I need help choosing between two HVM

pearlsandstilettos · 2021-01-05T13:57:26+00:00

Given a lot of your responses, I'm not sure why you decided to post on rpw. Regardless, the internet cannot choose a partner for you and generally a good RP answer is that if it isn't "hell yes" it's "no".

I'm removing this post. You don't want the guidance the sub has to give.

bachbozo · 2021-01-04T21:18:34+00:00

Most likely neither.

There should be no doubt in marriage.

Wycked_x · 2021-01-04T20:08:45+00:00

Do they both know about each other?

JacksonPolish · 2021-01-04T21:27:33+00:00

Does it have to be either of these guys? It doesn't sound like either of them really arouse you - they are just people who are good on paper. Doesn't mean that they couldn't turn into something, just you may not have found the guy for you yet.

I know this sub talks a lot about how marriages are partnerships and knock you on your butt love isn't necessarily needed, but there is a certain amount of passion and excitement needed in a lasting relationship. Ultimately, if a guy isn't going to excite you, it's going to be difficult feeling fulfilled.

vintagegirlgame · 2021-01-04T23:31:32+00:00

Realize that the strength that draws you to a person will also be the reason you have fights down the line.

For example there may be many things you may love about an introverted guy, but over time he may fail to stimulate you and seem boring. A more extroverted guy my be more exciting now, but over time you may come to resent that he spends more time with friends than with you.

When you look at the other side of the coin, which will be less of an issue?

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ihopemewingworks · 2021-01-04T22:49:17+00:00

It all come down to what you value, I value extroversion or men who are very comfortable around other because I find them weak otherwise. But just like other people have said maybe no neither, if you don't know if you can't choose then maybe none of them are right. It's great to be somewhat logical and make sure you aren't completely driven by emotion but making a decision like marriage and life partner purely on logical also isn't good. I'd say if there isn't one you don't like more then the other maybe the connection with either of them isn't that good. But that's just my thought on it. Since none of them are abusive or anything crazy they are quite equal, it all depends on traits that you prefer. But if you don't feel really in love with either of them I wouldn't go for either of them. I also have a hard time believing that you'd be really in love with both (which you didn't say) but seems more like you like them, they have good traits on paper, but none that you're in love with. Now if you've only dated for 2 months or so thay makes sense. But a guy who you want to marry, you know quite fast, the emotions are there very fast. Or that's how I see it. There are successful and happy marriages when it's quite logical on paper and not too many emotions or a love that has grown over time, I just would never want that when you can have true full passion and love. But it's all up to you. You have to look inwards be honest with yourself what you value and want in a marriage.

Mewster1818 · 2021-01-04T19:53:03+00:00

Since it sounds like they're both excellent, I think it really comes down to your heart. Put your analytical self aside and really think about which man you feel more deeply connected to, who makes your heart flutter more, who are you more excited to see or talk to, if they both called you at exactly the same time who would you answer and who would you call back?

If you truly feel exactly the same about both, then I don't think you're ready to make a decision yet, and that's okay. Ultimately, you need to feel that special connection emotionally so you won't be left wondering later "did I make the right choice?".

stayPositive890 · 2021-01-05T01:26:18+00:00

Deep down, you know who you want. You're just clouding your judgment with too much logical analysis. Let your intuition do the job. No one here knows them as much as you do.

LateralThinker13 · 2021-01-05T04:37:01+00:00

Guy 2. Athletic and sex and more extroversion sounds like it's more fulfilling long term. #1 sounds a bit more like you're settling for the brainier one - tingles matter.

sunny2weather · 2021-01-04T20:51:13+00:00

I personally would go for the second one. The age gap is less, he seems more easy-going, and it seems like you could find more common ground with him. The divorce without kids wouldn't bother me too much at his age.

sweettansy · 2021-01-04T19:44:42+00:00

I love how analytical you're being about this. You're figuring it out. Going to be great.

If you'll be happy with either one, and both options are great, which one do you want? Ask your gut and be curious what your reaction is.

Confident_Ad_741 · 2021-01-04T20:34:00+00:00

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pearlsandstilettos · 2021-01-05T00:33:05+00:00

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CountTheBees · 2021-01-05T01:40:07+00:00

You can do better than both of them if you offer sexual exclusivity.

rosesonthefloor · 2021-01-05T02:06:42+00:00

I get that you’re being analytical about this, and that’s great. Where I’d be concerned about this scenario you’ve set up is that if you feel the same about each of them (although I doubt it’s the exact same) and you do end up marrying one of these guys, when an issue comes up down the road, what’s to stop you from doubting your choice?

That’s why you have to go with your gut, on some level. We can rationalize feelings all we want, but we can’t rationalize them away completely. Don’t marry someone just because they’re good on paper if your heart’s not fully committed to it, because that’s a recipe for resentment or doubt later on.

Good luck!

Love-reps · 2021-01-04T21:02:07+00:00

I would go for the second one because from what I’ve heard Switzerland isn’t that friendly to immigrants. Additionally, sexual compatibility is very important

Confident_Ad_741 · 2021-01-04T20:12:30+00:00

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Title	I need help choosing between two HVM
Author	Confident_Ad_741
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Date	January 4, 2021 7:37 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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