I thought I would post an update even though it ended up being off topic from rpw but I received great advice. I stopped trying to get womanly support from my husband as recommended by rpw and started taking a multivitamin as recommended by a friend. After starting the multivitamin, anxiety stopped and I lost 4 pounds almost immediately. And my husband is much happier because I am not asking for something better given from other women (who understand and can give first hand advice, such as the multivitamin). Thanks, ladies! Every child is a new adventure and in some ways, it feels like I have emerged from each pregnancy with not only a totally different baby but a totally different body.