Summary: Sorry to break it to you but not every girl will sleep with you and chasing those not interested in you or the type of relationship you're selling is a waste of time. Beware.

 

As we were getting to the end of 2016 a look in the rearview mirror is inevitable. Doing filtering unconsciously was my main issue that year. I was just running my game and after the approach/date I thought about progression in the model as well as who that girl wants and what could she possibly be looking for. Sometimes it was obvious - a 30 yo former "model" is definitely not looking for a quick fuck as she a) had plenty of them b) she doesn't have much time left to lock the "right guy" (beta provider) before she hits the wall. At the same time a 19 yo party girl looking for an adventure won't be susceptible to my flavor of game that was sharpen on slightly older girls.

It's far too easy to go out there and just run your game on any given number of girls looking for hook points and collecting numbers that you later throw into the funnel/assembly line. This strategy is almost perfect when you're starting out or when you're on a tight schedule in a foreign country. It's subpar when it comes to upgrading your - for the lack of better word - harem or when you want to optimize time you spend daygaming.

 

Not every girl will be ready to go to bed with you. Maybe in her mind you're not the "fast sex" type of guy, maybe you did something wrong and now you're applying for a boyfriend role or maybe she's the one not into fast sex. If you want to make good use of your time you should filter those girls in terms of probability of sex happening fast. It's good to have a lot of leads as well as very hot ones. But if none of those girls are willing to sleep in you in foreseeable future you'll waste a lot of your time on many dates to nowhere.

 

So how to actually make use of filtering strategy? You have to scan for three things: interest, availability and probability of a fast lay (where she is at the r-K spectrum).

If you're a beginner or you're having a particularly bad day you won't be able to think about that consciously so you have to analyze it after the set. Was she engaged physically (kino, sparkling eyes, intense eye contact, whole world disappeared around you, she was visibly happy that you approached her)? If yes - she was interested. Was she engaged socially (reached the hook point, asked questions, pushed conversation forward instead of merely playing along)? If yes - she was available. Pay close attention to uninterested/available time wasters. It's one way filtering works and it has to be done consciously. The less you think girl was interested and/or available - the less time you should spend chasing her.

As for the probability of a fast lay first you have to ask yourself is this what you want. There are countless variations of what you can do with girls after sleeping with them (and I'm not just talking about sex positions). If you're leaning toward boyfriend/girlfriend relationships then you'll be looking for other signs and tells than me looking for another fuck friend or at most a casual relationship. These are not things I find out about during the approach but later on a date(s). Hence the time waste and my shift to actively looking for those qualities even during the initial conversation, texting or the first date at worst.

In my experience girls that have boyfriend or husband of sorts/like to travel - especially alone/do or did drugs/moved a lot as a child/have tattoos or piercings/already realized they're after the wall/have been recently dumped/are visiting the city for just a moment are far more likely to have casual sex.

On the other hand girls that are near the wall (especially those ex-models)/just finished their studies/moved from a small town/live on their own/have always been in long relationships/are insecure/have been hurt or cheated on/are virgins/are conservative tend to look for more serious types of relationships, including those - yuck - monogamous. Mind you, I'm living in Europe. YMMV.

 

It's never an easy tell neither it’s binary - every girl will be a little column A, a little column B. You have to indirectly or directly find out about those things. And then you can use your findings to decide whether or not that girl is worth pursuing for your particular purposes. When your expectations are far off you'll only waste your precious time. You can also consider that lead done and pull off something ridiculous just to learn more.

Once you're experienced enough not to be stressed during an approach (and on the dates) playing all the girls the same way becomes ineffective. It doesn't teach you enough. Instead learn how to calibrate according to that specific type of girl and try to avoid scaring her off by showing qualities that aren't considered desirable by her. Or - if you're just too different - don't bother with her. If you're at that level you already should be optimizing.

 

Lessons learned:

  • Filter girls when you approach - the interested/available tells.
  • Filter girls when you text and date - the r-K spectrum (casual sex probability).
  • If you like every girl then you you're just thirsty. Be picky.
  • You have to be looking for certain qualities in girls. Find them.
  • You have to be selling a particular type of relationship (ONS, fuck friend, casual, boyfriend/girlfriend). Don't stick to girls whose expectations are totally different.
  • Spam approaching is just taking massive amount of action without any skill, plan or sense and literally trying to fuck any girl that gives you a number.

 

The original post was a long one. If you liked the above excerpts you should read the whole thing on my daygame blog.