Help transitioning from being the biggest beta ever.

bitterRedpills · 2015-04-16T09:13:29+00:00

For me it took a more severe and prolonged depressive period wherein I was actively contemplating how to shuffle off this mortal coil as I felt so utterly worthless and that pretty much every area of my life was in such a complete state of shit that digging myself out even if successful, still wouldn't be worth living in.

The more rational side of me, realising this is bullshit for someone who back when I was younger, was always praised for my potential(surely they weren't ALL wrong, I figured) went and got a short-term prescription (with suitable supervision from my psychiatrist) for anti-depressants which provided me with a kind of kick in the ass that knocked me out of my rut and gave me some periods of clarity of thinking and allowed me to see my life from a different perspective.

I can't remember exactly what post I was reading on the front page but it was probably something hilarious/soul destroying from TwoX or Relationships and someone mentioned TRP.

After reading a bunch of field reports and some of the core theory I realised that so much of it described me and my life and my thinking so perfectly and the FR's from people who could and did and were changing lit a fire in me.

How do you start your transition? You need the fire.

We don't light it for you. This is where the information is. How you use that information - if you use that information - is entirely up to you.

tomhrxbfg · 2015-04-16T06:19:00+00:00

It's OK bro. I had it worse than you, I'm 25 now and just found about this sub. I was conditioned into beta from an early age (I get LJBF all the time cause girls want me to do their hw). IMO you have to have the belief that you are the shit. You are the one. Now everyday seems better and has a purpose for me, because I can improve and I don't live on the opinion of some female suckers. I became much more confident in a few days and people actually treat you with respect. Respect yourself first, and others will do so accordingly.

I'm a firm believer if you want it, nobody can prevent you from achieving that. Now you have the knowledge, go for it.

PS: I know if you have some kind of status (for me it's the top nerd of the school) it would be easier than starting from scratch, but such is life and you have to fight back. Be strong.

protoss--OP · 2015-04-16T08:08:04+00:00

youre like a red zone case, my best advice would be go to the gym daily and hopefully you can make friends with a guy there and he can help you out because you'll need a lot of work

other than that, read the sidebar. stop being a loser, if you have the loser mentality you wont succeed at anything. so with your workouts, your schoolwork, your relationships, you need to do your absolute best every time and you'll start to succeed. this will eventually become easier as it will become a habit.

stop being shy, join groups or clubs and go out and talk to whoever. if you have seen the movie 'yes man', be like that for a little while. don't turn down an opportunity to do anything, you never know what you'll gain from them and it's not like you have anything going on right now.

you can ask for all the help you want, and people here can write essays for you. but the bottom line is if you want it, you'll succeed. if you don't, no amount of shit written here will help you. even if nobody responded, if you want it bad enough you'll figure it out with the information already out there and with trial and error

so it's really up to you. you're at a fork in a road, one path is beta bitchass loser town, the other is alpha winning town. go ahead and pick, because it really is that simple

hcMind · 2015-04-16T10:11:25+00:00

I don't remember who said this but it applies the best: You need to sacrifice your old self to become who you want to be. Remember that you have mindfucked yourself into that position you're in right now. Recognize and break those patterns. Only you have the power.

Something to start from: read the sidebar, read on stoicism, stop watching porn, stop consuming entertainment and start meditating. Maybe you could try Monk Mode in the summer.

jm51 · 2015-04-16T12:55:10+00:00

Getting good grades at college is worth $x over the next 30 years to you. You have y days left to study. Therefore each day available to study has a potential value to you of x/y dollars. Yet you choose not to bother. Fucking up your education isn't red pill.

Better no friends then hanging out with assholes. Volunteer for something you think needs to be done. At worst, some good to others comes of it and your fellow volunteers are less likely to be assholes. At best you make good friends and start to feel good about yourself.

aa223 · 2015-04-16T16:54:14+00:00

Well I know where you are coming from and I also know the first and easiest thing you can fix.

I have 2 sisters who have dated some pretty shitty guys, so as a young kid, the first thought u come to is "thats never gonna be me" and subconsciously, you remember that.

Im less depressed now, im working out regularly, but now I just dont care at all about anything. My grades are pretty horrible, im lonely as hell, all my like 4 friends are assholes, and I just dont care.

When I read these two sentences, it feels like a teenage girl wrote those things. Now I'm not saying you need perfect grammar or punctuation and I'm not even asking you to put big obscure words, but at least fix your sentences so it feels like an adult is typing them. Basically when you type up a post or when you message people ask yourself if you could type like that in an essay for class. If your posts and replies read as if a mature person typed them, your grades for when you type those papers will go up. I know this is a stupid thing to criticize you for but believe me in the long run you will be thankful that your typing is more mature and because you type at that level, potentially you will also act more mature.

RichieFinn · 2015-04-17T10:15:09+00:00

I have 2 sisters who have dated some pretty shitty guys, so as a young kid, the first thought u come to is "thats never gonna be me"

I just dont care at all about anything.

I wasn't assertive enough to demand being treated better.

Now I dont know how to do it. I spend most of my time in my room playing video games because im too nervous and shy to talk to people,

Wanna list off any more excuses before you actually FORCE yourself to change. No one can make you anything else, only you. This post is a start, but until you start acting the opposite NOTHING will change. Thats the end of it really.

Witchfinder__General · 2015-04-17T20:18:50+00:00

You have to read "No More Mr. nice Guy" by Ribert Glover and DO ALL the Breaking Free Activities.

https://7chan.org/lit/src/Robert_Glover_-_No_More_Mr_Nice_Guy.pdf

Title	Help transitioning from being the biggest beta ever.
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Date	April 16, 2015 5:48 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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