The thing about all of my guides is that, for the sake of brevity, I am forced to gloss over a lot of things. I’ll say, “do this, then do that” but not explain how to do this or that. So now I’m going to go over the most important aspects of a successful sexual liaison one-by-one until they’re more obvious than a brick to the face.

I've gone over the bigger picture things a few times, I can't post links to any of it but if you go through my post history you will find I've written a guide on the overall pickup, opening and escalation.

Eye Contact

This is without any argument one of the strongest tools you have at your disposal. I’m sure you’ve heard women say “He has such sexy eyes” or some such about a guy, hopefully you. Further, I’m sure you know or knew a guy who got laid pretty regularly, seemingly without any effort at all, just from going out and looking at chicks. Before we start: you will probably never get to a satisfactory level with just good looks and eye contact. However, you can get laid much more than average with just the above. I have no personal experience of eye contact only game, but I do have a friend whose game is literally that. He doesn’t even escalate. The guy stands around looking glum while smoking and has chicks come up to him consistently. In the two years I’ve known him he has had sex with at least 20 women and I’ve seen him approach maybe half that many times. He posted on my local frat/lair as well so I know from reading the reports that he basically never approached, but I can vouch he got laid because we pulled together many times.

There are two little things above that are important if you intend to make eye contact your only game: you need a style (preferably a darker, introspective model look) and you need a reason to have the girls come to you. You can do without both but have fun with your bi-yearly lays if so. The first is self-explanatory, for the second smoking (girls will ask for cigarette or lighter) or standing near the bar are the obvious choices. As someone who values my lungs I would pick the second but I’m not your dad so smoke away if you want. Being the centre of the party also works, maybe even better, but I don’t expect you to bust out Mr. Social just to fuck girls. It’s easier to approach ~5 girls a night than be the life of the party for hours on end in my opinion. If you’re looking at just using eye contact you’re probably not an extrovert, so don’t force it. Stay true to yourself and find things that work. I’m pretty introverted myself most days and still get laid fine. I am rarely the life of the party because just being nice to talk to and actually trying will get you laid far more than being a beast and not giving a fuck. That’s my experience anyway, as someone who has done both, but YMMV because I am pretty reserved most of the time so maybe it just suits me that much better.

Fundamentals

The very first thing to consider is your default facial expression. A lot of gurus say things like “don’t go around grinning, you’ll look like an idiot.” It is true to an extent, but if you’re scared a smile will make you look unmanly then the core issue isn’t your facial expression but rather your overall masculine image. I highly doubt the men that say this look masculine because if they did they wouldn’t worry about being happy. Wearing a smile as your default expression will work best for more masculine men IME because otherwise you look intimidating. I get checked out far, far more wearing a smile. My more feminine-faced friends tell me the stoic “Clint Eastwood” look works better for them. I’ve tried that as my default expression and it just scares chicks so I stopped. You’ll find out what works best if you practice each for a week or two and record your results.

The absolute best way to smile at a girl is to slowly go from whatever your default facial-expression is into a smile over the course of the eye contact. Research has been done on this before and the consensus is slower smiles are more intriguing and trustworthy than the ‘flash’ grin most men pull out when a QT looks their way. The way I consistently us this (it takes practice) is to look at the girl and think “Caught you!” when I see her looking back. Over time you’ll get really good at knowing when a girl is looking your way and it becomes a bit of a game catching them out to do this.

There are a lot of different ways to make and hold eye contact. First and foremost are the following ‘rules’ that should be followed regardless:

  1. Don’t make sniper eye contact. 1-5m (1-15ft) away is the zone around you were women are available. The across-the-bar-stare is useless, trust me. There are dozens of times I’ve held eye contact across the room only to go over and have the girl snub me straight away because she was totally looking at the table behind me. For every time it works, there are 10 it won’t and one much better opportunity you’re passing up. Just look at the girls close to you because they might be close to you for a reason and even if it is just chance, you have far better odds with a girl you don’t have to walk a mile to talk to.

  2. Look at one eye. Left or right, who cares, pick one. Don’t look at the spot between the eyes instead. You can tell when someone is doing that, it makes you look autistic and if you don’t believe me go check in the mirror. You can change eyes obviously, but don’t dart between them like you’re following a tennis match.

  3. Don’t stare. In the initial stages, hold eye contact 100% and make them break it. After a minute or so though that will be very intimidating and can give off creepy vibes. So, start breaking it yourself maybe 20% of the time from then on.

  4. When you break eye contact, look up or to the side. Looking down is a sign of submission, especially to check your phone because that just proves you’re too much of a bitch to even admit you’re a pussy. You can play around with this one and use it to subtly communicate your approval or disapproval. For example, if you look up like you’re thinking after she says something smart then it shows you’re considering if you should be impressed. If you look off to the side and gaze off into the distance after she starts talking about her Kardashian obsession then you are showing you are bored. This is all natural stuff you probably already do, I just wanted to point out you can do it consciously too.

