Fresh in the rabbit hole

WolfenSatyr · 2015-08-04T14:38:34+00:00

You've admitted to still being BP, yet you want to jump into "fresh ass".

You've jumped from one relationship to another, only to have them end the same way.

No my friend, there is no help for you until you read the sidebar and take the time to internalize the change. There's a reason why there's a monk mode.

GuitarsAreGettingOld · 2015-08-05T19:23:22+00:00

Asked her out so we can talk through it without text.

And that's where you fucked up.

You did ok before that.

Then she tells you that she loves you and misses you, and bam you immediately cave in.

She gives you the tiniest bit of affection and you go from "I have already broken this off, I don't care about you at all" to "okay, you are so important, I think we should talk this through." Now she knows how easy you are to manipulate and you appear weak.

On top of that: "Talking things through" is bullshit most of the time.

mydearboy · 2015-08-04T15:20:29+00:00

Thank you very much. My problem seems to be that I eventually cave in and fall for women. I set myself up as a well groomed, above average looking guy with confident posture. More often than not I talk about my dreams and aspirations, and the means I will go through to achieve them. I tease women mercilessly (by being flirty and playful), and call them out on any bullshit they give me or lies they try to spoonfeed me. I dump toxic relationships on the spot after I notice the red flags. I have a great foundation to become an embodiment of TRP philosophy, but it all seems to crumble after a few months. I begin to care, and they talk me into a relationship. Then I become this codependent slob and realize the crippling fear of infidelity indirectly. I'm sick of it. I am tired of being afraid to lose women. And it all stems from the first fase of being cheated on. The saddest part is that they always come back after the act. Maybe because I am good in bed (I've heard this from more sources), or that they simply find out that the grass isn't greener. I don't know... I'm just tired of women taking away the mystery and obvious power I had in the beginning and turn it around against me. It always happens no matter which precautions I take. Which indicated that there's a fundemental flaw in either my character or approach.

Deapluv · 2015-08-04T15:34:13+00:00

Have you ever heard that expression "wherever you go, there you are..." Unless you change yourself you will keep bringing the same results with women.

For practical advice: start with monk mode. No dating, tinder, girls, nothing, only minimal socializing for 1 month. Take this time to read voraciously, lift, meditate and go for hikes, or play music. Reflect on yourself.

A lot of people are quick to put boundaries on what behaviour they will tolerate in others, when really you should start with what behaviour you will tolerate in yourself. Some easy rules to apply as you come out of monk mode are 1. No seeing any one girl more than once a week 2. No "date" with a girl until you have gone on a date with another girl And 3. No fucking her again until you've fucked another girl.

Keep working on yourself and your frame and you'll do fine.

mydearboy · 2015-08-04T14:41:28+00:00

That's why I have come here. To seek help and cleanse my personality. This is my first tread on reddit altogether; I have never visited this page before in my life. I still don't know what a sidebar is nor how this works. I appreciate your criticism.

redpillspeeddate · 2015-08-04T17:11:56+00:00

Ask TRP has lots of this and please read the side bar. You have much to learn.

Title	Fresh in the rabbit hole
Author	mydearboy
Upvotes	5
Comments	18
Date	August 4, 2015 2:23 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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