I'm Soft

puaSenator · 2013-10-20T04:40:36+00:00

Your friend has game and is also an asshole. Just because he is emotionally abusive doesn't mean that's what is required to game. You can still be a nice person and pull in pussy all day. The difference is don't be a "nice guy".

Apostrophe · 2013-10-20T09:12:00+00:00

Women desire strength. It takes strength to act like an asshat. If a weakling starts acting like a jackass, he'll get stomped down. Thus, being an asshat is proof of strength. It isn't the bad behavior that women like, it is the fact that it is indicative of strength.

You don't have to turn into an asshole to appeal to women, you simply need to grow stronger.

Any woman it isn't mentally disturbed would rather be with a strong good man than a strong bad man.

Laughing_Jelly_Bean · 2013-10-20T04:50:39+00:00

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amaryllis9 · 2013-10-20T04:12:00+00:00

Don't let somebody else decide for you. It's up to you to determine what's right by your own code. Just be sure that your code isn't based on what society is telling you is right - how you treat women should be yours to decide, and should be based on how they act and what they should receive in response.

The dark triad works on a lot of women, because a lot of women follow general behavior patterns. It's not the end-all be-all of redpill philosophy.

OffensiveLineWriter · 2013-10-20T11:00:57+00:00

this is something YOU can test in a few weekend affairs.

For a desired outcome, does being nice work more than being playfully unkind (from the perspective of the nice-guy) and if needed, to show your conviction to yourself and values over someone else's, be assertive to the point of making someone cry.

pro tip: You will never be equally attractive to one of the women he has been through by being only nice. Once they are done crying and you have logically outlined a path through the mess, it's simply a matter of waiting for them to come around to accept your frame for all it is. They become thankful, submissive, respectful and feel closer to you for going through a tough time together and making them a better person.

jacks1000 · 2013-10-20T15:02:53+00:00

Learn how to be a friendly dominant. Not only is such a thing possible, it's basically catnip to most women.

Often younger guys mistake "alpha" and "dominant" for "asshole." It's not that women are attracted to assholes, it's that they are attracted to dominant men, whether they are friendly or assholes hardly matters.

(Disclaimer: Some women don't want a dominant man; those are exactly the kind of women you want to avoid.)

Pushnikov · 2013-10-20T20:23:18+00:00

Dark Triad is attractive, but there's other things that are happening.

1, by giving too much niceness to a girl, you're making her feel special. Women don't understand how a guy can have that much "Special" giving-ness out, so they think you're treating them special because you don't have anyone special to treat.

They're just ignorant, and there's no way to do this in an easy fashion where "nice" and "special" doesn't seem like you're trying too hard/being cool/whatever. It's just their ignorance at work.

They want an adventure. So, you have to make it an adventure. "Nice" is boring. Be something positive but adventurous.

WindowsDoctor · 2013-10-20T04:28:55+00:00

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HatchbacksandTattoos · 2013-10-21T20:05:23+00:00

Maybe your friend wasn't always like that, maybe it came from the "15x" more experience, maybe the more experience helped him to better understand their hypergamic solipsistic nature...So he knows what works, what doesn't, and what's worth getting upset about - "...when the waterworks come out, I melt."

FortunateBum · 2013-10-23T01:20:39+00:00

Do I really need to have a more..er... "dark triad" personality to attract women?

Yes.

Women are ultimately attracted to status so there are other ways to communicate your high status.

TypicalBlaqMan · 2013-10-20T21:45:38+00:00

Well you're shit outta luck if you don't change your ways. I say just copy him, fuck anybodys feelings.

Title	I'm Soft
Author	WindowsDoctor
Upvotes	10
Comments	31
Date	October 20, 2013 4:01 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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1, by giving too much niceness to a girl, you're making her feel special. Women don't understand how a guy can have that much "Special" giving-ness out, so they think you're treating them special because you don't have anyone special to treat.