’s doing the Master Cleanse which is the maple syrup, lemons, cayenne liquid fast and colon cleanse. He’s done it many times before and loves how it helps him detox and reset his discipline in all areas of life. He needs a lot of food usually (kinda rules his day) so when he does a liquid fast it frees up so much of his schedule. After the first few days of low energy detoxing, he’ll have lots of extra energy simply bc he…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 08:45 AM
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I have an Etsy shop making handmade crafts. It started as a side hustle and for a year now it has covered my half of our expensive city rent. I’ve even hired an assistant to cover the work when SO and I traveled for a few months. I learned so much from Renae Christine’s free YouTube videos on how to start a successful handmade Etsy businesses. Her branding is all about moms who want to work from home. Even if you don’t quite know what to sell w your skills yet she’ll help you. And setting up an …
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 08:01 AM
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I bet professors and TA’s respected you more. 👍🏼 Dressing up is a polite part of being professional and pre-professionals should also be classy.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 12:33 AM
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Diamonds are a relatively recent part of wedding culture, often unethically mined and mostly just part of a massive sales pitch. What about a birthstone ring? Or any simple stone or gem that has meaning for you. I personally love moonstone and pearls more than diamonds!
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 12:28 AM
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Request an actual “date night” instead of making yourself available for just for Booty calls. Offer to make him dinner if he doesn’t automatically offer to take you out. It can even be because“you’re working so hard these days, it’s time to celebrate your new job success!” A date night means quality together time leading up to sexy time. You both get what you want. Yes he’ll have to set some time aside for it but even w a busy job the man still needs to eat, still wants sex, and you need to feel…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 06:03 PM
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Agree that an bangin body goes a loooong way. Work on your ass! Squats! And hair! Grow it full and long by avoiding dying/chemicals/heat. Long healthy hair is more attractive than damaging it by bleaching/dying it some color. My hair is mid-butt and it gets so much attention. Check out this article from The Rules Revisited Feminine Beauty is Highly Controllable. This nifty chart describes how the face accounts for 20% of attractiveness, but is only 5% controllable and thus only deserves 2% of yo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 04:06 PM
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Ooh I’m also self-learning about homesteading skills (only online/books for now, but hope to be able to practice some gardening skills maybe on a friend’s property)
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 03:53 PM
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Yeah good point, so sad to see my fit runner friends blow up after HS. My awareness of health changed so much and I can’t believe we used to go to Italian restaurants to “carbo load” the night before a race and that we would guzzle Gatorade which to me now is so gross. My SO turned me on to eating all organic. Now I’m vegetarian too. I cook healthy meals all the time and we avoid eating out. Makes me wonder how much more fit I would have been if I was eating clean and healthy while I was a stude…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 03:48 PM
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Self teach and start an online business where you can work from home to be with the kids. The most lucrative ones are online courses set up w passive income funnels. You could even sell a course on anything related to the feminine arts (giving you an extra excuse to practice these skills). I personally started a Etsy Shop selling my handmade crafts, and what started as a side hustle now covers 2x my rent in an expensive city.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 06:49 AM
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I get where you’re coming from. My college education cost $100,000 and I’ve learned way more after college from self studying subjects that are actually important to me. The waste was mostly due to not really knowing who I really am at that age and just going through with college because it was normal and my family paid for it. If I had a choice now, I would rather the money be used like a “dowery” towards a house for my future family! College can be a great thing only if you know exactly what a…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 06:42 AM
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When you’re 16 is a great time to get and stay fit w HS sports. I was a runner in high school and my ass has been fantastic ever since! One season of swim team sculpted and toned my back. My years of being an strong athlete teen made it much easier to maintain my current feminine shape and fitness. I think the way you train your body when you’re young has a big effect on your body later in life. Also, make sure to make quality girlfriends and lots of them. Don’t let any “mean girls” gossipy thin…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 06:10 AM
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I’ve found some of my favorite feminine dresses at thrift stores! Affordable, eco friendly and very often cutsy vintage styles that I adore. (I actually committed to stop buying brand new clothing, except shoes, underwear and swimwear, and now only buy 2nd hand. There’s just too much waste in the fashion industry for me.)
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 06:01 AM
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Morning yoga and meditation Reading a book in a hot bath Spending one-on-one time w a girlfriend Walking on the beach or in nature Paint or make something crafty for myself Geez that was kind of hard to come up w after the first 2... I must be out of practice!
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 05:35 AM
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Being a plate is not a good position for a women. Unfortunately our “sex positive” culture has made it so that most men expect sex from a woman before they would consider giving her exclusivity. It’s a tricky position to try to withhold sex when he can easily get it from other women (plates) around him without having to give commitment. This is where RPW tries to help women navigate this maze, teaching women to create value though ways that are not related to sex, so that she can stand out again…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 03:09 AM
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We’re good at working together. I basically work for him and we’ve done a lot of business projects together. There are challenges but it’s really rewarding, and something rare for couples to actually pull off and to do it long term (8 years). Also good at traveling together. We’ve been so many places all over the world and have had countless amazing experiences. We like to travel in an exotic place for a month at a time. We’re good at traveling on a budget but making the most out of our experien…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 06:48 PM
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Really curious what advice it gives! 😂
/r/RedPillWives18/09/18 06:43 PM
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?? I said pause arguments until fed...not until bed :P
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 05:18 PM
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Polyamorous relationships usually involve both partners seeking other relationships. It is much harder for the attached man to find women willing to date him, while an attached woman can easily find plenty of men who will date her. In many poly couples, the women are constantly going on dates and finding new partners while the man sits at home unable to find dates and feeling completely emasculated/cucked. Men also have a harder time with knowing their woman is sexual with other men. Plus on a b…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 05:43 AM
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If anyone (usually him) is hungry we pause all disagreements until fed! Nothing good happens on an empty stomach.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 05:04 AM
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We didn’t fight at all the first year of being together. 9 years later and there have been a lot more fights recently about seemingly small stuff... he’s been battling depression which makes him super sensitive and one little thing I do wrong can throw off his mood for hours. His biggest issue is with my bad habit of interrupting. I guess it just comes from growing up in a large family where we all just talk over each other, combined w triggers he inherited from his mom who is the worst and loud…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 04:59 AM
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Mine leaves a pile of dirty clothes right outside the closet door...where just inside is the laundry bag. I’ve given up asking him to just open the closet and put them inside...just not a battle I wanna choose. I surrender!! Thing is when he lived alone he was very clean and neat. Somehow though it comforts me to know that he is at least an inherently neat person... maybe I spoil him just a little!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 04:31 AM
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Wow 4 parents that will move for you...lucky you! That is an invaluable resource. I think a lot of today’s problems come from families being so isolated and nuclear... raising a family tribal style with all the relatives helping out is rare today but I think it is more natural. Hiring nanny’s is just not the same. My mom thought she could take maternity leave from her medical residency and then just go back to work, but when I started smiling bigger for the nanny than for her she wasn’t having i…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 05:43 PM
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It’s not about “sacrificing everything you’ve ever wanted to do.” It’s about knowing your priorities You can have a career, a husband, children, friends, hobbies. But time is limited and they all can’t be your #1. Put these things in order of how much happiness they bring you. All of them are important, but once you know where your priories are in relation to each other, making decisions becomes easy. For me personally, when push comes to shove, I know I’ll sacrifice some of my career so that I …
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 10:09 AM
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Yes my mom and Dad are both doctors. My mom had me in residency and thought she could just take maternity leave and then bounce right back. Except she realized she didn’t want me raised by a nanny so she quit her residency and became a full time mom and had 4 kids over the next 10 years. She dabbled a bit in the ER while raising kids and on/off homeschooling, but did not have a traditional medical career. My dad is a surgeon and was the provider. That worked for them until mom caught empty nest …
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 05:58 AM
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I had just turned 22 when I met my SO...that was 9 years ago!
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:45 AM
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Dating down means you’re in the relationship to be “the better partner” and that’s all about an ego boost for you. There is only room for one ego in a relationship and it’s your man’s. Since your current BF is w someone “out of his league,” plus he has baggage from his past relationship, he’s just sitting on the sides of this one enjoying fucking a hot GF who can cook, but he feels like it won’t last so he’s not spending any money on you. He has the bare minimum invested in this relationship, sh…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:36 AM
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Yes would love more field reports! It’s insightful to look inside the couple bubble to see how ppl really behave when they fight (esp in a GOOD relationship). Makes us feel more human but we also see where we relate and can learn.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:18 AM
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Ouch as a minimalist this is hard to read. It’s easy to get excited about decorating a new home buyer beware!! You def don’t want a bunch of random stuff cluttering up your sanctuary. My BF gets all the final say in our decor (he gets really into it and it’s his $$$) but thankfully I love and respect his tastes. I pick and choose any battles carefully if it’s something I really want a say in. We’ve moved a ton but each time we get super into setting the place up proper.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:10 AM
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Yes I feel very safe and secure. We have been together for 9 years, live together, work together and are preparing to purchase property together soon. But I believe my lack of jealousy comes from being secure in myself first and foremost. In previous relationships I never got jealous. My first Bf even accused me of not loving him enough because to him, if I loved him I would feel jealous sometimes. However I have experienced jealousy. It was due to the time that he did “cheat” on me in that he d…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 10:41 PM
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Hi! Also a RPW in a non-monogamous relationship, thought I was alone here haha. It’s weird bc the NM/polyamorous world (feminist) and the RP world (anti feminist) are like two opposite ends on the spectrum but somehow I work with elements of each extreme. For all of our 9 year relationship, it has been open one-way, where he can see others (and I’m bisexual so often I join in w threesomes if the vibe is right.) I don’t have any desire to be with other men. Oh and this whole set up was my idea, n…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 10:54 PM
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I don’t know your past but I know if you hold onto “daddy issues” you’ll drag them into the way you interact w men/relationships. Do whatever internal work/therapy/meditation you can to let go of resentments and negative charges around your father. Don’t do it for him, do it because you need to move forward with healthy relationships with men.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 01:42 AM
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The father-daughter point is spot on. Even if he’s not in the picture work on finding a way to have a positive relationship w him, even if that just means mentally forgiving him for not being there. Acknowledge any bit of your life that he did contribute to. Come to peace with any that he did not. Seek out strong father figures in other family members. Seek out women friends with good fathers.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 06:46 PM
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In observing a circle of extremely high value men that I know (multimillionaires and some high status DJs)... it is pretty standard for these guys to have their primary girlfriend who is young, hot, loyal to him and also involves other chicks in regular threesomes. If she’s not into threesomes or side chicks, or if she’s just interested in climbing the hypergamy ladder, there are others and she is easily replaced. These guys, even as they grow older, fill their mansions/parties with a constant s…
/r/askTRP11/09/18 05:39 AM
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Group situations without one on one meet ups with guy friends is totally fine 👍🏼
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 01:45 AM
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“I swear he would be a model if it wasn't for his big nose.” Haha like Hansel in Zoolander!
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/18 12:26 AM
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Looking back I have a preference for long hair, tall, Caucasian and athletic. I’ve dated both brunettes and blondes, but lean towards the blonde hair blue eyes type. I’m brunette mixed Asian so I think it’s an opposites attract thing. I’ve never been attracted to black, Asian or Latin men. I’m a surfer so the surfer/swimmer style of body was important (naturally fit but not bulky), esp since I spent a lot of time as the only girl in the water with shirtless surfing men (a man who doesn’t fit tha…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/18 12:25 AM
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I also have some experience w threesomes w my SO of 8 years. I was never the jealous type but there is still a lot to navigate. OP needs to consider if she has any bisexual tendencies/curiosities, that could help her enjoy the experience, but if she’s not anywhere near the bi spectrum it could be really hard for her. For me, when another woman is into him it turns me on because of preselection, and it’s satisfying to know that he is committed to me when he could have others. Also OP needs to con…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/18 12:10 AM
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You haven't seen him in 4 months? You say the butterflies are gone, so does that mean you're not even that excited to see him? I did a LDR in college for 2.5 years, and it was always a majorly exciting event when we got to spend physical time together. In a way I think because it was LDR the energy was more amped than usual (which pushed us to keep dating even though there was no plan to close the distance). I've been in my current relationship 8 years and we spend the majority of our time toget…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 07:36 AM
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Taking the morning after pill is like taking 3 doses of birth control at once, which triggers an early period thus preventing ovulation or kicking an ovulated (or even fertilized) egg out of your system. You took 2 morning afters so that's 6 days of hormones in 2 days. You'll probably feel more intense side effects as your body deals with this hormonal overdose. I wouldn't panic, you're probably not in acute danger, but do some more research and consult a doc. And you probably won't get pregnant…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 03:53 AM
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Red Pill Women subreddit. It's for Red Pill aware women who want LTRs and Marriage and to avoid becoming a plate. If you do want marriage it's this type of woman you'll be looking for. (Not saying that you should try to find a wife at RPW, just that it would be an useful source of information on what your future Christian wife should be like)
/r/askTRP23/01/18 03:33 AM
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You might have a lurk on RPW. While not specifically spiritual, RPW's captain/first mate dynamic is similar to many traditional Christian relationships.
/r/askTRP23/01/18 03:24 AM
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Letting him lead means he would be the one to bring up this topic when discussing the future or when leases are up. A woman asking if they should move in together is like a woman proposing. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment so he's the one with the key to open that gate, not you. And hi! I'm also bisexual and choose the RPW dynamic w my man :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 02:55 AM
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We are real women! Though many often get confused and think that we want to be with TRP men which is not the case. We are a more "traditional" minded community who want to be supportive wives to a good "captain", and want to avoid being naggy shrews or the type of women that become "plates." Yes seems like she's a supporter of Men's Rights, which is a part of TRP, but TRP is more focused on personal self improvement and sexual strategy. An awareness of the current political climate is important …
/r/altTRP18/01/18 05:37 AM
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Haha touché!
