SUMMARY

Ice making, the opposite of ice breaking. There come many times when you need to halt relations, often without burning a bridge. This post is the other side of the coin to my ice breaking post on forming connections. Within I explain strategy to effectively break connections with any person. Especially women. The goal of course is simple. 'We don't Burn bridges, we bar them".

some questions I've gotten in the last two weeks

hey metalaggeddon, this crazy bitch is blowing up my Facebook feed, I dropped her in the middle of the club last week, called her out for being crazy. Then she ruined my plate with a bunch of underhanded BS. Where did I go wrong? How come you're never having these problems?

  • Everywhere. That's where you went wrong.

hey metalaggeddon, I just can't stay away from my ex, she keeps messaging and I feel guilty that I dropped her. She seems much better now should I hit that?

  • Uh... Sure, hit it, then quit it, drop it, block it, and be polite about it.

hey metalaggeddon, kinda bummed, this girl dropped me and all I see is her out partying every night. She must've banged two guys since.

  • Yeah you're depressed, because you don't understand that it was just your turn and you haven't cut out the negative feedback. Block that shit and cash the pain in breaking a new max.

hey metalaggeddon, how do I tell this girl I'm not into it? She's a bit awkward and just not experimental enough. What do I say?

  • Well, let's get to details. What do you say?

I'd rather go with "we're just not compatible right now".

Regardless of why, it's always true, and there's nothing more to say. No matter what the attempt to justify it can't be argued that "we're just not compatible" since it's both a feeling and a logical truth. In this way it appeals to both genders.

Nicely enough, the trick is the fact that compatibility is a heavily weighted word when it comes to emotions, "that lifestyle just isn't compatible with me, that taste isn't compatible with me," etc. Any time that you feel strongly enough to want to break up with someone is an emotionally and rationally true sign of incompatibility.

*Simply repeat it and leave. *

I use it every time, I don't ever give additional reasons, and there's nothing which can be said to refute it. Any attempt is met with repetition and a raised eyebrow. This has worked for over a decade with no repercussions. To put that in perspective, when I'm not hitched to one, I usually spin for about 30 days per girl, about 3 or 4 girls a time. ONS's not included, but rare, just not my style.

CATHARSIS

As a side note, it's semi sadisticly cathartic to see them spinning for reasoning and things to say, they're actively in tune with the emotional portion of the word and know that it's a no-fault limitlessly applicable disconnect. Regardless of what they say the evidence is too overwhelming to combat. Hell even the craziest girls will admit that compatibility is key. It takes both the right key and the right lock to open a door.

After all, if you're breaking up, you're just not compatible.

location

This is important, so listen closely. women fear social embarrassment more than any singular other thing. What does this mean? Do not break up in a public place, do not break up when she's around friends. Do not break up over recordable methods. You break up by phone call or in person, in a circumstance where time is already limited by external factors. There are exceptions to this rule, but likely that has more to do with your vetting process failing than an expected reaction.

after care

After care is not for her, but for you. Immediately remove her from social media and circles. Block her phone numbers the moment you have your stuff back, if she tries to drag it out take the loss, you shouldn't be leaving anything you care about in her possession anyway. You go radio silent.

This does three things for novices, or anyone who gets a case of the blues really.

  • it stops constant reminders, from her updates or her chiming into yours.

  • it closes much of the potential for stalking new girls. Believe me, even though they couldn't reach me, some crazies who skip through the cracks still try to claim ownership or cause trouble for new women.

  • it provides social backing. Surprisingly most people in an objective situation, third party viewers of the situation will grant maturity or moral high ground to the one who separated cleanly and doesn't entertain drama.

press release appropriate

You do not make press releases on your relationship status. Ever. The only exception is marriage. I see no reason to check the little in a relationship box. Fuck that. It'll only sound off alarms. The same goes for unchecking it.

Do not boast, brag, lament, or whine about it. Simply do not talk about it beyond, "we just weren't compatible". Save yourself any chance that sympathetic parties will feed info back to the ex relation.

accidental meetings

When or if you're bumping into her again, be civil. Provide no ammunition for her (statistically likely) slander. Always close the interaction ASAP. It's not worth it to stick around to provide more closure and validation for her. You're not getting fucked, she doesn't get your time. It's that simple.

lessons learned

  • we're not compatible. That's all you need to say.

  • keep it short and simple stupid, close location, time limit, no witnesses aside from maybe one of your closest Bros.

  • no boasting, no whining, no press releases, no slander.

  • fade into the night. Ninja that shit.

assignment

Over the next week, make time to cut out one (person) of chaff. A failing plate, a beta blocker, a business opportunity that reeks of a bad deal, crab barrel friends, etc. Practice this method. If you don't have one, you're probably well enough along that this lesson is nothing more than a reminder for you. (Then again, you may be so poor at ice breaking the opportunity hasn't presented itself!)

this lesson, and the previous ice breaker lesson, will be fused into one in the PDF. Thank you all for your support, you know who you are.

The next lesson will be rather short, as I'm running low on time. It seems to be something important to discuss, mastering politeness, don't be nice written in my perspective from a lifetime of navigating cocktails to the underground. Skip it if you've already made being polite the default, and being impolite the energy expenditure.