• Disclaimer: This is not a humblebrag or a successful lay. Just a record of a mediocre ( at best ) night that marks my first time going to a club since swallowing the pill.

Background: 19 years old, Indian, currently studying at a well known Canadian university. Stumbled upon this community about 3 months ago. Started lifting since then. Currently upgrading my wardrobe. Started talking to people I run into more.

The Plan: A couple of days ago, I went out with a couple of friends at night to "fish" on campus. This was pretty much my first time doing cold approaches of any sort. It kind of turned into more of exercise where we would ask random people where a certain landmark on campus was and get into a conversation from there. It was pretty good, ended up talking to ton of people and getting numbers from a group of cool guys. Today, we decided to try a variant of the same thing at a club.

Mindset: I was well dressed and ready to meet some new people. Read a bunch of field reports before going in and was mainly looking to confirm what the reports said in terms of peoples behaviours and shit that happens in a club.

Now, I have been clubbing before. But I would stick to my group of guys and would be generally disappointed or leave early when any poor attempts to pull failed. I like dancing, but since any attempts I make to pull would fall flat I would just have my fun for like 15 mins and leave the club. I intended to avoid this for tonight.

I wanted to try a "mysterious" and "interesting" approach, see how far I could take it. So I decided to open people with the fact that I'm a spy and I'm here to keep an eye on potential enemy targets in here. Sounds kind of dumb, but I wanted to try that angle and see how far I could take it.

The Club: We enter the club and the floor is empty. People are just starting to pour in. I get in the line for a drink. I'm alone at this point because one of my friends forgot his ID and the other one went to grab it with him.

Approach #1 : Couple of girls in front of me. Ask them how their night is, tell them the secret agent thing. They are mildly amused but not very receptive to my questions. So I stop talking and turn to a couple of girls behind me. Had a pretty great conversation, were receptive to the whole "secret agent" approach. They were here for a summer program. Talked about a bunch of shit - wasn't thinking too much about the whole push/pull thing. Stopped asking questions but I had them hooked. I turned away and they kept asking me stuff to keep the conversation going. Proves that girls will try to keep a conversation going if they're interested. Left them in a bit and introduced them to my other friends later at night.

Approach #2: My friends had come back by this time and found out the guys we met a couple of days here. Instant social proof - approached them, introduced myself to others around. A German girl was sitting beside them, wasn't part of their group but I introduced myself regardless. Approached her little after, did the agent thing. She humored me and played along but not too enthusiastic. Found out more about her, tried to get her to dance but she wanted to take a break. I left it at that and went back to dancing with the dudes. Tried going up to her once again, talk and grab her hand to dance. But she was into one of the dudes I met who was sitting beside her. Didn't see what went down between the two beforehand - but this dude is quiet, didn't dance much but was jacked. She left with the dude immediately afterward.

Approach #3: While dancing earlier saw an Indian girl that was part of the group of dudes. Introduced myself, tried dancing with her. Putting a hand on her hips, twirling her around. In retrospect, I could have escalated during this dance, but I was more focused on not tripping over myself lol. Talked to her a little more after, did the secret agent thing. She was not having it. "You're so bad at this." Exact words she said. Tried to change topics and told her how I randomly met those guys. I think she stopped believing me at this point and she slunk off again to the floor. I asked her later if she confirmed my story yet, but she said that she forgot about it.

At this point, I decided to leave before I could sense some expectations being built up in my head and I was not having any success. So before I started to feel disappointed and desperate, I peaced out.

Reflections: The secret agent thing was meh. Probably not gonna use it again. More kino. I'm working on talking to people without revealing too much about myself and seeming more charismatic. If I were a little drunk, I would probably be less self conscious about being more assertive. Talking too much and talking nonsense won't help too much - gotta reveal something to build comfort. Still not comfortable enough to just pull someone and start grinding. I'm going to keep lifting and working on my SMV to get to that point.

Overall, good night. Gonna go this club more often ( get to know bartenders, bouncers etc ) and do more of an observational thing. Talk less nonsense and more kino. Also, I need more of IDGAF and abundance mentality to shine through in conversation .