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 05:13 AM
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He hasn't trusted you for a whole year? Did you do something to break his trust? Did he trust you for the first 3 years when you were having sex? A year is long enough to conclude that if trust/sex hasn't been established, more time is not going to fix it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 05:11 AM
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Yeah 4 years....? What the heck has he been doing all this time? He's using you. His dependence on you makes him feel emasculated so he picks fights and blames you for things as a way to deflect his own issues. Get your weight in check and you're SMV will be high enough to find a decent man with a job and some self respect.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 05:07 AM
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Women lurkers like to see the men's answers too
/r/askTRP16/01/18 11:26 PM
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I like to study Feng Shui and it is really important to keep the entrance way tidy and inviting... How I would approach this depends... Is he a messy person in general? What was he like before you lived together? If he gave you the chance to fully organize/clean the entire room to your satisfaction, would it just turn into another mess in a few weeks? Or if he is overall a neat/tidy/clean person, then is the room poorly set up for optimal use/organization? Is there a pattern in the type of clutt…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 04:19 AM
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Mainly big blingy fake crystals...anything plastic. Out of the ones I liked most, one had a natural stone set in metal and one had a pearl. I sometimes take a boho dangly earring and transform it into a belly ring (literally just wore a hook earring in the belly ring hole and twisted the end of the hook around to close it) Also used to wear plain silver eyebrow rings as belly rings because they were smaller and more dainty.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/18 03:17 AM
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Read Beyond the Breakup by Andrew Aitken, author of therulesrevisited.com blog and RPW resource. It will help you process your ex's behavior and get yourself ready to rebuild.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/18 11:48 PM
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I got one years ago. I enjoyed it and it looks good on my abs, but i found it really hard to find tasteful jewelry for it. Most belly rings in stores are pretty tacky. When I did find one I liked, I'd eventually lose the top ball and wouldn't be able to find another nice one for ages. These days I rarely wear jewelry other than a necklace and haven't had a belly ring in for over a year. My hole still never closes tho though I wish it would at this point. My SO is not opposed tho and since it won…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/18 11:41 PM
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Right! A friend who was working on this decided to reply to all compliments with "That's true about me, thank you for noticing!"
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/18 08:07 PM
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My Dr. Mom recommends 5,000 iUs a day and a 50,000 iU boost once a week :)
/r/RedPillWives10/01/18 03:51 AM
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Let go of your worries. They do nothing but add real stress to hypothetical situations. Stress will aggravate your symptoms and slow your recovery, but stressing out is an option response. Learn to meditate and love everything in your life NOW. You only have up to go from here! The SMV graphs we often see here represent SMV for the average population of women, usually with a major peak in the early 20s and a sharp decline after 30. Your personal SMV graph will look totally different from this an…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 06:02 AM
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It's a romantic idea but remember that the first step of taking the red pill is to realize that THE ONE is a myth. Yes there will be one man that you do end up marrying, but the idea that there is only ever one person in the whole world who could possibly fill that role is not helpful to vetting and finding the man you want to marry. Women can fall in love with men who are not marriage material, and when they get so caught up in "I'm so in love which means he must be The One!" that they'll be bl…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 04:06 AM
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I love pearls! They go with everything and always make a simple outfit seem elegant without trying too hard. Real freshwater pearls are inexpensive.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 07:52 PM
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Wife goggles! You married young and he's getting you in your prime so that will be imprinted on him with a special bond. As long as you take care of yourself and age gracefully he'll find you attractive on the other side of the wall. As long as you build skills as a wife and a mother he'll still value you as a woman. The wall really hurts when a woman is blind to it and smacks into it headlong. Party lifestyle, smoking, drinking, tanning...these will make aging a painful process and if she has n…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 07:01 PM
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You still benefit from the dread on your wife. She knows a younger HB9 wants you and will step up her girl game.
/r/TheRedPill05/01/18 10:52 AM
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I think it also depends on the type of n-counts a woman has. It's better if her numbers reflect LTRs of decent value that ended mutually. No ONS. No FWB. Not all numbers are created equally. A woman w 3 ONSs is def less value than one w 3 LTRs.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/18 10:08 PM
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It's not just "a number" that looks bad "on paper" or a reputation. Some men will never ask/know. The main problem with slutting around is the loss of innocence and the risk of becoming cynical and jaded. It's the emotional toll it takes on a woman. On a spiritual level, tantra teaches that when a woman and a man have sex, the woman's "aura/spirit/essence/energy" sticks to the man for 3 months, while the man's energy sticks to the woman for 7 YEARS. Think of all the entities a slutty woman is ca…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/18 09:52 PM
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Recommended Reading: Laura Doyle's The Surrendered Single & The Surrendered Wife therulesrevisited.com Justin Sterling's What Really Works With Men Extra Credit: Rollo Tomassi's The Rational Male (foundational block of TRP if you want to truly understand RP from the male perspective)
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/18 09:32 PM
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Also implants may affect a woman's ability to breastfeed. It is possible but some have trouble producing enough milk and some can't at all. A man who values breastfeeding his children would see implants as a risk factor. Also, men are fascinated by breasts but size has less to do with it than we think. They just love boobies of any kind. My boobs are about as small as they come and while I wish I could fill out a bikini more, my SO assures me that he likes them as is. He's had an ex who got impl…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/18 09:26 PM
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Ooh would love a review. Just started some booty focused weightlifting! Building the butt is one of the best SMV uppers. Every time a guy at TRP says "lift bro" we at RPW should be saying "squat sista!"
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/18 08:15 AM
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If you are naturally thin but want to be fit (= gain a few pounds of muscle in the right places) check out bonytobombshell.com. Most all exercise advise and programs are designed for ppl trying to lose weight, so having advice that's specific to our body type is really insightful!
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/18 08:09 AM
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The man can totally be the head chef in the house. If it's his strength then he'll be happy to show it. Maybe you want to become the dessert queen to compliment his dinners (baking is really easy if you follow simple recipes by the book). Or focus on your heritage and learn a few signature recipients with the help of your family. If you want to learn simply for the love of food (and because true Mexican food is AMAZING) then it really just takes practice. I learned in college when I got off the …
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/18 08:03 AM
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If your naturally outgoing it works. Meet more people = meet more girls.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 04:57 AM
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You should start a catering company!
/r/RedPillWives04/01/18 03:21 AM
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Befriend the boyfriend, the friend groups, everyone... the most Alpha Chad I know always goes straight for a bro-down and makes a scene getting to know all the dudes in the room/venue and amps up everyone's energy, while he ignores the hot chicks in the room. When he finally talks to one she's already in his frame. Oh yeah and guys who date hot chicks also know more hot chicks.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 03:16 AM
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You had a typo in your comment above and spelled Aloha instead of Alpha
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/18 03:04 AM
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The hot/cold thing had you hooked to the emotional ups/down. Guys at TRP explain that it's like emotional crack for women. We like to FEEL things when we're with a man and we're not always careful/aware if the feelings are good or bad. If the intensity is there it's enough to keep you coming back for more.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 10:39 PM
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Aloha widowed? ;) wouldn't be too bad to be widowed in Hawaii I guess...
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 10:37 PM
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If you feel resentment then why not schedule yourself so that you can share meals together. Meals are an important bonding time and it means you're also on the same schedule. My SO can get moody when he hasn't eaten and he gets especially agitated if I eat in front of him when he's hungry. (We generally share meals but if I'm snacking w/o him I'll tend to cook dinner later which means he's hungrier). When he gets home from work I know he's hungry, but he needs some time to unwind before a meal. …
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 05:55 PM
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Sometimes a woman is too smart for her own good and too attached, which means when the abuse happens, her beefy hamster kicks into overdrive and denial. Admitting to the abuse would kill the hamster but she's invested her entire ego into her hamster and will protect it at all costs. My mom is a doctor and super smart but almost on the aspbergers spectrum. She remains attached to her alcoholic abusive husband (my step dad). He's special forces (Alpha) and has severe PTSD and resorts to alcohol be…
/r/askTRP03/01/18 05:44 PM
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If sweat is also accompanied w odors try adjusting your diet. Eating more clean and less meat sometimes reduces body odors.
/r/askTRP03/01/18 05:03 AM
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Good one. It's tricky once you swallow the pill and now see so much clearer. You see all the underlying motives behind human behavior and you see some ugly truths people are not ready/willing to face. I studied as an anthropologist and have always had a keen interest in humans. But there's a fine line between observing and judging.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 04:56 AM
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Love Ester Perel's videos. RP but easy enough to digest for BP friends if I share a link. Her book is on my list.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/18 04:49 AM
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You really hit a home run there! Ppl complain that online dating can be daunting and exhausting but I think your Nun Mode really paid off! I don't think it's coincidence that you struck captain material on the first try. Btw It was me who suggested the babymoon on your last post but it's perfect that he's the one to actually bring it up and lead the way ;)
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 04:14 AM
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Check out www.bonytobeastly.com. Nutrition and workouts for skinny men who have trouble eating enough to gain weight. This article The skinny on "Just Eat More" seems relevant.
/r/askTRP03/01/18 01:43 AM
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Hi! Was at a NYE party where a girl was reading cards but I missed my chance so thanks for providing another. How can I help my partner reach his desired level of financial security so we can be ready to start a family?
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/18 10:41 AM
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By #2 I think he meant that husband is 2nd man she's had sex with, other guy she lost her virginity to.
/r/askTRP02/01/18 07:45 AM
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Post is deleted so I can't see the text, but thought I would add that I did help inspire my SO in becoming more financially responsible... He grew up in a very poor family who had no idea how to save. From age 13 he always made his own money and has supported himself well as an adult as a self employed artist. But he never had any saving habits because it just wasn't anything he was educated about or aware of. I grew up in a wealthy family and while I have my own financial challenges (habit of c…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/18 03:22 AM
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I feel you on the spiritual connection front. I was not spiritual at all and it was my SO who introduced spirituality to me and my whole world changed because of it and it's one of the most beautiful bonds in our relationship. I find it natural to submit to him since in many ways he is like my spiritual mentor since he was raised with a strong spiritual practice. If I was single I'd imagine that spirituality would be a very important factor and I would try to place myself in communities where th…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/18 03:02 AM
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Hmm living w parents usually has the benefit of at least having your own room. This is a pretty tight situation. Yet you have a live in maid?! Is there any way to negotiate your own room at home?
/r/askTRP30/12/17 09:15 PM
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If you're an ice cream addict go for the "vegan" ice cream brands. Feels way better than dairy and they use less sugar (still plenty sweet). Coconut milk options are healthy and taste just as good.
/r/TheRedPill29/12/17 06:53 AM
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Most diet and exercise programs are designed for people trying to lose weight/fat. Look into BonyToBeastly.com. Fitness and nutrition for the rare skinny 3% of the population who have a difficult time eating enough to gain weight.
/r/TheRedPill29/12/17 06:48 AM
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Dating another 20 yo will def bring up "immaturity" issues. A 20 yo guy has a loooong way to go in defining himself as a man where as a 20 yo girl better already have more of her shit together. It's recommended here that women date men 5-10 years older than them because a)it will be much more natural to submit to a man with more life experience, and b) the man will be at a more compatible place in life as far as commitment and family timelines. Take a look at Rollo's Navigating the SMP graph to …
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/17 12:22 AM
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Here's one of the best articles about attractiveness: The Rules Revisited: Feminine Beauty is Highly Controllable. There are a series of great chart/graphs that breaks down how important certain features are in the Sexual Marketplace (according to MEN), the degree of control you have over each and thus the amount of attention you should give to each. :) There's tons of other great articles on appearance and attractiveness so spend some time browsing the blog.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/17 12:05 AM
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Since this was your much anticipated first sexy times with this man and you were coming off your pill, did you have any discussion about pregnancy/prevention/accidents? Was the sex pre-planned out or was it the result of your fertile hormones taking over the rational part of your brain? (you're already in the deep end but just asking so that other women might be able to learn the following...) Pull-out should only be a backup method. Ideally you should always have 2 forms of birth control and pu…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 11:46 PM
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Here it's recommended not to go LDR unless there's a specific endpoint planned where you will no longer be LDR. It seems like your school is the deadline and before you commit to LDR, it's good to clarify this as much as possible and make clear plans for what will happen after school. Who would be moving where and when and under what context (engagement?). I did a few international LDRs in the past. Set regular video chat "dates" where you have a decent amount of time to connect. Writing letters…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 01:04 AM
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First of all congrats on your first pregnancy and upcoming little one! Curious what kind of birth control you were relying on when this happened? Thankfully you already swallowed the red pill so even though this was unintended you're in a much better place than if you were BP and totally unaware. You were already on some good moves like making sure you're on the same page with marriage and families and waiting 2 months for sex which is a pretty long time for men these days. Baby will be along be…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 12:33 AM
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Yay! I love gift giving. To make things simpler for my big family I've started going for one thing I can give everyone and this year it was these beautiful Himalayan rock salt night lights and they were a big hit. We got some for our new apt and it's the most complimented item in our home so figured it would make a good gift that is age/gender neutral and affordable. :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/17 11:56 PM
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Are you fat and over 30? Is this a hypothetical question or a personal one?
