Gentleman, we all have been beta. We all have our cringe stories. Let me tell you how dread changed my LTR that I thought was doomed
My SO which I will call Jenny is an only child. Went of college and got her teaching degree. Dated a guy from the army that was physically abusive and emotionally (no TRP type) but the you're a filthy cunt type.
Anyways I met her 2 years ago and I was beta through and through. As we started seeing each other more I was getting shit tested and kept failing. I would always end up putting my guard down when we would argue and say it's my fault and give in. The sex was medicore (keep in mind I was beta and thought begging was normal)
Dudes I was fucking cringe, I would try to feel her up and fuck I probably looked creepy as shit doing it. Glad no one filmed me during this time. I posted to relationships under a different account and asked for advice. Everyone said, "talk to her, she doesn't know". So I did and it never changed
Then I stumbled across TRP because somebody was bashing it. Little faggot. I read it a few times and thought these guys are just macho gym rats, love will save my relationship. NOOOOPPPPEEE. So about a year ago I gave in and saw TRP light. First tip was focus on me. I went to the sort of as a beta, but then after reading post and the sidebar, I started hitting it hard. The first time I woke up at 4am to go I get a text at 430 from her (she normal sleeps until 7) asking where I was.
Her: Where are you so early?
Me: Gym
Her: Why?
Me: For me
Her: Oh, Ok
I don't reply. I get home and shes up and about and I blow her off, I give her a small kiss, hop in the shower and head to work. I do this for about a week, double gym sessions and making a better me. Well about 6 days into this I am on the couch, she walks in and says something she has never said "you want to come upstairs and have sex"
So obviously this is working, but wait there's more. Later that night she said, "why are you acting all macho all of a sudden." I said, "because I got results, I just proved a point, I started working on me and becoming a better man and you initiated sex for the first time" Here was her first shit test, she responds "really CuntyMcFagNuts69, I was proud of myself for initiating" (She was trying to make it sound like she put in the work, Normally beta me would have said you're right, but me and my frame said) "You know that's not true so just stop"
Shit test Two: Here come the water works. I just lay in bed and she says "Are you saying you don't want me" (Beta me would have said No that's not what I meant) I said "Jenny, I talked to you countless times about our no sex, no results, it never work and we weren't having sex" She says "what are you saying?" Boys this was my proudest moment in awhile I say calmly "Jenny, my needs aren't being met, there's the door, if you don't meet my needs you need to use the door, then after you leave I going to go find someone that can"
This was the first time I let it be known I wasn't tied to her. I have options and now she knows. Just this last Tuesday she went to a city 2 hours away to see her old girlfriends and guy friends from college. Normally she stays until late and then drives home. So after the gym I decide to hit a bar for a beer and watch some hockey. I get a text
Her: What are you up to?
Me: At the bar up the road
Her: Are you ok
Me: Yeah doing great, meeting some great people here (which I did)
Her: Cool, thats fun
2 minutes later and I shit you not
Her: I'm heading home, Ill see you soon ;)
She never leaves her friends early, she rarely sees them, I made a subtle hint I found people to hang out with (some chicks) and she could sense it
TL;DR Dread works if you do it right
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