Hypergamy

KishCom · 2013-02-04T18:05:23+00:00

I witnessed her do things to him that she's never been willing to do for me.

Ugh. Right in the feels.

Trust77 · 2013-02-04T18:01:28+00:00

Yeah, that kid is totally not his.

Ouch.

dreamingawake09 · 2013-02-04T18:04:00+00:00

Hey at least the comments are all speaking common sense. Dude needs to get the hell out of that bullshit.

I do dislike how he feared in being that "stereotypical jealous husband" bs. You protect and guard what is yours from outsiders, especially your wife. Dude fucked up and he's learning the hard way...but hey, at least he is learning.

redpillschool · 2013-02-04T18:09:00+00:00

She has openly admitted that she is more attracted to him, and that, if given the choice, she would choose to be with him now, because I'm essentially treating her like crap.

There is so much to this, I'm going to dissect this.

1 . The rationalization and blame.

In order to escape the cognitive dissonance that would normally occur if we were studying the psychology of a male, women will rationalize it to make it somebody else's fault. Look at me, I'm not happy, so it's a good thing I cheated!

But it gets worse- they will use future events to retro-rationalize. Look at this:

After my husband realized I was cheating, he started being distant. Look how mean he is to me. It's a good thing I cheated, because look at the man he is.

You hear women use the term "true colors" a lot, and that's because in their minds, what ever emotional state they currently reside in determines the true character of somebody. Circumstances be damned, because female hypergamy hinges on allowing women to break ties easily. If he's a jerk to me today, he must've always been a jerk. My actions are now justified.

2 . Rationalization of happiness

This brings me to point #2, the source of happiness. I've commented on this before but this is a great time to point it out.

What makes her happy is a nice alpha cock. It makes her wet and makes her (temporarily) happy. In order to best cope with the dissonance of what makes her happy and what the right thing to do is, women use their emotional state as justification for their actions. Like I mentioned above, she uses his reaction as justification for her actions- but this is even deeper:

Women are taught that following your heart makes you happy, and you should always follow your heart. When something makes them unhappy- it goes to reason that it couldn't be their fault, because they were following their heart, and following their heart makes them happy.

Following this terrible train of logic, the fact that she was unhappy was proof that the man was being "emotionally abusive," a term that I have heard every girl I've ever met use. It lacks meaning. The only reason they assume he's being emotionally abusive is because currently their situation is one in which she isn't happy. If she isn't happy, it can't be her fault, because she follows her heart. If she follows her heart, she'll be happy. So her current unhappiness must be his fault.

And look! He's being mean to me now that he knows I cheated! That's probably why I was getting unhappy in the first place. Look who he is today! Now he's showing his true colors!

The term rationalization hamster didn't pop up for nothing. It's a real thing, and it's integral to female hypergamy. Because frankly, logically, what women do is a terrible offense to the forebrain.

The rationalization hamster is how women resolve their lizard brain and their newly adapted logical forebrain. They don't grasp or embrace logic, instead they rationalize it away.

telnet_reddit_80 · 2013-02-04T21:57:25+00:00

She has openly admitted that she is more attracted to him, and that, if given the choice, she would choose to be with him now, because I'm essentially treating her like crap.

The hamster has weaponized.

[deleted] · 2013-02-05T01:25:53+00:00

So I responded to the point that woman ALWAYS fuck their other man in ways that the boyfriend/husband never gets to:

http://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/17uaaj/30mf_my_wife_of_5_years_had_an_affair_while/c892z8i

Check out the response I get.

Methaxetamine · 2013-02-05T05:20:29+00:00

What does this have to do with redpill? This is pointing out a bad marriage and... what did we learn from this? Always read a girl's texts? Steal her email password? The fact that hes trying to fix it instead of leaving her outright?

I don't do jealous things because its stupid to get worked over. Why marry a girl if you're just gonna worry the whole time? If my girl is there for me when I need it, why the fuck should I (or anyone) waste time reading her stupid ass texts?

A girl isn't your property, shes a person who will work on her own agenda, and you happen to be in it at the time. If you have these problems, you're not sexy and thats the problem.

Really, what is the moral of the story?

Hypergamy

Comments

This train of thought looks like something that could happen in my childhood:

Title	Hypergamy
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Upvotes	30
Comments	38
Date	February 4, 2013 4:40 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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