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/17 09:53 AM
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To ease your mind about the care she's getting, my guess is that her doctor is still on top of things even if she is a difficult patient. Good bedside manner is a courtesy for the patient but if the patient is difficult, it's the patient who doesn't get anything out of the conversations. He probably already knew what routine to put her on and was simply trying to explain it to her. She doesn't want to listen, then she won't learn. Doctors are used to dealing with bad patients. And the worst pati…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/17 12:54 PM
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we only met at home, mine or his Does that mean you only met for sex? Sounds like plate territory if he's not putting effort into planing dates. Yeah pretty awful way to try to get a date... complain that he's passive and try to make him step up by mentioning your other orbiters? Nothing "joking" about what you said. You were shit testing and he passed it by nexting you. There's a guy on AskTRP right now who's girl pulled a similar move, mentioning orbiters in an attempt to make him step up...do…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/17 10:26 PM
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Would it make sense to tell men that you're not dating now, but still collect some numbers for when you're ready to get back in the game? Would this be distracting/counterproductive?
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/17 08:07 AM
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Study like you're in a bible school for womanhood! Read the Surrendered Single by Laura Doyle :) Also a lot of great material on www.therulesrevisited.com. If you're recently out of a breakup or still haunted by mistakes in past relationships, the author has a book just for you called Beyond the Breakup. They guys at TRP would tell a man going into monk mode "lift bro." So I'd say a RPW equivalent is "squat sista!" Hit the gym and get fit! Obviously keep hanging out here. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/17 08:06 AM
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High SMV men often desire the social credibility that comes with a proper girlfriend or a trophy wife. When attending formal, business or family events, they want an age appropriate smoke show with decent intellect and charm that they can present to their peers.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/17 07:32 AM
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I agree "handling" the day to day financial details/budgets can be the RPW's delegated duty unless the man naturally enjoys crunching numbers. I mean that the man should be the decider on overall financial decisions, and should never have to ask his wife if he's "allowed" to buy something or feel like he could "get in trouble" for using money how he wants. Money is a source of power and can be a major source of arguments if the couples have different habits/philosophies about money. A woman who …
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 11:33 PM
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Laura Doyle's Surrendered Wife recommends surrendering the finances. Letting the man control the money helps him feel empowered. I haven't fully applied this principle in our relationship... I'm the one handling setting up bill accounts and auto pays and I do the book keeping for his business. I like to think of myself as his sexy secretary. However I would like to take more steps towards him being more in control as it will give him a better sense of overall finances. Just forgive his error and…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 06:27 PM
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Half cooked sauces like pasta sauce, curries, stir fries, taco/burrito fixings. You place a serving size portion it in a quart ziplock, flatten it so it defrosts quickly, and freeze. Then your man simply makes fresh whatever grain (pasta/noodles/couscous/rice/tortillas) that goes with it, puts the freezer bag in warm water to defrost and the heats it up in a pan. It's easy if, for a week you just make double of any meal and freeze half. Or pick one day and do a big cook off.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 08:30 PM
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High SMV hobbies that women respond to: Playing an instrument Extreme sports (esp surfing) Motorcycles Boating/Sailing Race Car Driving Comedy (watching lots will make you funnier) Freestyling/Improv Foreign languages (if you're a white guy who can speak Spanish the Latin girls go nuts)
/r/askTRP19/12/17 09:08 AM
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Try using ModelMayhem.com. Many photogs will do TFP "Trade for Prints" (aka free photos) if they're getting something out of the shoot (like testing one of their creative ideas or just tying to get more experience). Helps if you have decent looks/body or even an interesting location to offer. But if you're not male model material, just explain that you want dating site pics and offer $50. There are pros and decent hobbyists on there who might take you up on it.
/r/askTRP19/12/17 08:54 AM
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If your political views are "extreme" or rare, you're already severely limiting your options to guys who can accept outlying views. This man is one of them, so consider yourself lucky he's a-political enough to be supportive of you/go along with it. I think you're getting a little too picky if he isn't a total activist like your ex. I bet your ex was missing more important qualities that this man possesses. There's 2 different "lists" when it comes to any major life choice like a job, home, or L…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 08:26 AM
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I follow my SO's lead in avoiding the news as it's mostly depressive. My favorite way to keep up with events is a weekly subscription to The Week, as it presents both sides of current events in all areas in an easy to digest spread that you can read in one sitting. I really dislike most all national political talk because I believe that it's nitpicking at the surface when there are far stronger powers at play deep down where no one has access to enough info to make a clear picture. We'll never s…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 02:43 AM
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He does a lot of his work from home and if everything isn't perfectly in order it's harder for him to get work done. One thing I love about him is that he is naturally tidy and clean, however now that I've taken over all cleaning duties he holds me to his high standard, but doesn't clean anything himself haha. Except for sweeping... he always wants re-sweep no matter how good I think I got the floor.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 01:36 AM
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From what I've noticed, lesbians who are mainly into dating women can be easy lays for guys when they decide they're horny enough for cock. They don't care about N count or being perceived as slutty. It's kind of a game or role play for them.
/r/askTRP18/12/17 11:16 PM
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Have had a few friends (guys and girls alike) experience roofies. The thing is, it doesn't make you act abnormally drunk (that would draw too much attention to you and potentially the roofier), you go about your business like any normal night of partying. What it does is it makes you unable to remember anything for a handful of hours. Complete blackout, but you act like normal. The most important part is to be with people you know and trust. A friend who explained being roofied had to ask friend…
/r/TheRedPill18/12/17 11:05 PM
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Guys LOVE when you prep meals ahead for them! One time when I left for awhile I made a ton of freezer bag homecooked sauces and meals. He took a picture of the stack in the freezer and was showing it off to his guy friends :) whenever he'd cook one he said he could feel my love and loved that I was taking care of him even from far away.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 10:43 PM
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Especially since I started getting into minimalism and Feng Shui the past few months, I'm now super sensitive to clutter build ups. My SO used to get upset at me when clutter started to build up but now I'm more aware of it and cleaning much more. I can barely stand to be in my dad's home anymore bc my stepmom is a hoarder and shopper and there is no space to breathe in that house. If I enter a friend's kitchen that is a mess sometimes I have to hold myself back from trying to clean it for them …
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 10:39 PM
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Fun post! Who says you can't be badass and RPW? Grew up an equestrian. Did my first 100mile 3 day endurance ride when I was 8 years old. Also Fox Hunting and Vaulting. Good at managing even the most unruly mount and haven't fallen off a horse since I was 12. BA in anthropology from a top 30 school. Once spent a whole summer camping in the European countryside dusting off little bits of bone with paintbrushes and cave exploring. Was on the path to Pre Med, have observed hundreds of surgeries and …
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 10:28 PM
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Congrats on being a badass Dr. Mom and for finding RPW! Wish my Dr. Mom could have found this place before she left my Dr. Dad and ended up with her abusive alcoholic military PTSD husband.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 10:10 PM
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Make sure to tell him what your father said!
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 08:51 AM
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If you actually spent $10k a month on a child that would probably do permanent damage to the kid, turning it into a completely spoiled brat!
/r/askTRP18/12/17 12:57 AM
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A NYC friend who is literally Chad said that the gym is the best place to slay. Specifically Crunch gyms. Multiple locations, very affordable and tons of girls, esp in the classes. The girls take care of themselves and you can see their bodies clearly. You'll need a solid body though since you'll be in competition with all the other gym Chads.
/r/askTRP18/12/17 12:53 AM
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My issue is not feminist friends who hate on me...they redirect their spiteful attitudes to my SO. I was not super feminist while in college but I went to a liberal arts school in a big city where it's expected for all women to be feminists. I met my SO right after college and my whole attitude towards a lot of things completely shifted, including my career path and religious beliefs. My college friends seemed to think that he was having a bad influence on me, and didn't respect that I was still…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 12:39 AM
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I hate women This means you care too much. Caring too much is not attractive and women can sense it. Don't care about them or the lays. You have to get over the anger phase before you can do that. Women are supposed to be fun and sex is supposed to be enjoyable. You can't enjoy something if you hate it.
/r/askTRP17/12/17 01:33 PM
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She may be projecting, trying to make like she's not attracted to you in an attempt to keep you from noticing the SMV disparity and how much she's whaling. What does she bring that she's worth LTRing?
/r/askTRP17/12/17 01:27 PM
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Nothing here yet? I'll share... The other day SO and I were chatting about The Wall (he's naturally very red pill but doesn't reddit much so I was explaining what TRP says about it and what it means for a woman). He's 35 and been feeling like he's aged a bit in the past year (his beard has a fair amount of grey in it all of a sudden). I asked him if he thinks I've aged and he said "You haven't aged 1 month since the day I met you" :) Aww I melted. That was 8 years ago at 22, and maybe he's got s…
/r/RedPillWives17/12/17 12:43 PM
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Lemme give this post some love even tho it's now Sunday... Here's one of my anti-feminist pinterest meme collections!
/r/RedPillWives17/12/17 12:27 PM
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It's a risk. Super high SMV men need to be careful. Rookie NBA players are taught an intensive sex Ed course that mandates players to flush their condoms or take them with them. Child support can be up to $10,000/month for these guys. I personally know a celebrity who was deceived into impregnating a woman... might have been holes in the condom. If you're average Joe or even average Chad you probably don't need to worry so much but better safe than sorry. It's the millionaire Chads who have to r…
/r/askTRP17/12/17 11:02 AM
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Of course you can ask for support. But men respond better with actions vs. words. Ask for support in tangible ways, like date nights, movie nights, hugs, help with chores...whatever actions might help you feel supported, cheer you up, distract you from grief or just help you feel safe. Truly you need the support of your women more than ever. Other women will be able to understand what you're going through WAY better than any man. Many women experience miscarriages and suffer in silence, but if y…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/17 07:54 AM
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I like supporting my man's mission too! I work for him on various projects and in his overall career goals. The only issue this creates is that we spend too much time together, and sometimes it's hard to turn off "work mode."
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/17 07:44 AM
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A mission in terms of hobby, career or family is great, so long as it doesn't intrude on her time and respect for him and doesn't overshadow his mission. Ex... My Grandpa was an acclaimed doctor. Grandma raised 5 kids and when the kids got older, dabbled as an artist. She used the earnings from her art to rent a ski cabin for the family in the winters. Grandpa eventually retired, grandma continued her art. But now her adult gay son (always a mama's boy) made part of his mission to help her sell …
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/17 07:39 AM
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A lot of r/deadbedrooms is sexual incompatibility that developed as the relationship developed and doesn't have much to do with the early parts of the relationship. Often the sex was good enough and then disappeared due to blue pill habits, emasculation or weight gain. RPW teaches women how to keep the sex alive and thriving after the challenges of marriage and children, tools and awareness which blue pilled women do not have.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/17 06:20 AM
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Was re-reading some sidebar material and came across this part which is what I was getting at above... But what if he messes up?" It is not a matter of if he will mess up, but rather when he will mess up. He is guaranteed to, he is human. You mess up too, sometimes really badly, he just most likely doesn’t rake you over the coals about it. Each time your husband makes a mistake he is learning. He feels the responsibility and any associated feelings (humiliation, fear, failure). He needs a soft p…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/17 06:11 AM
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You definitely took on RPW in hard mode if you're significantly older than your husband. You knew how old he was when you married him, so part of your commitment to marriage will have to be to let him make his own mistakes in life and learn from them. He may also be able to learn from you, but it will be harder to avoid resentment and a mother-son dynamic. Surrendering means creating that space for him to step up and take charge, and yes you may be able to see a few miles ahead of his choices du…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/17 05:38 AM
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I feel like the over dramatization of beta qualities in media/pop culture is due to the fact that anyone representing these qualities is already Alpha by default. The actors who play the white knight lead roles, the rock stars that sing about pining for some chick... these men/characters are already very Alpha in both looks and status, so when beta BS comes from their mouths, it's seen as attractive because it balances out their already alpha state into that "mostly alpha but some beta" balance …
/r/TheRedPill17/12/17 05:27 AM
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You've established that he's already sexually attracted to you. This means that, if you give him any attention or opportunity, he's going to be hopeful that he can get in bed again. Even when guys try to be "friends," if they are at all attracted to the woman, they're just waiting for a chance to get in the pants. Guys being "friends" is what RPW calls "orbiters." It's not real friendship. You need your time to focus on your work, your self care, your friends and family. It's not worth your time…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/17 05:18 AM
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Order a couple of those lacy stretchy crotchless bodysuits online! They're like $6 for a lot of sexy (and they're sooo comfy!) Have any costume accessories you can sexify for a little role play? Just get creative. It's like whipping up a dinner when you haven't been grocery shopping for awhile. You work with the ingredients you have and stumble upon new combinations.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 02:24 PM
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I love that Nun Mode is now a thing here. I haven't been on Reddit for several months and we used to just borrow "monk mode" from the men, but now I'm seeing Nun Mode recommended everywhere and it makes me giggle. Language is such a powerful tool!
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 02:17 PM
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It's not embarrassing to tear up. Just let him know that when that happens it's the good kind of tears and he's not hurting you.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/17 07:29 PM
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Let him show off his sexual prowess and be your teacher. A man wants to be more experienced than his woman, so don't be worried about not being experienced. They also like it when a less experienced girl asks for guidance bc they get to teach her just how he likes it. It also helps the relationship progress in an exciting way as he can look forward to better and better sex. In any subject where a man has knowledge/expertise/experience, he'll love sharing his wisdom with a eager pupil. It's a way…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/17 08:40 AM
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You're doing good. All a woman has to do to initiate sex is a few flirty moves and he'll usually jump right onboard and take over from there. Stick your butt out when you pick something up and give him bedroom eyes, gently reach for his package, whisper something naughty in his ear, send a suggestive text. Unless he's really exhausted he should be able to take the hint and lead the way. For enthusiasm, start getting comfortable with your sex sounds. BF and I did a tantra workshop once and it was…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/17 08:31 AM
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Yay! Glad your heads getting in a better place around him. The more you study RP the more you'll be able to see clearly right through their little games and be able to just smile and shake your head.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/17 03:18 AM
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Women have a hard time going backwards in a relationship. You going from decent SMV BP to clumsy RP was a backwards and confusing direction for her, bit of a bait and switch. Had she met you now in your RP days, you would have gamed her like most other girls but she may not have had the confidence to be much more than a plate to you. Women who are good LTR material have more wariness around plate-spinning behaviors. They like a man who is primarily alpha but exhibits a lot of good beta behaviors…
/r/askTRP13/12/17 01:04 AM
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You can do something. You pay rent so this is your home and you have the right to stand up for yourself. You and mom have to tell him that this is an unfair living situation and that you are not ok with freeloaders. He moved her in, she's his guest and so he's responsible for her. If he's taking her on and she refuses to pitch in, he needs to pay for her food, her rent and clean up her messes. Maybe if he does a few months of this he'll be pushed to the max and realize how imbalanced it is befor…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 07:55 PM
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"Temporarily single by choice" is a much more positive stance. Try it out and you'll start to realize that all of life is actually "by choice."
