LTR - Where to draw the line?

SgtTRP · 2014-10-29T08:13:23+00:00

There are no magic words that you can say and make your stop screwing other dudes.

I always make it a huge point to tell her "Better not be hooking up with any dudes!" And from my understanding this is a beta move because I'm trying to control her?

It's beta because your demonstrating your insecurity. To her.

If there's not enough trust, why do you allow her to party without you. (I probably wouldn't allow it myself if I had an LTR.)

You should read the sidebar and educate yourself on sexual strategy. Post this sort of questions to /r/askTRP

mordanus · 2014-10-29T16:53:35+00:00

Just to clarify, women want you to be in control, not controlling.

Better not be hooking up with any dudes

That comes off as insecure. It isn't a matter of showing lack of trust in her because to be honest you should never trust a woman. It is more of a matter that you aren't showing confidence in yourself. You are showing her that you afraid of losing her because she might find someone better. Be more confident in yourself and she will respond better.

aaron_the_just · 2014-10-29T18:50:15+00:00

A girl who hangs out with her friends at parties is a plate, not LTR material.

infapwetrust · 2014-10-29T19:26:52+00:00

Doesn't matter what you say, her hamster will save her anyway

tombreck2 · 2014-10-29T15:18:04+00:00

You may not like to hear the truth but:

If a girl goes out partying with slutty friends then she is not LTR material.

NullVoidZeroZilch · 2014-10-29T08:14:13+00:00

Yeah it's because you do sound like a little bitch. If you're spinning a plate and she's at a party, you shouldn't even give a shit. If you're in an LTR, why is she going to a party? Unless it's her grandma's 80th birthday party, she will be getting hit on and she will flirt. Throw in alcohol and that's just a recipe for disaster. Maybe she won't cheat on you this time, or the second time, but by that third time she might just let the 6 foot 3 football player have his way with her.

Remember, women get hit on EVERYWHERE they go. That feeling you get in the pit of your stomach whenever she goes out that makes you wanna tell her "Better not be hooking up with any dudes!" is totally justifiable. You realize deep down inside that the gender equality myth is bullshit and is a societal construct. You realize by now that biology and nature are important and that a girl's night out is NOT the same as a guy's night out.

Trying to control a girl that doesn't respect you enough isn't gonna go anywhere. At the start of a relationship you want to establish a captain and first mate dynamic and it might be too late for you or it might not, but it's difficult to tell from your post.

In an LTR you want to be a mix of alpha and beta qualities. You want to be able to show her that you can provide for her but that you're also an alpha who pushes all the right buttons. If you're not capable of doing that, get out of your relationship, gym up and keep practicing your game.

You don't want to be controlling, you want to be assertive. You want to be able to tell her you're not comfortable with her going out with her friends and getting drunk, but you should have all the freedom to go out and enjoy a guy's night out. Because guys can get dressed and go out and talk business, politics or just get shit faced with their friends. But every decent looking girl in North America that gets dressed and goes out with her slutty friends will get guys trying to convince her to fuck them.

If you are incapable of doing this now, then get the fuck out of your relationship and keep working on yourself and mastering your game so you can eventually find a girl who isn't looking to go out, get drunk, and inevitably fall onto Chad Thundercock's dick.

srsboats · 2014-10-29T09:13:39+00:00

Alphafux betabux. Which one do you think you're being?

RedPillSafe · 2014-10-29T18:42:15+00:00

The Matrix has destroyed any shred of respectability in women by spoiling them.

So if you say:

"I am the captain, I decide where we go, I decide what YOU do."

...this may have worked in the days of Marriage 1.0 where the women had the DREAD that her misbehavior could get her thrown out onto the street to suffer in misery, but not today.

The Matrix has created a condition where she will experience no consequences to her actions, so defining "reality" on your own is not going to work.

Your only leverage is the "dread game" that says you will leave HER if she is unfaithful.

You have the power to walk away (and not be a beta cuckold) but that's it.

It's still possible to act as the captain, but she has to agree to the co-captain role. (it's not automatic)

Women want a rock to secure them...

Title	LTR - Where to draw the line?
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Upvotes	5
Comments	17
Date	October 29, 2014 7:50 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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