How has TRP impacted your relationship with your mom or sister(s)?

FrogTrainer · 2014-08-21T21:38:48+00:00

With my sisters, not at all. I actually look up to both of them, they are badasses. They were both STEM majors, were never afraid of boys, never played the victim card. Never bought into the fem-nazi bullshit. Both in happy marriages with dudes I am proud to call bros. And yes, they are actually both pretty good looking girls. I credit my parents for not wanting either of them to be the dependent type. Both were very well established and independent BEFORE marriage.

With my mom, if you exclude my dad, I would say no, nothing has changed. Since putting on my red pill lenses I can see changes in my dad over the years. I think at some point he "gave up". He can easily be the "yes dear/happy wife happy life" kinda guy.

Dreamtrain · 2014-08-21T21:53:12+00:00

I'm much more conversational with my mother, the times i've dropped her red pill truths she agrees and she advises me/complements the conversation with her own share of RP truths, the kicker here is a good chunk of my BP tendencies were taught to me by her when she was raising me.

I don't have sisters, but my best friend is a uber feminist and I see her like a sister. I feel she respects me more but there hasn't been that much change.

angryuser_trp · 2014-08-22T03:38:26+00:00

I always tried to understand them, my mother and sister. Somehow help, explain how they should do things instead. After swallowing TRP I just started seeing things differently and stopped giving a fuck.

Mother is too foregone. In a lot of ways she's an example of what not to do in life. Divorced, three dogs, several cats and two beta dudes in one house. I shit you not I've never met guys with as low self-respect as them. The fact that they tolerate themselves and share one old fat and silly woman just speaks for itself. Upside is I don't have to financially support her as those two guys are willingly taking care of that... In my mother's case TRP helped me to stand up for my own views ,ideals and opinions before her and as a result she started to respect me instead of treating me like her little boy.

My dear sister is a younger version of my mother in a lot of (bad) ways which is hardly surprising since she's haven't had proper feminine role model in her youth. And on top of that I'm assuming she suffers from complex of being in my shadow all the time, but then again what would she expect when she never does what I advise her to do (and I've never given her ill-intended advice). So considering her deaf ears, not giving a fuck about her life helped save my time and nerves. Ironically, not trying to regularly talk sense into her resulted in less fighting between us, thus bettering the otherwise non-existent relationship. I'm still hoping she wises up, but she's too deep in her emotions and too outta touch with rational thinking. She's only got a few more years to hit the Wall, curious how she reacts once that happens.

tl;dr: TRP didn't magically "fix" my mother and sister, but made me stop buying their shit and stop trying to fix that which refuses to be helped, which ironically resulted in an our relationships improving

TheReason13 · 2014-08-22T12:55:59+00:00

My fathers main personality trait is narcissism, and as such my sister and I show clear signs of predominantly narcissistic personalities. This of course paints a picture of the relationship between my father, sister and I, it is one of tolerance. My father was authoritarian and self serving, he used threats and physical aggression to get his way. He never praised us for our accomplishments and would belittle and shame us for the most trivial mistakes.

My sister is now a lesbian, I can't blame her as there were never any positive, strong male figures in my household. She became increasingly masculine and started fights with men fearlessly, including me, and I would never retaliate. At one occasion she started a fight with a man and got knocked the fuck out, I mean this guy flattened her with one punch. My father noticed the bruises the following day and berated me for not standing up for her, she had this to say, "What help would he be?" At that moment I realized that she didn't see me as a man, and had no respect for me as her brother.

I've only found and claimed my masculinity within the last two years. I can without a doubt testify to the change in attitude I've received from my father and sister and I have only TRP to thank for that. I am eternally indebted to Barbarossa, Stardusk and PsychologicalCynic, their teachings gave me the tools to mend my family's wounds, and grab my family's demons by the throat. I've used TRP to obedience train my father like a dog, I have gradually made him dependent on the money I make, and he knows the consequences should he not comply. This makes me just like him and it disgusts me, but there is no other way to keep his poisonous ways in check. Its all he understands.

