The problem with internalizing a new paradigm is that they are difficult to believe just based on a book or an essay. A short story may cause you to question your previously held set of beliefs, but that doesn't mean that you will internalize any of the changes that you read. The unavoidable doubt that accompanies the knowledge of a new paradigm can only be eradicated through experience.

This doesn't mean taking a passive approach and observing an action with a new mindset at a distance while attempting to make conclusions. At any moment, a passive observation can be made, but the mind will naturally cast doubt on the new observation and attempt to rationalize the observation away or fit it into it's previously held understanding. In order to eradicate doubt and fully internalize a new way of perceiving the world, action must be forced while actively monitoring and predicting outcomes based on your actions.

This concept applies to many aspects in life, but as an example, let's start with a well known, but difficult to accept concept: women use men (including you) as orbiters to get what they want without any desire to truly reciprocate any intimacy. The concept is pretty straightforward. But, until you have been an orbiter and have actively felt it firsthand, you can never fully appreciate the concept.

In order to teach yourself to fully understand the depth of your misconception (i.e. the misconception being that acting as an orbiter does lead to intimacy), you need to become an orbiter, or recognize where you are already behaving as an orbiter, and decide to make the wrong moves --to continue being an orbiter, knowing fully well that you will never receive intimacy from the relationship. You should recognize and use the fact that you are being used in order to find the activation mechanism of why you allow yourself to be used. The flashing of her eyes, the flipping of the hair, the touching on the arm, the teasing, pretending you're funny, etc. Find out what makes you want to do them favors for "free." Observe yourself. This is how you break out of the frame - by choosing to remain in their frame as an actor. At some point your emotional mind will no longer be able to override the results that your logical mind is realizing. You become an actor in your own orbiter relationship just by changing your perception and your sincerity.

In other words, you will encompass her frame within a frame of your own because you are able to step outside of yourself. Besides you, no one, not even her, will realize what is occurring. It is a slow and torturous method of killing your inner beta. Rather than mentally wrestling with new concepts and struggling to determine the truth as you traverse between the emotional and logical parts of your mind, throw yourself under the bus, fully aware of the pain that will ensue. This works because you force the emotional part of your brain to be overtaken by the logical part of your brain. You force your own hamster off it's wheel.

So, the next time you are hanging out with your friend without future benefits and you start thinking about how she's an amazing goddess of purity, then go ahead and buy her a gift or invite her for ice cream or coffee or whatever virgins do, but at some point, subtly imply some sexual innuendo. But, as you do, fully accept and anticipate that she will shut it down or shame you for it. The point is to force yourself to recognize the frame that you are in. Later, when you go home alone you can choose to either laugh or cry about it, it's up to you.

Perhaps it seems like this is an unnecessary amount of work. But, going cold turkey on your existing relationships because of some essay you read is irrational and you won't internalize anything. Or, you could attempt to force a change on your current relationships to become the way you want, but, the issue is that everyone will subconsciously fight with you in order to keep you the same. But, if you turn the problem inside out by knowingly attempt to fail by doing what you've always done, but actively knowing that you will fail according to a newly realized paradigm, the new concepts fall into place with little effort. You can worry about improvement later, this stage is all about understanding how and why you let yourself be used.

It is very entertaining to watch a woman's hamster spin in realtime. You can simultaneously confirm that you're in the friend zone while shattering the hope that one day you will break out of it with intimacy as a parting gift. The idea is to force a connection between the parts of your brain that refuses to accept what you already logically know: that you're continually doing the wrong thing with the wrong girl to find intimacy. Once this connection is made, ending the relationship becomes your natural instinct.

Your failure becomes a success in terms of learning because you have created a new frame that has stepped out of hers. Eventually, you will learn to recognize the universal cues that women are using to keep you in their orbit. Once you have fully internalized this concept, you'll never enter the friend zone again because you will see her kindness for what it really is: giving you as a little as possible while maximizing your usefulness to her as a beta male.