Note with all of the above; I put ‘rules’ in parenthesis for a reason. There are exceptions constantly and you need to learn to trust your gut. Especially that last rule. Maybe you look down because you need to yawn or your mum is calling you. Common sense prevails here.

Types of Eye Contact/Super Secret Seduction Strategies

The first and most useful of the different eye contacts is bedroom eyes. This is where you squint a little and look through your lashes at the woman. Think Clint Eastwood, Ryan Kwanten, Ryan Reynolds, that other Ryan... pretty much any male celebrity that has ever been a sex symbol. There is nothing more to it than that. If you’re having trouble with this then Google “sexy eyes” and look at/watch any of the millions of examples. This technique (for want of a better term) is what you use as your default facial-expression while escalating. It's very low-risk, although I have found opening with this expression doesn't tend to hook unless the girl was already very down.

The next is smile eyes. This is where you smile, but then supress the smile so that your lips go to a smirk at best. The best way to do it is to smile, then just compress your lips halfway between a pucker and sly smile. Whenever I do it, the girl will say something like “Don’t you ever smile?? Smile for me!” and then do things to try to make me smile. It’s tantalizing to them. They see that you’re almost smiling and really want to make you smile so they can feel special. The longer you hold it before you give in and smile the stronger it is.

I use smile eyes for opening as well as a stand-in for cocky-funny, teasing, push-pull or whatever other ‘attraction techniques’ you can think of because it creates the same vibe and establishes a shared world (us vs them/we have a secret) much better. In truth I use it in tandem but as you know, I’m very light on the aforementioned techniques because my personal experience is that they hinder more than they help. This has to do with me preferring a method that is very heavy in sexual-tension, thus my teasing tends to be less banter and more teasing the way you would when she really wants to cum and you’re making her wait. A good way to describe smile-eyes is in fact to imagine you’re in bed with a hot girl and she really wants to cum but you’re making her beg for it. The half-smile you get when you don’t have enough blood left over to do a full one is what you are going for here.

Sticky-eyes is something I’ve gone over before but as a quick rehash: When you break eye contact, do so as slowly as possible. You look away, but it takes 2-3 seconds to not be eye-to-eye anymore. You start turning your head first, letting your eyes linger and then slowly moving them away. This will melt girls. It makes them feel incredibly desired and I’ve had girls comment that this was the reason they fucked me. It also serves to build tension without risking creepy as much, because you aren’t just staring at bitches like an axe murderer sizing up their neck. The writer I heard it from referred to it as having honey connecting your eyes, so it makes them move slowly apart. (This is word-for-word from my last post because I nailed the description there. Sue me.)

Now, with the above, I got a bunch of feedback from The Bluepill peeps. Well, more mockery but they have a point. The thing they missed that you need to be aware of for this and all of the above techniques is this: if the girl is attracted to you (even slightly) then it will amp that attraction. That’s why you hit the gym five times a week, eat healthy and dress well. That’s why you talk politely, make moderate comments and genuinely give a fuck about the person you’re talking to. Because if they aren’t attracted, you’re a creep. I’ve had exactly 0 bad reactions (disinterest is neutral) to any of the above because I don’t just walk around doing it to random women. ALL OF THE ABOVE WORKS ONLY AFTER THEY ARE ATTRACTED TO YOU. Having said that, there is honestly very little risk to doing it before you’re sure and if you are a noob, I’d recommend doing so just to find out if your sexual-tension thermometer is accurate. It isn’t sexual-assault to smile at a girl and you aren’t going to ruin someone’s night by looking at them for three seconds.

I’ve given sarcastic sexy eyes to a girl only to realize she actually wasn’t a bitch, but rather she has a brutal sense of humour, likes to dead-pan guys (I’m looking at you Eastern Europe) or some other factor you can’t guess from the minute or two prior. Other times their girlfriend has walked up but hey, not like I lost anything trying. If anything I saved time.

There are other ways to make eye contact but the above three along with the overarching rules are 95% of what you’ll need. There are permutations that work pretty well for certain situations. For example, if you make your eyes into slits and look out of the side to the girl it can create a conspiratorial vibe between the two of you which can be very sexy- the shared world I alluded to earlier. However, you don’t ever need to do that to get laid. I don’t want to cloud your head with 328372 different ways to look someone in the eyes because the important thing is that you’re looking them in the eyes. Slowly work on implementing the above and improving your gaze overall, the smaller/situational things you will pick up over time as you get better. Thus, you will improve rapidly until you understand the concepts intuitively and then you’ll start coming up with your own ‘sexy eyes’ and variations. That is where you should be. You shouldn’t be reading this and thinking “Now I’ll copy Brad Pitt and women will love me!” No. They love Brad Pitt because he’s Brad Pitt and they should be loving you because you’re you. When you work from the above, you’ll build your own aura which you own, you’ll have your own brand, you’ll stand out as a man. When you copy some stranger just because he has sexy eyes, it may or may not work and it definitely won’t teach you half as much. Grab your balls and experiment like your fore-fathers before you.

(don’t actually grab your balls when you’re talking to girls)