Advanced Alpha Relapsing into Oneitis

LeftShark86 · 2015-12-29T12:26:02+00:00

Thanks for the post. Here's some stuff to think about.

tl;dr: This isn't a huge problem and will probably go away on it's own with minimal effort. Stick to the basic RP principles and get out of your own head.

What exactly is the problem? You found a decent girl you actually like? Let me take her off your hands while you waste the rest of your life away banging vapid plates you can't stand for more than a couple hours.
I think a lot of your confidence/abundance mentality has come more from a place of apathy rather than strength. Yea, you can get an unlimited number of HB8s when they're all worthless human beings who can barely write a legible fb post. When you meet a girl with a little more substance, that abundance mentally rightfully decreases, as there're aren't a bunch of worthwhile women.
There's nothing wrong with enjoying a worthwhile woman. The "oneitis" problem stems from over-investing and thinking of this woman as a special snowflake who can do no harm. If you internalize AWALT and act accordingly, what's the problem?
The fact that you're so concerned about double texting shows a woman-like level of insecurity. If you have any semblance of game and/or confidence, it doesn't really matter what you text. If you're thinking about it too much, you're probably doing it wrong.
I'm not going to get into the topic of religion, as TRP is really an amoral set of thoughts and tools to be used by you as you see fit. However, claiming to believe one thing and doing another is beta. Figure out how you want to live and live that way. No need to lie to yourself and others. Furthermore, Christianity and TRP are not mutually exclusive.
Keep in mind that you just met this girl. You haven't seen her without makeup and high heels on. You haven't seen her when she's in a bad mood or stressed. This false unicorn veneer will quickly fade and it will be easier for you to step back into a more RP interaction naturally. Take it easy while she's gone. I think the feelings will drop to a level that can be more easily handled in time.

Update us as needed.

UrsusG · 2015-12-29T10:45:46+00:00

You should have posted this in askTRP.

How do I emotionally disengage from this?

Tell your ADHD doctor that you need OCD drugs now. But more seriously:

Do you want to emotionally disengage so that you can enjoy her (and other women) as a plate and keep your lifestyle?

Or do you want to emotionally disengage so that you can successfully maneuver your oneitis to the altar, get married, have kids and live happily until divorce do you part and you wake up regretting your insanity with half your assets and massive alimony?

FerrusMan · 2015-12-29T13:49:16+00:00

Just don't let your emotions dictate your actions, and remember the red pill theories. You know, don't let her lead, don't be the servant, don't be afraid to make her mad, you know the drill. Remember your training! It can be done, you just have to adapt running game, as it were, to 7x24.

waldo888 · 2015-12-29T11:01:09+00:00

Firstly, In my opinion love is a real emotion and very valuable. Love must be distinguished from oneitis which I agree is where you seem to be heading. Oneitis is not the emotion of love, it is the emotion of desperation, of never being able to meet another like that, of giving to much of yourself away in order to secure that person. Oneitis is when you subconsciously perceive that person to be out of your league. This girl may be out of your league. You can pretend to be the greatest dude but your emotion is telling you that you're gonna have to be better to keep this chick around, or just pretend to be, but you'll be found out. Secondly, talk is cheap, the more you have to say it the less it is true. You mentioned alpha a whole bunch. you also mentions a lot abot how amazing you are, you also said you have an inability to focus. I hope you can compartmentalize and not get offended, I am but a dude on the internet with an opinion. You should spen that high IQ learning a bit about psychology, and how that mayers-briggs shit is bullshit. Oh such the strategist how to play this situation to your advantage....you should just look up NPD. your on the spectrum and it prevents you from being a real complete and honest person.

jpeg_hero · 2015-12-29T13:00:49+00:00

Lol, ok, somebody's hopped up on the addy's...

What's your issue? You don't want to be into the girl you date?

RedSovereign · 2015-12-29T14:24:58+00:00

Post questions to /r/asktrp.

Cyralea · 2015-12-29T14:24:36+00:00

You're an interesting case, a man with genuine abundance mentality without actual abundance. Naturally when a high SMV chick digs her claws into you you buckle. The whole point of actual abundance is to ward off the effects of oneitis. It's a chemical process in your head, you should know it's going to happen. Your body was designed over tens of thousands of years to behave this way.

Seriously, spend more of your time hunting high quality women. Online is a good way to get access to thousands of women; even if quality women are one in 100,000, you can scan through that many in any major metro online.

As an aside, you may want to consider giving up gaming or scaling it back. It's likely contributing to your ADHD. This coming from another ENTJ who used to have similar issues.

Title	Advanced Alpha Relapsing into Oneitis
Author	specter504
Upvotes	2
Comments	21
Date	December 29, 2015 10:09 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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