How to find a man in college?

Cynthia_L · 2019-09-22T04:50:44+00:00

I met my husband in college and I married at 22. One of my biggest goals in college was to find my husband. I would recommend looking for men in campus leadership positions (for ex presidents of clubs) and older men (2-4 years) - join clubs. Academically serious men might also be contenders, since they will have their 5 year plan all figured out by now and it probably will include finding a serious woman - keeping up your own grades helps put you in situations where you would meet them. My husband was a fraternity president and I was a sorority president - we dated intentionally and got engaged within a year. Good luck :)! my YouTube

cassandrarose39 · 2019-09-21T14:01:28+00:00

Find a church group on campus because a lot of those guys aren’t ready to settle down unless they are religious. You can also try an older man. My husband is 5 1/2 years older than me.

AngelFire_3_14156 · 2019-09-20T18:05:08+00:00

I'm still kinda new to Red Pill but I was wondering, why do you want to marry by age 25? I'm just curious.

Aside from being your best self, I think the most important skill you will need is the ability to vet potential husbands. Learn to recognize red flags.

My first marriage failed. First, I'm not sure Red Pill was around then as a guiding framework. Second and in any case, I didn't vet my future husband correctly. I ignored a couple of red flags. In part, we became sexually active too soon, and it probably clouded my judgement.

I have married again, but this time I vetted my future husband a lot more. I still wasn't aware of Red Pill, but I verified his claims, and met his family, friends and associates. We dated for about six months before I consented to sleep with him. I know that he wanted to, but at my request he didn't push.

He's a good, decent, and wonderful man and a good father.

I wish you the best of luck.

leinlin · 2019-09-25T16:48:21+00:00

Check out feminine energy coaches on youtube. They help me a lot. Some of my favourites are Adrienne Everheart, Helena Hart, Nicole Michelle and SheraSeven1. The latter is very much focused on hypergamy and might be a bit blunt in some of her views. But she taught me quite a bit. Take what you can and leave the rest:)

Edit: Also I would focus on men outside of college, who are older. At least that‘s what I (21) do.

vintagegirlgame · 2019-09-20T17:53:18+00:00

I think finding a suitable man in college is a fools errand tbh. That’s when most men are enjoying sleeping around. Try at the end of college when they’ve grown up a bit 😆

mintyfreshbtw · 2019-09-22T01:05:11+00:00

Hi, I’m still in my final year of college but wanted to share that I found my fiance while in college at the beginning of my second year. He’s doing a masters right now and is a year older than me (I’m 21, he’s 22). I met him through mutual friends while engaging in a hobby that the two of us were the most passionate about and struck up conversation initially as friends interested in the same thing. We were initially not interested in dating each other (lol), but got more interested in each other over the next few weeks until he asked me out.

It was by chance that we ended up sharing similar values and goals, which we wanted to ensure before entering the relationship since we both wanted something serious. I think this part is really important for our generation, given most don’t want to even think of getting married yet or want a/want to be a SAHM (actually, most don’t especially in college lol).

By the way, if you have college loan debt, please do make a plan for paying that off asap.

morganKxoxo · 2019-09-20T18:50:36+00:00

If you are religious get involved in a local church or campus ministry.

ChemicalYogurt · 2019-10-10T07:16:19+00:00

Go to church, meet up with friends for activities or just at groups/clubs you find interesting. I found my fiance at a friends party. He was my friends friends friend and was part of a group she brought. There was drinking because this was before I became a Christian and decided to stop drinking and doing drugs. We were playing kings cup and he had beer, each time he took a sip he looked disgusted. I offered him my orange breeze and in return he offered me his pot lollipop. We hung out the whole night and talked outside then we slowly became friends. We were close friends for three years and then dated for three years. Last year he proposed. I never would have imagined us being more than friends back then but we have the same views, goals in life, aspirations, etc and work together perfectly. I adore him so much. I think what they say about being friends first is solid advice. I used to think it was bogus but it gave us a lot of time to get to know one another. Dont do any of what I did, I wouldn't suggest it. But just being social and going out, being yourself and not particularly looking is great. I wasnt looking for anyone when I found him.

MDMCrab · 2019-10-19T20:43:23+00:00

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Title	How to find a man in college?
Author	rhaenyrasrevenge
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Date	September 20, 2019 2:25 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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