We all came here because we wanted the truth about what makes women tick in the department of sex but as time went on, I see more and more talk about TRP being a toolbox with things to give and take, such as making money and being successful, but still with the goal of having sex with a woman. We talk about self improvement as a way to get pussy but I believe there is much more to it than that, and that women/sexual strategy should not be the goal of TRP.

First, we have to understand what we can and cannot control in our lives. When we are young, more people have control over us and how we think (our parents, relatives, friends, the media etc). That control they exert over us SHOULD ideally wane as we get older and we think for ourselves but of course, the struggle we face is when we are given false information such as from our parents/relatives (ex. Happy wife, Happy life, etc) or the media (ex. the Disney blue pill nice guy narrative). Those giving us false information will also struggle to maintain that control over us as we get older and will keep feeding us lies in order to have influence over us.

Being young, we believe those things and live by those principles but then, we indirectly create expectations/covert contracts in our minds as to what life SHOULD be like vs what it actually IS. When we experience the truth and can’t understand why does Becky fall for Chad while you getting her flowers and treating her nicely puts you in the friend zone, it creates anger and is the source of a lot of incels nowadays.

As guys, we naturally want to have sex, much more than women for the most part. We find TRP and expose ourselves to the truth, with the goal of having sex. Some of us accept it fairly easily, others take time to process, and some may never believe it at all. We see what women respond to, then we go out and exercise those principles. But in this case, we again create expectations/covert contracts.

Relating to u/seasonedRP’s recent post about self improvement not being your sexual strategy, you are simply replacing what you think will work in getting sex (replacing being a nice guy with self improvement), and are not seeing the forest for the trees.

This is where we have to change what the definition of TRP should be. Yes, we as men want to have sex and it is very important, but it is not the whole picture. We have to understand what role and impact self improvement has in our lives and what it can do for us. How it can lead to an overall satisfaction with life. Stoicism can also help reinforce these truths and the bigger picture.

We were born alone and we will die alone, all we have is ourselves. We owe it to ourselves to be the best version we possibly can be, in all aspects of our lives, physically, socially, mentally, emotionally. This is what we CAN control.

By improving ourselves, we then improve our chances of enjoying the byproducts of that self improvement. Those byproducts being sex with women, having friends, making money, being successful etc etc. There is no guarantee we will get those things, but it puts us at a much better advantage. But we also have to understand what we can and cannot control because by understanding what we cannot control, we stop creating expectations/covert contracts and start understanding what is within our control.

Just like we say, she isn’t yours, it’s just your turn, we reinforce what we can and cannot control in a sexual strategy standpoint. We live this life and ride this roller coaster until it’s our time to leave this Earth in whatever fashion we may. This is where we must control what we can to improve our lives in general, not just for sex.

What TRP means to us has evolved and we should accept that the emphasis on self improvement must apply to more than just sexual strategy in order to increase our own happiness and satisfaction with life. We must understand and accept what we can and cannot control in our lives so that we live life by its true principles and not under the principles of someone/something else, in order to have overall happiness.