Foreword

Please forgive the post's disjointed nature, I had to type it on a mobile at work over the course of 2 hours.

Summary: Plate and potential LTR violates only restriction I have for her, cut her loose, and forgive her for her transgression.

Bodeh:

Establishment

My top plate (21) for the last few months recently violated the one restriction I had set for our "relationship:" that while she can see other people, she cannot do anything sexual with people from my own social group. Besides a respect thing, I also didn't want to know the snivelling man children or feebleminded dudebros she found herself attracted to. She's a dumb, young girl with very little sexual (or life) experience due to being raised by a narcissistic helicopter mom in a very affluent and secluded half suburb half rural area.

She was beginning to show positive signs of being LTR potential, and had recently begun coming with me to the gym for the purpose of making her butt tighter for my enjoyment. She's a tall, thin blonde with very large tits for her frame, but lacks the kind of butt I crave. Two weeks ago she asked me, after about 6 months of top-plate status, "what we were." After some moments of consideration, I told her she was "my number one lady," and explained to her the benefits and deference that afforded her. She didn't really like it as she wants an LTR, but I wasn't quite sure she was right for it, which turned out to be right...

Premonitions and The Event

About four weeks ago she started hanging out with this guy on the periphery of my social circle, we'll call him Joe. Though I know him well, and have for a long time, he once got mad at me over a situation involving a piece of pussy, and has held a hard grudge since. At first they hung out at group events when I wasn't around, then she made mention to me her and Joe had hung out one on one. I told her

"I'm not going to tell you to not hang out with him, just be aware that attractive people of the opposite sex don't hang out without something sexual happening. That is our nature as humans. You know the rules, so tread lightly."

She assured me nothing would happen, and I steeled myself for what I knew was coming. Sure enough, at a party last Friday, I arrived somewhat late. Both he and her were at the party and I felt something was off. I couldn't put my finger on it, but I felt it in my core.

I went off and had a good time anyway. I had some humorous interactions with a former plate (inadvertently making her cry) and saw some people I'd not in a little bit. Overall good time. During the interim, however, the feeling grew stronger and, combined with the alcohol in my system, lead to a very intense anger that was directed at my then top plate. I made as much of the fact, letting her know I knew something was up, and demanded she leave immediately and meet back at my place.

And so she did.

Revelation and The Cut

Got back to my place and we started fooling around. She was not forthcoming with any of the information, so I pretended I already knew that they had been sexual ("I know you guys have been fooling around, do you forget I know everything?") and she swiftly admitted to it. She'd done some advanced high-school-level fooling around by making out and fondling one another (he's 26, I'm 27 for reference) on two separate occasions.

Exerting an effort to suppress the violence that comes with those white-hot flashes of anger, I calmly told her to leave. She started crying and begged to stay. I broke frame and told her she could but had to sleep on the couch. Ended up succumbing to her tears and fucked her before falling asleep silently. Awoke the next morning, told her I would call her when I wanted to see her, and left.

I immediately deleted her number from my phone and erased any means of finding it again.

Two days ago (This passed Thursday, 5 days after we last spoke) she calls me saying she needs to talk and I allow her to come over. I'd already committed to a quiet night (smoking a cigar and drinking some gin on my porch) but I had experienced some anxiety and anger since I cut her off and figured this would help.

It did. She spent much of the time crying and being frustrated as I explained (with composure) why it meant we were through, how she will never be allowed to call what she did a "mistake" (because mistakes are volitionless), and how she needs to learn her that her momentary wants are fluid and rarely align with her long-term desires. In the moment, she wanted to fool around with Joe than she wanted to continue with our relationship. She tried to use her limited vocabulary to explain why she did it, and I walked her through the reasons. She was looking for validation from me when she asked what we were a few days before fooling around with him, and when she didn't get it she went looking elsewhere.

She begged and pleaded to work it out, bargained to be "just fuckbuddies, no strings attached," and made a touching scene. In the end she gave me an enthusiastic bj, tried for anal, and left crying in the morning. The whole situation has not only made me feel immensely more at ease about jettisoning her , but has also allowed me to forgive her.

Lessons Learned:

By relating the above story I'm trying to show that it's possible to be wronged, maintain your boundaries, and still forgive someone for their transgressions. My (now former) top plate crossed a line that there is no coming back from, and she will receive no further validation from me, but in forgiving her for her immature actions, I can remove all emotion from the equation.

I will see her again at social functions, maybe I'll see her with Joe, but the point in I have been made able to completely let-go of any anger I felt about the situation by understanding why she made that choice; so I can be cordial, indifferent, and polite.

Maybe she didn't respect my word and thought she could get away with it, maybe she (like many women) are so overcome by their momentary desires that she didn't think about the consequences, or maybe she (again, like many women) has never been held accountable for her actions before.

Forgiveness is in no way a loss, and it does not mean the other party will not have to pay for their actions.