Okay, something happened last week. We are sitting in a pub around a table. The people here are: 2 men, me and another italian guy, typical wannabe beta that wants to be alpha. Skinny, untrimmed beard and glasses. Dressed academical. 6 girls, four europeans, one indian and one chinese.

Okay, little bit about me, i am not the tallest guy in the world (1.76 m) but fit and in good shape, and more important, in a relationship and not trying to be predator.

Already after 15 minutes its really easy for me to talk to the table, having a good time. Clearly the italian guy does not like that i am the one that is the man that talks, and not him. Now the guy asks me where i am from.. I say Denmark. The italian guy stops up and asks loudly "you do not look Danish, where are you really from?"

Now, understand that this is not a polite question you ask people, especially not people you like. Because nordic people are seen basically as aryans (high, blond hair, muscles and athletic) it is basically an insult,

I reply "that a rude question to ask is it not?" The guy then replies "no i dont think so, i just think that you do not look like a danish". Now the table reacts. The indian and the asian clearly look at him strange. (Both the asian and indian girl are raised in Denmark so probably understand it.) I leet him of the hook and we continue the night. The asian girl asks me what i do. I tell that i was working now, after studying and serving in the army in Afghanistan (that is true).

Now you can clearly look at the face of the italian guy when he hears it, he reacts with a combination of disgust and suprise. He clearly saw me as a person under him in the hierachy, and that i do not fit into a setting as a former military person. I am starting to get pissed of and says "yeah, i believe that it is a duty to help people in need all around the country. Dont you agree?" i ask the italian guy. He mumbles something about "I did not serve."

We do not talk any more to eachother throughout the night. However i see that he speaks to the asian girl. I grab the word and challenge the table, if i can not tell the main beer in their country i buy them a beer. I get them all right and all laugh and claps, exept the italian guy who just says "you looked at internet on your phone did not you?" I just smile.

I wait to the night starts to come to a end. The asian girl and the italian is still talking. I go around and asks the asian girl if she is going my direction. She says yes and then asks if she wanna take the bus together. She agrees. I knew from earlier that the guy lives in another direction. I just smile at him and says "you are going in another direction right?". He noods angrily. As we leave the bar i make a joke that makes her laugh, making sure that the italian guy hears it.

As i am in a relationship i take the bus together and say goodbye at the bus-stop.

Now here is the deal. Wannabe Alphas will go for one girl and compete for her with another wannabe Alpha. A real Alpha does not does that, he lets the girl compete for him, he does not need to drag down another guy. If another guy gets the girl a real alpha just goes to another girl. What i discover is that wannabe alphas wants to ridicule the competition, they want to drag people they believe is not on their level down, because they believe that the girl is the prize, not the playing field. However it is really easy to avoid this as this wannabe alphas can not control their emotion and irritation.

I have seen this many times before also, the wannabe alphas that actually goes the gym often uses physique to immidate or put down others. Like "funny" lifting them up etc. The person i meet thought that since he was taller and "more academic" he could drag me down with ridiculous ism and attacks on my confidence. However a real alpha does not care, a real alpha has the confidence throughout good training, social built up skills to not let those things go in.