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How does a guy like me go about getting a girlfriend

bcbm

September 26, 2014
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Title How does a guy like me go about getting a girlfriend
Author

bcbm

Upvotes 1
Comments 11
Date September 26, 2014 9:40 PM UTC
(11 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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Comments

[–]Position5hero5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

ok so

  1. cold approach a girl

15-30 seconds of banter

get that number

leave

step 2. wait 1-2 days send these texts

  1. Yo it's bcbm

  2. word hows your day

  3. you looking to chill tonight

IF NO

  1. i bet I could show you a better night

IF STILL NO

  1. if you want something good hmu when you're free and i'll let you know if I got plans

irregardless of what she sends just send those texts

You're gonna want to harvest as many numbers as you can each day so you can fire off all texts the next night or two from the numbers you got a few days before

Then pick the best looking plate that wanted to chill and go fuck her

[–]jtz2 3 points3 points3 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

This is like giving nuclear rocket launch instructions to an intern.

How about he starts by reading the sidebar. Hit the gym, increase your SMV. Learn outcome independence. Talk to as many girls as you can. Practice. You will fail, frequently. Eventually the sting will wear off and you will get more comfortable.

Personally I used Tinder to work on my text message game and cold approaches to work on my in-person game. A year later, totally different story. But don't go into this thinking you're going to hit a home run at your first at-bat.

[–]MaxPower61 point2 points3 points 11 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link

Agree. If he doesn't have inner game he's just going to get blown out like those pathetic journals on So Suave. Lift heavy weights. It will build confidence.

[–]bcbm[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I'm a reasonably confident person and I already workout and keep myself in good shape.

[–]jtz21 point 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

No offense, but I would doubt your characterization of 'reasonably confident' due to the tone of your post. If you were reasonably confident you wouldn't be playing the 'woe is me' card. Just being brutally honest.

[–]jsl2837 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

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What is this?

[–]MaxPower60 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

This is the best advice after lifting

[–]Locastor1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Are you the same OP from the INTJ forum?

http://intjforum.com/showthread.php?t=133710

[–]Science_isthenewcool1 point 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

I would say that's an affirmative.

[–]tombreck2 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You need to focus on yourself first. Be the best man that you can be and then women will naturally be attracted to you.

[–]BrunoOh0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

My only other option for meeting girls is cold-approaching.

Then do it.

The problem is that I absolutely detest the idea of chatting up random strangers, and for most girls, a random guy hitting on them is just going to be another annoyance in their day anyway.

Why do you care if some random chick thinks you're odd?

So what am I supposed to do?

Sidebar.

I have numerous male acquaintances, IE guys I play sports with or do class projects with, but I wouldn't consider any of them to be a 'friend'.

Then upgrade them. Organize a nights out, a bbq, go to the gym together. Whatever. Hell, you could even do a lan party. Transition them into people you hang out and have fun with.

Do you have a job? If you don't, go work in retail, bar, restaurant or any other public place. These are great places for talking to random strangers (after all, that's part of your job). As an added bonus, they tend to have high staff turnover, and thus offer great opportunities in terms of dating.

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