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 12:07 PM
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It's bad enough but does it have to involve the whole family? What's the living situation since you're all together but she doesn't pay rent? Who's house is it anyway? If he can pay off her 6k credit car, why doesn't he just rent his own place where he's free to fuck up as much as he wants without making the family deal with her?
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 12:03 PM
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You want attention because you seek validation from him. The only validation he (a player) can give you is that you're hot. You've already slept with him so take that as validation that you're hot and you have SMV, take the compliment to boost your self esteem and move on. He can't give you any other type of validation/attention so move onto bigger things like developing your RMV.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 05:27 AM
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Nothing sugar coated about swallowing the red pill. The guys can be very raw over there but we need to take their sexual desires seriously as it's probably THE most important part of a relationship for them. Sex is what differentiates a girlfriend/wife from a roommate or "best friend" in the end. If he's choosing to be sexually exclusive with you, make it worth it for him.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 10:44 PM
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I don't think it's extreme, he just doesn't tolerate me making stupid black/white statements. If I whine "you never take me out" he brings my attention to the fact that that's an ungrateful and incorrect statement. Of course he takes me out. What I should say is "I love when you take me out" (even if I wish it was more frequent). This expression of gratitude is more likely to encourage him to actually take me out more.
/r/RedPillWives11/12/17 10:40 PM
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"Hitting on" potential new girlfriends can def be intimidating but once you get into the habit it becomes more natural. Complimenting a woman's outfit or style is a great ice breaker. Ask questions as women love to talk about themselves ;) see if she's up for getting a fresh juice after yoga or sweet potato fries after the gym (that was our tradition that started after Booty Workout class, as recommended by the instructor). My strategy was to go around asking every girl in the class saying "some…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 10:35 PM
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Love at first sight is a male phenomenon. The initial attraction is what gets them and they can fall in love instantly with a woman based on appearance. The level that they can love this woman in the long run depends on how strong the initial attraction was. If he was extremely attracted to her, he can fall deeply in love. Even if her personality repels him, he initially can't see past it because of the love goggles and will convince himself that his love is unconditional on her behavior and tha…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 07:54 PM
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Look up Ester Perel's TED Talk and other videos about infidelity.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 12:47 PM
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Oh it's actually over on Married Red Pill, not TRP
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 11:58 AM
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You can have "reasons" or "results" but you can't have both! Also, the most important health benefits may be in your mind. Getting fit will influence your confidence in EVERYTHING you do.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 11:57 AM
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Hmm there's a post on TRP right now from a man struggling with his fat wife. Might be a motivator/wake up call to see what goes through a man's mind when he's not attracted to the person he is with, and the dangerous path this leads down. He's successful, wealthy, and now getting red-pilled and ripped while his wife makes excuse after excuse and gets fatter and fatter. After trying everything (hiring health coaches, fitness trainers, marriage counselors, etc) he's resorted to affairs and special…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 11:53 AM
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Tips from a musician...A little soundproofing can go a long way. Weatherstripping, door sweeps and heavy curtains. Also, memory foam mattresses don't squeak.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/17 11:40 AM
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Curious how the statistics line up for couples who have a wedding/ceremony and considered themselves "married", but don't sign the piece of paper, vs those who elope with the piece of paper. Personally I believe in the ceremony/wedding over the paper. I feel like there's something powerful to the celebration of merging of two families to create a new one.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 11:24 AM
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May be a long shot, but are the kids health conscious or into fitness/sports? Maybe you can subtly enlist their help in motivating mom. Explain that you're worried about her health but she's sensitive about her weight around you. She may be more receptive to them helping keep her in check with diet/fitness than from you. Kids have an innocence to them that mom's can't resist. They're also able to keep tabs on her when you're away. Find a fitness activity that could turn into a family affair. Reg…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/17 10:24 AM
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Hard to get is a game that a man won't play if he respects his time. Again you're appropriating behavior that you, a woman, would respond to...if a man was just out of your reach you would respond by trying harder to get his attention. If a woman keeps putting herself just out of reach of a man, his ego will get tired of constant rejection and he'll move on after a few attempts. It's up to the man to initiate and for the woman to receive the date. About this man in particular, he's an attractive…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 07:01 AM
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Sitting with the best view of the entrance/exit is called the "Command Position" in Feng Shui. It's considered extremely important to be able to see the Chi/energy of both opportunities and obstacles entering the door. Companies spend thousands for Feng Shui consultants to reorganize their offices and the first thing a consultant will do is make sure the desk chair is in the command position (there are also certain compass directions one should face or avoid depending on your birthdate). My SO a…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/17 11:26 AM
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Your 29? It sounds like you're 16 with a schoolgirl crush. Maybe that can come across as endearing in some ways, but you need to be ok with letting a guy know you're interested. You don't have time to waste playing high school games. What you're describing is how YOU would react to a man who texted you too much or was too upfront about liking you more than you like him. It would repel you because you would sense that he sees you as above him (which you would interpret as him being below you). A …
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/17 11:01 AM
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To address the what to do with your time question... Sounds like your already thinking in terms of empty nest syndrome. Are you interested in having more children? Is this a priority or not? If it is you're time and options are realistically limited so you'd have to get serious about dating/vetting/escalating a relationship quickly, keeping aware that it may be a lot of pressure for a man and also on your son. If you're good on kids for yourself but sill desire the experience of a nuclear family…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/17 02:55 AM
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I feel your frustration. We also just "settled down" after a lot of moves/travels with a year long lease for the first time in years. We're in a big city (outside of his comfort zone) and he works for himself and has been battling waves of depression that come and go. I work for him on certain projects and just have a little crafting side hustle on Etsy. It's been unsettling to depend on him to book work when he's in a depressive stage that makes it difficult to reach out to clients. I take fait…
/r/RedPillWives09/12/17 01:03 AM
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I love Ester Perel. She's got some natural RP sense/awareness but knows how to deliver successfully (and oh so eloquently) to a BP audience. Though her other videos are better than this one.
/r/RedPillWives09/12/17 12:35 AM
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My SO ends the conversation flat out if I use absolutes like "never" or "always" to complain about his behavior. I've leaned to catch myself in these instances and replace "you never..." with "sometimes/often I feel like you don't..."
/r/RedPillWives09/12/17 12:33 AM
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I've done a couple tours as a beauty queen and most of the girls were a normal level of pretty. A few were naturally gorgeous, a few had sharp model looks that don't really flatter in person, a few had rather large noses, many had really bad skin that you can see even underneath all the makeup. These were international tours so girls from all different countries and ethnicities, 18-28. But when I looked at their modeling photos on Facebook/IG it was like they all suddenly transformed into Victor…
/r/TheRedPill08/12/17 11:48 PM
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The best example of marriage I know is my grandparents, who are still madly in love 50+ years later. In asking my grandma for tips, she made it clear that she always put grandpa first. His needs came first before those of their 5 children. The way I see it, the relationship is the foundation for the family and if the foundation cracks or dissolves, the children suffer the most. It's not about neglecting your children...it's about not getting caught up in their day to day needs and the mundane ta…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 12:33 AM
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I love DIY gifts bc they're affordable and personal. I keep a list of gift ideas year round (for bday, xmas, valentines, or unscheduled surprises). I've used my phone's Notes app but recently downloaded a xmas gift list app. If he mentions something he wants or likes I try to jot it down right away. Later I'll go through and see which ideas are still relevant and affordable.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/17 01:59 AM
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Look up Esther Perel, she's an expert on infidelity and helping couples deal with cheating and affairs in a productive way. She has amazing TED talks and other videos/interviews, plus books "Mating in Captivity" and "The State of Affairs."
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/17 01:54 AM
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RPW fav Laura Doyle, author of "The Surrendered Wife" and "The Surrendered Single," also has a book called "First, Kill All The Marriage Counselors." She realized after the fact that the "surrender" title can be a hard sell to the modern women, but with the latest book it seems her editors nailed it. It's the kind of book you can actually recommend to a friend and they'll buy it just bc of the title.
/r/TheRedPill02/12/17 08:46 AM
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Maybe that's part of the point... if the man starts thinking down that rabbit hole and the thought of you ending up marrying someone else makes him uncomfortable, then he may be more inclined to step up and put a ring on it ;) Its not meant as a threat tho. Laura Doyle recommends the "a wife" line as a sort of litmus test to see where a man's at. She's the expert on these matters so I'm sure there's merit to it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/17 08:59 AM
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The story you're referencing about the "wanting to be a wife" phrase comes from Laura Doyle's book The Surrendered Single :) She contrasts it with the phrase "wanting to be your wife" which comes across as controlling/assumptive/naggy. Thanks for sharing your post. I know you'll get criticisms saying it shouldn't be such a sensitive subject for him if he really wants to marry you. But I agree that, especially with what men face today, it can definitely be an uncomfortable subject to a more alpha…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/17 12:50 AM
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Sometimes my SO will go spear fishing :) he really feels so empowered when he brings home fresh fish for dinner. He describes how much of a primal rush it is because he's not just going hunting, he's entering the food chain, as divers must always be wary of sharks drawn by the scent of fish blood. In the summers we love grilling. I usually do all the cooking but when we grill the men hang outside tending the meat while the women hang in the kitchen prepping. Also, it really is environmentally he…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/17 12:13 AM
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If the only thing you have energy for is to watch TV or play on your phone, just go to sleep instead. Sleep is more important. Also Try replacing TV with a more potent self care ritual. Anything that makes you feel good and helps you recharge. Once you establish better self care habits you'll have more to give to him, including feeling sexier and more in the mood. You'll even have more energy for your career. Remember, you have to take care of yourself for you to be able to take care of anyone e…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 11:59 PM
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You need more self care to get back to your old self. Esp important to establish bc being a lawyer will continue to pull you away from taking care of yourself and taking care of him. Write a list of 10-20 self care items that make you feel good or sexy. Bubble baths, doing your nails, reading a book, yoga, meditation, naps, exercise, etc. make sure you do at least 3 a day even if you only have 5 min moments. Put down the screens and it's amazing how much more time you suddenly have for self care…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 11:49 PM
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I mostly talk to him. We have a lot of communication, almost too much though. Would be nice to have more RP minded women friends to discuss these things on a more intellectual level vs ranting. On the hardest occasions where we were really struggling I found myself getting support from his brother and his best male friend. It seemed safe to discuss with them because I know they'll always be "on his side" but they both really respect what I've brought into his life. His best friend always tells h…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 11:37 PM
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Nice post. I'd say proper dread is like walking the edge of your "comfort zone". If a woman gets too comfortable in the relationship (not feeling the need to push herself to grow as a person/partner) she'll get lazy and naggy. If she is pushing for personal growth just at the edge of this comfort Zone, she'll always be looking for new ways to improve herself and please her partner. A good level of dread comes from a man who is also always pushing himself and his comfort zone. He inspires her to …
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 11:26 PM
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Been loving TEDx talks about minimalism. I'll put some on while I'm cleaning or folding laundry and it puts me in the mood to minimize.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 11:19 PM
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I'm not a mother yet, but I've been collecting tips that make sense for the future... In general cleaning takes less time and energy when you simplify your life. I've been getting into watching TED talks on minimalism and is super inspiring! Less STUFF = less things to sort/clean/etc. Stuff also takes up a lot of mental space and stress. See what you can minimize in your life so that you have more time for you. Your stuff is supposed to serve you! Not the other way around. A big timesaver on gro…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 10:35 PM
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Our "cappuccinos" are made with either a stovetop Italian espresso maker or a French press. Heat and froth milk in the Nespresso frother ( $100 pricey but super convienent!). On a budget you can heat milk in a pot and then shake hot milk in a glass jar to foam it (wrap w towel and be careful when you open it, it can spray out sometimes!). Special recipe uses coconut milk (the thick stuff in a can) and coffee sweetened w honey!
/r/RedPillWives27/10/17 12:28 AM
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It's like the balding man who enters a room and instantly notices all the bald people... we're hypersensitive to our own lack and we train ourselves to see it everywhere.
/r/RedPillWives08/10/17 08:51 AM
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If food stuff is a trigger it probably just means he's hangry! He's steps away from satisfying his hunger and something you do irritates him so he responds gruffly and you respond defensively. If my man is ever pre-meal I just try not to take anything personally. His mood changes drastically afterwards. Also during the "living with grandma" phase, expect him to be more sensitive... he's not in control of his own space. He's not feeling like the man of the house. So he may be extra testy around t…
/r/RedPillWives08/10/17 08:42 AM
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Aww, this made me happy. The morning ritual is the best! He and I both LOVE breakfast. Every day I make full on "brunch" complete with frothy cappuccinos, orange juice (in mimosa glasses) and a variety of breakfast specials. We usually like to start the morning doing yoga together (at home self practice), but if we're rushed I don't hesitate to end my practice early or skip it so I can make breakfast. I'm happy to let him have the time to do his full practice. So refreshing to see other women wh…
/r/RedPillWives08/10/17 08:05 AM
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I'm not feeling appreciated recently. Omg watched a Louis CK piece the other night about men and women... "What have you done for me LATELY!?" So good. That man really gets the gender differences.
