I decided to think about how I was able to get 3 quarters of the women I've dated to sleep with me on the first night we met. This is what I came up with:

Build Up Attraction Before The Date

If you've ever gotten some girls phone numbers, but never heard back from them again, it's because you didn't cultivate enough attraction in them to get them to invest enough in you. I know, I know, attraction is non-negotiable, but what I'm saying is that she already has a bunch of cute guys hitting on her, what makes you stand out? Are you funny? Really great at playful banter? Confident and physical?

I don't do much cold approaching on the street. Instead I meet women in social settings that prompt recurrence -- work, bars, clubs, school, et cetra. This allows me to constantly flirt with women prior to getting their number and build up pre-date attraction. Her mentality goes from Oh, he asked me out, when you get her number the first time you meet her to, OMG he finally asked me out! After flirting, teasing, and touching her a few times.

Do not use this as an excuse to never make a move. Use your discretion to know when you've spiked her attraction enough to get an enthusiastic response when you ask her out.

Establish Physicality (Touch) Before The Date

When you go from never touching a girl to grabbing her ass, she's going to feel like A.) she's a slut or B.) you're a creep. You want to avoid both of these fee-fees because they lead to negative outcomes (ASD or Rejection.)

Instead, just like building pre-date attraction, you want to establish that you are a touchy person and it's natural to be touched before the date even happens. You want her to be comfortable with your touch -- if you can't even shake hands with her than how do you expect to thrust yourself into her?

So start small, and build it up. Two step forwards and one step back. This is what I mean:

When you first meet a new woman, shake hands with her right off the bat. Get her comfortable with your touch as soon as you introduce yourselves, the very first time you meet. When you make her laugh, playfully nudge her shoulder or arm. Then take it further, grab her hand or wrist while you're leading her somewhere and see how she reacts. If it's good, keep escalating, give her a hug next time you see her. If it's neutral or bad it means she isn't comfortable yet, so tone down your Kino. Playfully nudge her shoulder next time you two are laughing together.

Establishing touch and physical connection before the actual date makes the woman much more comfortable and receptive to your advances when you pull her to your venue, crib, wherever. It makes things easier.

Touch her soon and touch her often.

Invite Her Into Your Life

I am very busy, and I treat myself like my best friend. I have hobbies and goals, and I invite my friends to join me in them. This applies to girls as well. I don't plan crazy special dates for women, I just invite them to things I'm already doing or am planning on doing.

If I already like a certain bar, I'll invite her over there. If I wanted to go to the gun range next week, I'll tell her that her company would be nice to have. But either way, I'm going -- with or without her.

Take Her Somewhere That You Are Leading Her Or Showing Off Your Skills

Women want to be taught, to be lead, to be instructed and guided. I remember talking with one of my girl friends about how the guys that invite her out take her to places where she just sits and watches (mistake number 1) and sometimes embarrass themselves (mistake number 2).

You want to show off your best qualities, for me it's the gun range. Her and me in a private experience bubble, separated from other people. It's just her, me, and my baby. The entire time I'm guiding her into the right posture, moving her hips, shoulders, and back with my hands, touching her all over, getting close to her. Pointing her down the range, and giving her a hug when she hits a good shot. Teasing of course, "Thatta girl! You know I didn't expect you to be so good so fast!"

Then it's my turn. I take the gun and send 5 shots down range in quick succession in a tight grouping. Pull the target back and explain to her how I did what I did. Then give her a chance to try -- letting her start small at first.

Your place of leadership may be the bowling alley, mini golf, playing pool or throwing darts, the gym -- anything where you get to show off how great you are at something, and give her an opportunity to be led and guided by you. Notice all these suggestions are physical activities where you are doing things together.

If you're leading her right, she will want to make you proud, and you both should be having fun.

Take Her Somewhere Fun

Could you imagine taking a girl out to a political debate as your first date? What kind of non-sense would that be! Having fun combined with being a leader are the best elements of a date.

This element is self explanatory -- you want her to associate you with emotions, ideally positive ones, but negative emotions is better than boredom ( a discussion for another post).

You want to take her to a place she enjoys, but more importantly that you enjoy yourself, because your enjoyment feeds her enjoyment. She kind of gets a hint of how to feel based off how you are feeling, so if you go somewhere you don't even like yourself just to please her, then she's gonna feel creeped out.

So after the shooting range, I'll take us to a bar to chat and let her sip a little, then pull her on the dance floor and twirl her around a bit or something. I just have fun with it, you know?

Bounce Between A Few Venues

I don't just pull girls to my house anymore cus I got lots of ASD, and I don't just do one venue because I enjoy spending a lot of time out in the town. What I find works for me is 3 venues -- The main course, which is our physical activity together, the side dish, which is like grabbing a quick drink at a bar or going for a walk together, and finally the desert which is my house.

I find this just helps the women feel more comfortable and gives you plenty of opportunities for isolation, escalation, and helping her feel great about sleeping with you.

Give Her An Excuse To Come Over.

Yeah I'm sure guys out there could just say "Netflix and chill?" And get good reactions from a girl they just met, but as a former salesman, I learned people are way more likely to agree if you ease them into meetings and give them indirect reasons to agree.

Which do you think works better? Come over to my house to fuck, or, come over to my house lets cook and watch a movie together.

In sales, it's the difference between opening with "Hey, wanna buy this thing?" Versus saying "How long have you had that thing." The first gives her a chance for a hard and easy rejection, the second shows that you have social competence and can carry a persuasive conversation.

I've tried both, had success with both, however I had way more success with the second option, because instead of forcing the choice of having sex onto her, you're creating a situation where sex may occur, but if it does then it is your fault.

Continue Escalation Then Fuck Her Like There's No Tomorrow

By now, the girl is completely comfortable with your confidence and touch that you could put your hands wherever and stand as close as you want to her. Sometimes I bring girls over and we play wrestle until we're making out naked on the floor. Other times I bring them to cook, guide them as my hands are on their hips and my crotch is pressed against their ass. One things leads to another and we both wind up having a good time.

Tell, Wish, Kiss, Until

Tell her you had a great time, wish her a good night, kiss her, and tell her until next time.

When I do this versus when I just say "peace LOL" they reinitiate contact a majority of the time, and are always, at the very least, receptive to me reaching out to them again.

This also protects yourself if you do it over text, but you're not hanging out with women you need to protect yourself from, hopefully.

Either way, this lets them know you aren't just using them for sex (even if you are,) and that you think of them as a companion.

All of this is written from a guy who enjoys FWB's and LTR's more than ONS's and Plates. Maybe this wouldn't work for the latter two, but those type of relationships suck anyways. I only filter through plates to find FWB's and LTR's. I like intimacy. If you like intimacy and enjoy the dating game, this is what work(s) for me.

Deuces.