Field report (night lounge)...

GayLubeOil · 2016-07-17T04:00:52+00:00

I try to get her into an engaging conversation then after about 10 minutes I say: Wow it was super cool talking to you but [excuse to leave] we should definitely hang out later sounds like we have a lot we need to talk about. Then she volunteeres her number without me asking for help it.

All that touchy aggressive kino PUA bullshit doesn't work when your a 225 Russian muscle beast. My game has to be toned down.

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2016-07-16T20:05:13+00:00

My question to you guys is, when you first approach a girl do you just try to have a normal convo and then ask for the number or date later? Or should you get to flirting as soon as possible (telling her you find her sexy, sexual innuendo, touching etc.)?

You need to escalate early and let your intentions be known quickly.

Women have short attention spans. They don't want to talk. That bores them. It dries them up. Girls just want to have fun. If you aren't exciting them you are drying them.

While its nice you were able to approach, I cringed when reading about your actual conversations with these women. It's fine to build a little raport off the bat, but 5 minutes of just casual general conversation will have them drier than the Sahara.

Get to the point. Make your intentions known early. Open them, maybe spend a few sentences building rapport, and then escalate.

Think of it as a roller coaster. Would a roller coaster be fun if it were just a lift hill onto a flat path of track? No. That's what having general conversation is. There has to be a drop pretty quickly off the bat or otherwise the roller coaster is boring.

TRPBackpacker · 2016-07-17T01:12:02+00:00

I get straight to teasing them. Not flirting. Actually don't think about having sex, but think about wanting to know who they are and making fun of them every step of the way. Part of the polarization process.

Girls who wants to sleep with you will have a lot of fun and be very receptive. Girls who don't will just give you the stare of death as if saying internally: "How dare you say such thing to me."

This is the strategy I employ using only game and looks when my look is around 7 (after working out for 3 years). Before I got to 7 in looks, this never worked for me with this type of game.

The 8 and 9s have different game as I've tried some of the game they run myself. For example. A 9 in looks can ask a girl to hold hands and never get refused while I will certainly get refused, but if I used kino and just escalated slowly to holding hands without asking, I can do it.

Asking for number has never worked for me. But then again, I've never leveraged my status and finances when I approach girls. For some unknown reason in my own game, getting numbers and date seem to lead to nowhere for me or the girls seem to want to play the Long term relationship game and just date without sex.

Drawing from my own experience is all I can give you without knowing your circumstances. Your friend is a good friend by the way. But observe him. See if he set this up to pump you up. Or if he already know them and the girls just doesn't want to offend you. Some of these PUA instructors will often hire girls to pump up their students.

geeser42 · 2016-07-16T22:04:17+00:00

But it never cleanses itself of WHOREDOM.

The average male reddit poster thinks he is superior to we RED PILLERS but in fact he's no more than a CUCK. His wife/girlfriend has, in all likelihood, fucked Chads with more enthusiasm, in more positions, and in more holes than he will ever be gifted with.

The average male redditor is a BETA MALE getting tepid MAINTENANCE sex from his wife/gf. Once a woman WHORES herself out to Chad, she will ONLY be a whore for Chad. This angers betas and that's why they have to lash out at us, to have someone to feel superior to.

tldr: Raise your SMV or you will almost literally be invisible to women.

sillysally09 · 2016-07-17T01:48:01+00:00

You're doing a good job of removing your approach anxiety through desensitization. It sounds like you're still ruling yourself out too early though.

After 6-7 mins of talking I said..."Hey it was nice chatting with you...

Not sure why you excuse yourself to leave here? Interact with her until you are compelled by something other than your discomfort to leave. e.g. she excuses herself, asks you to leave, or you are bored.

Keep the conversation playful, touch her arm as you validate something she says, touch her on her back as you lean in to talk to her and then lean back out and assess her body language (push/pull). If you come in with the attitude that you want to fuck this girl, you will be framing the conversation in that context and you don't have to worry specifics in your conversation.

bodiwait · 2016-07-17T03:13:31+00:00

you should read up on goodlooking loser.

It's okay not to escalate verbally if you escalate physically from the start. ie by 5min you should be trying to kiss her and laughing it off if she rejects it.

EDIT: and trying again a couple of mins later. never stop trying, run the set to the ground and make her leave. that's rejection

666mafioso · 2016-07-17T03:38:50+00:00

"Like I don't know what would get me the best results... Any help?"

What do you consider to be the "best result"? The night you spent at the lounge bar you said you had the mindset of just loosening up and working on your game by conversing with women, and that is exactly what you achieved. As your journey to becoming an ALPHA is not an overnight expedition, learn when to take small successes (steps) and differentiate them from the failure to reach the end goal.

Treat this as you would when you're weightlifting. If your goal was to ultimately bench 225, and you increased your lift from 150 to 180, would you consider it a failure because you didn't hit 225 yet?

Take these experiences as good observations for future encounters, and continue working on yourself (such as lifting lol) to raise your confidence and SMV. Trust me brother, there is no magical phrase of words we can teach you that will make women drop their panties (unless they are fans of Harry Potter). It's ultimately in YOUR power to decide what you're going to achieve and when you do succeed, the fruit will taste all that much sweeter. I am NOT telling you to get comfortable and be content with just talking to strangers. Understand and perceive the bigger picture and know that this can be a step to achieving what you ultimately desire. Use that momentum. Cheers.

WillyWonka321 · 2016-07-17T15:12:36+00:00

The thing I like about the interactions was they were coming out of a place of outcome independence.(I'm guessing that's the opposite of outcome dependence).Good things can happen when you have this mindset.Go out and get rejected again.

unicorn-carousel · 2016-07-17T19:52:07+00:00

For the rest of the night I just kept approaching, both men and women. I'm trying to be more social with everyone, not just women. Most if not all girls were very receptive and very nice. It's almost as if I was scared of nothing this whole time.

I take this approach when I go out. If somebody is offput by a stranger talking to them, I had always thought it was their problem. The other night a friend told me I need to look more, makes lots of sense, gotta thank him next time I see him. We're all in it to win, how can I help a person win? Some people are out and don't want to be bothered, that's cool too. I want to do that sometimes too. Read. I need to focus on reading more. I started off with it, but forgot it with confidence. Thanks OP.

Title	Field report (night lounge)...
Author	TheLonerMan
Upvotes	7
Comments	47
Date	July 16, 2016 7:53 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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