/r/RedPillWives08/10/17 07:54 AM
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Raising of voices happens: choose your battles wisely when it does. Physical violence towards a person or even an object is not ok! Just last night he passed out on the couch and woke up yelling extra loud about me not being able to pick out a movie to watch (the dreaded indecisive Netflix search). He reminded me of a 2 year old waking up out of a nap, who can't understand why they're so cranky so latches onto something to yell about. I firmly said there's no reason to talk to me like that, but …
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 09:07 PM
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I always travel with my cute little satin Victoria's Secret robe! (Or my cashmere one in winter). You can wear skimpy pajama shorts/tank underneath for him and for when you crawl in bed, but not be showing it off to the whole house.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 02:54 AM
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I found RPW first and I enjoy sharing RP info and theories with my SO. He doesn't do reddit, but I got him a copy of The Rational Male (I had already read it and gave my copy to my little brother). And I'll send him an interesting Manosphere link here and there. He sometimes goes through a wave of depression and the material really helps him get inspired to be disciplined and focus on his career. I like that we can be totally open about it and that we have the trust to share "risky" material. It…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 07:17 AM
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A lot being discussed here... I says in your post that you know people will tell you to divorce him, and it seems you're looking here for some insight and alternatives, so my response will be geared towards that and I'll try to include some practical changes to try. You are married and your commitment deserves some time and patience to work through a hard time, so I don't think this is something you need to rush into. Try to think of the bigger picture. Imagine you are looking back 5 or 10 years…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 06:45 AM
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I'll share the advice my mother gave me... She told me she had an abortion once. But she didn't realize the full affect of what she had done until she gave birth to me and my siblings. She realized that the aborted baby could have been one of her children just like us. Still, when I got pregnant 6 years ago, I didn't heed this advice. I didn't feel ready and wanted to just move on with my life. You just take a pill and it's like having a super heavy period, it's almost too easy. But it's one of …
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 05:26 AM
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I'm sure your trying to understand that it doesn't help to be upset at your parents. Try to focus on finding gratitude for what they did contribute to your life. Turn it into a strength. If their biggest f-up is that they loved you TOO much, you still have it way better than if they didn't love you enough. One of my favorite exercises for organizing my wants is making a "vision board" where you make a collage of magazine cut outs to visualize the life you want to build. If your artistic this wil…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/17 08:01 AM
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You mentioned you go to the gym. The gym is where I've met awesome like minded feminine girlfriends. Try to find a class that is geared towards women (mine was "Booty class"!) Get to know the women at the gym and ask if anyone wants to get food after (working out makes you hungry of course and eating protein and complex carbs helps build muscle). Chatting over sweet potato fries is a great way to start building friendships. There is plenty you can do with artistic abilities even if it is not dir…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/17 07:41 AM
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I actually studied the origins of fashion as an anthropology major in school. Style is not some frivolous vanity...it's an integral part to being human. The earliest humans (women specifically) spent hours and hours of time crafting teeny tiny beads for adornment. In prehistoric times when survival was still harsh, this was still considered a valuable use of time. What we wear can convey a lot of information. People often accuse those who love style and dressing up as being self absorbed w/ thei…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 09:05 AM
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According to certain yoga philosophies (I'll ask for direct sources from the teacher who explained it to me) you carry parts of another person's energy/spirit/aura with you after you have sex with them. Important to note is that the timing of this is different if you're a man or a woman. A man is affected for 3 months while a woman is affected for 7 YEARS! To me this makes total sense. If you've slept with a lot of men in the past 7 years you're going to be plagued with a lot of different and co…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 02:16 AM
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The focus of this article is strength but they left out the part about how being a stronger woman indicates you'll have an easier time with child care and mothering. I've recently noticed a lot about strength and femininity by watching my girlfriend with her 18 month old baby. Babies require a lot of strength! Carrying him, carrying his bags, playing with him...mommying is quite a workout. It's particularly amazing to watch her work because she is 6' tall, where the father is 5'7. He's a super h…
/r/RedPillWives25/07/16 06:53 AM
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It doesn't sound like a "flakey trick" at all, just an honest question. Men are very practical and they're not thinking into so much depth about a question they think is simple and straightforward. If the event is important to the woman, he'll go. If it's not important, he'd prefer something else. Most of the time men know when their presence and commitment is really valued at an event, and won't ask for these. But if it's something he already knows isn't that important, him asking is just being…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/15 05:31 AM
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It doesn't sound like a "flakey trick" at all, just an honest question. Men are very practical and they're not thinking into so much depth about a question they think is simple and straightforward. If the event is important to the woman, he'll go. If it's not important, he'd prefer something else. Most of the time men know when their presence and commitment is really valued at an event, and won't ask for these. But if it's something he already knows isn't that important, him asking is just being…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/15 05:26 AM
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I'm doing it for my man. I know it is the nature of other men to check out girls esp at the gym, and I don't take offense to it. But it's always slightly awkward to be a girl walking through an entire gym full of men pumping iron. I know a lot of women are self conscious and sensitive to it and would feel more comfortable getting sweaty and bending over in a testosterone free zone. Lurkers do exist at gyms, and yes if they're not attractive and socially awkward most women would classify them as …
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/15 06:59 AM
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Thank you! I've had girlfriends here and there but not a steady "girl group" since college. Fitness is a great way to meet new quality friends.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/15 12:19 AM
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Googling "Squats before and after" turns up good results on what can be done, nothing to feel weird about. Pinterest also has great motivational pins. Unfortunately the booty craze has made butt implant surgery more common too. I looked up "butt implants before and after" (now that's weird) and tons of celebrities (even ones known for their butts) have them :( used to be having a butt was something you couldn't just buy.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/15 12:16 AM
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Also, almost every woman encounters cellulite at some point. My booty trainer makes her own coffee/coconut oil scrubs that she swears rid her of cellulite!
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 11:24 PM
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My BF and I loved doing P90x together! Fun to do as a couple. We'll still do the Ab Ripper workout in the mornings after yoga sometimes.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 11:21 PM
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Thanks! I've always been "blessed" too (plus was a runner). I was worried about booty workouts because most of them seemed to have loosing fat as the goal. But my BF is so excited that it's getting even better! I've always had the apple bottom but now I'm getting more of a "shelf" on the top haha. Always room to improve.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 11:19 PM
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Yay so glad to hear that! Go get that booty girl! The girlfriend who introduced me to the class has "before" pictures that showed such an amazing transformation from her lifestyle change... She went from "skinny fat" and shapeless to firm flat abs and a tight ass. She's only 5'2 and just last night at a holiday party she squatted her 6'1 boyfriend! They even met bc a trainer at their gym introduced them.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 10:55 PM
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Bands can also be useful when the weights you have access to are limited. And my trainer just gave me booty routine that doesn't need any weights or equipment for when I travel.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 09:41 PM
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RPW don't have plates. We have Oneitis for our Captain. The orbiters comparison is correct. female plates : male orbiters :: sex without commitment : commitment without sex
/r/TheRedPill18/12/15 09:56 AM
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In glad that my mom trained us as kids to be the first ones to start cleaning the table! People were always so impressed by how well mannered we were just for this one simple task. Def one I'll want to pass on to my kids ;)
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 08:21 AM
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Appetizers are also a fun way to contribute! In college I had this great little book of party foods that are easy to make ahead. I also love presentation when it comes to hourdourves. And when people are really hungry they're very appreciated.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 08:16 AM
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You could also try to contribute in another feminine way besides food. Bring some fun holiday decorations! Make a centerpiece. When everyone else is bringing plenty of food I make a big pot of mulled wine or hot cider. About helping in the kitchen... If I'm "in the zone" it's usually easier for me to just get something done myself than to pause what I'm doing to explain it to someone else (though I am working on receiving more in this dept!). And the hostess usually just wants guests to enjoy th…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 08:13 AM
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My grandmother shared with me that grandpa coming home from work was the highlight of her day! SH said she always did a quick tidy up, made sure the babies faces were clean (5 kids!) and retouched her makeup. It was so cute to hear her reminiscing about it. They are still madly in love and one of the best examples for a relationship that I personally know.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 07:54 AM
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As an anthropologist I agree that religious documents are best interpreted as artifacts that tell 10% of the story if you're lucky. But context goes back much farther than even the Old Testament. I was simply pointing out that going back to the roots of the verbal stories, many major religions are simply rewrites of what ancients people interpreted from the stars and events like the solstices, Equinox, Etc and they have been passed down from culture to culture under different names. For example,…
/r/TheRedPill15/12/15 06:35 PM
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My boyfriend once took me on a date to the Dollar Store. He was very funny and we were cracking up wandering the isles while he picked up all sorts of random stuff to buy me... Very unique and memorable date! (Btw a dozen of those tall prayer candle glass votives go a long way into making the bedroom sexy)
/r/TheRedPill15/12/15 05:48 PM
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At its most stripped down, it's all just astrology. Humans have been looking for meaning in the stars since the beginning. Pretty much all religions have their roots in anthropomorphised heavenly bodies.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/15 09:04 AM
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Containers are one of my life hacks. Everything looks/feels cleaner if it's at least somewhat contained. For example, everyone has a stuff surface... That table top where all the random crap seems to accumulate. Add a decorative bowl or tray to that surface so at least the stuff is contained. Or putting all the lotions/products on the bathroom counter on a tray makes things less cluttered. Simple hack that makes everything feel a lot cleaner. It also makes it quick and easy to clear off the surf…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/15 08:41 AM
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I do think mentally locating things is a feminine strength. I always know where things are mostly because I have a distinct memory of when I clean up and put something away or in it's "home." But even when SO puts things away he doesn't seem to have the same recall abilities and I can even guess where he put something better than he can.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/15 08:27 AM
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Omg check out this elaborate 5 min "Beware the Dog House" ad by JC Penny! I don't know whether to laugh or cry... http://youtu.be/Twivg7GkYts
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/15 08:11 AM
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Love the beefy hamster Family Guy pic!! So good.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/15 08:05 AM
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Is this a question about finances and budgeting or a debate of "it's not fair" when it comes to how much "real work" vs "home work" each partner should be doing? There are frugal ways to have a family (check out /r/frugal). My SO's brother knocked his gf up and they are using all the frugal short cuts they can. Don't buy tons of clothes and toys that the baby will grow out of in a month (they got the first 6 months of donated clothes from the hospital). Breastfeeding is free (w just a little ext…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 08:35 PM
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Uh is she serious or joking? She reads like a sarcastic sorority girl spoof that is supposed to get a reaction out of ppl. I don't think it's supposed to be taken so literally, however her attitude is probably sour regardless.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 08:14 AM
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You don't like seeing him suffer over a person he can't change...it's understandable as from the outside you can see that he simply can't teach an old dog new tricks. Just try to pleasantly distract him from dwelling on it. Even if he vents to you, just be a listener but don't chime in on any mom-bashing and don't even try to help him understand her side of the situation unless he specifically asks you to. My SO complains that I play devil's advocate and am not supporting him when (in my perspec…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 08:02 AM
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Before RPW I learned a lot from the (Sterling Institute's Women's Weekend)[https://www.sterling-institute.com]. It's an intensive on relationships with very RP style thinking focusing on the differences in the sexes and how to be feminine in a relationship, taught by Justin Sterling. His book What Really Works With Men has some good info but experiencing the Weekend itself is life changing. It's like dedicating three days to swallowing the pill with interaction and support from 100 other women. …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 07:01 AM
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While debates can be fun, I'd be cautious about engaging in debates in the long run. One RP style relationship guru that I study with recommends to never enter into competition with your man. This may seem extreme as what's more flirty and fun than playing games w your man? In the beginning of a relationship can be fun and harmless. But in an extended LTR, competitions can be taken more seriously/personally and what starts as a simple game can turn into an extension of relationship power struggl…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/15 07:30 PM
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When he gives you a compliment, receive it, don't try to rebuff it by giving him a compliment, otherwise you take away his pleasure from giving you the compliment. It can be tricky to compliment looks on a guy, as words like "handsome" and "beautiful" and even "sexy" are kinda awkward and not in fashion. There are so many good words for describing women but it's not as easy for us. I just tell he's hot, but he responds best to compliments about his character like "you're so funny!" when he makes…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/15 05:23 PM
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I keep seeing "no choice" applied to situations of alpha widowhood, but of course we always have a choice, no one should resign herself to a life she does not love, even if it's not a perfect fairytale. I think alpha widows could benefit from discussions on what choices they do have. This world is littered with alpha widows, a result of western culture's shift to encouraging young women to sleep around vs marry young. I'm just a very rosy positive person who seeks to always find the best of any …
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/15 05:11 PM
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Yes, I am aware that my position is a risky one. When I found out about TRP and RPW I realized I had some serious decisions to make. I have studied hard and have chosen to remain on my path for now and trust that he is a good man and wants me to be the mother of his children. Yes I am probably going against the statistical odds and yes I could be wrong, but our relationship is so very beautiful and rewarding that it is worth trusting. I realize that I may have to face a difficult decision ahead …
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/15 07:04 PM
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About other guys... Even if you're not ready to be dating yet you can still practice flirting. In the Surrendered Single, Laura Doyle talks about learning to simply smile at men, any and all men, as a form of harmless flirtation that simply gets your self esteem up, gets you practicing interaction with the opposite sex and simply makes people around you feel good!
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/15 08:32 AM
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Best of all... You are setting a much better example for the kind of woman your daughter will want to become! Congrats for breaking a pattern that would have left her more at risk than you ever were. When I'm trying to motivate myself to become a better woman and partner for my man, imagining my future children watching (and learning from) how I behave and how I treat him gives me an extra boost to kick my butt into RPW overdrive!
