I'm settling into a new relationship after my marriage ended just over 12 months ago.

I was the man in my marriage so typically, I'm penniless now after paying his bills for the last 12 months and shelling out ££££'s to buy him out of the family home.

I have a good job, my own home and can support myself and my kids but I have no savings left. This guy and I are close to having known each other 6 months but only been serious about 4 of those.

Shortly after we got together, my car that was long bought and paid for started dying. New guy, we'll call him JT lent me his £48k car to get to work one day and insists I hold onto it since then. No point me buying a new car when he drives round in his work van all day and his car is just parked outside his house he says.

On my birthday, he gave me his credit card to pay for hair and nail appointments he made for me. He won't take that back, took mine off me and cut them up. Told me to use his. Which I didn't. So now he insists certain purchases are made on it and charged to him.

He has showered me with expensive gifts. Mostly clothing but also a laptop, new vacuum, new TV, amazon Alexa. Some of this I needed, some were to treat me and some he bought to make being at my house better for him (tv and alexa)

This weekend I moved back into the family home after buying out the ex. JT already had agreed to help me remodel the house (He works in construction) and is investing a good deal already in the new kitchen he is buying me. He is purchasing and fitting a new kitchen and rebuilding my shoddy extension at the back of the house.

I can live with this as I own the house entirely and the plan is for him to move in gradually. So this investment is him buying into the house.

But this morning, the boiler bust. I'm already paying for a new boiler in my ex's house. I have no money left. I've given it all to the ex to pay him out of my life. Do not worry said JT as water started leaking from my eyes. (I try not to cry but my damn leaky eyes always betray me). If I can't fix it tonight, I'll get you a new one.

Boilers are about a minimum of £1k.

I just feel really uncomfortable taking anything more from him. I feel uncomfortable already with the way he's spent on me. Because I can't match his generosity and I feel like I have nothing to offer him but problems and expenses. (Edit, except my amazing BJ's haha)

He wants to look after me. He wants to be my hero. But how much is too much really. Ive always paid my way and lived within my means. My Ex mooched off me for years. I don't want to be a moocher. But neither do I want to offend.

Do I let him buy my boiler? Am I being brought? Am I taking advantage of him? If I pay for it myself he'll be cross with me.