Abrupt Beta-backslide -- how do you save this.

antariusz · 2016-03-15T23:29:47+00:00

Fuck 15 other women, then you might have a chance with this girl.

Serious advice.

SureImShore · 2016-03-15T21:52:10+00:00

Texting her and meeting for coffee was "perfect"? If these were your first interactions, nothing about them could be confused with "Alpha". You had very little interaction with a girl, and no sex or even kissing, yet, "everything was perfect"? This is oneitis.

"I'm looking forward to it too, and not just cause it's spring break. Lol." She says. Awesome.

Does this mean to imply that she won't be hooking up with random dudes while getting loaded? Because that is a lie, and that's why she made a point of saying that.

'I'll pick you up around 6:30 and we'll go to the middle school poetry slam."

....... what? If you were my student in a "game 101" course you would receive an F-

I apologize to the girl for sounding pushy (I didn't mean to sound pushy, wasn't asking for sex and I was letting the feeling of before culminate into that text)

What is going on here. A "middle school poetry slam" (what the fuck) is the last place in the universe I would think of taking a girl if I was trying to fuck her. You were not being pushy and even if you were you never apologize for being pushy. Always better to be too aggressive than too pensive.

Text her the next day, asking what's up. Sort of anxious casual conversation. I'm spiraling.

She can sense this, and her vagina now resembles the Sahara.

They bawk at my plans for the middle school poetry slam, say that's a girlfriend date.

They're right. Its something two girls would do together.

Send her text saying the plans changed. We'd do something more fun instead. No reply. Cutting contact till Wednesday. Might call her Wednesday evening. If no reply might blow off our date.

Done. Give up the ghost on this one. She has blown off your date, you have lost all power in this.

Don't overthink this. You're having oneitis and freaking out about a girl you've texted with and met for coffee one time. She is some random person you talked to once. Next and work on that thirst.

Entropy-7 · 2016-03-16T08:13:04+00:00

We all fuck up and there is no reason to punish yourself over it. My most epic beta moment was last month when I took a girl on a $4000 dream vacation to Thailand, and immediately after she says she cannot commit to me.

Move on.

Rasalom72 · 2016-03-15T18:54:17+00:00

I ask my sister

Dinner with mom, sister, and female cousin. Tell them my story.

You're retarded aren't you? Why are you asking the FISH how to CATCH A FISH?

Oh.. .and this belongs in ASK TRP.

Not a man in the room... and you wonder why you blew it?

dbtlsdn999 · 2016-03-15T18:59:00+00:00

My advice, next her. She's a lost cause.

DatAEK971 · 2016-03-15T21:32:31+00:00

Alright, bases are loaded. Bottom of the 9th tie ball game 2 out's and a 3-2 count, folks. And he's up to bat. Here comes the pitch and...

Swing and a miss! Boy that one had some heat behind it. He never had a chance of making any contact. Oh well, we go to extra innings ladies and gents.

jb_trp · 2016-03-15T23:58:40+00:00

You need to have abundance mentality, man. Are you talking to and going out with other girls? Your post wreaks of neediness.

Neediness is the opposite of attraction.

Girls have a sixth sense for neediness. Stop reading into everything. Stop analyzing everything. Stop talking to all your female relatives about her, damnit.

You need to keep working on your inner self and build confidence. Go out with her on Wednesday (if she doesn't cancel). It will probably be awkward because you're trying too hard, but a good learning experience. If she cancels, move on and go out with other women. Maybe she'll reach out to you again.

Xenocynic · 2016-03-16T03:39:57+00:00

"Was alpha till I didn't understand what she was feeling. When I saw she got the wrong vibe I blew it. "

You were never alpha, not even for a moment.

mitzibishi · 2016-03-16T12:53:21+00:00

If she really dug you, nothing is pushy. You can push them all over, if they are wet between the legs over you

ClimbingTehLadder · 2016-03-16T13:41:43+00:00

When she didn't respond and then said she was taking a nap, that means she's done with you. Women's favorite lie ever is that they were taking a nap. It should be interpreted as "leave me the fuck alone."

shiggityshoo · 2016-03-15T20:55:17+00:00

This needs to be on Ask TRP, first and foremost. That being said... You're quite far from the level of calm and cool that's desired. I highly suggest that you read every little bit of the side bar, and tune in here before you start trying to flaunt your game. Practice less personal stuff in your day to day travels, like chatting up sales and service people at stores and restaurants. Arrange social events with people, and learn to avoid being overly wordy or paranoid that you need to maintain some constant dialogue or else things will explode.

I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost two years. During this time, I've apologized less to her than there are fingers on one of my hands. The main and really one that comes to mind is when I let myself down and snapped at her for getting us lost on a trip out, to which I knew I was in the wrong. Past that? Not a damn utterance of sorry comes out of my mouth. You need to be unapologetically you.

Don't use shit like lol or smilies in conversations, save for odd instances to add a bit of flavouring. Besides, I'd argue it better to leave a girl wondering "Was that supposed to be offensive?" rather than making it known it wasn't. If you can show her you aren't afraid of her (of course, make sure it's internalized too) and don't mind offending/disagreeing with her, she'll respect that and get the tingles. Don't say shit like "In my opinion" or "I feel" or "I think" - just state things as they are in your head. "That's stupid." not "I think that's stupid." My girlfriend sometimes gets a goofy :3 if I'm being flirty/goofy, or an lol if I'm actually, truly laughing. For the most part though, that shit comes off as weak and needy. Don't talk too much either - in the words of Shakespeare, "Brevity is the soul of wit."

Finally, never talk to women about women related problems. You're wasting your time because they don't even know what they want. You had a date setup, and should have gone virtually radio silent until that day came around. She's not going to be the 'one', nor will she be the only girl you get lucky enough to go out with. Being forward by saying "Let's do this." isn't pushy. Stop thinking you're being overly pushy and just be very straight forward with what you want, and stop feeling ashamed for wanting to have sex. You're not fooling anybody, and I'm sure that if you play your cards right she's going to want sex too. Never fucking apologize!

(I'm no god of RP principles and philosophies, but the two years since I was introduced to the going ons here, my life has never been better. I'm open to chat however, if you'd like a little more 1 on 1)

Title	Abrupt Beta-backslide -- how do you save this.
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Date	March 15, 2016 6:51 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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