So I was reading a newspaper here and came across this interesting article.
TL:DR women hitting the wall in India, are sad that men would rather go for a homely bride in her early 20s whose priority is their home; rather than someone post wall who has ridden the clock carousel.
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Article link: http://m.deccanherald.com/content/489878/homely-bride.html/
I'm quoting some of the good parts.
It’s hard not to eavesdrop on a bunch of young ladies at the next table taking turns in bashing a recently married Bollywood star for "being such a typical man”. This wasn’t about heartbreak in the romantic sense; I doubt any of them had posters of Shahid Kapoor in their bedroom, yet they felt betrayed. "So, you go around having affairs with all these successful actresses, independent, career women, and then, when it’s time to marry, you pick a kid just out of college,” lamented one of the ladies, perhaps in her late 20s. The group nodded in agreement. Some were visibly irritated, others bitter.
Say you are a 28-year-oldmedia professional with a jet-setting career, what are your chances of finding a suitable groom in the arranged marriage setup? "Very grim,” says Megha. After having her profile uploaded on numerous matrimonial sites about a year go, she is yet to find a "decent prospective partner”.
The problem, Megha believes, lies in the differences in expectations. While most urban, working women today are looking for a partner, who understands them and stands by them (they can pay their own bills, thank you), a majority of Indian men still look at a wife as someone who manages the home and hearth - that’s the core job description, everything else is pretty much negotiable.
A guy keeps his view on this situation here.
"My mother did all that and a lot more...and my parents have had a rather happy marriage,” says Pranil, as he tries to explain his preference for a "working, but traditional” bride. Given today’s escalating cost of living, he is okay with his future wife contributing to the family purse, but her priority has to be their home. "I know it doesn’t sound nice, but how else do you make it work? If both of us are caught in the corporate race, it’ll be a disaster, especially once we have children. Have you seen the number of failed marriages around us?” reasons the 30-year-old marketing professional.
Lessons learned: same old stuff. AWALT. And this gives me hope for traditional marriages as an Indian. Feminism is taking over India but it's nice to know that there are men who still beleive in traditional masculinity.
But seriously, read the article. It Will give you guys a perspective from outside the US. Maybe there's more to this. Experienced members may add stuff here
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