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/15 08:02 AM
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Don't just jump in on the surgery option! That seems pretty serious. Try other menstrual options...cups, different size/shape tampons. Surgery is not to be taken lightly and should only be for extreme cases. Fun fact...Back in my pre med days the first surgery I observed was removal of a girl's hymen. Not pretty. I almost fainted! And about "proving" your virginity... If you're with a man who you are considering giving your virginity to, then I would hope you both have a high level of trust and …
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 07:46 PM
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Anthropology major here too! It was just the most interesting thing and at the time I was Pre-med, but pre-Med doesn't count as being a major so I just wanted to find something interesting. "The study of man" is so broad I've applied my learnings to philanthropy, fashion, music/art and marketing. But the main takeaway from my degree is how to be a thorough researcher when it comes to anything new. Unlike hard sciences, in anthropology you are only given about 10% of the puzzle pieces and have to…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 07:55 PM
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Well this will be an interesting one... Last Easter, we were visiting in California with some of my old college friends for a birthday weekend trip into the mountains. For the girlfriend's birthday we decided to go on a nature hike and take some magic mushrooms. If you haven't taken mushrooms before, maybe you have preconceptions about drugs, but for my SO and I and my friends, taking psychedelics every now and then is a very beautiful experience esp when shared with a small group of close frien…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 07:34 PM
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I think it would be sweet if the man set up a secret camera to film (and could then take a screen cap of her epic surprise/bawl face!).
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 07:04 PM
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Poly is not something usually endorsed by RPW as the sexual strategy this sub is promoting (risk of being a plate is too high) but it IS a sexual strategy and still works within the truths of RP. I'll come out to the RPW community in that my SO is poly (I am not) and I've learned a lot from both Poly communities and RPW. I warn that the poly communities are highly feminist and pushers of "equality" in relationships and they don't take into account the differences in the sexes (many are LGBT). So…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 06:30 AM
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Just had a crazy idea but who knows maybe it could work... Could you possibly poll these failed dates asking for some very honest feedback as to why the date didn't progress? This would only work with men you're sure are off the table and probably won't ever see again, but I can imagine if you approached with a very factual, formal feedback request, you could get some interesting insight. As in a simple message that goes like... "Hi I am working on how I approach dating and I would like to reque…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 04:55 AM
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One of the best gifts I got him was a 100% cashmere robe! He wears it every day in the winter. Found it at Restoration Hardware for only $150ish but I think they've gotten much more expensive now. He eventually found one to gift for me too and it's the best thing ever. Other fun gifts I've gotten him: Set of fancy shaving creams Cards Against Humanity w all expansion packs Nice headphones Leather briefcase
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 03:58 AM
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Get on a moving/estate sale mailing list, there are always garages full of Christmas decorations! Good price and recycling helps keep consumerism waste down.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 03:52 AM
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Tips for growing long hair: -avoid color treatments, hair will only grow its best when it's not stripped from dyes. Really consider going to your natural color if you have been dying it, this will be the biggest factor in your ability to grow it out healthy. Realize that hair is really long strands of DEAD cells, once they get damaged there is no "healing," they accumulate every bit of damage onward, so long hair has to be carefully guarded if you want it to stay healthy. -avoid heat styling and…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/15 10:14 PM
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Makes me think of this Pin ;)
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 07:27 AM
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Love that feature...using it right now haha
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 07:22 AM
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I think men would appreciate the word "Submissive" if they realized it simply means "not a stubborn controlling bitch" when it comes to being in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 07:07 AM
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My SO was vegetarian for several years and he'll request veggie meals here and there, a lot of which I've learned from him. He's a huge eater, always hungry and requires really satisfying meals. A few ideas... -Lasagna (you can mush uncooked tofu into the sauce and it's like ricotta cheese) -Asian Stir fries -Curries w/ chickpeas, sweet potatoes, carrots, bok choy -Just learned a yummy new way to make tofu... dip small slabs in cornstarch and fry in oil till crispy, then add soy/sesame or bbq sa…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/15 05:11 AM
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My SO works from home and I work for him. We're both night owls so we rarely get up before noon. We do 15-30 mins of yoga in the living room and we just re-started the habit of meditating 10-15 mins after. I'll cook us breakfast and we'll discuss the plan for the day, then start implementing. I love the way we start our day but it takes quite a while to get going and we're always tempted to snooze n' snuggle. And I'd love to be on an earlier schedule esp with daylight savings making everything s…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/15 05:00 AM
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Men compete, women relate. Competing and relating are mutually exclusive. You cannot do both at the same time. They represent the polarity between the sexes that is necessitate for attraction and bonding.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/15 09:12 AM
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It happens. One of my SO's good friends just married a girl he met from Tinder. She's very young so he has his hands full trying to get her to understand what it means to be a wife (surrendering) but she wants to learn...I have some books from my RPW reading library I'm going to lend her ;)
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/15 06:42 AM
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Everything is more fun with flowers in your hair! I make my own flower hair clips from metal barrettes, felt and craft flowers. Braids are practical too. I'm Gillian's island, almost any man will tell you they preferred Mary Anne's country girl next door persona to Ginger's vixen image. I grew up in the south where country farm girls are more feminine than Cosmo city chicks any day.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 09:13 AM
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Yes men love variety so if you can be down home girl next door and then when he asks you on a date you get to show a more flirty side, it shows that you care about yourself and can play up both sides.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 09:10 AM
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Maintaining a future relationship starts with choosing the right partner. Read "Beyond the Breakup" by Andrew of TheRulesRevisited.com and "The Surrendered Single" by Laura Doyle.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/15 08:30 AM
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Haha oops! Autocorrect wins again
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/15 08:21 AM
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Thanks! I'll post it here but maybe will be easier to organize if I set up a blog to link to. I'm thinking I may just take photos of the pages and post whole chapters at a time. That will be quicker than me writing an actual book report and I love the way she writes, I wouldn't want to rob you of the colorful vintage language. It's out of print and in this day and age I doubt it will get reprinted so I'm sure Mrs. Carnegie wouldn't mind if I share my copy with you ladies.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/15 08:18 AM
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Stay away from Twitter. It's a hookup app, nothing to do with "dating."
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/15 09:47 AM
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My Man is the same way with food! I'm always anticipating when he'll be hungry next and he really appreciated when I cook for him or prepare ahead, and it really messes up his whole day if he doesn't eat enough or often enough, so it's worth the extra effort to step into the role of chef and meal manager. He also just gave me a scolding for always making him late, as it seems I'm always just a few mins slower getting out the door and not always good at calculating how long it will take for us to…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 10:26 PM
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Where did you read that women need more sleep than men? My SO always complains that I have a hard time getting out of bed in the morning!
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 07:05 PM
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Yeah the guy says he's ready for/wants a girlfriend (he often expresses our relationship as inspiring/envious) but just continues his habit of picking up girls constantly. His actions say that he's not ready to give up that lifestyle. He has male model looks and height so it's too easy for him to just keep chasing tail.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 06:56 PM
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Rule number one is don't talk about TRP...
/r/TheRedPill20/10/15 07:02 AM
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Avoid it like the plague if you need to focus on a task. It depends on the task... I've taken LSD and spent 8 hours tripping in Photoshop and SquareSpace making artwork for a website (I'm a graphic designer). If the task is creative in nature even working on a computer can be focused and productive. Other times I've been in too deep to turn on the simplest electronic device and just looking at a phone is painful, but when I started in Photoshop before it kicked in I was able to keep up a digital…
/r/TheRedPill20/10/15 06:49 AM
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It's similar to a lucid dream because you control your experience. And you have to actively control it to focus on a positive path...if you are a positive person this is easy and everything is fun and funny and magical and inspiring, but if you are negative it can suck you into looping in a place where you look at yourself and you don't like what you see and you can't turn it off. If you are open to exploring yourself then you can learn so much about what makes you happy.
/r/TheRedPill20/10/15 05:46 AM
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I'm considering sharing this link with a girlfriend who is deep into plate territory. The thing is her plate spinner is my SO's best friend. I've really become close friends with the girl, who is younger than me and I've kind of taken her under my wing, she would be receptive to RPW advise. The guy is a great guy but a total alpha plate spinner and it seems he's just not that into her and def not going to go exclusive anytime soon (she's ok w his plate spinning but just wants more attention). Sh…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 05:29 AM
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My SO brings home the bacon and I am his sexy secretary. He is in charge of all finances and deciding overall spending, but I organize, track and deal with the details. He gets overwhelmed by details and I get overwhelmed with large decisions, so we help each other out with our respective strengths.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/15 10:10 PM
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For those really ready to unplug I would recommend some psychedelic introspection. We are brainwashed to believe that "drugs" are evil and make us into slacking sociopaths useless to society. "Citizens" do not do "drugs," they stay safely in their cubes nursing their addiction to a cocktail of booze, meds, caffeine, sugar and screens... However LSD or mushrooms, used with the intention of exploring what kind of human one desires to become (not just for a party/rave), is a life changing experienc…
/r/TheRedPill18/10/15 08:11 AM
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Welcome! Thanks for sharing and opening up. On cars: I feel you on the transportation dependence. My car kicked the bucket last summer and my SO is feeling the brunt of it. But since we both work from home our issue is that we are together too much and he doesn't get his alone time unless I take his car. He is actually looking to buy an affordable used car for me to drive :) make sure you make him feel extra special as a provider. Our men do like to be in the position to take care of us, so make…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/15 07:53 AM
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Sharing your worst habits comes with time as you start to open up and become more vulnerable. To maintain attraction, I would not recommend sharing your most "humbling" moments right away (that time you went overboard and did x y z at some party). No man wants to picture his woman as a sloppy lush. But if you do have a wild alcohol infused past, maybe he should know the gist, mainly so that he doesn't have to hear about it from 3rd party sources. It's better if he hears about it from you. Reveal…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/15 07:08 AM
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The only cosmetic procedure I've seen that makes a huge difference (and is not overly fake) is dental work. Had a girlfriend who got her teeth fixed and she is now super hot where she before had a sort of busted look. This also doesn't seem to be lying about your genes to your potential mate. A man would be disappointed if his kids come out with weird noses that don't look anything like mom, where as braces for the kids are pretty standard these days. P.s. Funny story about teeth... A girlfriend…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/15 10:27 PM
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You'll need more than cosmetic procedures to climb the hypergamy ladder... Try an internal makeover because your attitude is way off. Sounds like you two deserve eachother. Even if he's a beta loser, you treat him with such tempt and scorn...that makes you the bigger loser. You're waiting to branch swing but you should just leave him because you have a lot of work to do on yourself before you can become an asset to any man. Good partners bring out the best in each other. A gracious, humble and f…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/15 11:40 AM
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Author of RPW style blog TheRulesRevisited.com wrote a book that deals with breakups and moving on: Beyond The Breakup: Understanding your Ex Boyfriend from the Male Perspective. I haven't read it yet but his blogs are great and I plan on adding it to my reading list so I can personally recommend it to girlfriends dealing with breakups. Back Cover: "It might seem a bit backwards to write a relationship advice book that deals exclusively with breakups and rejection. It would be a lot more obvious…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/15 08:58 AM
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Read Laura Doyle's chapter about Surrendering the Finances in the Surrendered Wife. She suggests that even if you earn more than him, let him manage everything, simply giving you the amount you ask to cover your personal expenses in cash. It shows that you trust his financial decisions even if he's not making as much. It makes him feel like the head of the household.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 05:57 AM
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Glad you like my boards! :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 05:43 AM
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This is a good point. Better he finds out from you than from others.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/15 05:54 AM
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"Sir" is often used for a male Dom...maybe she's in a D/s relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/15 07:10 PM
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I'd like to add that sometimes men romanticize (almost fetishize) certain professions as a sexual fantasy. There's the sexy school teacher, librarian, cop, hot nerd physicist, the classic naughty nurse... Languages are also exotic so I think the French girl (or major) can fall into this fantasy category. Men love variety.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 05:17 AM
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Yes most reviews would probably call it outdated because it doesn't fit modern feminists ideals of "equal" relationships, but the advice is perfect for RPW who value traditional gender roles. It quite old but besides adjustments for technology and language, it's all relevant and useful ways to help your husband. Even back then wives were often bitchy, nagging and suffered all the same woes wives face today, and they also benefited from the same kind of advice we discuss here at RPW. It's also in…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/15 05:52 AM
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Wow I can't imagine having to do a makeover blind. Are you completely blind or can you see somewhat? Were you born blind or when did you lose your sight? I wonder if there is someway to turn this challenge around... I bet there are some fashion/industry people who would actually love to help you out. In fact my friend is a wardrobe consultant in NYC, I can see if he can give you a good deal to take you out shopping! Do you have a girlfriend or two who could assist you? Make a party of it and inv…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/15 09:50 PM
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I've never had issues with PMS, always very stable... Until in the last year or so I've noticed that exactly 2 days before my period I end up crying about something. Because I'm around my SO so much it usually means I'm crying about something involving him. Now if I'm ever crying he reminds me to check my calendar and yep...2 days to go! The reminder from him helps me calm down and realize that it's the hormones, and he's not being particularly mean or uncaring that day. I'm still kinda upset bu…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/15 09:37 PM
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I'm sure the smokes weren't helping her complexion...