My sister has come around nicely, when I started reclaiming my family from my poisonous father she resisted me furiously. Without going into detail she eventually came to me seeking compromise. I rejected this out rite and demanded absolute submission to me, which she accepted days later. It took a long time to get her to this point, and put huge stress upon my mother, a soft hearted woman. The fruits of all that laborious work is worth every sacrifice if I look at the state of my family today.

I can see the different way my father and sister look at me, a look of pure undiluted respect. Its strange, how much suffering one must go through to gain this kind of respect. If I never learned to maintain frame I would have caved half way through, or compromised. My family was the only care I had in this world, and after I used TRP to fix myself I fixed my family, and I am finally happy. I have nothing more weighing on my mind, and am content. Today, I shower my mother with whatever she wants, and make them work for what they need. They know why.

My mother is the rock that held my family together, I thank God for her, without her we would have made the papers. Front page and obituary section. I never understood why in red hell a woman like my mother chose to marry my father, but TRP philosophy made sense of this for me. Dark triad and all that.

red_gerb · 2014-08-21T22:47:54+00:00

indifferent. Mom informed and instructed me best she could with her viewpoint; from a females point of view. It was with good intentions, just wrong. The nurturing was A+ without the smothering.

It was a discussion last year that opened my eyes. She thinks a marriage is 50/50. Her Hamster covered over the religious COMMAND of 'submit'. Quite the eye opener from religious Baby Boomer Mom. Her 60's feminist brainwashing was just under the surface, all these decades. I just never knew! My Beta father, well - that's another story. off scope of the question asked above.

HeadingRed · 2014-08-22T01:14:19+00:00

Better able to manage my sister (and understand how I will be providing for her financially for her in her old age). In my younger days I was jealous- she stayed in school, got degrees and certifications, etc. She was quite fat but still had a ton of guys around here.

Now in her 40's I see she had youth and a willingness to embrace pretty much any alt\fringe culture to become a part of the group where she would be desired. The men she hung around were either serious loosers or treating her as a FWB\rebound girl.

Publicly she would say "I don't want to be tied down" but on occasion says and I can say she laments not having a steady guy. The education was not put to good use and the ability to eak out a meager living while doing whatever she wanted has lead to a 40-something woman with very few marketable skills.

So how is the relationship different? I have realistic expectations of her. This makes me better at being able to help without getting hurt financially or emotionally. And although my mother is gone I now see how some of the road my sister is on is hers as well.

thenowhereman36 · 2014-08-22T05:40:03+00:00

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somethingxsomething · 2014-08-22T14:34:33+00:00

"you have no respect"

"Weird, I thought my mother would have taught me better then that" - Cue shit eating grin

lloopy · 2014-08-22T15:11:26+00:00

My sister went to college for her mrs degree. She got it, and has been married since. Her oldest son is 24, so she's been married 24 years, 3 kids total.

Because of trp, I feel she has completely fulfilled her end of the bargain. I totally respect that.

WillClickOnAnything · 2014-08-22T18:44:50+00:00

Not much really as I was pretty much TRP already with any women I wasn't into sexually before swallowing the pill. But it sure illuminated the reasons behind their behavior. Dad died about ten years ago and I pretty much stepped into his leader role. I've since treated them like the mental teenagers that they are. It's easier to avoid fights with my sister since I now know calling her on her bullshit is a waste of time.

P.S. I've discussed TRP ideology with my mother (73yrs old) in detail and she loves it and wished the world was still like what she remembered from the 50s. Her words, "Oh lord that was so much better!"

rvj01 · 2014-08-22T20:11:28+00:00

Single mother, step-mother, and 3 step-sisters, I will leave it at that.

Title	How has TRP impacted your relationship with your mom or sister(s)?
Author	Birdoftruth
Upvotes	12
Comments	18
Date	August 21, 2014 9:30 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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