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i'm pissed guys, why did this take me so long to realize? and it's funny because i actually heard this in church today not the exact words but the same concept. This is where i'm sure most of us has failed in life we expect people to be otherwise when in reality human beings are fucking shitty people, it's our perception of people that gets us in trouble, example do you expect a whale to run climb a tree? of course not, it's in a whale's nature to swim in the other, the key word here nature. The Same concept applies to life, i'm literally kicking myself for not seeing this earlier, i met my ex in church( bare with me now gonna use the example to compare ) let's say she's the whale in the example ( fucking horrible analogy i know she wasn't fat though ) my perception of her was being a squirrel that can climb a tree squirrel meaning a good girl because i met her in church but her, being a whale, natural can only swim in the ocean, i expected her to be a squirrel that can climb a trees, you guys seeing where i'm going with this?

Our perception of people has been most if not all of our downfalls, we expected sarah to be a unicorn, but that's impossible because human beings are shitty by nature, i think the faster we're able to internalize this concept the more at peace we will be at life and we can finally come to acceptance and accept women for who they are, expectations a bitch man.

Lessons Learned

Human beings are natural shitty by nature don't expect them to be anything else

internalizing this fact saves you from becoming fucked over and you can live freely by accepting people for who they are

Expectation's a bitch!

addendum - i'm in a rush so will make this easier to read when i get back, wanted to share what i learned.