/r/TheRedPill03/10/15 06:35 AM
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I believe "Sir" is commonly used in for a male Dom in BDSM.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/15 06:01 AM
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About a woman whom a man is proud to have on his arm at social functions.... There was an excellent section that applies to this from the book "How to Help Your Husband Get Ahead" by Dorthy Carnegie, wife of Dale Carnegie ("How to Win Friends and Influence People"). It's about helping him be likable in social situations. A wife can use her natural social graces to bring attention to her husband's best qualities. Little things like helping him remember people's names, getting a conversation start…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/15 05:30 AM
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Full title is: Don't Sweat the Small Stuff (and It's All Small Stuff!) One page reminders of how to live in peace :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/15 06:24 AM
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To quote my SO..."Chicks are hot, hot chicks are reeeally hot!" Female beauty is just more appealing and erotic than male beauty, and I think this applies to both sexes (even gay men appreciate it). In the fine arts and photography, female nudes are more pleasing to look at and are more often the figures of study. I think I read that even when women watch pornography they prefer female over male images. I also think female bisexuality (to varying degrees) is more prevalent than most people reali…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/15 03:59 AM
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I was in 2 LT LDRs with no end date in sight, before meeting my current SO (one cross continental for 2+years, another transatlantic!). I originally felt like a romantic victim and star crossed lover who was forever fated to love from afar until my current SO knocked some sense into me that I was choosing distance and creating it for myself. I think lot of the appeal was the fact that I had a lot of time to myself for college and working, I had someone to share the details of my day with, and wh…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/15 12:51 AM
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Stir frys and curries with lots of veggies and rice or rice noodles. Chicken baked with egg and almond flour or panko crust. Often w side of baked sweet potatoes and asparagus or broccoli. BBQ chicken on the grill is fun bc we cook together (he is grill master.) Fajitas or Burritos
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/15 12:10 AM
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You learn about what kind of man he is through his actions. Don't take him for his words until you know him to be a man of his word, and still most men can be counted on to tell you what you want to hear. Listen to what his actions are saying. What kind of person do his actions reflect on? A few things to take note of: What kind of people does he surround himself with? Especially his men friends. Are they uplifting, motivating and empowered? Or are they complainy, blamey and energy sucking? What…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 07:11 AM
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One thing that I found instantly attracting about my SO was that he always kept his place clean. Sure he let the pile of laundry grow until he had no clean underwear, but the laundry was at least all in one place and then he'd take it all to the laundromat. I handle all the laundry and cleaning now, but he's a naturally clean and tidy person and TD a quality I admire and am very thankful for. In general I think you can tell a lot about a person by how clean/tidy/organized they keep their house (…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 06:41 AM
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One up her by playing the game BP style. You know the RP truths behind what she is teaching, so you also know how to feed her the BP fodder that her hamster wants to hear. Write your assignments in a way that makes her hamster purr, throw in some victimization and man bashing for bonus points. She'll lap it up and you'll turn a cringeworthy class into an amusing game. This class still has a lot of valuable insight into what the modern college student is brainwashed with. All part of your RPW tra…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/15 05:06 AM
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You're the one seeing yourself as only plate material. You're measuring yourself against "perfect" Alice and coming up with all the ways you're not good enough. You need to shift this perspective if you want to improve your self and your self esteem. What you focus on will be all that you (and others around you) see. See yourself as a RPW (in training if you must). You're miles ahead of girls your age because you're here so give yourself credit for that. Now imaging the kind of girl that an alph…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 04:27 AM
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The difference between her and the average red flagged slut is that she is not trying to hide anything. She's totally RP, she just chooses the..."dark side" as you might call it (vs choosing to take the RPW route). However her honesty makes it not as dark/twisted as many women who do manipulative BS without knowing how crazy they are.
/r/TheRedPill25/09/15 03:35 AM
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I'd say you never really gave it a chance. You went on one date, stopped him from kissing you, and just cut things off because you're afraid of being plated. You fulfilled your own insecurities by not even trying. You can't be a plate unless you have sex with him. You can go on dates and demonstrate your LTR potential. You can be affectionate and have sexual chemistry. You can plant seeds that you would be a good girlfriend if he's ready to put the player phase behind him. If he's not ready, the…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 06:34 PM
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I usually refill his toiletry travel bottles for him (shampoo, conditioner, etc). He'll pack for himself but he gets overwhelmed and likes to have my help on how many shirts/socks/etc to bring. He hates overpriced airport food and gross airline food so he really loves when I send him off with plenty of homemade food. I'll pack a noodle stir fry (still good when cold) in disposable to-go containers, a bag of mixed nuts and some fruit or other travel snacks. He needs to eat a lot and having good q…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 06:15 PM
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If doing ALOT of juicing, invest in an electric citrus juicer. Every now and then my SO does the Master Cleanse (the lemonade, cayenne, maple syrup one) and the juicer makes it possible to juice all those lemons every day. More than you need for a a few fruits but when doing a whole batch it's a lifesaver. Makes quick work of orange juice.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 03:59 PM
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Electric Griddle! I use it every day for over easy eggs (great when you're making brunch for a group, I've fried a dozen eggs at once!) Good for pancakes too, vegetables, meat, anything really...esp when cooking for lots of ppl. Easy to clean too. Slap Chop! From the infamous infomercial. Makes quick work of mincing. Great for garlic, you don't have to get garlic fingers. Electric Kettle! Frees up a burner on my stove and heats water quicker. If I'm making pasta or anything hat requires boiling …
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 03:52 PM
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You'll get a lot more helpful feedback if you use the formula for asking for relationship advice on this sub. I believe it is in the sidebar.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/15 08:41 AM
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3 months with no sex! RP advice would be that this is too much to ask of a man and it is likely he's craving more attention and affection elsewhere. Acting on it is a matter of his personal integrity. You're ability to contribute to his needs is so drastically limited that I could hardly blame the poor guy if he strayed.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/15 08:39 AM
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I think the RP stance on this would be the classic "men and women can't be just friends." If there is or ever was any sexual attraction/chemistry, then it will shadow every interaction they have. What good ever comes from staying in touch with an ex? It's only very rare instances, with very mature stable people, in which contact with an ex is mutually beneficial. Usually it's inappropriate and a waste of time. Exes are exes for a reason. If she really is STILL depressed over their breakup ages a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/15 05:20 AM
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The first mate is still has to be a dominant character to be able to steer the ship and council the captain when asked, but she must still know her place when the captain gives an order ;)
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/15 05:01 AM
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A few months ago my phone broke. I had insurance but for one reason after the next, the replacement phone took over a week to get to me. In that time I realize how much of my time gets sucked into that little screen. Random moments all day I would find myself going "hmm well I would normally pick up my phone for a few mins here but since I don't have a phone...what can I do right now that's useful?" Turns out there's so much you can do when you're not sucked into your phone! SO MANY MINS that I …
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 09:30 AM
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A man's woman will naturally fill the role of social secretary. It's a great way to add value to his life!
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 09:19 AM
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I've heard men say this before...that they like a woman who "challenges them," who "has a mind of her own". It's a modern thing to say but I don't think these men realize what comes in the whole package. In a short term relationship, men can enjoy a stimulating, more dominant girl. It's refreshing, it's exciting, it means he doesn't have to do all the work to be the man all the time. But in the long run they don't realize that comes with a host of side effects that turn that fun strong willed gi…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 09:02 AM
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Good point. There are RPW who are naturally submissive and there are RPW who are naturally dominant. Each of us are here to practice balance between knowing when to hold our own and when to follow. The oldest of 4, I have always been bossy. My grandmother nicknamed me "the director" because even playing as a baby I would tell her what to make her toy say and do. RPW and my very alpha SO keep me in check so my director side doesn't take over, but is still useful when I need it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 08:47 AM
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You say you're not whining, "it's just different for me"... So then what is the purpose of posting? What do you want from this community of not some blunt feedback? I think most people would find your case to be rather extreme, and here at RPW we value traditional forms of dating like real face to face conversations over texting and snapping. You seriously have no friends who aren't sending you a constant stream of updates? Yes a man 5 years older than you does not have the compulsive desire to …
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/15 09:55 AM
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Girl just put the phone down! Stop whining and just accept that you are dating a MAN, not a social media addicted teenage girl. You're upset that he "doesn't send a snap every couple hours"?! Wtf. I'm only 28, but is this really what your generation is all about? You just want attention, not "connection."
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/15 08:41 AM
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My uncle is very picky and esp doesn't like veggies. He's become more health conscious in his 50s so his solution is to have a smoothie for breakfast that's crammed with yummy or powdered versions of the nutrients he doesn't like to eat, all blended up so he can't tell the difference. You said SO dislikes fruit but maybe there's a certain version of a smoothie you can make him a few times a week. My fav is bananas, peanutbutter, honey with cacao nibs or granola for a little crunch. You can add c…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/15 06:00 AM
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My SO dislikes perfumes too and prefers essential oils. Favs are plumeria and lilly of the valley. (though sometimes I'll spritz some of a girlfriend's perfume and it gets his attention. I think mainly for the variety)
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/15 12:40 AM
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Curious... What type of anniversary is this exactly? Wedding anniversary? Dating anniversary? First met? First kissed? Either way, the man forgetting and the woman getting upset is a tradition as old as marriage itself. How the couple handles it probably a valuable litmus test. If it's a date that's important to you, then it should be important enough to get a "hey next week on Tuesday is our anniversary, neat!" shoutout in advance. The "sit and wait to see if he remembers/keeps track/cares" met…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/15 07:33 AM
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I'm lucky to have what I call mermaid hair...full, wavy and down to my belly button. It's a commitment to have long hair but it's worth it. It's a sign of health and I wear it with pride. I eat healthy and take biotin. I don't dye it or use any chemicals. It takes a lot of de-tangling and conditioning (get yourself a Tangle Teezer brush, saves so much time and hair!!). I've always kept it long, except for when I was in college and I cut my hair into a chin length bob...just to see if I could hol…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/15 07:11 AM
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I like how you ask them reflective questions. Usually the person knows exactly what's getting in their way, but they would take offense if you called them out on it. I had a girlfriend who was puking classic man hating feminist BP splooge all over her Facebook feed, always complaining about dates and airing her man problems for all to see. I could see the red flags clearly but held back until she posted a (seemingly) sincere post asking for help. When I messaged her she pretty much called out al…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/15 06:55 AM
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Yep def use your RPW account only for RPW. Use a different account on all over subs. And be careful copy/pasting direct text on this sub...that got me doxed in the past. Too easy to trace exact wording.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/15 06:48 AM
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I agree with the gaming of one's mom... It's the only way I'm able to direct the relationship into a positive space and steer clear of negative suck holes. Don't give attention to her when she says something offensive, it's her way of shit testing you. Just walk away or change the subject and she'll learn that that kind of behavior doesn't get her the attention and validation she's seeking. Don't let her rile you up, don't give her that kind of control over you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/15 06:39 AM
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I def cook a lot of veggies in "bacon butter" (sounds better than bacon "grease"). Smells and tastes so yummy!
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/15 03:43 PM
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All I know is that when I'm sick, the best feeling in the world is having my loved one doting on me and making me feel cared for. Why would I not reciprocate? We are natural nurturers and when sick our men deserve some pampering. When the whole household is sick...I'm sure you want some nurturing too, but well you still take care of your sick kids, why not also take care of him? I think Women have more stamina in these situations.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/15 08:33 AM
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In the surf world Laird is as alpha as it gets, mad respect for that man! I'm sure he wouldn't stand for a shrew. She sounds awesome! Great to find a good submissive role model!
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/15 03:06 AM
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Haha love your onion trick! When my SO is hungry he's in cranky panic mode until he knows something is being cooked. Then he can relax!
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/15 02:59 AM
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Haha me too
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/15 06:31 AM
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I know a few alphas who are male models and these men can act very feminine sometimes. They're very tall and in the top 2% of looks so they barely have to try to get pussy (tinder is an endless supply). For these men their abundance mentality is more akin to the way a woman can always get sex and male attention.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/15 08:06 PM
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You swish coconut oil in your mouth for 20 mins and it pulls toxins out through your mouth. Probably works but I only tried it once, really a lot of work swishing!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/15 07:04 PM
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Haha instead of water use coconut oil for the added health benefits of oil-pulling! So weird but makes you STFU for 20 mins.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/15 06:36 AM
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Same here. 4 years of undergrad dedicated to premed and I was signed up to take the MCATS when I met my SO. He gave me the courage to realize I didn't need a fancy degree and career to make me (or him) happy. Both my parents are MDs and I admired them and wanted to follow in their footsteps but couldn't see how I could make the lifestyle practical. Dad was always working long shifts in the OR or on call and as kids I just remember always asking "when will daddy be home?" Mom actually dropped out…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/15 09:37 AM
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It also means his story is about banging a HB 6 (not a 7) in the pool bathroom. Such an extended brag post over an easy 6? Cmon you can do better dude. I'm surprised the guys at TRP didn't take him down a notch.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/15 09:17 AM
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Red Pill might advise that if you do take a 2 week vacation, be super aware of possible hypergamy. Since this is a relatively new relationship, you're still only freshly attached, and there will be temptations abroad where everything is new and shiny and exciting. 2 weeks should be a decently normal time to be apart (unless he is going through something super stressful and would appreciate the extra support). But it's long enough for hypergamous thoughts to creep in if you meet an attractive, ca…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/15 09:10 AM
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They're getting hotter the more he drinks ;)
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/15 08:10 PM
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For RPW, it's an Elective that can help women recognize PUAs and their tricks so that you can avoid becoming plated. Read their stories about sluts they gamed and banged with a "how to not become this women" angle.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/15 08:09 PM
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I've never seen men at TRP encourage other men to outright lie to a woman about her status as a plate. Letting her know he has options (dread) is an important RP tool. If he lied and said she was his one and only, it would mess up his game and would be seen as failing a shit test. Overall I think they view lying in general as a womanly hamster type thing to do. They can't stand it when women lie. Having a code of honor, being honest and not having to lie would be the alpha thing to do. Some men …
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/15 11:22 AM
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The grass is always greener... Hypergamy in action.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/15 11:03 AM
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Nothing unfeminine about having a career. But I'd say it's unfeminine to neglect your children/family/man because you're so career driven, since maternal instincts are an important part of a feminine woman. Also many women have careers in that make use of their femininity, such as careers in event planning, decorating, cooking/baking, networking, etc. However the term "wearing the pants" specifically means a woman who is trying to be the leader (aka dominant) over her man. Either he man is a bet…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/15 10:19 AM
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The real question is, who is going to raise the children while she's working? You? Grandma? A Nanny? Babies need 100% supervision and maternity leave doesn't cut it, so you just need to be prepared with a plan. I'm not even a parent yet but I'm aware that it's going to take a lot more energy and time than we think. My mom is a Dr and thought she'd just get a nanny and bounce back to work after maternity leave. Turned out she didn't want someone else raising her children, so she left medicine for…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/15 10:12 AM
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Very yodaesqe...do or do not, there is no try!
