Is there such a thing as TOO alpha?

TW_RPAwake · 2015-04-28T15:08:23+00:00

If you havent read it, I recommend Rollo's book "The Rational Male" for this topic. You are right - in an LTR there must be moments of nurturing and communication. The type and ratios are important.

A hardship example - Her close friend / relative dies. She will naturally look to seek comfort from you.

A communication example - Let her "paint a picture" of how she thinks you think. Never fill in all of the details, but offer glimpses every now and again to keep her working on the puzzle. Oh, and one other thing - reward good behavior and punish bad. Some in TRP focus on the latter, but the former is equally important.

stolidfact · 2015-04-28T14:57:24+00:00

and not giving her any positive feedback about anything she does.

You are not rewarding and punishing her. Not giving her a range of emotional expression. When a woman says it's about you, what that means is that it's about her and her perception and experience. Focus on the truth of what she is saying. Give her a target for success and help her reach there, because seems like she wants to pleasure you. Being stoic does not mean always being a robot.

Philhelm · 2015-04-28T16:32:26+00:00

Being too Alpha usually results in an early death, but only after the Alpha conquers half of Eurasia and secures a place in history.

OwlsExterminator · 2015-04-28T17:53:37+00:00

There are shit tests and comfort tests. Don't "open up" and sound like a beta but don't fail the comfort tests either. Learn to recognize the comfort tests. Otherwise be oblivious about being "walled up", it's her problem, don't lose frame.

MachiavellianRed · 2015-04-28T18:42:51+00:00

You've worded this in a way that makes it seem like it's suitable to the main forum, but really you want relationship advice so this belongs in /r/asktrp. Repost it there.

Redpillc0re · 2015-04-28T16:34:59+00:00

Give her more drama. She wants more drama, she doesn't really want you to "open up" or "unwall yourself". Women love drama and need drama. She doesnt need your praise, despite what she says. She loves the thrill of trying to gain your praise. Remember, what women say and what they mean are 90% of the time different things.

IVIaskerade · 2015-04-28T18:20:38+00:00

Alpha and beta are not binary states. They are on a sliding scale, with "dark triad psychopath" at one end and "absolute doormat" at the other.

You just need to adjust your position on the scale a little bit.

She obviously wants your relationship to work, because she came and talked with you before things got too far, so if you want to continue it, you're going to need to heed her advice.

As other commenters have already identified, "heeding her advice" doesn't mean listening to what she says. It means listening to what she means, and taking action on that.

goremanbates · 2015-04-28T16:31:28+00:00

Look at all the bitches who died over pussy. Defending a woman's "honor" and (deservedly) getting your life ended isn't worth it.

Title	Is there such a thing as TOO alpha?
Author	Asshole_Notifier
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Comments	14
Date	April 28, 2015 2:48 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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