It's been a while boys. I haven't been here. Busy actually doing stuff. Haven't posted because I haven't had a worthwhile thought. Anyway I've stopped back by because I promised to give back to the community that helped me get my life together.

As we all know women and men are different even if women don't want to admit it. Most languages have male and female endings attached to words, that's how deep this runs. It's so deep we even have different definitions of words between the sexes. You didn't even know they were different definitions. No wonder you didn't understand a thing she said last night. So I'm going to talk to you playboys about the definition of special then give you an example from a party I went to.

When something is special to a man, he treasures it. He needs it. It would give him considerable rage to lose it. Even if it wasn't his and it was destroyed he'd lose his mind or give everything to try and save or fix it. In a way it helps define him. It completes him so to speak.

When something is special to a woman, it is because it is independent of her. It is complete in it's own right. It's something that she finds interesting, but can live without. She almost views it as a nice commodity like her favorite seasonal drink at starbucks or a McRib. Something that she totally wants, but doesn't need. Something that creates desire in her. Something that's fun, but only comes around from time to time like beach season.

See how this different definitions thing can lead to some serious communication issues?

"You never make me feel special!!!" - every girl ever

"OMG BITCH, I fucking work every goddamn day. I sacrificed vacation time to help you through pregnancy. I deleted every girl's number from my phone and told you all of my deepest secrets. I NEED YOU BABE. I'D DIE WITHOUT YOU! I SOLD MY MOTORCYCLE to pay for the baby's toys and crib. I SOLD MY GUITAR! MY MOTHER FUCKING MARTIN! But it was worth it to see you smile when you put on that diamond ring. I don't even write songs, poetry, or workout like I used to because after I get home from work, I help you cook and clean this place. HOW CAN YOU NOT FEEL SPECIAL!??!?" - every guy ever.

So make her feel special by her definition of special. Do YOUR thing. You are fully independent of her. You don't need her. She gets things from you, but it's only because you have something left over from time to time. You want her and she knows, but she can't use it to manipulate you.

She sees you can't be manipulated by women and in a lot of ways blatantly show a dislike for them. Yet you keep her around. She must be special.

Example time: I was at a Mayweather Paquio fight party. Now I'm more of a Nikola Tesla type so I don't do the whole party scene unless it's something like this. I sip a few beers, make a few jokes. A cute girl says something, I say she's slutty in a plausibly deniable way and the game begins. Fast Forward past a billion entitlement fitness tests to everybody sitting watching the fight. She is sitting next to me with her feet up in a sitting fetal position type thing. I'm sitting low slouched, but taking up lots of space. She is close enough with her arm touching her leg. Fight walk in music starts. I turn and ignore to watch this. She's tapping on me laughing and what not in my ear about Jimmy and the Burger king guy entourage. I turn, sit up, and break all skin to skin contact we had to watch the rounds. After round 2 I feel her pressing her curled up legs into my back and side. I put my arm on her knees so that she feels special.

I was perfectly comfortable and enjoying myself without her. I am a self actualized man not dependent on anyone else. But I let her stick around as long as she isn't in my way.