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/15 09:12 PM
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Thankfully I've never been into drama myself. Historically I always sought out male "friends" because "girls are too much drama," but since swallowing the pill I've realized my energy is better invested in female friends and have been trying to find cool, drama free women and build up those friendships. It's not easy but it's worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/15 09:08 PM
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Yeah I guess that desire to defend myself and get that last word can be tempting, but unsatisfying. I'm tempted to say something like "as a married woman, I'd think you'd understand that I can't tolerate disrespect to my relationship" but I know that would be unnecessarily provocative and not helpful. Thanks for sharing your experience, in hindsight it's easier to see that that last word is not the end.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/15 07:28 PM
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Thank you for your detailed reply. You're right that she's better at drama and I shouldn't engage her on her home turf, thanks for pointing this out. And you're right that I'm giving her too much of my time an energy dwelling on this. She's already sucking me into drama remotely. It's just a big decision for me to close the lid on this. And we have a lot of mutual friends (one in particular who keeps trying to get us to make up) so I'll probably have to see her at the next wedding...
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/15 06:19 PM
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Sorry for the rambling update part. I guess writing out my experience is part of my need for closure. The part relevant to RPW is that I'm having to cut out a girl who was once my very best friend, but since swallowing the pill we have grown apart and I have realized what a negative influence she is. I've never had a falling out so making the finally decision to cut her out for good is a big one for me and the support of this community helps me a lot because I can't really talk about it to peopl…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/15 05:34 PM
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Thank you for your response. How does one take a screenshot of an entire reddit post? I'm getting a lot of encouragement to just not respond which is probably good advice. I guess it's just hard since she was one of my dearest friends (before swallowing the pill), and I'm the kind of person who just wants people to understand each other and get along.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/15 05:09 PM
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Sorry that you think this is off topic. I guess I just felt like an update would still be relevant. However I do find advice for how to deal with one's old BP friends/relationships once one has swallowed the red pill. My old self would be much more tempted to keep a toxic relationship going but I'm learning more about being selective with who I give my energy to. I wouldn't bother you with pettiness, but this girl used to be my absolute best friend for many years, so it's hard for me to see the …
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/15 05:04 PM
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For a lot of alphas it's all about timing... They want to enjoy bachelorhood before the delve into a life of family and responsibility. Meet them too young and they're dangerous because they're so alluring but non-committal... Meet them a little down the road and if you have your girl game on point they will happily give up the bachelor life for the warmth and depth a LTR brings.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/15 07:02 AM
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Hmm sounds like he's really taking TRP to heart, and maybe a little to far for a LTR. Most of the TRP tricks are designed for getting laid and spinning plates, and one has to really sift for good LTR advice. How long has he been into TRP? What was he like before he came across the sub? Where in all this did your relationship start? It could be that if TRP is relatively new for him, he's still learning his edges and testing out all the tools and hopefully will find the right balance eventually. A…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/15 08:59 AM
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Dread is a tool that belongs in the man's RP toolbox, not the women's. If she used this tool it will only backfire on her and push him away. I've seen talk here about "wife goggles" and that they do work. When a woman gives a man the best years of her youth, this youthful image is imprinted on his subconscious so that he doesn't notice her aging as much over the years (unless of course she completely lets herself go). If she can gracefully climb over the wall and maintain a uplifting, pleasant, …
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/15 08:40 AM
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Try switching the food treats with some other kind of treat, a new nail polish or makeup, or watching a favorite show, etc. need to take food rewards out of your mental food files.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/15 08:29 AM
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Pay attention to what your body tells you while you're pregnant. My mom could not stomach a single bite of bread/pasta while pregnant. Years later she tested positive for gluten intolerance. It's like her pregnant body was super sensitive and sending her messages that "this is not good for you!" Listen to your body and it will tell you a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/15 08:17 AM
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For me orgasm is mostly a mental experience. Physical stimulation is the fuel for the fire but the key to turning things on is all in my mind. If I'm not "in the mood" I need extra mental stimulation in addition to touching myself while he is fucking me (lying down from behind is the best position for this). I don't think I've ever had a full PIV orgasm, since it's always some sort of clitoral friction that gets me off in the end. So I help myself along with my fingers as much as possible. For t…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/15 08:01 AM
1

I still think your orgasm is your responsibility even with a partner... This includes teaching your partner what works for you, but for women orgasm has a lot to do with her mind and emotions. Physical stimulation only brings orgasm if I am in the right mental state for being "turned on," which can require a little extra effort on my part if its not there immediately. He does want to help her orgasm, he's just hoping for an easier way to bring it about.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/15 07:52 AM
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French braids are my favorite feminine/practical workout option! Keeps the flyaways out of your face, keeps your hair from tangles (mine is almost to my butt so braids are kind of a necessity for anything active), it's the best option for keeping cool, plus the pigtail/braid silhouette is super cute. Sometimes I put little bows/ribbons at the ends when I'm doing particularly manly stuff. I never wear makeup when working out but tinted burts bees Chapstick is kinda nice for feeling fresh vs frump…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 11:55 PM
1

My SO of nearly 6 years still doesn't like to call me his "girlfriend." When we first started seeing each other we both said we didn't want a boyfriend/girlfriend situation as he had just gotten out of a 4 year LTR and I had just left an international LDR. (This was before I swallowed the pill). But as time went by we acted more and more like "BF/GF" but still without the labels. 6 years later we're still fully committed to each other but rarely use the labels unless it's a convenience thing. On…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 09:17 AM
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You can find those comments when you look for them, and they'll seem very harsh out of context. But a woman visiting TRP is like eavesdropping on the men's locker room... Men naturally speak differently in an all male space and it's not for ladies ears (because women will take it personally and get their panties in a knot.) At TRP, most men are focused on just getting laid, with a small percentage giving opinions on LTRs. The TRP LTR strategies coincide with what we focus on at RPW (though from …
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 09:38 AM
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AWALT, even RPW. We're just aware of it and practice working with our sexuality with long term happiness and satisfaction in mind.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 09:20 AM
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After one takes the red pill, it's interesting to look back at one's blue pill lifestyle. I didn't realize that I was a serial branch swinger. Always into LTRs over hookup culture, but I would string along a LDR LTR with betas. In my BP perspective, I wanted to make the relationship work instead of just giving up on it because of distance. I loved these men and I thought the proper thing to do was to stay together, and because they were beta they stuck around for ridiculously far LDRs. I got the…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/15 08:07 AM
1

If he is not ready to face his faults, just let him be and work on inner peace in your relationship. Forgiveness is more about you than him. You need to work on just accepting him as a human being with faults like anyone, let go of your expectations of what you wish he had done or who you wish he had been as your father. You don't have to talk to him to practice forgiveness. Love him from afar. Practice sending him love whenever you start do feel a negative charge from him. Try to be grateful fo…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/15 06:56 AM
1

Forgiveness is simply allowing that person to exist as they are without obligation to you. You can't change anyone, so wanting someone to be or act different only hurts you. You may have to "fake it till you make it," but it starts with anytime you catch yourself thinking something negative about him, stop yourself and just think of something positive about him.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/15 06:43 AM
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Daddy issues is a big red flag for a girl who wants a LTR. Make peace (inner if not outer) with your father. Remember all the good things he did for your mom and your family. Accept the things that you did not like about growing up with him and know that you cannot change him. Forgive him for any faults. You'll never have a fulfilling bond with another man until you clear the air between you and your father.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/15 12:12 AM
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When my SO is hungry it's like his brain is on pause! The last thing he wants to do is think about what to eat, he just wants food in front of him. Sometimes I'll ask if he has a particular craving (and if he does make a request it's almost always for stir fry noodles), or I'll just let him know "I'm thinking of cooking _____ tonight" and see if he has any objections. But making the menu is part of the tasks delegated to me. I'm the one who does the grocery shopping and knows what ingredients ar…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/15 07:21 AM
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Food and sex Aka keep his belly full and balls empty!
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/15 09:43 PM
1

I was really shy/sheltered for most of my teen years. Though my true personality was always social since I was a baby, as a teen I knew nothing of pop culture so I think this caused me to be more quiet because I was afraid of not knowing basic teen things. Sports and especially being on a team (xc, track and swim) was what helped me blossom socially. Was one of the best things about high school and really helped me overcome shyness.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/15 09:32 PM
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Now that it's summer and the pool has warmed up I spend a lot of time walking around the house in just a bikini! (With a sarong or coverup if the roommate or anyone but my SO is around). We don't use AC so if I get hot I just slip in the pool for a cooling dip. If we have the house to ourselves I'll sometimes skinny dip and try to get rid of some tan line which often leads to poolside sexy times ;)
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/15 09:43 AM
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While more for men, I really like the book The Rational Male. It goes over a lot of the RP concepts and terminology. I also have a RP inspired reading list on Pinterest.com/vintagegirlgame (Board: The Red Library), a collection of books mostly from recommendations on TRP and RPW
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/15 08:05 PM
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How old are you anyway? There's a great guide on therulesrevisited.com with specific advice for women in their 20s, 30s or 40s+. If having a relationship and family are important to you then don't give up so easily. And yeah some millennial babe might have a better body but they are so shallow and self centered, most older men are really turned off by their attitude. We used to tease my aunt for being an old maid, but at 39 she married a 40 year old rock star and had 3 children by 45. Her husban…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/15 06:12 AM
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Why have you given up completely? I don't think it's ever too late if the person decides and follows through with making a serious change in priorities and lifestyle.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/15 02:31 PM
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Also, men will tell you exactly who they are if you read them by their actions, not listening to their words. Men will say what they think you want to hear because they want to make you happy, or just don't understand your emotions and are just trying to avoid drama, but they don't lie with their actions. Red flags are always easier to see in hindsight, but we are here at RPW learning how to spot red flags from the start.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/15 06:19 PM
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For example...you choose to be loyal with a man and that man later turns around and cheats on you. You could blame everything on him and play the victim (blue pill thinking) or you could accept responsibility for the fact that you either chose a cheater or you neglected your relationship to the point that you caused a normally loyal man to cheat on you (red pill thinking). The blue pill way is the easier way, but increases the chances that the same pattern will play itself out again. The red pil…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/15 06:16 PM
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Naturally I would try to just be formal and polite, but my SO has clearly stated to me that he doesn't want to be near them and that we are to walk away.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/15 05:58 PM
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My SO has told me we have to walk away. He doesn't want to have to act fake. My natural inclination is to make nice, but he's expressed that it's important for me to follow him in this situation.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/15 05:55 PM
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My SO almost didn't come because of all the drama, but thankfully he is here to support me. The bride and our college friend group know what happened and have expressed support for me and my SO. The closest among our friend group admit that she can have a real negative streak that is only amplified by her husband. She also has a history of dramatic fallouts with friends, I just never thought I would be next on her list.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/15 05:53 PM
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It's a destination wedding on a very small island, with a few smaller events planned before the wedding, so we will likely be all together in some form. I do intend to stick close to my SO. I hope they don't get wasted and try to cause any drama!
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/15 05:33 PM
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Yes I thought about that, but if she really has nothing better to do than stalk RPW for a whole year looking for glimpses of me, then I feel real sorry for her and she might as well see that I plan on avoiding her.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/15 05:27 PM
1

Yes I don't believe in keeping "enemies" as any negative charge against a person is actually a negative charge against you. Holding a grudge is hard for me and I just feel sorry for her that she doesn't value my friendship more. I believe the quote is that hating is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to drop dead." I'm doing my best to move on from this and I know the wedding will be a challenge. My SO is very defensive of me and can get worked up about the situation. He almost …
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/15 08:27 AM
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My main concern is keeping the peace for the bride's sake and for my SO's peace of mind. He's quite riled up as he gets protective of me and can't stand how Liz treated me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/15 08:20 AM
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Submitting means your main choice is choosing to follow the lead of your captain because you trust his opinion will be the best for you and your relationship. He is in charge of making major decisions, but doesn't micromanage, delegating decisions and tasks that are your strengths to you. A good captain also often seeks the council of his first mate, but is still confident in making his own decision. With a good captain, handing over the reigns is not a loss of freedom or choice but a relief to …
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/15 08:18 AM
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That's why the vetting process in choosing a captain is so important. A woman should not lay down before just any man, that would be very dangerous. She has to do a lot of intelligent investigation in the early phases of the relationship to determine if this man is a trustworthy captain worth submitting to. If he betrays her trust and sinks the ship, then she did not do a through job in choosing him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/15 03:04 AM
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Yes we have had actual discussions about it. He has complained to me and my SO about it and always comments on how envious he is of our type of relationship. Of course he's happy to have easy access to sex, but it's instant gratification kind of happiness, not satisfying long term happiness. This guy's parents have one of the most beautiful RP style relationships I've personally witnessed, and he longs for the kind of family his father raised. His father introduced him to RP values and his mothe…
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